May 2009 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies

[Momino]

this too shall pass!

I've got to take DS1 to his athletics club then I'll take the other DCs for a powerwalk around the local park. I've decided that talking about dieting isn't the same as actually doing it so I've been back on the wagon since Sunday. A wee hour of walking should help tone up my muscles.

My problem is actually my back and stomach. I suspect my backache is because my stomach muscles are shot to shit and I'm not too sure what to do about that.

G has been a little angel last night after being a holy terror all day yesterday. I actually could not put her down all day, then she went down to sleep around 7, dreamfed at 10 and slept until 6. I bet she's a wee terror again today though.

Looby I'm so sorry your DH is being arsey about the sex thing. I've only just found my sex drive, it's been MIA since I got pregnant with G but if my hubby dared to complain about it I'd have made him sleep on the sofa!

Llare Congratulations!

LaVache Congratulations to you too!

Sorry for everything/everyone I've missed out again. I am not so good at this keeping up malarkey!

Morning- R has been much better at sleeping this week. I haven't had 12 hours again but he's only been waking once in the night. 5am last night, 2am the night before. I have started CC this week to get him off to sleep at bedtime. I put him to bed at about 6.30pm and then do stories with DD and put her to bed. He normally falls asleep after 20mins or so. I feel a bit mean compared to some of you who are letting your LOs find their own routine but its what I did with DD as I needed her in good routines because I went back to work when she was 18 week. I also like that on the odd occasion we go out that I can predict the time that we can have DCs asleep and get out the door.

We are going to a teddy bears picnic today. I am unreasonably excited .

morning all..

well the communication with DH has now got worse I just get the odd grunt. "Are you coming to bed?" "grunt" "Soon?" "grunt" then he stayed up drinking tilI fell asleep and went and slept in the spare room he even drank the bottle of white that I'd had a glass out of on sunday night!

he still speaks to M tho

he got ready for work and went out the door without saying a word to me - just evil looks

horrible grey sky here too. must get ready and go off to BF group. had to give M a bottle of formula earlier as she just screamed at me when I tried to BF (bad mummy)

short of dressing up in a basque and stockings I don't think anything I do will help with DH now
and to be honest that is absolutely the last thing on my mind!

sorry me me me - I must try and sit DH down to talk again

right off to BF group!

looby Your DH is being completely unreasonable. Does he really think that you'd want to have sex with him when he just grunts and moans at you? Not to mention the drinking. Unfortunately I can't come up with any better advise than having another chat with him.
You're not a bad mummy BTW. You sound like you're a wonderful mummy to M. You're doing so well with BF too, persevering with it for 3 month so far while you're not having it easy. I think you're brilliant

I've got nothing planned really for today. I've got my nieces until 2.30, so I had planned to go to the park or something, but I got up to rain, so I've scrapped that plan for now. I think I'll just let them all have a play together indoors today and have a look online to see what's on for tomorrow. Maybe I'll take them to the cinema or ThinkTank (llare's recommendation from our meetup )

Right got to peel myself away from MN now and do something useful like hang up the wet laundry, list some stuff on eBay or get that bumbo down from the loft

looby, big hugs to you. I hope you're ok, just a little worried about you . your DH is being a huge arse. Glad to hear he's speaking to M. and I repeat: you are not a bad mummy. you're just feeling unnecessarily guilty. you've got a lot to deal with as well as a new baby and you're doing a great job .

cross posted with belgian .

have just come back from nursery run where my ultra-sensitive 3.5 year old cried when i left her (hasn't done that for a few months ). luckily dd2 who's nearly 2 went in without looking back. two extremes.

Harper and I are going to the Big Scream regardless of what is showing. film tbc.

York meetup - if we want to do a Big scream, do you want to do 26/3, 2/9 or 9/9? Otherwise, we can choose another day. I'll put in a FB message on our group sometime today.

Have a good day all.

looby- sorry to hear your DH is being so petty and stupid at the moment with the silent treatment. My DH is desperate for some action, as he hasn't had any for 3 months, but is being more understanding about it.

