May 2009 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies

[Momino]

this too shall pass!

Just about to take Rufus for his second round of jabs. Poor little fella. Looks happy and contented batting his toys on his bouncy chair. No idea what is about to hit/jab him.

Today Rufus is wearing a romper suit. ( noticed a few of you chatting about this earlier!). Next do a v v cute one with a puppy called Rufus on and his name on. Obviously had to purchase some and today he is wearing one of said items. Not sure I'd find them as cute if R wasn't actually called Rufus!

Better go.

M is struggling to BF because of her cold so I've had to give her more formula I'm worried it will affect my milk supply

febes don't blame you for being at your DH

my DH only seems to want to book holiday when we've got his other daughter staying so he can do things with her it's nice to have him home but wish that the activities were a bit more tailored towards M as well.

He's booked a week off to be with her before the bank holiday so I'm going to make sure I go to baby sensory, mum&baby group with M while he does what he wants to do.

Oh to have a couple of hours to pamper myself, go shopping alone etc, etc.

Our marriage is in a bit of trouble, DH is pissed off with me keeps making sarky comments all the time about our sex life (or lack of it)

I apologise for the me, me, me post earlier

ladyhelen good luck with the jabs

M recovered quickly from hers luckily, quick BF in the waiting room afterwards and she forgave me

M's wetsuit has just arrived - looks a bit big but should fit in 6wks time hopefully

Morning!

Febes - not suprised you're feeling I find it's amazing how many jobs my DH manages to find to do in the garden...

Jael - great to hear from you

flippin - sorry to hear about your uncle. Thinking of you and your family.

Belgian - sounds like C was v considerate with her huge poo split into two manageable parts

LadyH - sounds like you had a great time in London

sleep - I seem to be in a completely different place. I feel what we're doing suits us at the moment but don't want it to continue for ever and feel a bit "behind" where you all are.
Sorry, this could be lengthy but I'd appreciate your thoughts...
Basically, O will have 2 or 3 decent naps during the day lasting anything from 30 mins to 3 hrs. If we're out and about, he'll sleep in his car seat, otherwise he'll only sleep on me (or someone else if they're around).
At night, I take him up about 10pm. We have his cot shoved up against my side of the bed with the side off soI put him in his cot and lie down and feed him so I'm kying across both mattresses. He normally goes to sleep within 30mins and I try and remove myself so I can sleep in my bed and leave him in the cot. This sometimes takes a couple of attempts but he usually sleeps there until about 1am.
When he wakes around 1am, I try the process again. Sometimes it works, sometimes I end up falling asleep across the mattresses (not comfy!) and sometimes he won't settle and I bring him into bed (most usual). He then normally wakes again around 4am and 5.30am, stirs as DH gets up at 6.30am and will then sleep in bed with me until about 8am.

Sorry, that was long and as I say, it's ok at the moment but I'm a bit stumped as to how to get him into his cot for longer sleep periods. My SIL says it will take 3 nights of him crying it out. I'm just not good at leaving him to cry and he also twists himself round.

Looby Don't worry about the odd formula feed. It sounds like you have enough to worry about. Saline nose drops will help with a cold. Don't worry about the paracetamol either. You can't dope a baby with it. It's for pain relief and to bring down a temperature. There are no sedative properties in it at all so your MIL is wrong. this is an article about the link between paracetamol (Calpol) and asthma.

Now don't take this the wrong way. I'm looking at this from a completely different perspective to you. I can understand your dh wanting to go on holiday with your dsd. I can understand too that M is your first child and you will be wanting to do baby things with her, but the two aren't mutually exclusive. If you both had more than M together, then you really would have to think about a different sort of holiday. Babies really are portable. They don't need much to entertain them. DD2 is quite happy in the shade in the garden looking up at leaves in a bush while I get on weeding.

I hope you and dh can sort out your differences. New babies are such a disruption to a marriage. BTW I still think your dh is being a dick about the sex thing.

Morning all,

Well A's scan for her hips was fine, no probs apparently. She was really good as well until the drive home where she screamed as I got on the motorway all the way home. Was a nightmare as obviously I couldn't stop on a motorway! When I got home she had proper tears running down her face and was really sobbing, and so was I I just don't know how to deal with car journeys as I obviously can't wait until she's sound asleep every time we go out! I think the problem is that she is in the back so can't see me but can't put her in the front because we can't turn off the airbag. Any tips?

ladyh hope jabs go well

Loobs sorry to hear your DH is still being a pain about the sex thing. and sorry I have no sensible advice to offer.

ses your sleep arrangements sound similar to mine so you are not alone

Febes I share your pain, I think DH's don't realise that we need a bit of time to ourselves as well as them. Mine chose to spend Sunday farting about with the car while I had absolutely no me time as A was having a clingy day.

