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TwilightSurfer · 29/09/2009 18:04

How's that?

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steaknifethroughtheheart · 11/10/2009 21:42

I had vidoe msn with mansteak this afternoon.
A bit frustrating as his connection wasn't very good so we couldn't hear him. Also not too sure how much Izzy could make out of him on the tiny video picture. But he seemed to get us okay.

It is tricky, as we seem to be skirting around some issues. He says things like "you two look so cute together" and "looking forward to seeing you both" and I don't know if he means you know that he actually is missing me as well as Izzy. And I don't want to ask. Pride and all.
I am still very cross at him for not being with us.

Oooh a sinclair C5 - there is a guy in Exmouth that has one of those.

AnnVan · 11/10/2009 21:50

steak hopefully he IS missing you like crazy. Silly man should. Let him suffer I say (or am I bein bitchy there? )
I'm watching Serenity on ITV 4. Although I'm not sure why I'm enduring the ad breaks, as I actually have this movie on DVD.

SazZaVoom · 11/10/2009 21:52

Sorry to hear it didn't go too well steaky . He must be missing seeing you both so nice for him to have visual contact. I guess there are a number of possible scenarios:

  • he wants to affirm to you that you have done the right thing and look really well and happy away from the stresses of a breakup
  • he is assuaging a bit of guilt for the breakup by highlighting how well the two of you are doing as a unit of 2
  • he is being very genuine and giving a lovely comment
  • he is saying he misses you

Sorry, not much help there

When is he coming to visit so you can discover how he is really feeling?

TwilightSurfer · 11/10/2009 21:56

Well it seems I don't know kitchen tools. I have a "food processor" like this (although I doubt for that price) instead of a mixer. Thank you for making me aware there was a difference.

I've worked my ass off today. DH....has his ass planted in the sofa watching football. When I mentioned I'd been in constant motion since I got out of bed, he replied, "well honey that's why your so slim." He thought that would flatter me. He's really soaking up the manshit today. OH and did I mention his father will be here Friday as they are scheduled to drive out of town to a football game in Nashville Saturday morning. This only means more work for me this week getting ready for visitor(s). GOODNESS I NEED A VACATION.....ALONE!!!!!!

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steaknifethroughtheheart · 11/10/2009 21:59

He is coming on 11th till 14th November.
I just want to ask him if he still thinks this is the right thing for our family. Subtext - doncha still love me?

But I'm not asking that for two reasons;
incase he says yes still the right thing and no, don't love you.
And because I've done my grovelling so he can do some suffering.

TwilightSurfer · 11/10/2009 21:59

Steaky don't read anything INTO what you're seeing and hearing from him. Men are BASIC. What it is IS what it is. No more...No less. They are in the moment creatures. Remove all the romantic notions from your mind because those are completely female in nature and prone to cause disappointment. (((hug)))

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steaknifethroughtheheart · 11/10/2009 22:05

TS yes that's true - also why I don't try to have those conversations. He just means "you two look cute together" so trying to get him to talk about what else it could mean is going to get me nowhere.
Sigh

SazZaVoom · 11/10/2009 22:05

LOL at MrTwilight and his flattery comments . DH said to me this morning as i was getting dressed that i was getting a 6 pack . Any guesses what his subtext was?

steaknifethroughtheheart · 11/10/2009 22:08

erm - that he was getting you a boy band for Christmas?

pfft to Mr TS.

SazZaVoom · 11/10/2009 22:10
Grin
TwilightSurfer · 11/10/2009 22:24

and again, solid proof, men are absolutely basic. LOL!!

Ladies I've overdone it again this weekend. I'm not sure I'll be able to get up from my desk here. Oooowwwwww!

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SazZaVoom · 11/10/2009 22:27

TS please have a long soak in a warm bath and TAKE IT EASY

Off to bed (a lovely king size with a hot water bottle......bliss). Night all

pertelote · 11/10/2009 22:28

Hiya all. Welcome back HP! My sympathies on the return from holiday wrench.

No advice for anyone from me, not on appliances, not on man-interpreting... I have a sinking feeling in my stomach re Monday morning which I never had in all my schooldays (as I was a proper little swot who couldn't wait to get to school as a rule). DH equally stressed - something has to give and I don't know what... tis my birthday Thurs and I don't think we're going to do anything at all

Sorry that is self-pitying isn't it?! I am vicariously enjoying Buckets' new kitchen, Sazzles' fire, Cyteen's frock and Oops' Sunday lunch (not to mention post-prandial nap ), among other things! Reminds me to look on the bright side. I've had a nice weekend too, bargains and catching up with friends at the NCT sale and a lazy sunday with banana/ginger/chocolate cake and knitting. So please slap me (gently) and tell me no-one likes Monday mornings.

SazZaVoom · 11/10/2009 22:28
VintageGaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahdenia · 11/10/2009 22:36

Oh dear pert was it you with the auditors? whatever your work stress is I hope it turns out much less horribly than you are expecting.

pertelote · 11/10/2009 22:50

Thanks VG - actually I had my meeting with them last week and think I acquitted myself reasonably - now I just have to organise everyone else for their return next week, plus find/finish/invent six million pieces of information for them! This process will continue at least until Christmas, hopefully not quite this intense all through. Shutting up now. Sympathies on your bad day too...

