May 2009 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies

[Momino]

this too shall pass!

well g feeding but she woke up! got a belter of a smile though which was fantastic and made me feel a bit better

dh off to hospital with dad's bag, g asleep, OMG I need chocolate.. but due to healthy eating I haven't bought any and can't quite bring myself to eat the only bit in the flat.. ds's last kinder egg. so having a glass of milk and heading to bed instead. night night xoxox

Fi, hope your dad is ok. thinking about you xx

morning will hopefully find out more this am about dad's condition..

thanks momino how was your night?

Hi everyone. I am sorry I have gone AWOL the last few weeks. Have been having a really hard time. Have been reading when I can and hope everyone is doing well.

Sorry to come back out of the blue and ask for help but please...will someone read my post and give me any sort of adivce? I am desperate...thank you

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/808356-What-would-you-do-Advice-please-Long

fikelly Hope you get some good news today.

emmabemma So sorry you're going through this. Looks like you're getting some good advice from people on that thread. I'm very bad at this sort of thing.

emmab things a bit manic here.. have read some of your thread and will have a think of anything I can add.. really glad you've got some good advice already and sorry to hear about what's happening.

momino how are dd's today? dd1 temp any better?

dh off to hospital atm to see my dad. grace feeding like there's no tomorrow prob as she's still full of snot. my next door neighbour was taken into hospital thursday with what turns out to be bacterial pneumonia.. his sf results due back today and he's also being tested for tb. bit concerning as we (me, grace & finn) went to his 3yr old sons birthday party on wed.. luckily not held at their home but at local animal park..

Hi all.

fi, hope your dad is better today, do keep us updated. Scary about your neighbour.

emmabsmom, i was wondering how you've been doing and so sad to read your thread. I'm glad you're getting good advice from different points of view. do try to go with your gut feeling as one post said. i really hope he shapes up but please think of yourself and dd's 1st. i hope you're pnd is lessening as well. sending you big hugs.

had a good night out last night. it was a friend's bday and sh had 6 bottles of cava to share with about 12 of us. i seemed to have a bottomless glass which was lovely at the time but made me a bit sleepless so couldn't get back to sleep after Harper woke me.

DD's woke in the night as well and DH had to sleep next to dd1's bed. so the lot of us had a pretty broken night. dd1's temp is up and down - it was 38.2 earlier. on the upside, DH was able to bribe her to apply some calamine cream. she's got CP really badly and is asleep on my other arm, bless. dd2 has lots more spots today but still very energetic and cheerful as well as mischievous. we have to stop her from laying on top of Harper (sure to get CP) and from hitting dd1 - dd2 is approaching terr 2's.

looking forward to a relaxing eve with dh and dvd.

how is everyone?

Hi Momino- glad you enjoyed your evening off even if your night wasn't so great.

Emmabemmasmom- I had been thinking of you too, and wondering how you were re. PND, but was sad to hear you have been having a difficult time with your DH. I know if it was me, I would want to do everything to try and make my marriage work before giving up on it, but if it was making me sad, or i couldn't live with the uncertainty, then I would have to call it a day after a while.

I am feeling so much more positive today. Yesterday DS2 had some really nice BF which reminded me of how lovely it can be (usually there is screaming, wind, fighting on and off the boob etc). Then we all went out for tea at Caffe Uno and all 3 DCs were very well behaved - it was good to know we can do things like that as a family and not get stressed

Pula, your afternoon yesterday sounds lovely

momino all that cava between you I'd have been very merry.. cheap date that I am now! good laugh though.

fingers crossed tonight is better for all of you and good news that dd1 is using the calamine cream now.

pula I love days like those too.

fi hope your dad is on the mend
ebsmom have read your post and really feel for you, it can be hard enough looking after a young baby without any additional stress- glad others have been able to offer you some advice and don't forget that you can come and offload here

I have sore boobs today, from under my arms down the sides- it happens a fair bit, anyone know why?

Hope you are all having good evenings...
Am drinking a yummy glass of red wine and watching big brother

Thank you everyone so much for what you have said. I feel aweful for not being around for so long and then only poping up to complain about my life. It does mean a lot to me, strangly enough, to have the support from people I have not even met.

I am currently at FIL house with DD2 as I couldn't leave her due to BF. I left DH with DD1 so maybe hoping that some space will do him good. I am crying and just want to be home though.

