May 2009 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies

[Momino]

this too shall pass!

welcome home tummum sounds like a great holiday and resolutions too

well things go from bad to worse here... this time not my dad but their cat. He had blood coming out from somewhere and mum took him off to the swimming vet. turns out he had a huge absess in his rectum as his poo was coming out of a hole that wasn't the right one. He is 17yrs old and would need surgery to fix it.. but due to other health probs the vet didn't think he'd survive the general.. so recommended he be put down as he seemed to be a lot of pain

my mum is now distraught :-(

we really need some good news for a change..

fiK. What crapitty news.

oh no fi

Oh fi What sad news . 17 years has been a good life though, hasn't it. But of course that doesn't make the news any less upsetting.

Hi Tummum Welcome back. Your good resolution 1&2 were exactly the same as mine when I came back. I'm doing OK with the less internet, but still haven't joined weight watchers Amazed at your G, btw. Nearly crawling. That's early! So clever of him!

Momi How are the chickenpox today?

Well, off to watch Ghost Town with DH and a big bag of microwave pop corn. Night night everyone.

stupid predictive text.. where did the swimming come from?!
mum is a bit more settled.. gave her a large glass of wine when she got in. At least she got to say goodbye and have a last cuddle.

Ses, lovely pics of Owen's baptism, the gown is beautiful, he looks adorable in it.

Fi, very sad about the cat. your poor mum, hope the glass of wine helped.

tummum, glad you had a good holiday. amazed too at your G crawling! and good on you for calling Business Link, I'm impressed at your energy and motivation. Wish I had the same.

Belgian, we saw ghost Town recently. I really liked it but still cried.

Chicken Pox House has calmed down a bit. The girls are better today and the spots aren't as swollen/angry. dd1 even took a bath which I hope will help ease the itching. They're also in better spirits and played more today than watched telly. I'm so glad the worst is over!

Now to bed. Night night.

Oh fi I am sorry. What a run of bad luck. I'll certainly be praying for a change of fortune your way.

Tummum welcome back, and well done G!

Looby glad you enjoyed the swimming.

ses I hope you enjoyed the service.

Poor old G is teething and is suffering, bless him. He has been chewing away on my finger and finally found his feet today. He is desperately trying to roll over and sit up, I can see him straining!

We're not long back from IKEA where I had to resist the urge not to come back with half the shop. We saw a fab wooden mini kitchen for children. £84 so not cheap but probably the best I've seen. I think we may buy it for DS's birthday.

yay at g rolling etc but boo at teething llareggub we've been wondering if grace is starting to teeth too as she sticks her fingers/hands so far into her mouth she makes herself gag.

glad the cp is over the worst now momino and that the dd's are feeling a bit brighter

Aha, G is also chewing on his fist / fingers / thumb / his blanket / my fingers but I didn't twig it could be teething. (I've done this before, honest!). Better go rescue him, he's up against the patio doors now

I'm off to buy a bumbo today with the £30 mothercare vouchers from G's CTF. I'm quite excited by it. I think I need to get out more !

Monimo so glad the worst of the CP is over. It sounds like you have had a nightmare, but at least they have had it now.

Ses glad the christening went OK. You have reminded me to get G's dedication sorted.

FiK hoping some good news comes your way very very soon.

Off to rescue G again... he's under the coffee table now !

Tummum. How mobile is G??!! I can't believe how much he seems to be moving around. Luckily C is still staying put. The longer the better as far as I'm concerned

teething C has been dribbling a lot the last month and it's getting worse. She doesn't chew that much though, although she does have her periods. Neither of my dcs seemed to have suffered that much with teething, so I think C is probably going their way.

Fi Hope your day is better today.

I've also been reminded to get in touch with the canon for C's babtism, but got to hang on at least a week now, because it's a bit unsure at the moment where we'll live next month and where the dcs will start school in September. This weekend we drove through the village we want to move to and there was a new house up for rent. It's free from mid-sept and right across from the school where we want the dcs to go. The rent is very reasonable for the area too, so we got in touch with the estate agents as soon as we got home. It's perfect for us as a first base in the area so the dcs can start school and we can start looking for a house to buy. Oh I hope we get it, but if we do we'll have a busy end of the month!

tummum is g rolling to get where he wants to go too? ds did that and it was amazing the speed and distance he could travel! in a way I'm relieved that grace is not mobile yet or I'd have the worry of her getting trampled by rampaging toddler.

belgian exciting about the possible move.. you've reminded me it's not long till sept eek! ds starts pre school 5am's a week from the 6th.

