One small step for Baby, one large step (or mad dash to prevent disaster) for Mumkind

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Hi, Welcome to the new thread, the one where we can't drink a cup of tea in peace (there you go, we could have used that for a title!!)

I was in bodyshop yesterday and M trashed the place. Luckily the sales assistant thought she was sweet as she pulled things off displays and legged it out the shop with jars of body butter (several times)!!, cue me legging it after her with a handful of makeup . Luckily there were no store detectives aroud. She also tried to wear every shoe within her reach at the shoe shop.

Incidentally, T has started random early waking and having to have a bottle and go in the pram for another hour or two sleep (won't go back down in the cot). It is a PITA. Hoping he'll just get over it, as he has before.

Good luck for your meeting today Starlight. I am sending you calm, patience and biting your tongue vibes

The seemingly random wakings are a pita as trying to put your finger on why is nigh on impossible.

hopefully ds2 wakes up too early sometimes demanding milk but he doesn't go back to sleep. It's annoying but only for dh as he gets him up

Hope your meeting goes well starlight

Day 8 of robyn's mystery illness and we have had no vomit yet fantastic.
She does however have a loose bowel and she has lost weight, her tummy is looking saggy.

On the plus side of being so ill she could not stand she managed 3 full nights sleep, with night wakings where she managed to self settle. On 2 of those nights I managed to get her to go to sleep in her cot with no breastfeed.
Now I have to be strong and try and not go back to our old ways of bf to sleep then during the night to self-settle.

She has also started to take an interest in her toys again and managed some cheerios for dinner. It is so nice to get my normal happy child back.

Have successfully dropped the 5:30am breastfeed but ds has been waking up the past couple of mornings for it. DH gives him some warm milk in a sippy cup instead as I'm trying to be strict with cutting down on the BF. Still feed around 7-8am though. And then as soon as I come in from work and again at bedtime.

Since our return to co-sleeping we've all been getting loads of sleep. But DS is waking up earlier and earlier after bedtime expecting to be brought into our bed. Last night it was 10:20, after 10 minutes I'm able to leave him in order to get ready for bed myself but am worried this means we won't be able to leave him with a babysitter apart from my mum. We're due to go out this Saturday for the first time in ages. The nanny is coming to babysit and I'm thinking it's all going to go horribly wrong. Whenever we've left him for an evening with anyone other than his lola (my mum) he's gone into meltdown and both him and babysitter have had a terrible time. Am concerned such extreme separation anxiety is a sign of some future problem. Does anyone else have this problem? Or are your babies happy to sleep in the evenings and be left with other people?

Good luck with the therapy and the SW visit starlight

starlight GOOD LUCK!!! hope all goes well.

DG so sorry about your loss but at least you have all the info now and can hopefully move on. On a brighter note, please do share any juicy gos from DSis.
And as to DS waking/baby sitting - if the nanny is baby sitting, I take it she knows him well? If so, you may find he's OK. You can talk to nanny about what might happen and agree a course of action. If you trust her, then go and enjoy yourselves - sounds like you need it.

We are now in the strange land of almost self-weaning off milk. C now only has one bottle a day, about 7.15am. She'll drink about 140mls then has another 100mls on her porridge/cereal.
She started refusing her 7pm bedtime bottle about 2 weeks ago (must have heard me worrying about teeth cleaning!!). We've tried every way to make sure (cold/warm milk, bottle/sippy cup etc) but she's having none of it. She will drink some water after her bath though, so we've incorproated that into the sleeping bag routine on our bed and she seems to drop off on our shoulders. Tried reading her a book but she just wants to grab the book.

I am getting better at letting her settle herself if she does wake - I hate hearing her cry but unless she cries for more than a few mins, we don't go in now.

Anyone thought of pillows as yet? When do you use them? I'm not really thinking of one yet but the other night I found her using her teddy bear as a pillow and she seemed to be sleeping more soundly.
Any thoughts?

ooh and we've booked our 2010 holidays to Catalonia -going end of August/early Sept. Quite excited as I now have about 9 months to convince DP that then would be a good time to start TTC No 2!

Hi all.

ds1 and ds2 ill with colds.

dh away with work.

ds1 sleeping (or rather getting up at the crack of dawn) has reached a new low so we are bing referred to the paediatrician.

ds2 only stays in his cot for a max of 2 hours most nights (and sometimes only for 30 mins) before we have to take him into our bed. Am so tired and fed up of having no evening or social life.

Feel like a pretty useless mummy at the moment

DG, I'm so sorry. Here's hoping to prompt conception (and having fun with it).

Diego's finger looks really manky, as the skin of the blister has now fallen off. I have not taken him to the GP because it looks like it's healing ok (and because after all the nightmare SW stories i got scared!)

becaroo poor you. I really hope the paediatrician can do something to help you both.

God, IMO, you've booked your holidays already? That is so super organised.

Pacita when it comes to hols, they are so important to us and we like to have something to look forward to.
If you book before xmas for next yr, it's normally loads cheaper as they all put their prices up in Jan. You can leave it to the last minute & get a cheap deal that way but that's not my style.
Put it this way - we got the mobile home we wanted with keycamp (2 bed, 2 bath, decking, air con, flat screen TV, DVD player) & we were able to pre-book our seats with Monarch and could choose any we wanted cos no one else had booked yet, and so we chose aisle 1 seats A&B on out and return flights - loadsa leg room!!! Roll on 31 Aug!

