June 2005 babies

[uwila]

Hi everyone. Thought it was time we have a post-natal thread.

Bubb, how awful for you all. Glad to hear that Oscar is going to be okay, and I hope your back isn't hurting you too much today. Sending you positive thoughts and good wishes xxx

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Bubb - how awful for you, hope you all feel ok soon. Accidents happen to us all and it's no surprise that you're upset and tearful- you've had a big shock. I fell downstairs with dd and it was ages until I could stop replaying it in my head - I'm still paranoid about the stairs in my house too and it's made me ultra careful - not a bad thing I guess. Sending you a big hug - it's a horrible thing to happen.
Is it just me or do these baby phases change at quite a pace. Seem to (dimly) remember that I started off worried about jaundice/getting enough milk then it was 'did he have colic as he was unsettled in the evenings' then it was 'how to relieve windy/fartiness' now I'm kind of fixating on 'where should he sleep - is co-sleeping bad and when and how should we stop'
I'm sure I was even more anxious with dd but heavens above I had dared to hope it would be a tad easier with no.2. I had this vision of me as a kind of laid back earth mummy going with the flow and letting the baby set the pace but I'm finding it hard to let go of my controlling tendencies and am desperately worried about setting up all sorts of bad habits for the future. having a bad day I guess (funny how they follow a bad night....)

Oh Bubb, poor you. What a terrible shock for you. Accidents do happen, you mustn't beat yourself up about it or let it knock your confidence with Oscar. He's going to be ok and will never remember it, and you didn't mean for it to happen. I hope you all recover very quickly.x

Thanks Jonah, see you all later!

hello WM (I'm not stlaking you honest) just went on the co-sleeping thread)!

hi everyone a brief moment when Dd at nursery (oh no the last week and then the Summer Holiday - sob) and Ds asleep.

so how's the wind problem WM? just asking as my Ds still got terrible problems - only 2 half weeks tho. Went to my osteopath on weekend, she thinks I need to change my diet. I've historically had problems with candida and she thinks this is the problem. Will try it but it's a nightmaire diet, at least I will lose weight as it's mega healthy.

I keep thinking that in 6 weeks it will be something different and the same at 3 months etc etc. Trying to go with the flow, but not as laid back as I thought I'd be. Tho honestly if I get sleep I can be as cheerful and horizontal but no sleep means a tearful hysterical mom......hmmm

hello WM (I'm not stlaking you honest) just went on the co-sleeping thread)!

hi everyone a brief moment when Dd at nursery (oh no the last week and then the Summer Holiday - sob) and Ds asleep.

so how's the wind problem WM? just asking as my Ds still got terrible problems - only 2 half weeks tho. Went to my osteopath on weekend, she thinks I need to change my diet. I've historically had problems with candida and she thinks this is the problem. Will try it but it's a nightmaire diet, at least I will lose weight as it's mega healthy.

I keep thinking that in 6 weeks it will be something different and the same at 3 months etc etc. Trying to go with the flow, but not as laid back as I thought I'd be. Tho honestly if I get sleep I can be as cheerful and horizontal but no sleep means a tearful hysterical mom......hmmm

hey Bubb just read yr message - hope you're all OK. Don't beat yrself up, it was an ACCIDENT. Of course you must be shaken up, try to take it easy

Hi Red - hope you and little Fox are doing well.
On the wind front I think (all fingers and toes crossed) that it is getting better now - I don't know whether it's my fennel tea or his infacol/gripe water combi that's done it or just getting bigger. I suspect in my heart it's just time as that seems to be the solution to most baby issues that I beat myself up trying to solve.
We sound like we've got a similar approach 'tryng to go with the flow etc' I had a real bad night last night with dd crying to herself off and on for an hour too. I think she's just a bit sad that her little life has changed but can't articulate it - that really upsets me too yep definitely not a good day for Welshie. good to chat on here though.

WM I'm sooo glad you mentioned about yr older one too! I'm just heartbroken.....my Dd sometimes just wanders about sucking her thumb and looking soo sad. I feel like I've had to abandon her......I'm feeding Fox so much and then he won't settle so it's really difficut to spend time with her. It's hard when I do get some time to cuddle her she pushes me off and says ' mummy doesn't love me any more'.

