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July 09 - Sore ladybits and melons for tits! [grin]

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Quiltedrose · 21/06/2009 20:30

Ok so there's only 2 of us so far but felt duty bound as the first July delivery to start the thread off!

'Pop' in when you're ready!!

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alibobble · 27/07/2009 14:23

btw the real reason I was posting before getting sidetracked witha load of waffle: non-gauzy sanitary towels: Someone mentioned not using always gauzy type towels post maternity towels as they catch stitches. Have been trying tesco own brand "silk" ones which are still cheaper than maternity pads but not gauzy. More comfortable by far tho not sure how absorbent for heavy flow. Always do some too but are more expensive.

not sure if this will work!

or www.amazon.co.uk/Always-Silk-Sanitary-Towels-Normal/dp/B001DX8CB2

pippa251 · 27/07/2009 15:03

Hello,

I am so glad I can now post on this thread- I had my little girl 8 days over due on tuesday. We were in labour 6 hours and she weighs 8lb 4oz- we are calling her Islay. She is our first and i just can't believe I'm a mum!!! She's brlliant and I'm managing to get ave 4-6 hours sleep per night so I feel really good.

krumbockmummy · 27/07/2009 16:12

Hello all very quick post as lil man is waking up, i am slowly adjusting to a willy he has only peed on me once so far

Nipples are really sore hoping it will get better soon, stitches are ok but body is refusing to have a BO (sorry TMI).

Hope i will be able to catch up on posts soon xx

Beccabump · 27/07/2009 18:58

krumbockmummy I'm with you on the whole willy thing! Although it's a lot easier than having to avoid the holes with a girl!

So far Isaac has wee'd all over our wall, door, floor, over me, his dad and himself! He's pooed on the floor, town library floor (oops!), his daddy and all down my leg!

DD having a huge strop in bed as I type this. She's been playing up recently with going to bed and tonight I have called her bluff and she's not best pleased about it!

PND anyone who is suffering or feeling low - see your mw/doctor/hv! I ignored mine for 11 months when DD was born and I was still in counselling for it when I fell pg with DS. The sooner you can say 'help' the better - and people do not judge you for it!

Will try and catch up more soon

QueenFee · 27/07/2009 19:23

Krumbock - Alfie saves the peeing thing for daddy perhaps he knows I am well experienced at changing little boys nappies and saves it for the unsuspecting. He also did a huge poo on the mat when he was being weighed!

cosleeping what about usingone of those little beds that you put in the bed I forget what they are called

QueenFee · 27/07/2009 19:25

snugglenest
I haven't used one as find that when BF you tend to create a safe cocoon for your baby with your arms and legs anyway. Laleche (well I think it was la leche) do a good book about co sleeping if you want more info called 3 in a bed.

Phoenix · 27/07/2009 19:54

Noah's wee'd on me twice today and pooed on his changing mat.

Mij · 27/07/2009 20:52

Had my best/worst baby brain moment yesterday. Was at a 2yr olds birthday party, and had last consciously noticed DP holding DD2. DD1 was playing at my feet and DPs arms were empty, so asked DP 'who's got the baby?' expecting her to have been passed on to someone who wanted a cuddle. He stared at me open mouthed for a couple of seconds, before I realised why - I was breastfeeding her. Like looking for your sunglasses when they're on your head, only a million times worse .

alibobble I find breakfast the most trying time at the moment, whether DP is there or not just cos that's when DD2 is most disgruntled about being put down, and DD1 has her most exacting requests - that spoon with the pattern all the way down the handle, not that one with an almost identical pattern, my big girl bowl not my previous favourite big girl bowl etc etc, you get the picture. Luckily, as she's 3, I can mostly say, well off you go and find it then honey [gritted teeth emoticon].

empty boobs Breasts will never be completely empty, although they can certainly feel it, cos they're making milk all the time, and the emptier the breast, the faster more milk is made (a bit like a toilet cistern, iyswim). Having said that I remember very well that need to have a break, either by handing the baby over to someone else for a bit or giving a bottle of whatever milk you're using, particularly if you're a bit sore. With the evening feeding/unsettled thing, cluster feeding is very common, and very trying (DD1 used to do it, sometimes starting as early as 3 in the afternoon and carrying on way past 9pm) and does settle down eventually, but it's also worth considering if anything is changing your latch, e.g. you're feeding in a different chair, without as many cushions, something else, cos sometimes that can affect the volume a babe is getting at a feed, and therefore make them want to feed for longer and more frequently. But I do stress the sometimes bit of it - it probably is just about being a newborn and getting settled into the world.

ilikeyoursleeves · 27/07/2009 21:36

hi all, that's zach nearly a week old and he is doing so well. he is such a sweetie pie and seems very content so far, touch wood. sleeps well during day and also pretty good at night, he was only up once last night and that was me waking him cos my boobs were bursting!

we had a visitor free weekend which was lovely, we wanted to settle in as a family of 4 andi think it helped ds1 adjust too. he has taken to zach really well and loves to stroke him and help with nappy changes.

hope everyone else is doing ok. can i ask, how often are you giving lo's a bath? zach's only had one so far at home...

mumofshortie73 · 27/07/2009 21:42

Hi ladies

I've now graduated to this lovely postnatal club thread yippee !

