Right, so, feeling a little better today. Thank you all so much for kind words and support. Though they caused more tears at the time (), they make me feel better about everything now.
Feier - I think you may be right about the bottles being difficult at first. He has taken ebm from a bottle very happily before, though not for a while. But when I offered him a bottle yesterday after a feed, he refused it point-blank. Would hardly open his mouth, not interested in sucking at all, and let the milk that dripped in drool right back out again. Not sure if this is because he was actually full after the breast milk, because he has gone off the bottle, because he doesn't like the strange new taste, or because it's me giving it. We need to try again but with DH offering the bottle.
WFH - thanks for the {} - MN no-hugs be buggered! I hope you're right about him not actually wanting anymore milk. That is still what I expect to happen. He does demand food round the clock, pretty much. I think I have plenty of milk, but of course there is no way to prove this. Other than trying other things out, of course.
Puzzle - I am missing the same thing. If he is healthy, what is the problem? It does feel like I am being encouraged to fatten him up purely for the sake of the numbers. Lets repeat our NHS mantra "Numbers first, patient second".
Auld -