She does also have better days, but have to say I've been finding it v hard (little sobs as I write this....) have been giving her pulsatilla btw which is a homeopathic remedy meant to help. Don't ask if it does, I don't know, I just hope!!

Hello everyone,

Sorry not had chance to catch up with you all, but did gather what had happened with Bub. Heart felt sympathies. as the others have said, accidents happen, and little Oscar is fine. XX
Not had a minute to myself to be honest, and really don't know how I would have coped without dh working from home, with the two of them. Esmee is very windy, and has gone from screaming her little head off in the evening, to screaming all night. It's so horrible to hear it. So had a bad few days, feeling very down, but I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just about to go and have a look on some windy threads to get more ideas.
I really hope that you're all well and things are going ok for you all. I hope to catch up with you properly soon. Take care, XXX

many sympathies to all mums of windy/unsettled babies
samuel had a fairly good first part of night, but started waking every 2 hours from 5.30 and has been very cry-ey for second half of morning. As said below, sil's mum thinks it's trapped wind and has gone to get a homeopathic remedy (little ball things - globuli I think they're called) which she thinks'll help. I'll post on how they work! Have also been trying to find an osteopath but they seem to be collectively on holiday! Might have to wait a couple of weeks until we go to Berlin to stay with friends.

Awwww Red that 's so sad. I know exacty how you feel. I do think they'll be ok - it's just such a completely normal reaction to a new baby taking up some of their space. I'm grateful that I haven't had any pooing behind the sofa or waking up every night to contend with (have friends who had this) I'm going to try to spend more one to one time with dd. She loves having a bath with me so I must try to do that more often. Cyber hug to you Red
And sympathies again to all the windy families xxx

had a lovely lunch today, so nice to see everyone.

bubb - hope you're feeling a little less guilty, it was an accident.

Lovely to meet JonahB's DS, Lua's DS and Katz's DD and the mums of course

Had a nightmare journey back over the Penines though as DS2 decided it was time to wake up and kept crying and demanding food - had to stop at two service stations and in a side-road on the way back to give him quick feeds Hope you all got home safely. Would be great to have a meet-up with the southern Junies before we all go back to work.

Welshie, really hope you have a better night tonight. It's awful isn't it, a bad night means the next day you start questioning everything you are doing. Can't remember who said it - might have been you actually - but I read on here 'there are no solutions to babies' and I do keep reminding myself of it when I have a bad day.

I suppose the only other thing is with our older DS/DDs is to remember that they will gain more than they lose by having a sibling. DS1 is great with DS2 (apart his tendency to lie on him and a scary incident involving a pillow on DS2's head) but is behaving so badly at the moment and I know he's only doing it because he wants the attention I don't have the energy or time to give

Hope the windiness improves for everyone tonight and that we all get a good night's kip

Bubb, I hope you are ok.

evening all,

thanks everyone for all your kind words-its really helped.the staff at the hospital have all said the same and although im still upset,im alot better than yesterday.
i did actually pick oscar up and feed him today so thats a start.
he had to have 2 more blood tests today and a full body scan-thankfully both have come back ok,as have all his other tests.he's also guzzling 5oz every 3-4 hours so thats good news-obviously takes after his mum and likes his food.
hopefully all being well,he'll be discharged tomorrow.dh has been wonderful and sleeping at the hospital these last couple of nights so i can rest my back at home.ive got a doctors appointment for my back on friday-untill then painkillers are doing an ok job.
had to laugh at the hospital.they weighed the baby yesterday who was 8lb2 two weeks ago,and he's now a staggering 9lb14.

glad you enjoyed the northern meet up and hope everyone is well.xx

Hi. REmember me? I've been so neglectful on this thread I figure I deserve to be forgotten. Haven't read much, but did catch Bubb's story. So sorry! That sounds terribly. I'm sure, however, that you are not alone. One of the mums from my prenatal group from DD (2+ years ago) did something similar. She tripped whilst carrying the baby, and the baby broke her leg. No idea if this is relate but the baby didn't walk until she was some 22 month old. I really don;'t think the incidents are related, but it must have really upet the mum.