Belgian glad you got your poos A managed to do a huge one immediately after I took her nappy off this morning. Nice.

llare You're business opps sounds exciting. I like the idea of your list.

Sorry if I've missed anyone, have a good day x x

Hi everyone,

looby You sound like you're really having a rough time with your DH at the moment. Hopefully with enough chats he'll get to see what a p*k he is pestering you like that. Is there anyone else that can talk to him for you? Maybe he needs another dad to talk about what it's like after having a baby.

runningm Glad to hear that the hip scan went well. No tips about long travels here really. C tends to fall asleep once driving and only cries when hungry, but if you can't stop, it's still horrible to drive along with a screaming lo.

ses With my 2 oldest I had to resort to CC in the end to get them to sleep better. I did modify it though, as I don't like letting my lo's cry either. With ds I just held him until he calmed, then put him straight down, while still awake and walked out. I kept doing that and it worked within a day or 3. With dd, who liked me to sit by her, I slowly moved away, inch by inch, day by day. It took a good few weeks to reach the door

baby poo C was very considerate, wasn't she. She wasn't on holiday though. She had leaky poos every day, costing me a fortune in laundry tokens. She also managed to soil her bouncy chair. For some reason it's cover is wipe clean only , why do they do that? I stuck it under the tap though and gave it a good rinse and scrub. It survived.

Right. Time to go now. I've got to go to the dentist and then I'll take C to baby clinic, which is conveniently located in the same building as my dentist.

Can anyone advise me before I take J to the docs tonight, which I really don't want to do with Swine Flu really bad in our area. He's coughing quite badly. He's been doing it for the past 2-3 day's, he has no other symptoms, no temperature, no runny nose, touch wood! Just a cough, but it's not making him very happy. Will the docs just say calpol do you think?

Jael, just a quick one before i catch up on posts - maybe call NHS direct?

Jael, I agree about nhs direct. But there shouldn't be anyone with SF at the GPs, should there? If it isn't bothering him then I wouldn't worry.

We've got our business premises from 1 September, so exciting!

ses, all LO's are different so you're fine with doing what has worked for you so far. I have done with Harper what belgian has done: put her down, let her cry, pick her up if crying sounds distressful and calm her, put her back down for 5-10 min and assess the cry again. it did take a few days and she still sometimes needs to be picked up as she'll have a dirty nappy or tummy bubble needs to come up before she can settle.

your naps sound fine. H has an 1-2 hours in the morning (depending upon how early she woke), 2-3 hours in middle of the day, 45 min-1hour in late afternoon, then goes down to sleep about 7.30pm.

runningmonkey, so glad A's scan went ok. can't advise about crying in the car. was it her nappy maybe? what happened when you got home? was it a cuddle? maybe you could buy one of those mirrors to put on the chair so you can see each other and maybe do faces to make her laugh. try nct sales or jojomamanbebe. or ebay .

looby, sorry your DH is being very unreasonable about sex. would it help him to know that this is normal? I have to point this out to my DH that it is 'not him' and also show him articles about other new parents having similar sexless lives (i found a few threads on MN; no links, sorry). this, too, shall pass . it doesn't solve the problem but might make him feel better.

I think Jennster is right about the 2 girls' ages. i think at baby stage, it's hard for the dad to feel involved/close - this is what my DH has told me - esp since the mum gets most of the cuddle time or BF time. when M grows a little and becomes interactive with smiles, giggles, hugs, etc bonding becomes easier for the dad.

ooh, gotta go now. friend coming round and house is, as usual, a tip.

jabs - hope those getting them are ok!

I agree with everything momimo says looby!

My DH does v little with R in terms of proper "quality" time with him is concerned as there isn't much he can do. He changes nappies and gives him his bottle every now and again, but thats about it. Does he give M cuddles and smiles?

Re sleeping ses, all you can do is what you feel happy with. Its kind of different with 2 DC's around as we had to put R down in his carrycot in order to get Noah to bed and after doing this, and him crying for a while, he now goes down no prob, so I guess it was kind of CC in a way.

Jabs were ok. He was very angry when the needle went in,and cried for about 15 mins afterward, but I walked so the walk home sent him to sleep, and I was able to do my Wii Active game (gotta lose half a stone before the next holiday in September!!).

He's asleep now. Think I'll leave till 3.30. Maybe I'll catch up with some of my american FBI based dramas. I can't stand English crime dramas but love love love the american ones.

It's the same here with my DH. He feels there's not all that much he can do at the moment with C because she needs me for feeding etc... He does have cuddles some times, but everything else is me. I don't mind though, because when he is home he does sort of take care of the eldest 2. So that's a big help as well.

ladyh glad to hear that the jabs went OK.

