Hey guys....
Wow, and I thought some sleepless nights were the bane of my life!!
Nuuty - Thank goodness, you've decided to get him by the short and curlies. CSA him and make sure that he pays what is due. It's not fair on you and the kids otherwise. Talking through the solicitor is quite rightly, the way forward now.
Seriously Nutty, this is a man who is already trying to sully your name in the proceedings, so i have a feeling this is the type of person that will take everything you say, do and write and use it to benefit himself....be very, very very careful, please. Make sure you keep all text messages, call logs and emails from this man to back any claims you might have on your side.
I am the product of a step/half family and watching the chaos it can cause on all sides is amazing and can be stopped if dealt with in the right way.
Of course, sitting here, it is easy for me to spout an opinion, but my "opinion" (and that's all it is) is to keep contact to an absolute minimum and get the people you are paying to sort this mess to sort it..and pronto. After that, then you can think of the next steps, but to be honest, unless any physical/emotional abuse has happened on your familys part I quite agree and think that moving out of the area before anything is settled, although ideal for you now, may not be in the not so distant future. Not only for you but for your children too, and also for your court case. These things drag on and on, and the quicker it is the less harm hopefully will be done.
You have taken the first steps Nutty and it will be hard, but you know we're all here for you.
No sleep, teething, worried about work and returning to a place i don't want to, uncertainty about my future with my partner and all the other usual stuff, but pretty much coping with it all, however have started smoking a bit again......bugger!
much love xx