June 08: I see it, I want it, it's mine!

[spongebrainmaternitypants]

Welcome to our new thread .

Deb - we have flights booked to Malaga. Probably somewhere up in the mountains. There are so many villas available it is impossible choosing between them. Here are three possibilities:

option 1

option 2

option 3

Hi all - sorry haven't had time yet to catch up with all the messages, but ali, just had quick look at your links. I love that part of the world. I have been in frigliana but not to the other 2 places specifically. Frigliana is beautiful, little whitewashed village. Quite busy for tourists from the coast. Close to Nerja, which is a really nice town on the coast. Not tacky at all, and has a lovely atmosphere. There are such lovely places to visit around this area. When are you going?

Ali - out of the 3 I'd probably go for option 1 as it specifically mentions young children, the pool is fenced and there aren't so many open stairs as option 3. So #1 gets my vote for peace of mind and maybe a few minutes sitting relaxing together knowing P can wander safely!

Hi, quick post to mark my spot. Have been away all w/e so have managed to keep up with the posts briefly but not had time to post. Whoever asked about my eBay item - no it still hasn't turned up . I think I'll email the seller to find out when they say it was shipped.

Am shattered after the w/e and need to start writing ny assignment tonight so send me away if I'm on here too much!

Hello, absent weekend due to lovely weather, but we failed to go up Snowdon on the train. We also had minor drama with Iestyn, who woke up in the night on Friday and seemed to be in pain so we gave him calpol and suspected tummy ache or teeth. In the morning, he was in the cot playing and then started to cry, and I diagnosed 'pain'. But then he was fine, until he was playing, and suddenly started crying and pulling at his nappy. DH changed him, and his little willy was all swollen like a hammer. (That's Iestyn, I should stress, not DH! ) After a trip to the out of hours GP it turns out he has a fungal infection (??) but he's better now.

At work now and indexing. (Or rather [totally dull].)

Umm, did read everyone's posts, but now can't remember. Abdn thinking of you, also Poppy. Ktpie well done on the walking! We're still not there, but it's got a bit silly with Iestyn always needing to walk pushing things, and with no shoes - on slate chips (my house), the beach, pavements...so now he gets shoes for walking outside.
Ali well done on the trousers - and if they don't fit why not pass them on to someone with a smaller baby? Iestyn is just coming up to 9-12 month clothes now. (!!)

Deb, Abdn, I stopped bfing randomly 2 weeks ago. I'm much more well-balanced, emotionally since stopping if that makes sense. Weird. (Well, that's apart from the TT cup obsession, obv. )

Sponge was musing the whole Keir/spelling thing...and then realised that I've named my son Iestyn Seiriol, which nobody can spell and loads of people can't say! Duh! It's no big deal, though, and he's going to get told it's a 'special' thing.

Abdn, yeah it is mostly a boy thing, and even after surgery the problem returns for lots of babies . But E was fine. And Fraser is a big brave boy, he will be fine too! When is your next appt?

BDQ, I would definitely expect an item to turn up within a week so email the seller. Sometimes people just go away or can't get to the post office, and there has been a PO strike on in many areas so it may be that.

Essie, poor Iestyn, glad he is OK now. It's bad when you think their crying is nothing serious or just whinging and then it turns out it is something real .

T is still being a bit funny at bedtime, not settling well, although he went to bed at lunchtime today no problem, cos he was knackered. I think it might be his teeth, even though is not really crying, just sitting there muttering mostly and whingeing, but he is a bit off his food too and that normally means teething.

neenz oh don't tell me he might have to have surgery more than once. I don't think I can cope with that at the moment! We're just waiting now to hear about specialist appointments.

essie poor I! I hope he gets better quickly.

Ah he is young so no reason to think it won't be successful - it was for Esther. And neenz sounds like teething which really can make them very off colour.

Essie glad iestyn ok but lol re sh - and interesting re bf - I always attrbuted cheering up and jacking it in but thought it was cos of the issues (which reminds me need to be lanced again).