OMG, eek, and any other appropriate emoticon. we've got the house. Help, where do I start? When do I start? How do I start? This time next month we'll be living in another part of the country. I just can't believe it. Oh help

I meant start with the packing of course

Sorry to just barge in with a vent, but I think it may help to just get it off my chest. J by the way is tons better, still on his meds. Thanks for all your messages on FB, it was very kind of you, it was very heartbreaking seeing him on that hospital bed having loads of tests done...

back to my vent...My auntie and Uncle were coming down to visit this weekend from down south, and we dont very often get to see them, they've got a daughter abit older than me, and she's got a daughter my DD's age, so they like playing together. This time, it had fallen on a weekend that we were visiting my DP's father down south, however, we said not to worry so much, as we would be back early evening Sunday, and I was going to be in allday Monday with the children. They know that we don't have alot of money to go taking them out somewhere for dinner, but my DP had mentioned maybe taking them to the carvery down the road, depending on how I was, obviously only just having my gall bladder removed. So anyway, we got back Sunday, and put the children to bed quite late about 10pm, they had a very busy weekend! My DD had been getting up at 5am with her grandad, and not going to bed until very late, so I knew that Monday night she was going to need to have an early night.
We got up on Monday morning, and she was excited about seeing her little cousin, and got toys and everything ready for her, she tidied her playroom, all by herself, and then helped me to clean the house. I texted my Auntie to find out what was happening, and she sent back a message saying, that my mom had told them to wait around till she finished work at 2 because she had arranged things. Now bearing in mind the fact that they had to be out of their hotel room at 10am, my mom didn't finish work until 2pm, and their is absolutely bugger all to do in the town that my mom lives in, it has like 5 shops! I live 10 miles away...so...it turns out that my mom wants them to do to this little farm about 10 miles past my house, thats like free to get into, but thats not the point, so when my DD finds out shes not very happy at all, because she feels she's missing out again, I don't drive, so can't get there, and can't afford taxi...so I then phones my Mom, and I didn't want to get into an argument at that moment in time, and her signal was rubbish, all she said was. Were all going to go to the carvery afterwards. I tried to say that my DP had said to my Auntie we'd only mentioned the carvery as a possibility, and that now we probably wouldb't be going, as I really wanted to try and get DD to bed before 8pm tonight, so then she said, well i'll get them to drop in to see you before we go to dinner then, but we'll see what DP says first!! Obviously, she was thinking that my DP was going to say that we'd still go and have carvery....now, my DP had gone to work that morning thinking that my auntie+co were coming round to spend the day with with me and my children and then we were going to sort out dinner tonight, so I didn't know, that on his lunch hour at work, he'd gone out and bought all fresh ingrediants to make fresh paella from scratch and nice wine (he's a chef lol) my uncle is spanish, he thought it would be nice...I knew nothing about this. So me and DD are siting at home waiting for them to come round and visit, DP phones me and says I had a text from your Mom saying they've gone straight to the carvery, they thought it was best, if you want to meet us there... So I'm fuming and crying, so is DD. She can't understand why she's been waiting since 9am to see her cousin, got toys and everything ready, and never got to see her in the end. I'm just so P.O. She tells me that she's going to get them to drop in and visit us, and then doesn't even bother to inform me that they've just gone straight to the carvery, so were sitting there waiting...

I'm sorry that's so long, I haven't got anyone else to talk to, I have to get it off my chest, I don't know what to do. I've sent a couple of texts to my Auntie, and she's sincerely apolagised, but she's basically said that she did as she was told like....I haven't spoken to my mom, I'm sad that my DD has missed out on seeing her cousin, they havern't seen our new edition, I'm so extremely frustrated.

Jael - vent away!! Sounds like your mum's been a bit thoughtless all round! Your poor DD Sounds like she got all excited and I can imagine it was v difficult to explain to her what happened.

Jael Families can be so frustrating. I'm sorry your day was ruined. I'm glad you have had your operation and DS is better now.

Belgian Wow exciting!! Moving is so stressful, especially when juggling DCs, so I hope you are ok. At least its a chance to chuck, recycle and declutter!!

I have lost my wallet, only just realised but I remember having it at Lidl carpark yesterday when I went to take DS out of the sling and putting him in the car. I think I either put it on the roof of the car or dropped it. I love the wallet too and it has my drivers licence, NHS excemption, more than 20 quid, tickets for leeds castle that are valid for a year and other useful stuff. Luckily my debit and credit cards are at home in an attempt not to use them and therefore save money. I also broke the handle on the tap of the water butt in the garden today and wasted most of the water while trying to turn the tap off.

Oh well it can only get better.

Jael you've been given the right run around, and given recent events with your health, IMO your Mum and Aunty should have been planning things around you. No wonder you feel PO Hope you are able to talk to your Mum about it to clear it up as I think it's important to sort it out as you are obviously (and understandably) upset.

