One small step for Baby, one large step (or mad dash to prevent disaster) for Mumkind

[ninja]

Hi, Welcome to the new thread, the one where we can't drink a cup of tea in peace (there you go, we could have used that for a title!!)

I was in bodyshop yesterday and M trashed the place. Luckily the sales assistant thought she was sweet as she pulled things off displays and legged it out the shop with jars of body butter (several times)!!, cue me legging it after her with a handful of makeup . Luckily there were no store detectives aroud. She also tried to wear every shoe within her reach at the shoe shop.

starlight XP is a raging psychopath (and huge), he's not stable at any rate. My friend works at the local mental hospital and she is convinced he is going to end up being admitted eventually. I should be able to get an injunction out on him, the police and womens aid thought it was a good idea earlier in the year so all the evidence (threatening texts / e-mails) is still there.

ninja how has your weekend been? Have you and your H made any decisions yet?

Meglet really shocked ast how your ex-p is behaving although from what yu said it isn't really a surprise. and locking yourself in the porch what are you like?

Star the SW are out to get us. Had an out of hours plumber come on Fri nioght as bolier had gone again and he reported us to SS because DS is locked in his room and I told him to 'shut up' as he had woken robyn up, who is still quite poorly.
They turned up at 9ish Sat morning and said they would open a case on DS. The lead sw was a bit pushy and told me DS's bedroom was 'squalid'. It was a mess and the paint is peeling and their are dints in the wall but it is not squalid and it is all his own kmaking, we tidy it up and he messes it up again. she then asked to see DD1's bedroom and exclaimed 'well this is a lovely bedroom'
Just glad she didn't look in the kitchen as we had loads of pots to wash. They are coming back next week but not sure when so Dp is hurriedly cleaning the house so it looks vaguely presentable.

starlight oh, yes, he scares me, got security lights in the back garden and am always wondering when he will kick off next. I'm going to call the domestic violence chap at the police station this week, he has been very helpful in the past.

Anyway, what are your plans for the week? Do you have to find some middle ground with the sw's to get them off your back?

I think I might be the only person not watching X-factor or IACGMOOH tonight. Top Gear is so much more fun .

debs OMG! WTF are SS playing at . I mean, the number of nasty, frankly clearly shit parents I see in town who do need a kick up the backside and the SW's pick on the sensible parents who don't treat their kids like crap.

I've a good mind to start reporting all the nasty ones I see, give the SS some proper work to do that might actually make a difference.

What on earth is that 'parenting daily hassles' document about? Do people get marked down for constantly cleaning up stuff, not being able to go to the bathroom in peace or having the children under foot. Isn't that how it goes for everyone?!

Star they were concerned about his door as it looks like he is 'caged in'. It is in fact an original pine pannelled door with the top panel took out and a section of wire mess over the hole. that way we can see into his bedroom and he can see us and he is less distressed. what did annoy me is sevral times she said 'i don't know much about autism' so most of the remarks she will make will not be justified and a SW who works with autistics will just say 'that's normal'
Up to now our SW's have been great and have helped us access lots of useful stuff so i know sometimes they are great sometimes they are awful

Can't access warmfront as we are council tennants and they are attempting to fix the boiler. The guy they sent out today couldn't fix it as he wasn't qualified to change the part

Robyn is still sick. She is lethargic, wingy, tired and has no appetite. All she will drink is breastmilk and a little water and if she manages food she brings it back up. She has been sick everyday since Weds and every morning when she wakes up, in our bed and all over me and her clothes, yuck. Doc today said it could be viral but she isn't dehydrated so we have to tough it out for another 4 days. If she is still being sick and not eating on Fri then back to the docs

sorry to hear about the SWs and Robyn, Debs. What is this like? The season of grief and pestilence? I can't imagine what a cross having SW in your life must feel like (to you and SL) I think it would drive me round the bend tbh.

I am still suffering the pestilence. I was worried all weekend about a sicknote so I phoned the Surgery first thing today. The (kind) Nurse practitioner phoned back and told me that Swine flu is a 2 week self cert. Hallelujah. I could have kissed her feet for saying that. I suppose that is because they want to keep you away from the docs.

I am feeling better but not well enough to work. my appetite is slowly coming back. The headaches are not so much killers but I still need my pm beauty sleep.

it has occurred to me more than once Meglet and you don't need to say if you don't want to but the way you describe X makes me think of a man who uses steroids. do you know if he is or isn't the type?

star I read that CC was in fact designed for kids with sn??? Is that right? Am so sorry for all your woes with SS. It must be a nightmare for you.