Snotmonster · 12/10/2009 04:07

Hi all hope you all had a great weekend.

Steaky think you are right to make him suffer. Can you use skype instead - connection usually very clear I find.

Ann hope you had some rest and a couple of better nights. DS has slept in a grobag pretty much since birth. He has 0.5 tog ones and I think it is good for his sleep association. I also always give him a bath and he now runs to the bathroom saying bath when it is time. DH doesn't generally see him in the evening (but at the moment sees quite a lot of him in the morning as he's still waking at 5am every day) ! I think we've mentioned before about the 7pm thing being quite cultural as here in Asia the working hours are generally a lot longer than in the UK (although balanced out by extremely long lunches and later starts in the morning). But quite a few of my colleagues don't but their LOs down at night till after 9pm and then adapt their daytime routines accordingly. I suppose it is whatever works but I like my evenings too much for that!

DS still being really fussy with food. I am running short of ideas of what to try feeding him next as he seems to change his mind on what he likes every mealtime (sigh). He's also being really really clingy at the moment - when is the worst part of separation anxiety supposed to be over? He really wailed when I left for work this morning.

Mum and Dad arrive tomorrow evening. I think they are going to be amazed at the change in DS - they last saw him when he was 9 months and we were in England . I might get some lie-ins though - yay!

steaknifethroughtheheart · 12/10/2009 08:16

snot I hope you have a lovely time with your folks and those lie-ins.

Pert sorry you are so worried about work - one day at a time and all that.
Oh and your birthday is the day before mine

Might try and round up a babysitter and go for a drink with friends. WAs supposed to be going to Bristol for a baby free, swanky lunch, but that has been cancelled. [grrr]

OOOOOOOOOOOpsacoconut · 12/10/2009 08:39

Morning all

Spreads out semi stale bread, nutella, jam, smoothie and tea

DD slept last night from 7-5 then I gave her 2oz of milk in her bottle and brought her into bed with us where she BF and went back off to sleep until 7 .

BRB - smelly pants wants changing.

VintageGaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahdenia · 12/10/2009 08:56

That sounds like a good night's sleep oops.

DP went off in his car for work at 5.30 am & not sure if he is back before tomorrow pm so as my own is being fixed I am without a car which will serve me right for being a big softie.

Hope to get to see dizzy today!

UndeadLentil · 12/10/2009 09:38

Sorry to hear your car is on the blink VG.
Did you manage to sort out the school run for DS1?

I spent last night fighting off a bout of mastitis which seems to have kicked off after cutting back on feeds.

Still a bit uncomfortable this morning but at lest my temp is back to normal.

DD2 is trying to force-feed me her apple.
This morning she told me she had weed on the floor by dragging me towards it saying 'uh oh'. When I came back from fetching a cloth to mop it up she had her own cloth and was doing the job herself.

AnnVan · 12/10/2009 09:46

Morning all.
Night wasn't too bad here. Had two wakeups. THe second one felt like eternity though. GOt so fed up of sitting there with him on my boob I eventually just detached him and put him back to bed. For once it worked though

oops good new on your night. Well done P!

LoveBuckets · 12/10/2009 11:30

Steaky He is missing you, he has lost his best friend after all. And when he comes to stay I've no doubt there will be some hankypanky but it is because he misses you and because he is male sharing a house with a foxy sex-starved chick. I wholeheartedly say go get some (tis good fer what ails yer) but do remember to tone down the innate urge to seek messages that aren't there. He sounds like a pretty honest guy and wouldn't outright lie to you. You know all this but I'm saying it anyway, because I know I would go completely into fantasising mode in your situation and would need regular reminding. And def go out tonight, you need some baby-free anecdotes and adventures to drop in casually (OH GOD I'M SUCH A GIRL!!!)

VG Kitchen is back on but new car is a nono. Was really looking forward to that bit and having a little spare cash for Xmas but not as essential as replacing manky 25yr old kitchen and falling-to-bits appliances.

Trying to find a rockbottom cheap place for me to take kids and friend in South Devon in half term. Fantasising about lovely b&b in Totnes but Salcombe YHA is looking more promising - waiting for quotes, you don't know til you try.

TwilightSurfer · 12/10/2009 11:48

Red nice cleaning skills you're establishing in your house.

Steaky I totally agree with Buckets; GET SOME but don't attempt to read between the lines.

Expectant glad all is well around the world. Very of your grands visit.

Oops sounds like the little one is learning the routine.

Ann you sound positive this morning. Nice!

VG sorry nothing for you on the car front UNLESS Sazzles can 4x4 it over your direction and help out. LOL!

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Snotmonster · 12/10/2009 12:37

Hi TS - not sure I'll be saying the same thing after 5 weeks!!

Steaky if you do take Buckets and TS advice please remember to take some precautions

Ann glad you had a better night and Oops a good night too.

Have put DS to bed having administered calpol as he felt hot (temperature didn't seem very high but difficult to take as he kept pulling the thermometer away) plus he was very very tired.

Off to the gym now as DH is back from work at a reasonable time for once.