April 2009 - Chapter 8 - "Come to mine, I've got stacks of tampons..."

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12 Feb: Skiingone: MARIANNA 4lb 4oz
20 Feb: Glaskham: RUBY MARIE 4lb 3oz
04 Mar: Barbarella: ESTELLA, ROSANNA, OTIS
05 Mar: Kazkiss: ISABELLE FLORENCE 4lb 6oz & OLIVER THOMAS 3lb 7oz
15 Mar: Babypringle: OSCAR WILLIAM 7lb 2oz
28 Mar: Claireykitten: VIOLET ROSE 7lb 9oz
29 Mar: WhatFreshHell: FELIX DEVLIN ALEXANDER 10lb 5.5oz
31 Mar: Mumblemum: ORSON XERXES
02 Apr: Oddeyes: ELEANOR 9lb 8oz
03 Apr: Bleuravin: MEGAN LILLIAN CONSTANCE
03 Apr: Bumpalump: JACOB 8lb
04 Apr: BabyBolat: KARAHAN 6lb 5oz
05 Apr: Mrsfossil: ISLA LILIAN 7lb 10oz
05 Apr: JumeirahJane: MILLICENT ROSE 5lb 15oz
06 Apr: BoffinMum: FELIX DAVID GORDON 7lb 9oz
08 Apr: girlylala0807 JAMES EUAN
11 Apr: SpringySunshine: GEORGE NATHAN 8lb 15oz
11 Apr: RachelinScotland: CLEMENT JAMES 8lb 14oz
11 Apr: Lou031205: ISLA SOPHIA 7lb 9oz
11 Apr: Electra: ISABELLA CAROLINE 6lb 3oz
11 Apr: AuldAlliance: ALEXANDRE 7lb 6oz
12 Apr: Phdlife: Name TBA GIRL 9lb 3oz
12 Apr: BethDivine: Name TBA GIRL 9lb 9oz
13 Apr: MathsMummy27: AMELIA CHARLOTTE
14 Apr: Purlease: ADAM 9lb 2oz
15 Apr: Juwesm: HUGO GEORGE 9lb 2oz
15 Apr: Bronze: ISAAC JOHN 7lb 14oz
15 Apr: HeidiT: HEIDI
15 Apr: Kalikaroo: Name TBA BOY 8lb
15 Apr: Minush: ZAFIRAH ROSA 7lb 12oz
15 Apr: FatandFedup: EMILIA ROSE 7lb 6oz
16 Apr: PuzzleRocks: HOLLY ELIZABETH 8lb
16 Apr: Brettgirl: HANNAH GRACE 6lb 15oz
16 Apr: ReallyTired: Name TBA GIRL
17 Apr: DungunGirl: ADEN LEE 9lb 4oz
18 Apr: Staryeyed: Name TBA BOY 7lb 11oz
18 Apr: Dawntigga: SAMUAL 5lb 11oz
20 Apr: LuLuBai: SEBASTIAN 9lb
20 Apr: Swaliswan: BETH 7lb 9oz
21 Apr: Kittycatisgettingfat: GABRIELLA AUDREY BIANCA
21 Apr: B52s: SAM MARTIN 7lb 9oz
21 Apr: Schulte: HAZEL LOIS 7lb 9 oz
21 Apr: Mrsgboring: EDMUND 8lb 12oz
23 Apr: Tristaleejac: LEWIN 8lb 4oz
23 Apr: NuttyTaff: TIAHNA SKYE 8lb 8oz
23 Apr: Purplemonkeydishwasher: ISLA ELIZABETH 8lb 14oz
24 Apr: Soon2befamilyof4: TALIA 7lb 6oz
26 Apr: Carameli: THEO LAURENCE 7lb 6oz
26 Apr: Surprisenumber3: EVIE ANNE 8lb 2oz
26 Apr: Bicnod: OSCAR MATTHEW 8lb 1oz
27 Apr: Lauren61: OLIVER STEPHEN 7lb 7oz
27 Apr: Gingersarah: VERONICA ROISIN 9lb 1oz
30 Apr: MegBusset: ARCHIE 8lb 15oz
30 Apr: Elpis: ISLA JESSICA 8lb 11oz
01 May: Satheresitting: Name TBA BOY
03 May: Conkertree: Name ANGUS ANDREW 8lbs 8oz
06 May: Frekkles: HARRIS MERLIN 8lb 5.5oz
07 May: TarteTatin: ALBERT JOHN
10 May: Ilovesummer: Name TBA BOY

mrsg am in tears over Doc Martin! Are you weeping? And also PMSL at the yellow jumper

Think you might be right Feier about the toddler/new baby thing - all the toddlers seem to be hard work at the moment!

going to bed now

xx

Good morning! Has anyone here got any advice about how to deal with a toddler who was pretty much fully potty trained for 4 months, now suddenly wets her pants all the time, and refuses to go to the loo when I suggest it? I don't really want to go down the chocolate button / star chart route again. Neither can I punish her... although I keep saying that big girls don't wee in their pants, but maybe I shouldn't even say that either?

