One small step for Baby, one large step (or mad dash to prevent disaster) for Mumkind

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Hi, Welcome to the new thread, the one where we can't drink a cup of tea in peace (there you go, we could have used that for a title!!)

I was in bodyshop yesterday and M trashed the place. Luckily the sales assistant thought she was sweet as she pulled things off displays and legged it out the shop with jars of body butter (several times)!!, cue me legging it after her with a handful of makeup . Luckily there were no store detectives aroud. She also tried to wear every shoe within her reach at the shoe shop.

Sorry to hear that about XP Meglet. His behaviour speaks volumes and will be noted by the mediation people.

Starlight ikwym. M is a complete boob monster. I can't have a bath with her as she just pounces and practically drowns herself, I can get changed in front of her as I get an excited squeal as she leaps towards them..

I also meant to say. Hearing of all these diddy babies make me smile. Ignore the HV Starlight. You can always point them to the DOH literature which sets no upper limit to breastfeeding. The HV, not my usual one, raised her eyebrow when I told her that DD was still bfing at her 12 mo check. But then of course she couldn't suggest if she was thriving because she was following DD1 all over the room, babbling away as she chased her. I wonder what she would have thought if I said 'oh btw, the 4yo also feeds once a day.'

Hello everyone.

I hope things start to get better for you meglet and splish digi I can't believe miss frank went last week, i really thought they would go all the way, it wont be the end for them and i look forward to hearing more from them

Fraser is still really tiny, only 18lb and only just into 6-9 months clothes, shoe size 3f.

I get some grins when i undo the straps on his newborn car seat and he climbs out and runs off

I'm still feeding once a day in the week and more at the weekend when i'm home more.

Me again, I'm procrastinating. I shouldn't be on MN really, I need to phone the CSA. But I will finish my cup of tea first .

DS had an allergy appointment at the local hospital this morning, he was tested for all nuts and is fine . He came up in hives a few times when he was younger and what with his eczema causing problems we had to be careful with nuts until now, It's such a relief to get the all clear at last. We now have peanut butter and choc / hazelnut spread in the house. The Doc said I need to go careful and keep an eye on him the first time he eats nuts properly, but the odds are he won't have any reactions to them. This also means DD should be fine too.

starlight My bf illusions have been shattered now, I think a toddler pestering me for a feed would drive me up the wall after all.

I suppose I had better get off MN and start hassling the CSA now, and I need to finish my Sainsburys delivery order.

meglet I'm so sorry your XP was so awful, but glad for you in a funny way that the professionals have seen his true colours.

DH is phoning a senior partner at our solicitors now to complain...we've now got our vendors hassling us as well as our buyers, because no one can get hold of our solicitor and she is the weakest link in the chain. We are still hoping to move a week on monday but the removals company might not now be able to fit us in. Clearly there are more important things going on in life right now though, must get a grip.

Meglet, so sorry for your XP's disgraceful behaviour, and sorry for your DCs - although very glad they have you. This is no way to be a father. I hope he does follow the counsellor's advice and seeks some counselling on his own. My hat is off to you and Splish. I only have 1 child and a I have my partner, and find it difficult to cope sometimes, so you two are a couple of female super heroes in my book.

I still breast feed 2 to 3 times a day. In the morning it's just really convenient, and I also do it at night time before bed. D seems to remember breasts when he is cranky or tired, and demands them by way of pulling at my top, grabbing my hand and placing it in the place it needs to be in order to operate the bra strap. Also, like yours, DG he DEMANDS a feed the moment he sees me on the days that I work. How does one deal with that one? I wonder too.

We are down to one nap a day, anything between half hour and an hour. But he does sleep well at night, so I'm not too bothered. He must get at least 13 hours sleep per day...

Hi Starlight - I looked at that thread as I like to let mine have freedom too.

There were a lot who agreed at first.

Tbh, it's probably safer than letting them run aroiund the park alone.

However, you should know better than to start a thread in AIBU

I think the problem with that thread was that it was very hard to imagine exactly what the situation was like as all shopping centres are very busy and most not like what you described.
I personally wouldn't let ds2 walk about in any round here as so many people don't look where they are going and would probably trample on him.

meglet and splish I have huge respect for you both too. Well done for getting as far as you have so far, keep fighting and you and your children will grow up happy and secure.

Carrie hope your dh kicked ass at the solicitor.

I spent most of today in the loft trying to sort out the junk while the boys were at the childminders.

Thanks foxy I think you might be right about the latch.