But, in reality I am probably anally organised and need to chill out a bit!!

Star hope the abscence of a post isn't an ominous sign.

Imo I wouldn't pop a pillow in just yet, think I left it till Dd1 was at least 18 months, probably longer. DS was definitely 18 months as that is when he had to share my bed for 6 months. Am not giving Robyn one yet as she has just started sleeping on her front and if you sleep on your belly you don't need a pillow.
Very well organised on the hoiday booking, we are waiting for the Sun £9.50 hols, DS loves caravans so might as well get them cheap

Thanks for the info re pillows Deb - C mainly sleeps on her tummy, only occasionally turns onto her side, so will leave her as is for now. Glad to hear Robyn is feeling better.

Off to bed now - DP in Edinburgh till Fri & I have spent the evening doing his accounts, so have Sky+ IACGMOOH to watch in bed. Up early to do morning run to nursery alone, but it's not too frantic.

DG did DSis enjoy switching the xmas lights on with Stavros Flatley in Barnsley?! bit of a treck for her though.

Wow, what a turnaround starlight. So pleased to hear they've stopped attacking you and are in their own strange way attempting to actually help you.

iom that's almost as Carriebo and her military house move/renovation.

Dsis was very pleased to see such a great turn out at Barnsley. She's been travelling all over the country for the past three weeks and is happiest when there's a good crowd.

So I asked for some goss on the other contestants. She said everyone is generally lovely. She got on really well with Danyl but agrees with me that he doesn't have the greatest voice. She said he is the cleanest in the house. He was sharing a room with Olly and Jamie and she was so jealous of their room because Danyl was almost OCD about keeping it clean and tidy. He changed all the boys bedsheets every three days and did all their laundry. She said Olly is probably the most humble man she's ever met. She isn't aware if him having any sort of professional background in music unlike most of the others (except the twins). But she thinks he could win it.

She said Lucy was typical vacuous teenager and only paid attention if there was a bloke involved!

She loves Lloyd, said he was really well mannered and respectful.

She said that Danyl and Stacey have fallen out a couple of times but it was obviously blown out of proportion by the press and actually Stacey provoked Danyl once by saying she thought homosexuals were unnatural and wrong. So there.

Right can hear DS so think he's probably due for a bedroom transfer soon.

guess whose in one place for longer than a hot minute?! meee!

Hi girls!
for you Jenpet and Meglet

also a little giddy with excitement for Ponymum.

I'm a little excited about being back on MN. I've missed you all!

Hey Eandz, what a surprise!

How are you do and baby doing? Did you get to the bottom of her problem digesting milk?

Lovely to hear from you and looking forward to all your news.

I'm doing better -- I don't get depressed around other mothers and their perfect children anymore.

Noah is doing slightly better. Only on one medication instead of the 4 he was on before. Which is good. He's allergic to cows milk, eggs and some red fruit so feeding him is a pain.

He refuses everything except fruitapura (the cow and gate fruit mush) He refuses meals altogether if it's not what he's being fed. I really don't know what to do about it. Atleast he's eating though, right?

Star that is great. SW are a law unto their own and it is hard to be prepared for them isn't it.
I would personally take the offer of respite, am quite annoyed that we didn't, as the process is long and if you get it sorted now it doesn't mean he has to go to respite until you all are ready. you should also be able to get direct payment as we get D P and are in the process of getting respite as well.
Respite can be anything from him going to play for a few hours at a centre or someone's house orupto a week. It is all gradual and goes at his pace so he isn't overfaced. Now DS is 10 we are looking at it as going to a friend's after tea like DD does or staying the night like she does.

Eandz I think I can speak for us all, where are all the perfect babies?
Glad Noah is feeling better and his meds have been reduced. Don't panic over the eating, it will come in time you will just have to be really patient

Thanks Debs75 i don't know how or why all the babies i see around me are spartan warrior images of absolute perfection.

Come along to my house eandz it will make you feel a whole lot better!!!!!

Glad to see you back!

Got a fab report from ds1 teacher today...he is doing really well and making up for lost time in year 1 (when he had a frankly useless teacher who only taught him to doubt his ability) We are taking him to london for the weekend as a treat!

star Really pleased for you x

Welcome back eandz.

Good news about the reduction in N's medications. With regards to the eating, what do YOU think about it?

Is N able to eat food with texture and just chooses not to?

Has he had any medical procedures done to him that may affect his attitude towards things going in his mouth? For example ng tube, mouth forced open etc etc.

Are his meds oral? If so, does he hate taking them?

An attitude to food could be about control, it could be a mental hang-up, it could be about a physical condition. However, it could also be that he's not that bothered and will do it in his own time.

That's why I ask what you think as you are the best placed person to assess what it going on.

What are you going to do in London Becaroo?

Oh, and I also meant to add that NOBODY is perfect.

They may seem it, but they're not. You'd also be shocked about the amount of people who lie about their children sleeping through, what they eat, their development etc.

They're normally the ones who ALWAYS look immaculate and seemingly have the perfect life, but whose dh is shagging his secretary!