It must be common, and I think babies are built to last! So they can probably withstand these mishaps better than we can.

Bubb - there's obviously not much wrong with little Oscar as he's really not so little! Glad you're starting to feel better about it now.
Can I just say what a thoroughly lovely collection of mums we are It's just like KVG says - such a help to go through all this together (well it is for me)
I must just tell you about the breast feeding drop in I went to yesterday - I couldn't believe how 'full on' it was. There were 2 mums lying half naked on the floor while their little babies were perched on them by the midwives so the little ones could help unblock their milk ducts. It was really impressively bizarre - but also made me think 'bloody hell I really am back in that world of motherhood' , the sort of thing you only experience at a certain time in your life.
Red - I made a concious effort to spend more of yesterday focussing on dd and she is much more like her old self as a result. Poor little mites - it doesn't take much to cheer them up.
I think I might have had 5 hours sleep last night (not in a row)that's usually enough for me to feel much better. Ds deigned to sleep in his baket for some of it too which makes me happier. Hope others are ok too.

Oh god Bubbaloo - really thinking of you, Jesus. I hope you are both gonna be ok as soon as possible. Take care

Just off out the door to buy some trews from pounds stretcher as I can't get into my fat clothes and simply can't wear my maternity Jersey trews any longer.

Oh God I woke up to a sight this morning - the girl next door standing outside in pants and a t-shirt. I thought I would never have to see this and I find I am quivering all over in disgust. The neighbours pounce on me as soon as I turn a light on lately with offers to help with the baby

Just grabbing a mo whilst trying to fix the virus' dh kindly installed for us, grrr!

He He He Pink - think yourself lucky my next door neighbour is 86 - now what a sight that would be if she appeared at the door in her knicks and a T !!!

Glad your meet up was good - I want a southern one now! [stamping foot petulantly emoticon]

Bubb - how are you and Oscar today?

Well I managed to jinx myself again by saying on here thta dd was good on the dentinox ...so now we're trying the Omneo Comfort formula today and tomorrow...if it works tho I may not tell you guys to fool my little jinxer!

Welshie /RHM and Co - so know what you mean about the toddlers. DS has been fine most days but as he's no longer sleeping in the afternoon and is being woken in the night occassionally his understandable tiredness leads to early evening tantrums, argumentativeness and general naughtiness, and then either dh or I snapping at him, poor love...will try and follow your cue Welshie and give him abit more one on one when possible.

Right had better carry on with my de-virusing

Ok, yes, agreed Tea. Southern meet planning is definitely in order. I'm off to start a meet thread. Be back with the link shortly.

Also, yes, I too have noticed that toddler behaviour is directly related to lack of one on one time with me and/or DH. It works ok aon the weekend because DH looks after DD while I tend to DS. I try to get DS through his morning routine while DD is locked in a room with toys and telly and it opens to the garden for outdoor play. Then I shower, get ready for the day and have an activity that suits DD (today we are heading over to a friends house who has a boy DDs age so they can play. NAptime? Hmmm... well, due to my inability to get the daily schedule sorted there isn't much of one, but I try to make it after lunch.

Southern Meet Plans

Hello all

Just a quick message to Bubb, to say how sorry I am to hear about your fall! You poor, poor thing! It must have given you a terrible fright! I'm sure Oscar will be fighting fit in a few days and you make sure you take it easy, very important. Accidents happen, don't beat yourself up about it. Make sure you give Oscar lots of sitting down cuddles, I'm sure he'll love being held by his Mummy again You'll get your confidence back in time.

evening all,

we're back home-woohoo!!!

it's been a long couple of days but really glad to be home-got home about lunch time.
we have to go back in 8 weeks for a check up but the doctors have all said that he should be fine with no lasting damage at all.
they had actually been measuring his head regulary to make sure it wasnt getting bigger,and just before we came home it had gone down by half a cm which was great and they measured his height and he's already grown 5 cms in 3 weeks.
also when we got home his out patient appointment for his feet had arrived so it's full steam ahead now.
lets just hope there's no more trips to the hospital for a while.

Wow, this thread is not what it used to be. Guess we are all kept busy these days.

Bubb, glad you're home.

Now all you souterners, make you way over to the meet thread!!