Edie over her fever but still but still not quite on her food so may be teeth here. Also late outbreak of climbing mania - better go get her off the toy garage again

Found this on style section- thread on unwelcome return of ski pants which made me laugh and wince 16809147

Hiya, just a quick one from me - you may have seen from FB that a big chunk of plaster from our hall ceiling fell in yesterday. I've spent most of today cleaning black dust off everything, and it's all still filthy. Argh. However, if it had happened an hour earlier, B would have been asleep underneath it in his pushchair. I can tell you I felt very sick when I saw a huge lump of plaster in the seat.

Anyway, after the car accident two weeks ago, and this, I'm now wondering what his third lucky escape will be.

Will try and catch up properly later.

Oh no, Whinegums, how horrid that B had such a close shave . They always seem to be just moments from a serious accident don't they. Try not to think about what could have been, I know it is the sort of thing I lie awake at night worrying about . Will it cost lots to fix? What's caused it?

Abdn. try not to worry too much about the surgery, it really is such a common op. Hernias happen so much that is why a lot of babies get them twice, it is not cos the first op didn;t go well, it is just a completely separate hernia . We didn't even need to stay overnight at the hospital and E was only 12wo (9wo adjusted). I can completely understand why you are worried but try to look at the positives, that it is very common and something the docs do every day - I bet they have never had a bad outcome from that op in your whole PCT Trust so no reason to think F won't do just as well.

I was also horrified to see ski pants for sale in a shop (Asda I think) last week. Horrid!!

I was also very happy to finish BFing. It freed up a lot of time for me!

Ski pants? Who can wear them?

Abdn it must be such a worry for you. I'm sure all will be well, and he won't even know a thing. But I really do feel for you.

Poppy yes, it's odd with the bfing, because I totally loved it. But I'm much less, don't know, blue? And I enjoy spending time with Iestyn much much more and feel like a better mother. So weird, and it just happens to coincide with stopping bfing. Maybe it is just a coincidence. But getting my body back is a big thing too, I think. Any psychologists on here, amateur or otherwise?
Also Poppy thought of you this morning as I squeezed out my little blocked duct in the shower... (Mine is absolutely minuscule, but it's not entirely painless so gawd knows what you've been going through.)

Bed now - Iestyn has a tooth coming through (I thought it was through but it's just pushing up the gum) so bad eating and waking and crying going on here...

Morning everyone,

Ali -when are you going on holiday? I liked the sound of the place where they had organic avocados and mangos!

BDQ - has your ebay item turned up yet? I find with ebay things either turn up really quickly or a bit slowly, could be the strike to blame rather than the seller.

Essie - fungal infection sounds horrible, poor Iestyn.

Neenz - how is T now? Any teeth appeared?

Abdn - lots of sympathy on the hernia, sounds incredibly stressful.

Poppy - I think ski pants are another fashion disaster I will avoid!

Whinegums - how awful about your ceiling. My Nan had a similar experience a couple of years ago, she was just making a cup of tea and her sitting room ceiling caved in, lucky she wasn't sat there at that moment.

I miss BFing, I haven't managed to read any books since I stopped!

After my attempt to cut J's hair on sunday in a mad moment yesterday I decided to try and even it up using DH's clippers on a #7. It was a revelation as J sat as good as gold and it felt a lot less dangerous than weilding the scissors, so will just use them in future. It did highlight that there is a patch of very short hair, suspiciously just where DH decided to have a go, will just have to wait for it to grow out

Ktpie - lol at the short patch of hair where your dh had cut it!

Poppy -= I too am thinking about you today as I have a sore boob from cutting down to 1 feed a day. How long does the consultant think your duct problem will last?

Abdn -= how are things with you today?

PP - any news from your Father - you've gone very quiet

Whinegums - sorry to hear about B's narrow escape, what bad timing though .

Ali - decided on a dress or a holiday yet?