Thank you all again. Hope I have good news soon. X

Fi How's your Dad?
Looby and Dandy Please don't go, not over someone else's drama raking.

Argh I can't remember who it is with CP in the house, breastmilk should pass your antibodies over the milk but it's not a 100% guarantee that she won't get it. I hope your LOs are okay.

Bumbos I have one but rarely if ever use it. Greer doesn't really like being left to her own devices, she's too used to being held and carried

Reggiee What's the treatment plan for a prolapse?

I have read 7 pages back today and I know I've missed loads, I'm sorry! I'm just reaaaally struggling with time just now, I'm not even managing to update my blog much at all. Hope you're all well x

Sophietom do you have any redness or lumps? Could you be straining muscles holding your little beefcake and slouching your shoulders? Any fever? How long has it lasted in the past? How many times have you had it and how frequently do you get it? Ve haff vays off making you talk!

ebsmom - thinking of you

FiKelly - hope your dad's on the mend

O's baptism tomorrow! Quite excited
we've got a houseful now but all going ok. We went out and got fish&chips for tea.

emmabsmom, thinking of you as well. really, really hope things look up soon.

ses, have a wonderful celebration for O tomorrow. can't wait to see photos!

Ses- hope you have a lovely day for O tomorrow. (We had fish and chips tonight too!)

Fi- hope your dad is ok,

Must go to bed as DS2 wakes for his first night feed any time between 12 and 2.30 lately, so i should try and get some shut-eye beforehand. Last night it was 1am, 3.30am and 6am (yawn) but I'm not sure he was hungry at 3.30 - so the most continuous sleep i got was 2 hours. At least the previous night it was 12 and 5 so a nice long sleep in between. Night night all.

morning all.
pula, I hope you got some sleep last night.

Harper has gone backwards in sleeping through the night. age 0-3 months she was doing 9-11 hours (I was very lucky). however, after at least 2 weeks of waking at 2/3 and again at 5/6 each night/morning, it's official that she doesn't sleep through.

there's nothing we can do is there? do we just let them settle into their 'own thing'? when she wakes at 2, it's always an insistent/persistent cry so i bring her into bed for a short feed. at the 5/6 feed it starts fussy so i leave her but she ends up crying for a feed.

anyway, best be going. I'm in the kitchen getting the milks and coffee to take up to the family who's now crammed into our bed waiting for drinks and books.

hope everyone has a good day.

momino Sorry to hear about your lack of sleep. R too has regressed and is waking many times in the night.

Ses Good luck today. We are having R's Baptism in a fortnight. We were going to have a BBQ but there will be too many people coming, and can't imagine what to do if it's rainy! Hope the weather stays good for you.

emmab how are you doing after the night at fil's? I've read through all your thread now and a lot of it rings alarm bells of my ex's behavior before he suddenly up and left.. I was the typical last to know.
when I married again.. to my now dh I was given a book by this author and it was a v interesting read. it may help you understand each other ?

hope it was a better sleep night for everyone.. g had me up at 4am for a feed the 1st time in weeks..

dad was bit brighter last night and they don't think it's sf no major doc assessments over the w end unless he deteriorates so will be mon before we know much more. still waiting to find out about our neighbours results.

enjoy the christening today ses and hope the weather holds.

momino how r the cp today?

Hi everyone. I am doing ok today. He text me last night and said good night. hopes I sleep well and that DD1 went down well. I text back and said good night, hope he does too and that DD2 settled well too. I have not heard from him today but I want to go home.

Fi Funny enough I have read that book! I read it before we even got married. As usual however, it's the women who read things and try to understand. I spoke about that book to DH years ago and I think he just grunted.

Interesting thing is. FIL went to talk to DH last night. He said he thinks everything will be fine. But he did say that he will leave me one day and it will be when FIL dies. Apparantly his dad told him the same thing and low and behold his wife left him months after.

emmab glad your fil went round to speak to your dh last night but not v reassuring with his comments about when he dies though. a couple of friends went through something similar to your current situation and did relate while they lived apart for a while (before their ds though) they got back together and their ds is now 5. at the time her dh said he loved her but didn't know if he was in love with her iyswim. it took a few months of relate and dating for them to both realise they still wanted each other..