Hope all the babies slept reasonably well and that everyone's happy this morning!

Sorry Feier no advice I'm afraid.I've got an NCT potty training book somewhere I'll see what it says when I have a hand free.

Orbit is not well today, temp and full of snot. DS1 is on the mend which makes life tricky as he can't go to nursery yet but I have my hands full with Orbit. It's going to be a difficult day....

Thanks WFH. Sorry to hear Orbit isn't well, and you've got DS1 too - I'd use the telly a lot! Hope you get through the day okay x

Telly has been on since DS1 got up

He's having a complete meltdown over the slightest thing at the moment, I think due to being ill, so I'm taking the path of least resistance. Plenty of time to enforce discipline again when he's well, I hope....

Poor Orbit has red rimmed eyes and a puffy face and rivers of snot. He still keeps beaming at me though, through the snot, bless him.

Morning all,
Sorry to hear you are having such trouble, Feier, but I'm afraid I have little advice for you re DD and her potty training reversal. It does sound a bit as if she is reacting to H's presence. I suppose it takes a while for the permanence of a new baby to sink in for a toddler...

WFH, sounds as if telly is the only answer. And you will get the discipline enforced later. DS1 was really ill over New Year when he was two and a half'ish, and we were stuck in the Pyrenees in a dire chalet my MIL had dragged us to. He spent a week in front of a boxed set of Fireman Sam DVD's he had providentially got for Christmas, but fully understood even at that age that once he was better the endless watching couldn't go on. And TBH, he was relieved when he got better and could do other things. Sorry Orbit is poorly too.

I am marking students' translations of Rabelais now. My current favourite is "As they enjoyed to be on the job, by dint of tumbling, he put her in the spudline, so that she kept the smork eleven months." This is a rendering of a rather rude sentence about how a couple love making the beast with two backs so much that they rub their lardy bits together frequently, thereby begetting a baby who stays in the womb for 11 months. (A terrifying prospect, we'd all agree!).
Spudline?
Smork?
Do these words exist? Where has he got them from?
I know, that'll teach me to set them such horrible tasks...

Oh please, Auld, you should post that in chat, it's brilliant! Perhaps a smork is like a spork?

I love that Auld! Being in the spudline... bearing a smork... yes, I can totally relate to that

My smork is currently singing like a budgie while rolling around on the playmat. She'll be dumped at the creche later so I can have my hair cut.

Well, I have found smork in the urban dictionary, and it is not really relevant to the text.
Spudline remains a mystery.
Though I think the terms should be adopted forthwith, they are so very expressive!
Dare I post in Chat?

I have found spud line in a dictionary... here

spud line enterprises

ooh, brilliant Feier! I found lots of references to potato companies, but that dictionary is scarily thorough.

Now for smork...

Where is everyone?

I am here... was trying to snooze but as usual H's nap only lasted half an hour so she woke me up just as I was dozing off. Off to the supermarket now.

DH believes spudline and smork are Geordie dialect?

mrsg am moving from london to bath - not for a while yet but very exciting and scary!

currently trying to sort out solicitors/surveyors - have no idea what on earth i'm doing so just trying to sound authoritative on the phone so as not to get screwed over...

oh and auld smork is the best word ever - might be top of the name list if i ever get in the spudline again ... sammy and smork has a nice ring to it!

Feier, put her back in pullups, but the kind that feel wet when they wee. Don't make it a big issue. Also make sure she is getting plenty to drink so you are sure it's not a bladder infection.

Doc Martin may not be coming back, my inside spy tells me ... Clunes is apparently bored with it. Just when he found his mojo, too!

Hey ladies Hope you're well.

I'm still trying to sort the swinging emotions.

Found out Moo now has 5! teeth (I was only thinking the 4 was having trouble coming in) and there's a 6th poking through. Finding it tough because my own feelings are touchy. We both had a good cry the other day and Mommy at least feels better for it.

I'll catch up with you all later.

My breasts are all confused... yesterday Hazel only had 4 feeds during the day and the bedtime one was from the left, when it's normally from the right. Today, she had lots of little snacks and her bedtime drink from the right, but now my left breast feels far too full This is a funny time isn't it, when their feeding and sleeping changes so much - does anyone else find that their babies are starting to drop daytime naps?