Essie - fungal infection sounds horrid

I've just been out for coffee with my friend(mother of 6 whose husband died last year) and she's told me she's been out for a meal with a man, she's had her hair cut and is going to dance classes tonight!I am so happy for her, she seems to have turned the corner , she's also off to a seminar at the weekend so we're having the girls for the day on Saturday - when it will be my turn to be a mother of 6

Sorry, having trouble keeping up! My sister babysat all day Saturday, but for various reasons it ended up being a really emotional day. And nowdays I seem to need a couple of days to recover from that kind of thing.

Thanks for the prompt Debs. (And well done Nigel on the music, good on him for being so proactive as well). I got a reply of sorts from my father, he's "trying to write something that has a bit of form and shape and that makes sense! Just where in London are you?" I haven't replied because I'm not really at the address giving out stage. I don't know how to explain this, but I want him to respond to at least one of my questions before asking me more. I guess that this is bringing up anger that I didn't know was there. Because I know I'm being petty but I don't care IYKWIM.

AliP - Another vote for no. 1 here. Have you decided on a dress for the wedding yet? I liked your original choice!

BDQ - I get Psychologies magazine delivered monthly and thought that mine must have been stolen this month as the current issue has been in the shops for a week. I was quite p'd off (uh-oh, anger seems to be a theme for me, just call me the Hulk!). Of course it was just the postal strike! And this issue is a bit rubbish. Does having a subscription to psychologies magazine make me an amateur psychologist Essie? Actually, think I've read more therapy/psychology stuff than most psychologists this year. I'm sure therapists just recommend books their friends have written! Anyway, that was my long winded way of saying your ebay items are probably just stuck in the post!

Abdn - Sorry if I missed it, have you been given a date for the operation?

I miss BF-ing. But at the same time, it seems a slightly strange thing to do now. I gave up to enable me to try new Anti Depressants that I didn't actually need and didn't actually work though... However it was a big relief to get my body back, so what you're saying makes a lot of sense Essie.

Whinegums - That is awful about your ceiling. Had a similar thing in a rented flat when the bathroom ceiling fell down, so much rubble it filled the bath. Same as you with the "what ifs" running through my head. Thank goodness everyone is ok.

Neenz - I can see how no more BF-ing freed up lots of time for you!

Deb - Did you mention your friend last year? Delighted to hear that she is having some fun. Certainly sounds like she deserves it.

Essie - Poor I! Hammer willy?

Right, I know I've missed people and I'm sorry. Gotta stop with the epic posts!

Quick post to mark my place while DH does bedtime!

Emailed eBay seller today - she says the item was posted 2nd class last Monday and has proof of postage so fingers crossed it's the postal strike!

PP, sorry to hear about your emotional Saturday. Have you thought about meeting him at a neutral venue rather than give out the address. I have no idea how complicated things might have been between him and your mum but maybe he's struggling to find the words to put things in writing?

Whinegums, that's awful re the ceiling. Lucky escape for you. Near misses are horrible, I've literally just heard a report on the radio about a 3 car pile up on one of our normal routes home. We took the other route tonight.

Oh there's a lot of screaming upstairs I'd better go!

Parents here till tomorrow, so not much time to post.

Based on your advice, I have booked villa 1. Thanks for picking one Deb and Ktpie it stopped the endless procrastination. We have a spare room if anyone is in Spain next week

Still not decided on a dress. I was going to nip out today, but it has been hammering down, so not the time to schlep along the high street.

PP sorry that it is all so hard. Give yourself time to adjust if you know what I mean.

Ktpie LOL at the clippers. My Mum took the clippers to my Dad's head when they were doing a ski season a few years ago, not realising that they come with attachments. As a result my Dad goes from being a rather genteel looking balding man, to a complete skin head. It was quite something.

Yesterday P had no BFs, and I thought that might be it. Then he woke up at hideous o'clock this morning, my boobs were feeling a bit odd anyway, and so he had a massive feed as it was the path of least resistance. Back to square one. I think he will stop without too many dramas as long as I am happy to take him downstairs at 5.30am.

