July 09 - Sore ladybits and melons for tits! [grin]

[Quiltedrose]

Ok so there's only 2 of us so far but felt duty bound as the first July delivery to start the thread off!

'Pop' in when you're ready!!

Hi quilted

ooh my nips are still sore, I am perservering though, the switching positions sounds like a good idea, I was doing the rugby ball hold in hospital, hadn't thought to do it. I lay down on my side for the firts time last night so might try the lying down thing.

Heatwave, LO has had only a vest on and we're just staying in doors mostly with a fan on it the front room. We took her outside in the garden yesterday and just put jer in the shade in her moses basket but there was a good breeze. I went shopping too and I got her out of the car seat/travel system for a few mins to keep her back cool.

I had a post natal appoint yesterday and the MW said although BF babies don't ususally need a water top up that in this heat and if they will take them, to offer a bottle of water - she said she will be coming at me constantly in theheat for her drinks rather than food, and that if I am happy she has fed for ages then try to give the water to give my nips a break.

Got my health visitor coming tues but from what I rememebr she's a bit of a drip.

Morning everyone, hope all is well. Not feeling too bad today this heat has not helped to recover. Scar seems to be healing nicely although still on co codamol.Little Masie seems to sleep all day & keep us awake all night!! hope ya all doing good x x

hello all
i've graduated!
birth story on antenatal thread.
Alfie is a guzzler and has taken to breastfeeding like a duck to water
back soon to catch up

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Hi guys, just read your story and posted on the other thread queenfee

Is anyone else suffering with cracked nipples? I have one on each side just at the top of my nip, baby is latching on properly so don't know why, it kills when she gets on but doesn't hurt throughout the feed. I have been using Lansinoh cream like it's going out of fashion. also my boobs are juat really achy and I keep getting a pain in my right nipple and then it leaks a load of milk?

i didn't manage to BF DD1 so it's all new to me. It's going quite well though apart from the sore nips. She's sleeping for 3 hrs after feeds somethimes and sometimes I have to feed her every half hr- hr for about 4 hrs to get her to do that. Not too bad though and I'm getting naps through the day so feeling pretty great.

C/section wound ishealing nicely and I am so much more mobile.

Sorry I can't help on the nipple front Gillyan as we are not breastfeeding.

Christiana I know how you feel with the aching back. My hurts at the top from feeding and carrying and at the bottom from the spinal.

We have had a snacking day today also, both boys seem to want to feed every hour or so but only take a small amount. L has been particularly unsettled, I have just managed to get him to go down to sleep but don't know how long it will last.

T has got green gunky eyes - the midwife has been and swabbed them to check for infection but we dont get the results for a few days. I feel so sorry for him, his eyes are crusted shut when he wakes up and look so sore from being cleaned all the time

I am starting to relly feel the effects of the broken nights. I think I could sleep standing up and don't seem to be able to think straight, most of the time I am not certain what day it is! I am trying to nap in the day but I always wake up feeling so awful and it takes an hour or so to get rid of the headache I wake up with.

Hope everyone else is having a good day and babies are well.

Ahh just wrote a long replyand the computer crashed
so just quickly sore nips try putting breastmilk on and leaving open to air and diff position to give them a break for a bit.
Mine are tender as DS2 has strong suck and he is permenantly attched at night won't let me put him down - help!

backs I think everything is still soft from pregnancy because mine was really hurting at base of spine yesterday.

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Hello everyone and Congratulations on all the arrivals so far

I orginally joined the antenatel thread but didn't post regularly , so hope to be more consistent on this thread

Abigail arrived on 1st July after being in hospital for 6 days with an unstable lie luckily they induced me while she had her head down and after six hours of labour she entered our world

BF is going well except at night she seems to want to constantly feed between midnight and four in the morning so finding that tough , also I am very sore still . Also paranoid she will develop jaudice as all my others did so have her in the daylight hoping that will help .

Have found wooleyjo news so shocking and she is never far from my thoughts

Hi everyone
I can now officially post in the post natal thread. I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on Sat 4th July. It wasn't as quick as my 2nd birth and felt like ages but was in fact less than 7 hours from when my waters started trickling at home to the actual birth.

My waters went around 2pm on Sat and we had a bit of a mad panic getting the kids off to a friends as my in laws were a 2 hour drive away (they actually live 5min drive away but as luck would have it, had gone out).

Once I got the kids to a friends we made our way to hospital where the contractions were coming in slowly. I would have preferred to stay at home but the MW wanted to check me over to confirm if it was indeed my waters.

