June 2008: birthdays, bunting and bumps make mummy a little bit tired!

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Bring it on!!!

Thanks Poppy and Viva

Viva - He was 10 days late

Poppy - Ethan loves bins too

That's good to hear deb- after an unsucessful attempt at lunch am considering putting her food in the bin as more chance of it being eaten

Jamie loves bins too, how weird!

Deb, we've not had the problem of skinny babies here, but I think sybil's advice is pretty sound - and she's right about everyone bugging us in a couple of years to make sure our LOs are not overweight! You just can't win .

Way to go on your boys' school reports - and the pics were lovely .

Ali, yes the comparison between P and E must have been quite a sight! I don't think Alex is far off P now in terms of weight, but he's a wee bit shorter from memory. He certainly weighs a ton to pick up now .

Amber, so sorry to hear about Luke - how worrying for you. I don't think containment is an issue anymore now - even our local special needs school hasn't closed despite the serious underlying health issues that many of the children have. Hope he's on the mend soon and that meanwhile calpol and sleep is helping him to ride it out. Keep us posted.

BDQ, parents' evenings?!!! Wow! What on earth do they tell you? Mind you, one of my London friends who's son left nursery a couple of years ago to go to school had a graduation ceremony - and, I kid you not, they even had small caps and gowns to wear!! Screwy!

Yes, weather is 'good' here (cold in other words!), but we have our NCT 1st birthday BBQ tomorrow so we're kind of hoping for a bit of sun for afew hours - just not 30 degrees!

popppy, Alex is also obsessed with bins so they have all been removed from reach or hidden .

Hi to everyone else.

Oh, and a quick AIBU for you: had some friends round last night, a couple. I see alot of the wife and get on really well with her, less keen on her dh. Anyway, we start talking about My Sister's Keeper the book about saviour siblings and this leads on to a general discussion about medical advances and her dh launched into this whole thing about how he didn't agree with IVF, people should accept their IF and adopt .

I was stunned. Firstly this guy had no problem conceiving either of their two kids, and secondly he knows exactly how A was conceived and the heartache we went through.

AIBU to be really upset that he can sit in my house and tell me that they don't agree with the way I conceived my child and have little sympathy with what I went through. M is livid.

Right, got that off my chest - off to watch the last episode of Torchwood which we recorded last night.

Erm sponge I don't think you are being unreasonable - he sounds like a twat.
Lol re the nursery graduation but ibthink it's nice that they do the parents evening as does show commitment to keeping parents informed.

Amber how is Luke? And how are you?

Just wrote a page long post of answers to everyone and it's gone so in brief:

Bins - Luke loves em
Food - he eats all nursery food and feck all of mine unless I blend it or it's toast
Weight - dunno - he looks alright so that's good enough for me

Sponge - wrote the longest bit on your AIBU - outrageous! Did you confront him?

Luke - thanks all for kind words - he's better today than yesterday although he feels like you could fry an egg on him. He has eaten a few spponfuls of food and a couple of mouthfuls of toast which is an improvement. Hoping he'll be better still tomorrow. I will never know if he really does have swine flu. i hope he does so he can get some immunity and we won't have to go through all this again if it isn't...

hi to all - will b back to post properly at some point!

Quick hello to everyone

I don't know what Thea weighs but I'm willing to bet that she's dropped down the centiles. She was 8lb 9oz at birth and when she had her last check (it was a development check) the hv suggested that I bring her in to the clinic a few weeks later to have her weighed as she'd dropped centiles. Exactly the same thing happened with DD1 and I added cream and cheese to her food where appropriate. I think Thea seems very healthy and happy, her sleep isn't great but isn't terrible, and I just don't think that stuffing food with cheese and cream for the sake of it is very wholesome. She has days when she doesn't eat much and days when she eats more.

Sponge I think that is very rude and insensitive of your friend's husband. Whatever his views are on IVF, he should realise that in your house he should keep them to himself and be glad that his friends have the baby they've longed for.

Well said Rolf re food. I have no idea how much Edie weighs as haven't been near hv in months and we didn't get a developmental check due to hv shortages here ( I will resist ranting in a let down fashion about my experience of ante and post natal care on the nhs).

Anmber, that's great news - like you say, in some ways it would be good if it was a mild dose of SF so you don't have to worry about it again.

Thanks for the comments on my AIBU - yes, we did confront him and basically said he had no fecking idea what he was talking about cos he'd never had to face any kind of infertility at all. I'm sure there are many people in RL, and on here, who have v strong views against IVF but you're right, to express them to us in our house is just unbelieavable. We had always said ourselves that we would never have IVF (not for moral reasons, but because the whole thing just looked too horrendous - which it is ), but we changed our mind in a heartbeat when I was told about my tubes.

Dh asked him whether he thought all medical advances were abnormal, i.e. heart transplants, kidney dialysis, etc. He replied that in those cases people were sick and needed treatment. Dh replied "and my wife was sick and A made her better". How sweet is that? I nearly cried.

Anyway, we paid for it so it's no one else's fecking business quite frankly! Right, rant over again!

good on you (and that is such a lvoely thing for your dh to say) -how did he react when you pulled him up on it?

and agree with sponge amber that there is some merit (although I know it doesn't feel like it) at getting SF out the way.