Somehow I seem to have been made chairperson of the PTA....really dont know how that happened!!! One minute I was munching on custart creams, the next I'm a bloody chairperson hmmm...wonder what a chairperson does.....?

Hello ladies. Sorry to hear that the dual pestilence of disease and social workers are still plaguing some of you.

Diego has a minor burn in his index finger because he stuck it in the small gap between the kettle and the kettle switch, on the split second that i was not looking. What would SS make of that?

I went to the pharmacy to buy an antibiotic cream to prevent infection and they told me i need a prescription. WTF? I have not been to the doctors because the burn is very minor, but he still had a huge blister (now popped) that made the upper part of his finger look like a sausage balloon. He seems perfectly unbothered by it all, thank god.

Do you think I should buy the bullet and take him to the GP? Thing is, I'm working tomorrow and because I work part time I really have to put in the hours when I'm in. People are always judgemental towards part time working mothers, I find. Specially in a company such as this, where most people are quite young, childless professionals.

Anybody any experience with LOs with small burns?

Cheers Starlight, I've just sent DP to the pharmacy.

He seems to be still ok. The blister has burst, and the skin of his finger looks all wrinkley and soft, so i've put a bit of sudocream (has zinc oxide, so should help heal). Let's see what DP comes back with... My hope is that the skin will dry tonight, keeping the burn covered. This way the pain will be minimised and no dressing is needed.

Not you too debs bloody hell we definitely have to start child sw proofing the house just in case.

pacita hope diego's finger gets better. Funny how once the initial pain has subsided they just get on with it. Mmr jab last week was pretty much over and done with in seconds.

Got my scan tomorrow afternoon to check all has passed. Of course a tiny part of me is hoping that I might miraculously still be pg like one of those 'misdiagnosed mc' stories. But really I know that my body is returning to normal. Kind of glad it's looking like it's nearly over was dreading bleeding for weeks on end. And I'm glad I knew I was pregnant before it happened. At least I know my body's sort of working.

A big hug to you digi, thinking of you xx

Think I need to sw proof my house too! Its sad when the parenting of obviously loving and decent parents is being questioned. Dont let them get to you.

I keep running behind you guys in this thread .
I could not find you again as our thread title does not have sept 08 in it.
Then everytime I have wrote a message baby E has hit a key on my laptop and I ve lost the lot! Doh

So I decided to spilt this one up!

I am actually a hero as I saved baby E from falling down the stairs and launched myself in front of him. It was one of those laundery, stair gate situations. Anyway my foot in plaster for 4-6 weeks. I am going mad as cant drive and my good foot aches from hoping.

I had recently returned to work in Sept after a year off and if you remember I had lots of time off with ms during my pregnancy. My boss is not impresssed . However, I must heal quick.

Had the SW visit and it wasn't as bad as we thought. She was really nice and thinks we have been let down by other services so is trying to get everyone together to get us some more support. She wasn't as nasty as the other SW's and thought we were doing a great job (gold star moment) as after 30 mins in DS's presence she was feeling like she could snap. He was having an afternoon from hell and was really stressed with them being there.
Thanks for all your support on here
I hope your visit goes as smoothly Star

Hope Diego's finger gets better soon.

Digi sorry for your loss, I had a 6 week MC before I had Dd1, I got caught with her within a couple of weeks and she has turned out fine. Apparently you get super fertile after a MC to make up for it.

Glad to hear it turned out ok in the end with the SW debs

Had my scan, and no turning of the screen to show me my insides this time. Most of the pregnancy has gone. And the nurse who did the scan was very nice. Too nice actually. Made me cry because she was being so concerned for my well being. I had gone in all matter of fact and expected the same back. So can expect up to a week's more spotting and then back to business.

Am also keeping my fingers crossed for this supposed 'super-fertile' phase. But as with all things ttc am not holding my breath.

DSis is coming round for dinner tonight Am so lookng forward to a proper catch up!

You poor lot with sw's to deal with. They seem completely ill equipped to meet the needs of clearly very normal parents. Makes it less surprising that they fail so utterly in certain situations

Meglet, I hope you can get some kind of support with exP, sounds horrible. Locking yourself in the porch probably not the solution though...

DG sorry for all you've been through, but glad it's coming to a conclusion. Fingers crossed for super fertile stage!

We are going to start TTC in a month-ish (next AF after this one). Am getting quite excited about the idea now