June 2008: birthdays, bunting and bumps make mummy a little bit tired!

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Bring it on!!!

I killed the thread! I bet you're all out having a nice day, while I'm at work I'm on call all night too, some sympathy please?

Big sympathy here- does it make you feel better that I have had to construct a barricAde worthy of 1870 to stop Edie attacking the DVD(it's not working as has just breached it and is deafening me as i type).

Sending you virtual g & t to see you through the shift! If it's any consolation I've had a fairly dull weekend.

Hi guys, thanks for the sympathy on the insensitivity - though I had another classic today, even worse IME . As you know, Alex is a well-padded little baby, and when he was tucking into his cake today (we had the NCT birthday party today) one of the mums said, "look at the amount he's eating, he could be the poster boy for childhood obesity" .

I was sooo upset I could have cried. Weight is such an issue for me (which is why I don't want a daughter) and I'm paranoid about A being overweight. Dh keeps on trying to reassure me that he's fine, but I'm gutted. I think people must be looking at me and thinking, "fat mum, fat child" .

Not feeling v happy tonight .

Sorry for self-indlugent post .

What a cow - I am not surprised you were upset. Well covered at this age is good.
Am now even more glad I passed on the nct picnic yesterday

Oh Sponge . I know I haven't met you or Alex but the pictures you've posted on fb show the most beautiful, happy family. If you really were a blob, you wouldn't have that lovely cheekboney smile. You clearly have some quite rude friends, or else they think you have a much thicker skin than you really do have.

Viva sympathy here!

Thanks for all the kind words about my father. They are keeping him in another night as his blood oxygen levels are low, but apparently not horribly so. I think they need to check with the hospital that generally looks after him (he's asthmatic and has had a bypass), to see if they are on a par with his typical levels, or something. I'll stop pretending I know what I'm talking about now!

Viva - so sorry to hear you've been at work and then on call, sympathetic hugs coming your way

Rolf - how's your Dad, that phone call must have been awful to receive

BDQ - bound to be a dull weekend after all the birthday celebrations!

Poppy - everything here is moving higher up the shelves!!

Well ethan has had an eating day today - started off this morning by rapidly tucking into a jaffa cake dropped to the bottom of the cupboard, he'd never had one before and LOVED it!! Continued on a healthier note until I went to get him from his afternoon nap - he's been chomping away on the top of his cot and had actually got some wood off with his teeth. It was a cheap one and the wood is very soft but even so I was a bit

Sponge that's a terrible thing for someone to say. It's at best thoughtless and at worse really mean. I hope you can put it out of your head quickly. I've only seen pics of A on fb and he looks like a normal healthy boy to me. You certainly didn't look fat in the last lot of photos of you either btw, I thought you looked lovely in A's naming ceremony pics.

Oh Sponge - you could well do without people like that in your life, what an awful thing to say. How dare she judge you and Alex?Did you respond? I'd have felt like shoving her face in the cake!!!

That's appalling re the cot Deb. No matter the price, it should be fit for purpose and for a cot that means withstanding a bit of normal baby wear and tear (like biting).

On a similar but completely different note, I saw some baby jeans in M&S today and they had pretend splattered paint on them. The pretend 'paint' didn't take much to flake off with a finger nail which I thought was pretty poor. Obviously its not actually paint, but I dont suppose clothes dye is that much better!

Bdq agree re m and s- have had concerns re decorative buttons on their stuff.
Deb- if there were any shelves I would- she had already tipped water all over the coffee table, commando rolled through the Sunday papers, done usual bin run- I was exhausted. But good news re ethan - if not his cot!!!

at the cot, Deb

I've just been to my Dad's house to pick up something for him, and it's in the most awful state . I knew it was bad as he'd stopped letting anyone come in, but I hadn't realised quite how bad it is. For years he hasn't let anyone help him and it's now got so bad that sorting it out will be a huge job. Even if he'll let me (and it's a big if) I just don't know how I'd manage it. When he comes out of hospital he's going to have a community nurse visit him, and he'll be so upset and embarassed about the state of the house.

Oh Rolf, that's so sad. Do you have other family that could help sort it out? PResumably he knows you've been round, so maybe it'll be easier to persuade him to let you sort it out before community nurses etc come round.

Oh Rolf, what a situation, would he let a third party in? Cleaner? Maybe now he knows you've been in, he'll accept that things have to change?

Rolf am so sorry re your dad. Is it possible to get a company to do one off spring clean before he gets home? Can see how it must be very difficult for your dad. I know that my mil is equally sensitive about this type of thing

Morning everyone,

Rolf hope your dad gets out of hospital today and that you manage to get his house sorted.

Amber - I hope Luke is a lot better now. How scary for you.

Sponge - that woman sounds like an idiot, what a ridiculous thing to say! Babies need a bit of padding at this age and it's great that he tucks in to his food. I think I would be avoiding having anything to do with her if I was you.
The IVF conversation is shocking as well, what are people thinking when they say these things? Well obviously they are not thinking.

Deb - pleased to hear about the jaffa cake, not sure there are so many calories in cot though!

Viva - hope your shift went OK and that you weren't too busy on call last night.

Five - do you get to go to Camp Bestival as well? I'm a little embarassed to admit that I was also watching Total Wipeout as well, there wasn't a right lot else on, I watched it thinking I would struggle to do any of the things they do, I have enough trouble heaving myself out of a swimming pool (it's an elegant sight).

Sponge - will be following your double buggy investigations with interest, let us know which one you decide on.