Right back to watching the road crash that is katie price on tv - I'm torn about what I think about her.

Well done Sponge.

Amber I am glad that Luke is a bit better.

Seb is just under 10kg at 13months so a skinny runt, he is just under the 50th percentile for height and weight, DD is 91st for height and 98th for weight, which she has always been on, so 2 completely different children.

Right no DH, DC's in bed so wine and west wing for me tonight.

Oh and DD has decided she wants to participate in Total Wipeout

is that the one with the water games? my dsd is obsessed with it.

Yes, she started clapping when they did something really well, shouted splash when they fell in the water and cired when it finished

glad you had a good holiday.

Thanks guys, yes poppy it was v sweet . Bless him. The guy was a bit taken aback and started going about how it was just his opinion - an uninformed one, was my retort! His wife looked v embarrassed, poor thing .

Have posted this thread if anyone has any opinions:

double buggies

5, thanks for your input - you're definitely a fan of the P&T aren't you?! Out of interest, what's the age gap between your two, and which P&T have you got?

Oh, and enjoy WW - which series are you watching?

2.5 age gap, I do a lot of walking and it is easy to push, easy to fold up, can get dog and it in the back, we have the sport. Look on ebay as there are usually lots on there and they keep there value well.

Oh and series 4

Sponge - I am shocked that your friend's dh was so rude and insensitive, how did your friend react, was she embarassed. I am really touched by M's reply to him though - how sweet is that?

btw - what did you think of Torchwood? Bit traumatic to watch at times eh?

Thanks again for all the skinny/heavy baby talk, I do feel much more level headed about it now.He's had a much better day today with eating.

5, love that series - very sad at the end .

Dh is looking at P&T's on ebay at the moment!

Deb, yes she was embarrassed - and said to him that it was lucky they didn't need IVF cos she completely disagreed with him! I suspect they had some interesting conversations when they got home.

Dh was v sweet - he is very protective of me, and remembers very clearly the pain I went through as we struggled to have our babies . The thing is we're so used to these ignorant attitudes, as IVF is often discussed on the news and you always have people phoning/emailing in going "just accept it", "just adopt", "we have too many chldren in the world anyway", blah, blah, blah. And you can bet your bottom dollar, every time that they have just popped out a couple of kids exactly when they wanted them. Ignorant b*&%ards . Just never had to listen to it in my own lounge before .

As for Torchwood - very disturbing . I said to dh that I'm afraid I couldn't sacrifice my LO, even if it would save millions . It was hard going though - think if I'd known what it was about I would have avoided it

Just to say that this thread is struggling to load again, we are also moving ou on Friday for 10 days so may not be on for a while.

I love the West Wing too. I think we're on series 5. We're trying to ration it!

I got a phone call a few hours ago from the police. They were with my Dad - he'd been in a car accident. He's ok, but what a scary phone call. Apparently he was on a roundabout on a dual carriageway, his brakes failed, he crashed into the central reservation thing and his engine caught fire (or maybe just started smoking). Thank goodness there were no other cars involved but there must have been people going the other way who called 999 as the emergency services got to him very quickly.

The policeman was able to put Dad on the phone so I could be reassured that he was ok. My brother and I went up to the hospital to see him (they are keeping him in overnight) and he looked very shaken. He's been extremely lucky, although I reckon he'll be very uncomfortable tomorrow as he's got a bump on his head, bruised his back and cut his hand. Very very upsetting. I've just got home and am very trembly.

Rolf, how very very scary - you poor thing. I'm sure he will be very stiff and sore today - long hot bath in order .

Hope he's ok to come home today and convalesce (sp?).

Hope you're ok too - what a nasty shock on a Saturday night .

5`, are you moving out to have work done?

Rolf how very scary, hope he is OK and that you are too.

Sponge no we have rented the house to the organisers of Camp Bestival so we are homeless, work starts hopefully in November.

Viva, S was very overdue too, you might be onto something there... Let me know about the 17th.

Sponge, I was appalled to read about your 'friend'. How terribly insensitive of him.

I was very surprised to be invited to a parents evening. It was nice to be able to catch up with the staff without babies crawling round your ankles, but I suspect we'll get a bit more out of it when he's older!

Rolf, good point about stuffing babies with cream and cheese not necessarily being wholesome. Cream may be high in fat but otherwise it's nutrional value is pretty limited. If babies fill up on such high fat food surely it leaves no room for more nutritionally worthy food.

Deb glad you're feeling more comfortable about ethan's eating.

Rolf that's awful about your dad. Hope he's ok today

Amber, how's Luke?

Ok that's me caught up. Need to go and make breakfast then decide what to do today to keep us all entertained!

Rolf how frightening, glad your Dad is OK.

5 good luck with the homelessness!

Sponge at that person. How insensitive, narrow-minded and rude.

BDQ we also had a parents evening at C's nursery - hilarious! Is it a careshare nursery that S is at? (although C's changed nursery now to a more convenient one)

amber glad to hear that Luke is a bit better

I'm at work, Pete is taking C swimming and to the park without me. boo.