April 2009 - Chapter 3 - Let us round up the stragglers

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Ta da.

spoke too soon

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I LOVE BEING A MOMMY!

It does get easier, Bleu. DD1 was a nightmare baby and even she learnt how to have naps and sleep well without the aid of mummy.

Was wondering about the bedtime thing.
With DS1 and his reflux from hell, there was no routine, we just hoped he'd stop yelling and sleep at some point.

I have not been able to get Alex into an evening routine because I always have to deal alone with DS1 who has to be got to bed by 8:30ish. Alex was falling asleep in the sling around 7:30, so I just carried him around like that till I'd finished with DS1 and then put him down. Now he's staying awake longer, till 9:30 or 10, sometimes later, and has been demanding a big last feed, after which he conks out. I was told with DS1 that feeding them to sleep is an evil, wicked habit, and so I am concerned Alex may not go to sleep without the boob later, but as he is clearly hungry when he feeds and isn't just having a wee sook to fall asleep, I am a bit stuck.
In the day, he sometimes goes down by himself with a dummy, sometimes goes ballistic and needs rocking. Not sure how his CM will react in Sept...

lol could very well be the case nutty.... that must have been the meaning of the email i found saying 'babies of the world unite!'

PMSL at Nutty!

I've managed to get DD down at a more reasonable time in the past when I've fed her in a dark room but it is a bit of a battle of wills and she is more likely to get up more at night so I find the trade off difficult. I think I'll try an early bed time and a dream feed over the next few days. I'll add in harness free time around bathtime on thursday if I'm allowed. I can't wait to bath my baby!

she's fallen asleep in my arms... do i dare put her down?

Oooooooo, BTW, for anyone who is having trouble with an older sibling being jealous. DD1 has been really happy when I've got in the bath with her to play and left Beth with DH. It means that DD1 gets my undivided attention and Beth gets to spend some time with DH who normally barely looks at her. It seems to make DD1 feel as if she's had a good day with mummy and she's happier going to bed after this.

Bleu either put her down now and hold your breath or hold her for 20 mins until she is in a deep sleep and then put her down.

Bleu - ahhh to Meg giggling, how lovely, can't wait!!

Regarding E's bedtime routine, I put her in her cradle swing about 6.30 so she relaxes, then I give her a big feed about 7.30 and then put her in her moses basket while I put the boys to bed. She is usually awake but drops off within minutes.

I go to bed about 11.30 and change her nappy/try to feed her but she usually just puts her bottom lip out and refuses! I then hear her anything between 3.30-5.30 am, not crying, just kicking arms and legs and trying to eat her hands. I get her out and feed her with light still off and she falls back to sleep after feeding so I either place her back in basket if it's 3-4ish or leave her in with us if it's 5.30-6ish. She then sleeps until I wake her up to take boys to school. She feeds constantly during the day though and hardly sleeps. Need some kind of afternoon nap routine but hopefully that will come with time.

swali - so sorry for what you're going through. You are entitled to a shower! Regarding the BF thing. In your house, you breastfeed where to want to! He can always leave the room if he doesn't like it. If she can only get comfortable on the sofa because of her harness, then that is the most important thing. You do it on the sofa. I do go into bedroom at PIL's house but that's because I don't feel comfortable (although I did BF in Sainsbury's cafe last week ) I know it's not much help but I think we are all going through some kind of change with our DH's at the moment. Mine keeps saying he needs a rest and I have to bite my tongue as the luxury of travelling 45 mins to work and back and a leisurely stroll around town for lunch every day, which he does, seems a dream! He does help at home but he hasn't got that constantness of it all like I have.

Could you and DH get out by yourselves for an hour or so? Have a proper chat?

Oh swali - you poor thing it sounds like you're having a really tough time at the moment. I echo what everyone else has said - you sound like an incredibly giving and unselfish person to me.