DD1 has more issues than just the weeing. At nursery they said she spent most of the day really quiet, sucking her thumb and saying she was tired. I am wondering if H's crying in the night keeps her awake

WFH ummm yes, Doc Martin. It was beautifully acted and wonderful to see the resolution, but I am cross with the writers for yet another overly rushed season finale, including another ridiculously precipitate birth. Boff I'm sad but not surprised to hear that Clunes is tired of it. I wonder if he'll do another Reggie Perrin series - I thought that had legs.

Fei is DD1 sickening for something? DS1 has had three accidents today and been pale and whiny all week after his stomach bug. Personally I wouldn't go for pullups, as we did that with DS1 and he became dependent on them for a year and I was at my wits' end with it. Washable trainer pants might be a good option though (but DS1 wouldn't wear them at all as they weren't comfortable - luckily I'd got them secondhand)

ladyofmuswell mmmm Bath I'm jealous. We're not too far from Bath here along the train line, so I'm fancying a minibreak (but also want to go to Hay on Wye for the books)

Bebe chin up - only 15 more teeth to go . Seriously, it does get better as they get older and have more sense of time/perspective. E is still toothless.

Right, so Edmund now has a proper bedtime that results in him going to bed - third night running. So feeling less of a failure on the mothering stakes for that. But on the other hand, I don't think he's getting enough breastmilk . His nappies are much drier than they were (though on the flip side of that he's less constipated so perhaps that's a partial explanation). How can I have been breastfeeding without a break for over four years now, and still be/feel such a failure at it?

MrsG well done for proper bedtime! Don't feel like you don't know what you're doing with the bfing - you obviously do as you've brought up both boys on breast milk! I am currently trying to remember what happened to DD1's feeds when she started solids - H doesn't seem inclined to drop any of her feeds just yet. In fact she's started waking up earlier again so we're back to 4am feeding after a week of her sleeping till 5am or even 6am and I know that DD1 suffers from it too, this morning she woke up too early because of Hazel's crying and was clearly still very tired.

I think I won't put DD1 back in pull-ups as DH is dead against it, but give her lots of TLC instead, it feels like that's what's required.

Now Hazel's crying because she's obviously not had enough sleep in the night but it's not nap time yet. Grrrrrrrrrrr. Sometimes I just hate being a mother.

We were up evey hour from 8-4 last night and then up at 6 this morning for breakfast. I think I got abt 3 hours sleep in total. Does nothing for my mood. At least I only fed her once (at abt 1) to see if that was the cause, but after a few sucks she was just nibbling really. (Which is a relief because I was really worried she'd cause my milk supply to start going back up when I've only just got over some massive engorgement again. I was carrying around boulders in my bra for the past week.) I gave her calpol and tried everything...but she was just not happy. She was coughing lots again and her stomach seemed to be gurgling quite a bit and she was burping loads. Some sort of indigestion I guess. I'm hoping she'll sleep lots this aft because of it. X

Bebe, with 3 hours sleep you're excused from not catching up! Poor you. Do you think it may be her teeth still? Glad that you've had a good chat with DH though and both feel happier. You'll love being back home with your family.

That reminds me, must phone MIL - she said she could come down this week to help and I feel like I need it... I must be desperate!

right no more nice nutty i have had it

i spoke to my solicitor yesterday which was not good. basicaly hes mentiond the children in the particulars in a way that is detrimental to my character so if he chose to apply for the kids he would be in with a fighting chance. So my solicitor is asking for that to be removed from the documents before it goes to court.

secondly apparently if i choose to move to sheffield like i want to do he could apply for a residency order so as to keep the kids in bristol

yesterday was not fun i spent most of the evening in tears

i spoke to chris just to let him know i wanted that bit removed so he didnt go mad when he got the letter from the solicitor and i got a barrage of nasty comments and was told by him that just because i was selfish and wanted to run away that i shouldnt have to drag the kids away from everything they know as they dont need to run away apparently.

my solicitor also said i was within my rights to ask for more money for the girls which i mentioned he told me to deal with csa. so i fucking well have this morning, £221 per month is what i'm entitled to and thats what i will be getting from now on, the csa can deal with his vile attitude so i dont have to.

also hes not coming down to read to phoenix tonight " because he cant manage to be civil"

which is basically an echo of my email to him when i recieved the divorce papers which went exactly like this....

"you can come down this evening as usual but please do not talk to me AT ALL, come in go upstairs, do your thing with phoenix and walk straight out the front door after.

please also leave my key on the side.

i cannot manage to be civilised today.

thank you."

i'm sick of it all, i'm sick of being emotionally messed around by him, he can do what he wants to me but i dont appreciate him using the kids to get at me.

it ends now