FiK G is rolling and tummy shuffling around the room. It's a nightmare as the DDs have loads of toys with small bits, so need to be vigilant (and tidy )

Belgian woo-hoo. So glad you got the house... sounds like it was meant to be. Good luck with the packing

Got G the Bumbo today (Mothercare have £10 off) and got DD1 school shoes, so feeling like an organised Mummy today. Apart from shouting/screaming at the DC, obviously

Hi all, just been catching up on the last few days over lunch.

emmabemma I had a quick read of your thread. So to hear you are going through this. I hope your DH sorts his head out and things get back on track for you.

Momino hope the LOs CP is getting better

Ses sounds like you had a lovely time on Sunday

Belgian congrats on getting the house - how exciting! Will you look for a MW job 'dahn sahrf'?

Jael I'd have been fuming! Very thoughtless of your mum, sounds like there was a breakdown of communication.

Fi so to hear about your Dad, and your parents' cat. Our cat died over Christmas, we were with her at the end, and we still miss her, even though H has arrived since. 17 yrs is a good innings but it doesn't make it any less painful.

Tummum and Llareggub very impressed at your LOs progress!

Right, can any of you talk me out of silly fretting? Had H weighed today, first time in over a month, and he has slipped from the 50th to 25th centile for weight, and to the 9th for height. He's 13lb 1oz and 59cm. And when I looked at it, because of the rounding down they do (he's 19+6, so they say 19w, then take off 5w for being early when it should be 4.5, so he is marked as 14w when he should be 15.5w) he should actually be below those lines. I'm still bf-ing on demand, but H just doesn't seem interested in feeding any more, though sometimes I'm sure he is hungry but won't come near the boob. He seems well in other respects - bright and perky, weeing and pooing, so I guess I shouldn't worry, he's just growing at his own pace, right ?

The HV didn't seem bothered (they are very pro-bf here so wouldn't suggest formula unless absolutely necessary) but said she would be concerned if he slipped further.

Fi meant to add, hope your Dad continues to recover well

Spangle this probably won't help but I don't fret about DS's weight because I have no idea what it is. Don't know what centile he is, what he was, or anything. I look at him and see a healthy, perky, bright eyed little boy who has lots of poos and wees. My HV told me to look at those things, and for him outgrowing his babygros, and not to worry about weight. So I haven't! In fairness she did suggest getting him weighed once a month or so, I just haven't got round to it. They do get better at feeding as they get older, so I wonder if your DS is just more efficient at feeding now and can go longer between feeds?

Jael lots of hugs your way and to your poor DD. It is horrible when your children get let down isn't it?

febes lots of sympathy your way. I'm always losing my purse so never carry anything in it these days.

Belgian packing...don't envy you but v exciting!

I've been into work with DS2 today. I don't miss it at all but it was nice to see people.

spangle- try not to fret (easier said than done). I remember my DD and DS1 got more interested in the world around them rather than feeding at H's age. You could try BF him in a quiet room when possible but basically they eat when they are hungry! My DD started on 75th centile and dropped away to 25th by around 8mo and is pretty average now. My DS2 is 14w and 13lb 15.5oz today and started at 75th and dropped down and is now following the 50 line. My HV is happy with that, so that's probably why yours isnt concerned unless he keeps moving down.

Spangle, me too: Harper started out on 75th and is a little below the 25th. but, like you noticed with H, Harper is bright, healthy, reaching milestones etc so I'm not worried.

Jael, very, very bad communication from your family. I agree with tummum that they should have planned around you. Hope your feeling better/cheerier soon

Febes, thank goodness nothing too valuable about your wallet and hope your day is better without niggly things going wrong.

Belgian, that's exciting news about the house .

Fi, hope things are better for you, your parents today.

everyone else, big hello!

jael you've every right to be PO.. I'd have been the same.

febes pants about your wallet with all your tickets etc.. but lucky your cards were at home.

spangle I'm sure you shouldn't worry.. esp as in every other way he's healthy.. is your red book one with bf charts or the old ones?

llareggub I keep meaning to take g to get weighed but something always happens meaning we can't do the clinic session that week.. but like you as long as she's growing out of clothes and is happy/healthy I'm not worried either.

Thanks for talking sense into me girls and reassuring me it's not uncommon to slip down the chart. It makes sense really as I can tell the main reason he's not feeding so much is because H's too interested in the world around him. He feeds very effectively at night I've also wondered if he's teething a little as he's had a few days of drooling and biting down hard on my finger; HV seemed to think this behaviour developmental though and just associated with teething because it tends to happen at the same time. I'd like to think so - I'm in no rush for him to get teeth!

Fi the old chart. I downloaded one of the bf ones but haven't looked at it yet.