Bleu - i really hope Meg is ok... i reckon cuddles on the sofa are in order for a screamy baby who has fallen asleep in your arms...

doctors not in until 3.30... she started screeching again when I eased myself up to get the phone so I could call... poor baby

not going to get anything done today... poor mommy and daddy and house [wry smilely]

Doctor got in early and called me

She says sounds like nothing... possible TEETHING?! But to bring her in tomorrow if concerns do not go away this evening...

So I wrote out a longish post telling of our normal routine/sleeping...it disappeared into nothingness though somehow...

wake 5-7.30 feed in darkened room (in nursery if it's before Daddy is awake, in Mommy and Daddy's room if it's after Daddy is awake)Back to sleep immediately after feed in which ever room fed in.

wake between 8-9 Feed in lightened room, sometimes after telling Mommy about dreams had last night sometimes conversing happens after feed. Sleep in Mommy and Daddy's bed or on couch depending where feeding took place.

Wake 11-12 feed at 12.30 or 1 ish. Light nap during a walk to grocery store or in carseat if we go to big store. Up during walk around store, dozing again usually as we leave and a nap on the way home. Awake when gets trasnferred into house.

Feed 3 or 4 ish. Light nap (sometimes) usually on couch and if it goes longer than 15 minutes gets transferred to cot.No longer than 30min.

Feed 6ish. Nap 10-15 mintues.

Feed 8ish. Put into Pjs. Watches TV with Daddy. If falls asleep before 9 allowed to nap, if not, played with constantly until 9.45 or 10.15 ish (lateness depending on level of fussiness or how much slept during day).

Feed 10- 10.30ish. In darkened room (usually Mommy and Daddy's, laying down on bed) transferred directly to cot (in own room). Left to settle self unless winding up happens (not very often tbh). Down for the night.

I've got another cake in the oven no not a bun This is unheard of in the Schulte household. I do not bake. Am I turning into a fifties housewife? Where is my apron...

OoooH!
Tea at Schulte's! I'll be right over! (with a screechy baby clasped to my chest)
I've not baked in ages...

Yep come on over, you're all invited to soggy cakes

I am clearly having a very hormonal day. I just into tears whilst giving Beth a wash because she loved me gently massaging a small area of her chest that isn't covered by her harness. I couldn't help but cry about all of the massages and baths and skin-to-skin feeds that she has missed out on over the past few weeks. Soon I'll be able to do that everyday! I am in awe of how much she trusts me and how she calms down just to have me near. I know that it's all about the boobs, but I don't care!

Bleu - teething?! blimey - I thought that wasn't supposed to happen until about 6 months?! If O teethes this early that will definitely be the end of my breastfeeding career...

Mmmmmmmmmmmm... soggy cakes I've just about managed to fling together some kind of vegetable slop to put on pasta for tea... no blueberry muffins yet I tried a new thing, putting Oscar in his maclaren by the back door with the door open and tucking him in with lots of blankets (its cold!!!) and he's been asleep for an hour - had to do rolling back and forth to get him off and a bit more rolling every now and again when he stirred, but this could make a HUGE difference to my quality of life if it works again... no dummy either

OMIGOD - its thunder and lightening here... eeek!

Sorry Swaliswan - cross posts - awwwwwww, of course she trusts you and you calm her - you're her mummy and the person she loves most in the world x x x

Most babies cut their first tooth at about 7 months and get teething pain on and off for two months before they cut a tooth. But, every baby is different and early teething is genetic so it may be worth asking parents/PIL if there is early teething in the family. I cut my first tooth at 5mo.

Oh Swali Hugs.
See you are a loving and caring person.
It's not just about the boobs anylonger...all of our little ones are old enough now that it's not just the boobs. If it was they'd only settle if we put them on right away, but that's not the case as you just noticed. Welcome (once again) to the joys of motherhood.

I love being a mommy

Can I have a cup of decaf tea with a slice of cake, please, Sculte?

Well Mom said my oldest sister teethed at 4 months...just after she finished being colicky. (Mom said it was a wonder I or my other 3 sisters we ever born given the trouble she had with her first. -apparently I was a dream though which is why I have younger siblings )