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TwilightSurfer · 29/09/2009 18:04

How's that?

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steaknifethroughtheheart · 09/10/2009 21:44

sorry TS I forgot to say - you look fabbo in your dress.

UndeadLentil · 09/10/2009 21:44

I love the dress TS and agree that with the girls' outfits, something plain but dramatic for you will look wonderful.

Ann- much strength to you. All the sleep decisions I have made with DS and DD2 have been made at the point of 'I can't take this any more.'

DD1 loves to sleep and still sleeps more than DD2.

Some babies are easier to sleep train than others. But you are the boss and if you insist on something at this stage Seb will go along with you.

I find lying them down when they are standing up protesting works well too. DD2 likes her cheek to be stroked once her little chicken legs are too tired to get her up again.

SazZaVoom · 09/10/2009 21:46

I lie, 6.50 - i so not have that amount of patience

TS the pics will look fab, i was just being picky as you have such an outgoing personality i didn;t think it did you justice. As background fodder, tis just fine

UndeadLentil · 09/10/2009 21:46

Steaky, well done on the good interview by the way.

Wot no dress porn for us Cyteen?

iwascyteenagewerewolf · 09/10/2009 21:49

Yes, DS does get a bit pissed off when I lie him back down again but a firmish stroking hand on the back usually helps him to feel the tiredness and realise that he's actually quite comfy lying down.

A firm, kind, consistent manner is the other thing that has worked for us (so far - I'm not stupid enough to think that this good sleep period will last forever!) DS knows that we will always come if he needs us, he knows everything is okay, but he also knows that 7ish = bath and/or story, pyjamas, milk, bed. And I think he's happy with that - I think he likes knowing that he has a routine.

So far

steaknifethroughtheheart · 09/10/2009 21:49

pfft - why is Friday night tv so rubbish?

I've been sewing this evening, making DD a little fleecy jumper. Arms turned out a bit od - very long and narrow. Hopefully I can crop them shorter and they will be okay, or I'll just re-do them completely.

TwilightSurfer · 09/10/2009 21:52

I'll second/third/whatever the difference removing night feeds is. It is WONDERFUL for both of us. Reese had issues for only a few days then settled with the facts. She's not been harmed in any way form or fashion by the change.

I'm going back out later to find DH something hip to wear. I've been searching the web and will attempt to dress him like a character out of Mad Men. Who knows I might find that RED pair of heels after all. Or at least a jazzy lipstick.

Reese is basically spot free now. YAY! DD1 is trying to (literally) jump into a book. Wild as usual evening in the Twilight House.

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SazZaVoom · 09/10/2009 21:52

steaky you could just hang DD up on the washing line to stretch her arms a bit

cyteen 'A firm, kind, consistent manner' - i agree 100%

SazZaVoom · 09/10/2009 21:53

'Noon' fitting clothes - they can only wear these at midday BTW

TwilightSurfer · 09/10/2009 21:54

A #1 Cyteen, "A firm, kind, consistent manner". Perfect Statement!

Steaky I wish I could sew stuff for the girls like you're doing. In my mind I can. LOL!

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SazZaVoom · 09/10/2009 21:58

Snap

miamla · 09/10/2009 22:01

gah, been distracted by this thread! so i missed all the chatting

sorry your hig is late Steaky....are you ready?.... over she comes!

i wish i could sew like Steaky does too! i've only made a pair of knickerbockers and a t-shirt for DS. perhaps i'll make tomorrow a DS outfit sewing day!

miamla · 09/10/2009 22:04

right girls, laptop battery is about to say goodnight to me so i'd better say goodnight to ya'll first

TS if i don't get on tomorrow, i hope your shoot goes well

and to everyone else, here's a few spare higs to keep you going

HIG HIG HIG (share them nicely amongst you!)

steaknifethroughtheheart · 09/10/2009 22:06
SazZaVoom · 09/10/2009 22:09

Night miamla, Dh snoring here, so will wake him and off to bed

Restful nights to all

no1putsbabyinthecorner · 09/10/2009 22:11

I should not be here.

sazz Will you be fetching dd1 on Tuesday?

poppysocks · 09/10/2009 22:14

Phew, all caught up now!

Yay, oops. So pleased all is well. I had a dilemma re: hospitals with my two and DSis did and I just think that it is total pot-luck. It so depends on things you have no control over - which staff are on, what sort of mood they're in, who else is in at that time... I don't hold my bad experience with DD1 against the hospital. Which is closer/quicker to get to? That would probably swing it for me.

Had to LOL at your PMC equation for nurofen steaky. Had to resist the tempatation last night, knowing it was an early start today. Think they're upping the stakes this week... Clearly cooking does get tougher .

Sorry nights are still so difficult ann. I have a friend whose DD1 would also get so worked up that she'd wretch etc. In the end they were referred to a sleep clinic via their HV. Worth a shot? Fwiw, I'm not prone to suggest parenting methods to others, but the one thing I absolutely swear by is a nightime routine. We always bath them and while that can be quite high-spirited, once they're out, all lights are low, volumes low etc. Quiet cuddly milk and then straight into bed. Laid down and left in total darkness so that they have no distractions. Any night wakings have minimal lighting and noise and no eye contact. Sounds a bit cold, especially when they were v. young, but they knew the difference between night and day as soon as pos, which imho is key. I also second everything positive said about grobags. They are fab and are another association with it being night-time, when things are done differently (we don't use them for naps). DD1 no longer needs the routine but still goes through the motions with DD2, who doesn't really now either, but no matter how awake she seems, the thumb will always go in while she's being put into her grobag and she settles herself after milk. No idea whether it takes her 2 or 20 minutes but she's she does it herself (sometimes with a bit of a cry which she settles herself too). I hope that doesn't seem smug. It's just what has worked for both of ours and I think I can understand why.