We got to hospital and things started progressing (more frequent contractions and had a show) and the monitoring had confirmed my waters had gone (by this point it was really come down - sorry if TMI). I was only 2-3cm dilated but as my last birth was so quick they wanted to keep me in. Thankfully they were really busy so allowed us to go for food and a walk. We were planning to walk to the Heath after a quick pizza and suddenly things got a bit tougher. A dash to M&S and we back in the ward. No labour rooms available so I was put in the post natal ward which when you are contracting every 1-2 min with just a tens machine and no privacy it was not ideal. DH was great at keeping me calm as I was ready to cry!

I finally got a room in the birth centre and the MW's were brilliant. They coached me through the contractions making my body work for me. They didn't even examine me (just checked baby's HR) and let me dictate what I wanted to do. I had just over 20min of pushing and Tristan Benjamin was born. Of course by this point I was lugging in the gas and air and had ripped the tens machine off.

I did tear a bit and I am not sure what was more painful, pushing or being 'tidied' up after.

And there you have it. We had instant skin to skin and he has bf (though our latch is still a bit iffy, having someone come over today to hopefully get it right) and we are home.

I do think it is going to be tough dealing with bf and having 2 needy DC's and just adjusting in general. Last night was hard and I have already had a cry. I guess to be expected.

Hope everyone is happy and adjusting well to their new arrivals. We really are blessed.

Well done misspaella Don't worry about the BF it is hard - I've just given up and am sad.

christiana I have given up BF

She was just feeding ALL the time and my nips were so sore, I spoke to MW and ahe said she was latching on properly, and I know I was doing it right, I think it's just that I have big nipples and the tops were just being caught. I gave up late yesterday and i cried and then I have cried my eyes out this morning, I so wanted to do it this time. When I gave up with DD1 I didn't know what I was doing and it took 9 days for milk to come in anyway - but this time I know what I'm doing and I was really comfortable doing. Just couldn't take the pain anymore. Also I've got sharp stabbing pains like behind my nipple, like inside my breasts. It really hurts, got a docs appointment tomorrow as think there may be something wrong. It happens when not BF too.

I'm just gutted about it and can't beleieve how upset it's making me.

On a bighter note baby seems much more settled on the bottles. Got the HV coming tomorrow so I'm keen to see what she weighs and I can tell she's fattened up in the past few days - small consolation for me that at least I BF her for 2 wks and she's gained on it.

I've got a tiny bit, about 1cm, of my section wond thats not healing, it's right at the edge and it's bleeding - going to see what doc says about that too tomorrow.

Everything else is great, baby is just easy as was last one, I'm feeling okay from op and every day it's easier to move. Sleeping on my side again and outting clothes in the washer etc.
I can cuddle DD1 properly too which is lovely.

Weight - I've lost 1 stone 10lbs so far and I'm not dieting yet. Think I'll leave it to the 6 wk mark before trying to get rid of the rest.

Hope you're all okay today

ooh i've not weighed myself yet must do for amusement considering I put on 4 stone in pregnancy.
Alfie is still feeding all night although at least last night he did let me put him in his cot 3 times for a mere hour. However my milk has now come in big time so I am hoping he will be getting more of a belly full
I feel like dolly parton and my bras don't even go near covering my boobs!
gillyan hope everything is ok with the dr visit. Keep an eye on your boobs as it is common to get mastitus when you first give up so keep checking them for hot lumps x Well done for the amount you have given her through the pain.

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Thanks girls Yes I have a pump and expressed some so try and give nips a break, I got some advice of tiktok too. I am sat here now waiting for my bath to run and they are leaking evrywhere. I am tempted to espress some so she can have it in a bottle but if I express I'll make more won't I??

I am tempted to put her back on and it's horrid seeing all this milk leeking everywhere when she could be having it but i don't want to keep messing her around and confusing her.

I think my weight will stick now till I can exercise so not weighing myself for a few weeks now.

I've come back on for a whinge. It's really not working my mum and DH being here. AHH! they both like things done their way and keep moaning at me about the other IYSWIM. I am beginning to think sod the resting etc go back to normal and give me some peace
I think I may ask my mum to go home but then it's going to get all political - sigh!

Hi everyone
Gillyan hope you are feeling better. I am distressed with sore nipples too. I have just paid for a lactation consultant to come round and check my latch (which hospital MW and visiting MW today said was fine) and she said the same thing. She checked DS's tongue and low and behold he has tongue tie (DD had it too!) It is causing a slight nipple pinch even with a good latch. I invested in these things called Silverettes which have stopped any serious nipple cracks/bleeding but I am still in agony.

I have been referred to hospital to get it sorted but it is a 3 week waiting list. The lactation consultant has given me a contact number for someone who will remove the tongue tie privately and we may just do that as 3 weeks in BF time with sore nipples is a lifetime.