Do feel a bit sorry for the gals still waiting to drop on the old antenatal thread, especially those who are overdue.

Charlie doing great, continuing with his horizontally relaxed approach to life.

I have decided to give up on the expressing, life too short and all that, hours spent already pumping to very little avail.
I conclude that I am just one of those women who doesn't produce much milk, added to that my son is pretty reluctant to bf and my daughter needs more attention than I have been giving her so far. He has taken to the bottle like a duck to water so am not going to do the guilt thing this time round.

QueenFee · 27/07/2009 21:43

ilys poor alfie gets bathed when he projectile vomits and enforces it which at the mo is about every 3 days He gets bathed whenever the other 2 are in too (if I can be bothered ) so at least twice a week.

mij I have howled laughing at that. Brilliant - just the sort of thing going on here at the mo

JetLi · 27/07/2009 21:46

Hi all. Good post-pregnancy-spongey-brain moment there Mij
Well after cracking the breastfeeding it looks like I may have some retained placenta so starting antibiotics tonight and awaiting an appointment for an ultrasound scan at the hospital. Have passed some chunks of membrane-y things over the last couple of days and the lochia increased
Anyway the drugs are deemed safe for breastfeeding (checked with GP, Pharmacist and BFN) but may give Hetty and me the squirts. Booze is also banned for the duration...
Really hoping the scan is clear as I don't fancy going back into hospital for a scrape.
co-sleeping - we do it a wee bit. I saw the snugglenest in TK Maxx recently - wished I'd bought one now as it would be lovely to be snuggled up so close to her without having a nagging squishing worry in the back of my mind. They had them in pink and blue and since we didn't know what flavour baby we were having, I didn't buy one. They were a very good price too.
PND - felt really quite low the last couple of days and unexpectedly had the first HV visit today, coinciding with DP's first day back at work, which could've have turned into a major crying-fest but thankfully it didn't. Both the HV and midwife have patted me on the back about our determination to BF so actually that made me feel much better. Then the GP was ace this afternoon too about my loss and the scan and stuff so despite the problems I feel a bit stronger and brighter now. Don't be hard on yourself xxhunnyxx - you're doing an amazing job and you're by yourself which doubles the strain.

xxhunnyxx · 27/07/2009 22:40

mumofshorty I know what u mean about expressing being time consuming, Joseph wouldn't latch on my boob cos he's got tongue tie and I've got flat nipples so not a good combination. I tried expressing for a few days but it was taking me half an hour to get 1oz off, I just did it by hand cos seemed to get more off that way than with a pump. But yes it seems to be a lot of time required for very little result and it's hardly as though us Mums don't have enough to do with our time is it?!

co-sleeping One benefit of being a single mum is I've got a big double bed to myself so not so much worry about squishing him, in fact I don't worry about it at all. I've always been a very still sleeper anyway so I dont roll over or anythin. I get Joseph in bed with me every morning and we have a couple of hours snoozing together so usually dont get up till about 9.30 . Even if he's not tired he'll always fall asleep if I put him in bed with me, it's great when I really need to sleep .

Thanks jetli I think I'm ok now, think I maybe just had a bit of a wobble, think I'll be ok if I just try and avoid any extra stress. Hope u are ok too x

Found out where the baby clinic is so gonna take him there tomos to get weighed. I remember now that the HV did tell me where they are but I obviously just had baby brain at the time lol.

Gillyan · 28/07/2009 13:11

mij thats so funnt about u forgetting where the baby was! Really made me smile!

cosleeping I just can't do it - haven't even tried, I would be so scared, haven't even falle asleep on the sofa with baby! She goes down really easily in her moses basket anyway.

baths I bath Summer every other day at the moment or sometimes every day is shes has sicked up a lot as it gets down her neck. I put her in with DD2 in big bath and use one of those bath supports. I've got a changing station toowith a bath underneath the mat and thats handy for dunking her in. I didn't use to bath DD1 as often, i thin I am bathing this one more cos I have to bath older one every day.

tips anyone formula feeding? I have devised the best way ( IMO ) for making up bottles. I got some of those bottle seperators. I can make up 6 bottles and just fill with cooled boiled water. Keeping the measured amount of formula in the sterilised pots means I can make a fresh feed when I need it. I aslo have never heated a bottle for her so she takes it at room temp. No n
eed to refridgerate the bottles of water. So at night it's dead easy, no going downstairs and warming a refridgerated bottle and it's also even easier to be out and about. I made the mistake of warming DD1s bottles and she would only take milk warmed for the first yr of her life and if the bottle started to go too cool she would refuse it and I'd have to use another bottle!