Have had a lovely day off today and managed a luxurious 90 minute nap with DS this afternoon. Ah bliss.

Dsis has got loads gigs lined up by their agency, x factor reject shows she calls them. The bookends are throwing their weight around so we'll see how long this lasts. All I know is that she is absolutely determined to get somewhere. They're going to be in heat next week, so it's still quite exciting.

starlight didn read the whole thread but I can see where you're coming from although I can't ever imagine ds wanting to walk more than 50cm from me. He's like clingfilm most of the time. Probably made worse with me working almost fulltime now. He hates being handed over to the nanny. It's really upsetting.

debi I am very of you getting to spend time in the loft. I so need to do mine but can't do it when the dc's are in the house, the loft hatch and ladder open into DD's bedroom so I can't do it after bedtime either.

I still can't read the house moving / solicitors stuff without breaking out in a cold sweat and having bad thoughts about the estate agents who sold this house to me . I was driving round new estates today (they have built a lot in my town) to see what was available though, but it won't happen for a few years.

off now, it's dinner time, tagliatelle - yum!

Good news - MrNC collected A from nursery yesterday, A played happily until bedtime, then guzzled a bottle of cow milk and went to sleep just fine. This is a first - the fact that I wasn't there at all probably helped.

Less good - A slept until 5am (very good) and then woke having thrown up for the first time in his life. At least the spare grobag was cleanish and dry! I bf'd him to sleep as my breast was complaining (I had been down to only once a day but then he got poorly so ended up feeding up to 4x just to get him to sleep - my willpower at 4am is approx nil...) He's been refusing most food today but otherwise fine, so I hope it was just the tail end of the lurgy we've all had. He impressed my parents by walking holding their hands all round the house.

Had my first parents evening tonight! A is doing wonderfully at nursery and they love him.

A fell asleep on the way home and didn't wake when I got him out of the pushchair and into the cot, so that's another night of no bf so far... it's been great from 7 months until recently, but I've just had enough of it. And planning to buy some new bras for my birthday in a couple weeks.

Starlight just checked out the thread. FGS, even if someone thinks YABU, is it really necessary to be so sanctimonious and patronising? I wouldn't worry too much...

I didn't say you shouldn't have done it, just that I wouldn't/couldn't anywhere round here.
Some people were being a bit too nasty though and I didn't get the cc bit either.

Spending another day in the loft (this is my lunchbreak- fish finger sandwich). It's unbelievable how much junk is up there. Freecycle is amazing though, other people seem to want my junk!

where is this thread, starlight?

and relaaaaaaaaaaaaax. Today I have glimpsed what life is like for those with 3 boys on half-term. I've had my two brothers with me and DS has mostly been fairly entertained by them. But after about 3pm he started to get clingy (tired I think), but I'd invited a friend over with her 13mo DS so there were FOUR boys in the house!! At this point DS got extra clingy and possessive over me so that when friend's DS toddled over to say hello, DS would shriek 'ow ow ow' and push him away! Funny, but draining.

Then after finally getting him to nap I managed to start dinner, only to be interrupted halfway through by a very grumpy DS who refused to be put down. Had to ring DH to come home early and finish shoving veg in the oven.

Am such a wimp.

But surely if these were actually my 3 sons, the youngest would be the least clingiest? Right?

Anyway, sm not experiencing what bedtime with 3 boys is like as my dad is coming to pick them up in an hour or so. Thank god. Knackered.

starlight the second day I left DS with the nanny I had my neighbour come up to me that evening saying she'd heard DS crying for 2 hours and couldn't really hear anyone doing anything to try and calm him down. My stomach lurched, I imagined all sorts of horrible things...then realised I'd told her to stay in the house for two hours as a courier was coming to pick something up. Either way, hasn't really put my mind at ease. DS has always been very demanding, and now someone else is witness to it so I realise it's not just me. Still, I do wonder how she deals with his neediness when to her he's just a job, but to me he's my son.

I would prefer to put him in nursery, but being freelance I can't get the flexibility from them. I'm paying through the nose for my flexible part-time nanny, the holy grail of chilcare.

and while I'm here and scared of posting this on the main forum....

Has anyone ever been tempted to smack their baby? Lately DS has been really testing my patience, and I've actually had to think twice about my instinct to give his bottom a little tap for being so annoying. It's only happened to me twice, but it's really made me question whether I might end up smacking him. I was smacked as a child, and always always believed I would never smack my own children. My two brothers are still smacked and they're really quite violent when they play with each other. The older one has been in trouble at school for being overly aggressive. He's only doing what he's been taught at home.