Have you had tongue tie checked for your LO?

2 weeks is a great start anyway Gillyan - I am trying to get to day 3 and it is a uphill battle yet again for me.

And I am feeling so hormonal. MIL kept asking me yesterday how I was going to cope with 3 DC's. I felt like saying 'well with your help I could cope loads'!! I can see I will have to ask her for help as opposed her just bloody offering.

Hope everyone is doing better.

queenfee hope you're okay - nows the time to use your 'just had a baby card' throw an emotional hissy fit and tell your mum to go home

misspaella keep with it, you sound like you're getting lots of help

I had a good noght last nigt LO very settled with bottles, my boobs are still very sore - we'll see what doc says later

Been to the docs and a suture was sticking out of the side of my wound, they had to pull it up, which killed and trim it so it popped back down, hopefully now the skin will grow over it, there is a hole there! It's been dressed in an idoene dressing which should kill and germs and then dry it out. Got to go back on Friday. Bit annoyed that the midwives haven't seen it all the times I've asked them to check. Its been open for 2 wks now and I could of got an infection!

Health Vistor been - baby is fine weighs 7lbs 11 oz now so not quite back up to her birth weight of 8lbs but thats ok.

Think baby blues may of hit. Didn't have them with DD1 but cried since sun night. I think I was morte upset about the BF than anything. Not cried today thankfully.

Doc said I have thrush in my boob which is why I had so much pain behind my nipple too.

Anyway sorry for the moan hope you are all having a good day! xx

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have sent my mum home - Dcs have settled better without grandma around and I feel I have my normal life back - phew!
Will have to see how I cope on thurs though when DH goes back to work and it's just me and 3!!!
gillyan how frustrating that MW never picked up your probs with scar. Thrush is really painfull too I had it when I was feeding DS1. Make sure they treat the baby too as you will have probably given it to each other.

christian re - blues I just couldn't stop crying but I do thik it was more to do with giving up BF - the health visitor said today you almost mourn it. I do feel better today. I felt really tired when Ihad cried and a bit like a kid in that sense, like i'd had a real paddy!

They aren't treating the trush as my nipple looks fine????? Doc also said I had a touch of mastitis as I keep shivering but she's not given me anything for either, just said to go back if either worsens or I get red patches on my boob from mastitis.

queen glad you sent your mum home, hopefully you can chill now.

DP goes back to work a week today - not looking forward to it. It's been so nice having him home.

Off for a shower - DD1 just in bed and DP feeding DD2 - bliss!

Hia all Maisie was weighed again today by midwife as she was concerned she had lost to much weight on Sunday, but has gone from 8lb3 to 7lb10 but today 7lb12 so hopefully gaining.
tonguetie Maisie also has, midwife said would check out for me whats best, very confused about whole thing & worried its hurting her. Hope all is well x x x

Hi everyone
Gillyan hope you are feeling better. I totally understand your distress over BF. I have been there before, twice. I had thrush with DS and it was awful. I only managed 4 1/2 months of bf with him (and it was not even exclusive). DD had tongue tie which practically shredded my nipples and I got mastitis a couple of times. I finally stopped at 3 1/2 months with her. This time round LO has tongue tie too and my nipples are in agony and I am taking it one day at a time. I think I may pay for it to be sorted privately as I am not sure how much longer I can take BF being more painful than birth. Listen whatever we do, we are good mothers, and I hope you understand that.

DH going back to work next week - Since he was made redundant he has been freelancing and has work for the next month so he had to say yes. He has done 2 days already this week too. I am so scared to be on my own after this weekend after barely a week. I am hoping my baby blues kick in before then as I feel next week will be one large task. Is anyone else scared about coping on their own. I hope I don't take it out on DS or DD. My patience was so thin with them during pg let alone now.

Anyone have any good tips? Or do we just cry these situations out?

Hia my Dp went back to work today, 1 week after my c section, on my own with Ds 2 and Maisie Ds1 at senior school. I must say its not been too bad Dp has promised if i find it too much he will pop home and mil offered to take Ds2 today but i want to get myself into a routine with them now iyswim. I was very nervous of being on my own but so far today have coped, but it could be a different story tommorow......
Baby blues have not hit me yet, I'm dreading it tbh. Maisie seems to feed every 4hrs & has feed at ten but then only wakes up at 3ish for next then about half 7/8 so not feeling too tiered yet!(I'm sure this will change). Hope you are all feeling ok and adjusting. Having Maisie registered tommo apt was really quick, with Ds2 we had to wait about 4 weeks this one 3 days from phoning them up??? x x

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