We had a lovely day here. Turned out that the dentist had tried to get hold of me all day to change the appointment, but they couldn't get hold of me because my phone was playing up. It wasn't a totally wasted journey though, because baby clinic was on too. Then we went to the parc and library which were within walking distance. C has now got her very own library card .

C now weighs 16lbs 3oz or 7.35kg. She's still following that 98th centile perfectly. Both the other dcs used to hover around a centile, but C seems to stick to it perfectly.

C also seems to want to sit up all the time, so tomorrow I'm going to get dd1's old Bumbo seat down from the loft. I think she'll love it.

Tomorrow and Thurs and all of next week I've got my nieces during the day. That'll be 5 of them running around my house. Wish me luck

Actually. Thinking about it. I'll have 4 kids running around. C can't run yet

Oh and another thing before I forget it yet again. llare Congrats with your DH's business success. Very exciting about the new premisses. Looks like something good came out of the problems you had earlier

Belgian, is C sitting up on her own then? very impressed!

speaking of sitting (sort of), how old should babies be when facing outward in a baby bjorn? H is quite steady with her neck but was't sure if it's still too early to have her face outward.

Thanks for the good wishes, folks.

Belgian we got the bumbo out today and DS2 had a sit in it for a while. Not for long though as DS1 wanted a go so I had to move him before DS1 forcibly moved him!

Looby your DH is behaving like a real arse, but I do second (or third?) what Jennster said about babies. They are portable and don't really care what they do. Make the most of it while you can, soon she'll be a toddler and then you'll be really restricted as to what you can do!

runningmonkey good news about the hips!

Jael hi, I forgot to say welcome back. I'm glad you're better. How is J now?

ses I'm not sure if this is any help, but I'm not worrying about nap times at the moment. With DS I went with the flow and eventually he fell into his own routine. My philosophy is to go with the flow and let them sleep where they are. So DS2 naps in his seat downstairs and only goes up to "bed" when we go. But we are co-sleeping, not sure if that makes a difference but DS2 is sleeping through. I wouldn't worry about trying to force routine or sleeping in cots. They are still very little and probably want to be held. You won't be setting yourself up for problems in the future if you feed to sleep, or cuddle to sleep, or anything like that. DS2 gets breastfed to sleep, as was DS1 until he got to about 12 months or so. But I do take the easy life option!

Ses- don't worry. In some ways O sounds more advanced than my S- when out and about, he generally won't sleep at all! Also S goes in his cot at 7pm, and after his feed at 11 if he has one, but often after his 2am feed, I often fall asleep feeding him or winding him so wake up at 4ish with a dead arm or sitting up in bed with a baby on my chest. If i move him he generally wakes so i end up feeding again, so sometimes i force myself to stay awake and settle him back in his cot, although sometimes he will stir again in an hour. But if he is windy, he ends up back in the bed with me as i give in after one attempt. I can put him to bed awake without any crying but thats only because he has a dummy! I am not worrying about it yet, as I know he can sleep on his own, and has done some long sleeps, and is improving slowly all the time. I think that a lot of the babies on here are very good sleepers (especially at night ) as I know from my friends that sleeping through often doesn't happen til 12 months or 2 years, and one friend's DD would feed every 1-1.5 hours at night for the first 8 months (til they did CC). And my DD and DS1 didn't sleep through til 4 or 5 months (basically once they were in their own room).

Momino C can't sit up on her own yet! But she wants to sit up all the time, i.e. on my lap with me supporting her with my hands. If I dare to lie her down to do something she let out an angry scream, nor does she want to lean back against me. I thought as she likes being upright she might like being in the sling, but no. It has to be 'proper' sitting. I think she'll like the Bumbo. It's this. For those of you who don't know it. DD1 loved it when she was little.

I also do the go with the flow thing. I put C to bed when she's tired. I'm slowly seeing a pattern for the evening (7 o'clock seems to be bedtime lately), but daytime is still all over. If she falls asleep on her playmat or in her bouncy chair I leave her there. If I catch her before she actually falls asleep I put her in her crib. I did the CC with my dd1 when it came to going back to work time. I wanted her to be able to go to sleep without being breastfed for when I had to work a late. If she couldn't I think we might have had a problem. C funnily enough doesn't tend to fall asleep at the breast.

Just to add that I did CC with my ds at 9m because he had started waking every 45min for a comfort feed, rather than his usualy 2h at the time. I also think it's unusual that babies sleep through at this stage. There are a few on here, but I'd say they're exeptions really.

for Jennster.

Bonjour ma petite, comment ca va?
Je pense que je should changez mon nom de plume to La Vache Qui Rit?

In fact, sod it.

Off to bed now, will read the next 5 pages in the morning and do a reet proper name check and everything.

Night all!!!

Morning all!

Pretty dull day here. Anyone up to anything exciting today?