If he does have a problem with drinking Looby then the sooner you accept that you can't do anything to change it, the easier you will find it to deal with him. If he is an alcoholic then it is an illness. He has to drink. He'll only find the strength to stop when he admits that he has a problem. Ultimately you need to decide how much time you are going to give him.

Belgian ds2 also likes sitting upright or jumping up and down on my knee. We'll get the bumbo out of the loft when I can get dh to go up there again. I got a door bouncer of ebay for 99p the other day. Its great for short periods.

Looby sorry to hear your dh is being a pain. We had a sex related fall out at the weekend, I think it's what happens when men start thinking with their 'small brain'!! We've talked about low libido etc but sometime I think you just have to do the deed

Pula my ds1 sounds like your ds2. He didn't sleep for decent periods until we had him in a proper bed at 18months. Ds2 is a dream in comparison! We just couldn't get the ds's to sleep last night and ds1 just wouldn't stop talking. A drive to get petrol sent ds2 to sleep, but ds1 ended up sleeping with us last night after he finally conked out at 9.30pm We've got friends coming on Friday so I am trying to tidy the house, but so far haven't done much! Now ds1 is still tired and grumpy this am - think it's going to be a long day. Although we are going to a farm with my db this avo. Hope the weather holds

Have to go ds1 is after my attention...

looby, I agree with the others, your DH is completely out of order. There is no way mine would dare to have a go about not getting any - although he has let me know that he's ready when I am. As belgian said, sex starts emotionally / mentally - if your DH is being a knob then that will do nothing but upset you and turn you off.

Also, looby, I think you're a great mum - the way you have been so passionate about and determined to BF is a good example.

york meet - 2nd sept would be brilliant for me. will check FB later.

MIL coming today so lunch out by the river in York somewhere (might see you, Momino)

Must clean the house but F having a hungry morning hence am one handed on here.

DH's work have just announced redundancies - not sure which roles are at risk or what the selection process is yet. Fingers crossed it'll be ok. we work for the same company (large utilities company) and some of my business area may also be affected... my boss is calling me with an update this morning although as we have had 2 restructures in the last year I'm fairly confident my teams won't be directly involved.

Hi Momi

reebee Hope your DH's job is safe. Must be a very anxious time for you.

daizy I got my old door bouncer out too. Haven't tried C in it yet as I can only use it upstairs at the mo as the door frames downstairs are only half finished and I don't want her tumbling down!

looby Hope you've had a good time at the BF group.

Still haven't managed to peel myself away from computer yet.

Ended up spending instead of listing on eBay. Got myself a mei tai to try out.

oooo belgian let us know how you get on with the mei tai - I was going to have a go at making one, I'm finding our babasling is giving me backache now J is getting bigger (although I haven't tried all the positions yet)

looby sorry the situation with DH is getting you down

J is passed out (milk drunk) in my lap- he survived his jabs yesterday. Got him weighed in clinic aswell and he weed in the scales

DP bought me the best present ever- a spork (its a hybrid knife/fork/spoon) the perfect accessory for the bfing mother- J always wants a feed when he can smell my dinner!!!

Hi all
just a quick one for me as one handed on phone. Hope all ok

reebee - good wishes re you dh job

soph - spork? I need one!

Belgian - is that another sling for your collection?

Quick wave at everyone else. Must put A down and do some packing x

Sorry didn't want to miss you Loobs, everyone else has said what I would have, you are most def not a rubbish mum and dh is most def v out of order. Big hug x

hi

back from BF group, they're a great bunch

M fed there for a good 45mins

just fed again and fallen asleep on me so I too am one handed typing - too scared to move her

thanks everyone for the support about DH, I think he's always had a higher sex drive than me - altho I did used to enjoy sex

sophietom no fair - I want a spork!

supposed to be meeting a friend later for a drink at the local with M but don't really feel like going she doesn't really like children much and drinks quite heavily

Typing one-handed with a sleeping little boy

sleep - thanks for all your comments. I don't feel so "behind" now and think we'll just go with the flow for the moment.

Looby - the others have said it all really. Sending you a sneaky hug (if you do hugs) and a chunk of chocolate cake

Reebee - hope you and DH don't get affected by the redundancies

Belgian - you sling addict you

sophietom - I have a Babasling too that I need to try some different positions with DS. Let me know if you come up with anything easy!