Just incinerated some bruchetta, so better go and concentrate on dinner.

PP - sorry to hear about your emotional weekend. You are bound to feel some anger towards your Father as he wasn't part of your life.It's not going to be easy is it? ((hugs))

BDQ - It's very hard no to think about the "what ifs", glad you took the other route home today though!

deb a mother of six! If you have your three there you'll have a brood of nine - can you imagine? glad your friend is doing well though, it must be very hard.

ktpie I agree completely on the reading when BFing...

whinegums very glad B is okay! Hope you're okay too...

We're doing better this week than a few days ago, DH is away again so more work and upheaval but that is honestly distracting. We still have to wait for an appointment with the surgeon before we can think about surgery - it will probably be around two months from now unless things are quiet. I've known something was wrong for ages so in some ways this is a relief....

x-posted... Is anyone else still BFing? I'm keeping going until after the surgery but I'm starting to feel a bit like he's too old. I think I need company to remind me he's still only wee.

Is everything coming up bold for everyone else? Weird!

Deb - I initially read that as "when will it be my turn to be a mother of 6" and thought you must be getting broody!

PP - the contact with your father must be a very tough and emotional thing to be going through. It can be hard to communicate emotions through email and it is easy to read meanings into things that weren't intended, if you see what I mean, making my point by failing to make sense!

BDQ - hopefully your things will turn up soon, a couple of months ago I had about 4 things I'd bought from ebay which failed to turn up, emailed sellers and they should have got to me by then, in the end I went to the sorting office (had to do some detective work to find out where it was as we'd only just moved here) on the off chance and they had them, just hadn't bothered to put a card through. Have since found that my postie has the habit of either not bothering trying my door and just leaving things with the neighbour (and not leaving a card or anything) or leaving things in the wheelie bin and scribbling a note on some junk mail.

Ali - my Dad made the same mistake with some clippers once, he had to wear a hat for a couple of weeks!

Abdn - No BFing here anymore. Glad you are keeping busy.

Bold font here too, I quite like it.

BDQ - Bizarrely the emotional Saturday was more to do with my sister than my Father. She's very upset at me moving to NZ and is having serious issues of her own re: having a child or not as well. I am so not ready to meet up with my Father yet although I understand what you're saying. He is trying to write down thirty years of stuff as well as his side of the break up!!! As Debs said, this isn't going to be easy is it? I need Cilla top do a surprise, surprise for me (remember that) and get it all over and done with.

Ali - LOL at the image of your Dad being a hardcore skinhead. If he was ski-ing, at least he could wear a hat.

KTPie & Abdn - You are so right on the reading whilst BF-ing, but I also used to indulge in guilt free trash tv, no excuses now (she says with Ugly Betty on in the background).

x posted with you Ali - glad I helped you make the decision, hope it's a great holiday.If Ethan woke at 5.30 I'd be bringing him into bed for a feed too.

Abdn - I m still bfeeding at the moment and certainly if Ethan was having surgery in 2 months time I would continue.

Ktpie - lol at thinking I wanted to be a mother of 6 - I don't think so!!!

PP - sorry to hear about your problems with your sister, we went through similar things when moving here.

LOL at the idea of Cilla popping out PP but for you and your sister. It must be so hard for families split by acres of land and sea. At least the wonderweb makes it easier for people to keep in touch these days (although I appreciate it's no substition for the real thing). I have a cousin who recently moved to Oz and I'm in touch with her all the time now. Barely saw/spoke to her when she lived 5 mins from my p's

Completely understand that you're not yet ready to meet your father. It's a long road I guess.

Ooh, is ugly betty on tonight? Have I missed it?

Bold font here too, I find it a bit shouty!

Essie I meant to ask before - how do you pronounce I's full name? Am just being a bit nosy really and wonder if it sounds how I 'hear' it when I read it IYSIM

sorry, my last post reads as a very casual ho hum it'll take a while PP straight now lets move on to ugly betty! That's not how it was in my head obvioiusly.