Thanks for all the sympathy on the morning sickness, it has been quite a bit better until this morning when (and this might be TMI) I was just walking across the kitchen and with no warning at all was just suddenly sick all over the floor, felt fine, just a little shocked!

The lethargy however is getting me down a bit, DH had a few days off at the end of last week and was fairly shocked at how little I was managing to do, I can quite happily sleep all afternoon if given the chance. The house is a tip, you can't actually walk across our sitting room anymore without falling over loads of toys and setting off all the noisy ones! Am sat next to a massive pile of paperwork that I should be sorting out now but I just can't be bothered to do any of it.

We did manage to have a day out on saturday, we went to Belton House in Grantham, it was lovely. We all went on the miniature train, which went fairly fast considering what was holding us in (nothing), I was scared! J however sat there with a particularly unimpressed look on his face and spent a while studying his toes!

Right I will stop rambling on now, will probably get back to eating and napping and not doing anything productive.

Amber how is Luke today?

Thanks so much for being so kind about my father. The house at the moment is so messy as to be uncleanable. It needs a big sort-out with a skip before we could get professional cleaners in, and I don't think he'd let me do it. I did it for him a few years ago - we filled 2 skips and did about 10 runs to the tip - and although he was around whilst we did it, he hated it and it caused tensions that took literally years to resolve.

I also did a clear out when he had his bypass operation. They tried to postpone the op at the last minute and send him home for a few days, and I called the consultant's secretary and told her that I wasn't picking him up as his bed was covered in furniture, and wouldn't let him in the house until they'd done the op! They thought I was a right cow but it worked.

Rolf- that sounds very like my grandma's house. Except hers was really really bad. There were bedrooms you couldn't actually walk into they were so full of crap,and the rest of the house had little paths through piles of junk and newspapers. It took lots of skips to get rid of it all and she was really angry and humiliated that she was forced to do it. It is a horrible situation all round .

Deb - must put jaffa cakes on my shopping list...

Sponge - I am appalled. Honestly, who are these people? It is no reflection on you or A, all it does is speak volumes about who they are.

Ktpie - yuck. I once had to vomit halfway through ds1's tea when pg with dd and just managed to make it to the sink. Poor chap was stuck in his highchair just feet away as I threw up for England. Just a few more weeks though and it will start to improve

Hi everyone. I've been lurking, but every time I've tried to post, I've been interrrupted. I've also been wiped out for the past week - some sort of stomach bug, added to rubbish nights with B....

Rolf, sorry to hear about your dad's accident and the state of the house. I hope he is ok today, and you find a way round it. BTW, I noticed your question about FitFlops - no, I still have buns of lard rather than steel. I will persevere though.

BDQ and Viva - have sort of lost where we were with a meet up - did I see something about mid August though? At the moment, that's fine for me. Loved your birthday pics on FB, and BDQ, well done on the cake (and the frock - you look great).

Sponge, are you biting your tongue when people are saying these unbelievably crass and stupid things? I think I would have asked (very loudly) the bitch at NCT to repeat herself and done my best to embarrass her.

Amber, how is Luke?

I have loads to do this week... job stuff, tons of things to sort out before going on holiday on Sunday, a pile of paperwork and banking... Can't be bothered with ANY of it!

sponge am so and on your behalf!! I absolutely find it amazing how anyone can be so rude. Why on earth are people so judgemental and how did they manage to grow up without learning any basic manners! Am astounded. You must quite rightly be furious. Stupid cow.

bdq thanks for your comment on the nursery - better than I am prepared for him just to keep crying when dropped off. I think I was naively expecting him to get used to it, but now you've said that, a couple more people have also said that they often just do cry when left off, and then are fine afterwards

rolf - sorry to hear about your dad. That must be hard re. the house - hope you get something sorted

amber how is luke?

Whinegums - I am still a lardarse but one with lovely comfy feet!

Sybil if you don't mind my asking, how did you persuade your grandma to get her house cleared? Did relatives do it or professionals? How did you keep the mess from coming back? Please ignore me and accept my apologies if I'm being too nosey, but I really don't know what to do. He's back from hospital now, thank goodness, and feeling very stiff but he's glad to be home.

Sponge, I cannot believe that man . What a tit. I hate that attitude of 'just accept it, it's nature's way' - only ever said by people who have never suffered the pain of infertility. I am glad you gave him what for, I hope he is feeling really bad and his wife gave him a good talking to. And that woman at NCT, well words fail me, Alex is not fat at all. Silly cow.

Hi allnew/MrMS! How are you settling in up north?

Systemsaddict hasn't been on for ages has she?

Rolf, sorry about your dad, hope he lets you help him - he is lucky to have you.

I have just got back from Italy which was amazing . We had such a lovely time child free for two days! I missed T and E and couldn't wait to get back this morn to see them - two days is as long as I would like to be away from them, a bit too long really, but it was so nice to not have to think about them all the time, change all their nappies, bath them and feed them etc. They were good as gold for my mum, she said they were a credit to us and didn't seem to notice we weren't there. But as soon as I got back E threw herself on the floor and started crying/screaming and T was a bit upset too. E cried for about half an hour and wouldn't let me put her down . But she is fine now. Mum says all my sister's kids have been the same - fine when the mum is away but then crying when they see them again! I am going back to work on Wed so I am leaving them again . I hope they'll be OK!

welcome back neenz . Did you see that I met your FiL?

Neenz glad you had good weekend and twins were ok.
Rolf fitflops are so comfy aren't there- glad your dad is home even if doesn't solve your dilemma re his house.

Whinegums, I'll message you and viva later on fb when I can get to the computer and have two hands free...

Waves to everyone else!