Momino - O and I are hoping to do a trip up north to see our mutual friends in Sept. Will let you know when and hopefully we can arrange to meet up!

We are having O baptised on Sunday. Am quite excited
However, it means my PIL arrive this evening until 21st They are pretty chilled but not easy for most people to have your inlaws stay that long with a PFB!!
Then on Sat we have 2 SILs and a nephew coming to stay til Monday too!
Don't think I mentioned the dilemma we have in that both my mum and MIL have found family christening gowns. Will have to work out something!

God I'm thick, the name-change was for Reebee not Jennster. Still catching up on, back soon!!!

just found out I have a job interview on the 25th- arrgh how do you prepare for a job interview whilst looking after a 9 week old baby? [hmm}

Sophietom Congrats on the job interview. Just do the best you can do. You'll be fine

Ses good luck with your PIL staying over. I'm sure it'll be fine. Not sure what to do about the christening gown dilemma. Could you put them together and make a new one

slings It's sort of an addition to my collection, but my collection is not getting bigger because I've listed the calin blue on eBay. Now I've got a didymos I find I don't use the calin bleu anymore because it's not as supportive. C's not liking slings anymore though. Lately when I put her in she screams. I've been wondering whether it's because she doesn't want to sleep/feels a bit too confined/wants to see more? I've tried different wraps and it made only a tiny bit of difference. So I'm trying a totally different kind of sling now. I'd love to carry C more, but if she screams every time I put her in, then it's not enjoyable anymore and it also sort of defeats the point too.

looby I'm sending you a virtual fairy cake that my dcs and I have made together today. You deserve one

Oh and lavache Love the name change

OK so I've caught up but I'm calling amnesty as there has been way too much going on. There are a few exceptions to the amnesty though:

Jael Hellloooooo! So glad you're feeling better

Llare Woop woop woooooo about the business - DH's business has been going less than 2 years, he started it with less than £2k and it's now worth a minimum of £250k, we'll probably sell it soon and he'll start the same thing in France - well done to your DH for getting the premises sorted.

Loobs Don't you even think about calling yourself a bad mummy - you have done so much for M, continuing BF'ing through all the problems , as for your DH, gah bloody men. I don't know how easy it is for you to talk to him about it? Especially with the drinking? DH and I had a couple of sex rows on hols, unsurprisingly, my period started on holiday (would you credit it), I think he thought we would be at it hammer and tongs so to speak

Momi don't give up on George yet, he'll be ok and your elder girls will keep him entertained. DD2 drapes herself all over Beebee and keeps her happily stroked and admired. Beebee is ok, she's just had a lovely holiday with our mate, who ruled her with a rod of iron and kept her in check.

Re the guinea pigs for those that noticed my FB statuses (statii?) - 2 of them died whilst we were away (1 had been ill before we went) and the 3rd is now dying (his hair has fallen out like the others') - he's at the vet tomorrow morning so we shall see......the others were put in our old freezer in the garage so that we could bury them when I got back - very important to say goodbye to them , I am buying a plant tomorrow to plant over them.

Everyone will be welcome at the French house - we will have 2.5 acres of land so plenty of campervan/caravan parking and we will, of course, be exceptionally child-friendly!!! I will post a link when I've changed the (frankly quite shit) website. I am very excited, we've waited years to do this.

just a reminder: a lot of mentions about name-checking - don't worry about name checking everyone. we all understand. it's nearly impossible to do.

also important is to do mememe posts when you need to (happy or sad) - and please do so without guilt .

Laughing Cow You had me confused then!

We walked past a shop in a French town that had a window display entirely devoted to Laughing Cow (La Vache Qui Rit) merchandise and it was only then that I realised she has Laughing Cow cardboard cheese wheel earrings.

I'm making a chocolate orange cake shortly, would anyone like to join me in a wedge or 2 when it's done? I have many varieties of tea to go with too.

Momi are you off to Scream next Wednesday, as I will be free and raring for some company? I promise to bring cakes and fun....and a farting baby (honestly, she is so windy, it's hilarious).

DD2 is dressed in a tutu, she's such a girly sometimes.