Patchybob · 28/07/2009 13:53

Mij that is the best laugh I have had all day.
Co sleeping. I can't get Max to settle in the moses basket so have him with me all night. I am terrified of squashing him. I have fallen asleep feeding him a few times and wake up with a fright 1/2 expecting him to have fallen down and not to be able to breathe. I had forgotten about all the worries with a newborn. My other 2 were great at going down in the moses basket but he goes down asleep and within 5 minutes is wide awake and screaming....like he is doing at the moment as I had the cheek to put him in his cot! So I have better go for now!! xxx

ilikeyoursleeves · 28/07/2009 15:24

Mij I had a similar moment today, I walked into the kitchen and totally jumped when I heard Zach make a noise as I forgot he was in there! Ooops.

I ventured out with the double buggy today to get DS1 from nursery. The P&T is great but OMG it's such an effort to get it up and down stairs! And we have 7 steps at the front of our house and so does the nursery, d'oh! GP visited me today and amongst the postnatal questions asked me if I was worried about swine flu! Can't say I am but then I started to get worried cos he was talking about it. He said to avoid crowds but given DS is in nursery 2 mornings a week I can't really do that. Anyone else worried about it or is it all just gone OTT?

BonzoDoodah · 28/07/2009 16:30

Hello everyone I've moved over here - can't catch up with all the posts so starting from here. I've posted some pics of baby gregory on my profile. Gave him his first bath today and he loved it.

So lots of questions to ask you all
Like:
when does the bleeding stop?
When does the baby latching on stop hurting?

... but now baby is awake ...

Phoenix · 28/07/2009 18:26

bleeding - after ds1 (emcs) i was bleeding for around 6wks. This time (elcs) i'm still bleeding after 2.5 wks but it isn't very much now so i'm hoping it will stop soon.

I personally haven't had any pain at all with bf so i can't answer that one.

Noah's feeding has really changed over the last few days. He was only feeding for about 5-10mins at a time then falling asleep and nothing we did would wake him up, probably why he lost so much weight and still isn't back to his birth weight. But he's feeding for much longer and going around 3hrs in between feeds now. He is only 4oz away from his birth weight now and mw said yesterday it's possible his birth weight was wrong but i'm not so sure with how he was feeding.

bathing - We are so bad at bathing Noah He is going to have his 4th bath at 2.5wk old in a few minutes

Phoenix · 28/07/2009 18:55

Now i've got a nice clean, fluffy haired baby

ActivityApple · 28/07/2009 18:59

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mumofshortie73 · 28/07/2009 20:01

Ouch!!!!! Activityapple that sounds so sore. i am sure you are popping those pain killers like there's no tomorrow. As for contraception, ha ha, think we will remain celibate til the kids have left home.

Bonzodoodah- love your photos of Gregory (smashing name too !) Charlie is enjoying the bath so far, maybe won't be so keen once I've lost my grip on him, I forgot they are slippery little eels once wet & soaped up ! My DH makes a much better job of it, men have much bigger forearms and hands.

hunny many thanks for your solidarity re the frustration that expressing milk can be, hope your lil Joseph is feeding well now.

Krumbock Bran Flakes every day plus dried apricots, bananas & gallons of water seem to work for me good luck !

QueenFee · 28/07/2009 20:26

bonzo those pics are lovely and I love the name too My bleeding has just about stopped now just a trickle and Alfie is 3 and a half weeks still has occassional bursts though but not bad.
Breastfeeding Again no pain now and the let down pain I had initially has just about gone too.
activity ouch hope they heal soon for you. I laughed at the contraception thing too but strangely find myself now considering it a possibility... must admit I am very nervous this time for some reason it never bothered me with the other 2 and I had worse tears very strange!

Phoenix · 28/07/2009 21:11

Can't remember who is using real nappies but if anyone wants any bargain ones Flamesparrow is closing her business down and selling stock off. Thread here

Mij · 28/07/2009 23:07

baths DD2 getting loads more than DD1 ever did cos big sis wants her little sis in with her, whenever she's awake at the right time.

activity had a similar experience with DD1 - thought she had eczema behind her ears, but realised it was dried on dribbles of milk, lord knows how long they'd been there when we discovered them .

bleeding much longer this time, and almost stopped but then restarted. MW said it could be a period cos DD2 doesn't feed much overnight. If it is I will be extremely pissed off - had over a year's break from the sodding things last time, was looking forward to getting the same (I, and therefore my family, suffer quite badly from PMS...)

let-down pains - really, really strong this time. Used to feel let-down on and off through my previous 3 years of BFing but not like this - it's like someone's just grabbed my norks and given them a twist. Ouch.

latching pains depends what it is that's hurting. Can hurt more if you're really full, and for some people it can be uncomfortable for the first 15 seconds or so of each feed for the first few weeks of BFing. But if there's the possibility of a latch issue, it will only really stop when that is resolved. Have you got any support available, someone who could watch a feed/latch on and see if they can see an obvious issue bonzo?

Gillyan · 28/07/2009 23:08

bonzo gorgeous pics - I still can't uplaod any of mine on here!

bleeding I bled for 3 weeks after c/s