Also LOLed a lot at the FIL bingo. Mine says very little as he has a very chatty wife. She's lovely though and sticks mainly to gossip . My Dad though . Favourite/only topics are: most efficient roads on which to travel, or that you have travelled on to reach your destination; the weather. That's as personal it gets too (still haven't had any contact with/from him since our row in August ).

Loving the weddng dresses cyteen. I hated mine. Total disaster. Don't regret not having spent more on it though. In fact, the fact that it was only £190 is the one thing that makes me feel ok about it.

Had a rather hollow chuckle at the chap so shocked by the impending twins at your scan oops. Those of you who've been here since the very beginning may remember by endless and very boring obsessional fear that DD2 would be twins. Definitely one of the top reasons not to try for no.3. Just too many twins in my family and DH would surely be rendered speechless for weeks. Actually.....

Really can't continue to burble any longer, but hello, hello to everyone

poppysocks · 09/10/2009 22:23

Just when I thought I was all caught up, X-post, x-post, x-post....

Break away fab btw. Lots of exercise, fresh-air and time together . DD2 'got' swimming completely and is proving to be as much of a water baby as DD1. She also, with her favourite word being 'bike' had eyes out on stalks and every limb tense and shaking with excitement shrieking, 'bike, bike, bike' when we first got into a bike park. The excitement didn't ever fade either and the most oft-used sentence of the week (by far) was 'yes, bike. There are lots of bikes aren't there'.

poppysocks · 09/10/2009 22:36

Oh God, have completely chased you away with my monster posts...

I agree too cyteen. Consistency is sooooo important.

Love your outfit btw TS.

And ann (will shut after this I promise ), my DH also knows that he has to be back in time to see the girls and they don't wait for him. He does bedtime so is with them right until the end of the day. He tends to leave work before others but will always go to the study to work after dinner. Is there any chance your DP could do that? He may not fancy doing it that way round, but he also obviously doesn't fancy missing out on his DS either, so just needs to prioritise.

TwilightSurfer · 10/10/2009 01:24

POPPY! so glad to see you. Sorry we all ran off as soon as you'd caught up. Mine excuse was I had to go meet DH to select his picture outfit. Sounds like you had a wonderful time. So, you saw a few bikes, heh.

Totally crapped out tired tonight. It's 8pm and DH is in totally agreement. We've both had a long week. It's so cute right now as we are both comfy in our big king size bed, in the dark, with laptops propped on our bellies, catching up with whatever on the internet. Such is married life on a Friday night after 13 years. LOL!

My poor throat! No time to stop today meant no time to get that strep test.....so no anti-b's to help me. And to beat it all, I FORGOT whilst shopping and let DD1 split my lemonaid with me. Then Reese swiped the straw and chewed on it a while. When I got back in the truck it hit me WTF did I just let happen!!!!!! Seriously they must pump funky air into malls to make you completely stupid while you're in there. Guess I'll have some sick girls in a week or so. Please remind me if I complain.

Ann, I truly hope this evening is going perfectly well.

Miamla, same goes for you too.

As for me, both are snoring. Reese fussed a bit which is out of character but she'd had a very long nap late in the day so I guess it made sense.

Poppy, just thought I'd attempt to even things out a bit with another mammoth post. We're getting really good with those lately. None beats Miamla's diary entry but we're close.

Night all!

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miamla · 10/10/2009 07:09

I thought I'd potter for an hour before coming on here and waking you all up!

As i suspected, it was a loooong night with i don't know how many wakeups. I did all of them and yup, I'm up with him this morning as well. I'm making no more comment on this for fear of scaring you all with my swearing (not towards DS, the poor thing can't help it)

steaknifethroughtheheart · 10/10/2009 08:58

morning

vats of tea on order for you Miamla and porridge on the table.

Sunshine here makes up for yesterday's rain.
Better go and get clean and fresh for the day.

LoveBuckets · 10/10/2009 09:21

Ann Yep, agree with everyone, your DP has to accept your relationship is at stake here. He has to sacrifice his late playtimes with Seb for a while and trust you to do all the weekday parenting if he can't get home before 6.30 - since you are likely moving house for him to get home sooner, it will be temporary. My DH had to do this til he changed jobs, it made him sad not to see Kurt much but he knew having enough sleep and a supportive wife to ease his own work-related stress was actually more important. Will also force him not to do unpaid overtime. This is where that book comes in handy, all about partnership and being dependent on each other (not just you being dependent on him). Tis in the post but with strikes etc who knows when it will arrive!

Had 3hrs of crying from Kurt last night poor thing, no idea what was up with him. He had Calpol and Nurofen, actually brought him downstairs for once but still he couldn't stop. Rather too late I realised he was probably hungry, having only had popcorn for tea. So he and DH went off for a biscuit upstairs so I could watch US Life on Mars (NOT funny in any way All comedy lost completely Gene Hunt character barely noticeable.)

On another plus, I found an extra 10cm in my kitchen plan I didn't realise I had. Had just guessed that my ironing board hideyhole in the corner would be 20cm but actually 10 will be fine. Just waiting for builder to come back so I can get a start date.

CaptainCaveman · 10/10/2009 10:52

Morning. O was awake at 10pm last night,and didn't go back to sleep until around midnight! Not crying, just wide awake . Then him and ds1 were up at 6 . No wonder I'm tired (as ever!)

ann I hope you got some sleep last night

TwilightSurfer · 10/10/2009 12:59

Reese woke needing her lost pacey 5 times throughout the night. DH ignored snored.

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