August 2008 - Warning! Stunt Babies At Work

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Here we all are

Miamla I wrote you a long supportive message but deleted it because I think it turned into a personal rant expressing my own personal relationship issues at the moment. In short, Life's hard on a couple...add kids to the mix and it only gets a little harder.

no1 you;re making sense.
re no bf for a few days poor you.

Albs I qgreed with DH that I would give same as lunch but pureed, but today we had prawn risotto and it seems a bit odd to puree that so it is bananana and eggy bread. (mine with extra sugar)

Usual solids are
Breakie - porridge, fresh fruit and yoghurt
Lunch around 12.30 same as us
Tea at 4ish whatever I can think of
supper at 6.30 weatabix, yoghurt and fruit. Though DH wants to add something "proper" to this aswell.

No1 it must be so frustrating to see your hard work be undone by DH. I realise that I have been guilty of this in the past but now I jusst tell myself that if I take Izzy into our bed then it will just make her sleep worse.

I'm going bonkers. I thought you were BLW steaky. Or is izzy feeding herself with a spoon ?

v confused albs . Nothing new there .

Albs you are not going bonkers, my DH might be. We were trying BLW but compromises had to be made to avoid DH exploding with pent up control-freakery.

Breakfast and lunch Iwwy feeds herself, I make my porridge thick so you can pick it up.

Weatabix and yoghurt are spoon fed, despite her being able to use a spoon she chooses to just chew the wrong end at the moment. The newly introduced high tea will be spoonfed if it is pureed so as DH believes otherwise she wont eat enough if she feeds herself.

Him being the expert and all he cooked her beef, carrot and potatoe yesterday lunch. He mashed it up and tried to feed her, would she have any of it? course not, despite being wuite keen on all of those things. So in the end I think she ate half a tomato and half an apricot for lunch. I did very well not to laugh or say "I told you so". I think I just said something along the lines of, "it can be frustrating cant it'

He sees it as his role as teh adult to forcefeed ensure that she gets the proper amount of food, whereas I just think, give her loads of stuff to choose from and some i bound to go in.

The three poos she has had today tell me that there is definately food going in!!

gold star to anyone that understood that appalling typing. I blame the keyboard.

I"m confused about something....

If BM/formula has the highest calorie content then if I need to inrease Izzys calorie intacke should I not just continue feeding as much AND add solids?
Ah just reread TSs comme,nt about Reese and ff in the day, is that what I mean?

Oh so confussled and I am guessing that since there isn't a volume control and a sleep switch there is not going to be a BF off / Cows mil on switch on Izzy either.

ooh am v impressed at your v grown up self restraint. I could never say anything along the lines of "it can be v frustrating can't it"? I always moan or gloat .

ALBSSSSSSSSS!!

Actually especially self controlled as he was being shouty and rude. I just sat there saying things like, 3oplease dont shout at me, you are being rude to me, we agreed not to do that"

Anyway I leave all the moaning and gloating to him, he is a bad loser and a bad winner on that front.

Right lil miss demanding some attention. T'ra

re cows milk. We don't have a lot of ebm left in the freezer and i think we have maybe 3 cartons of formula (not used for 2 months - yay me), so once they're all gone (ie when i'm out and dh has to give ds a milk feed) i think we'll move over the cows milk.

I'm a snob though and hate toddlers with a bottle . I know there is nothing wrong with it, but it's my own crazy thing i guess. I switched dd over to a cup (avent magic cup then tommee tippe thing with soft spout) at almost dead on a year and i think that with ds once cows milk comes into it we'll give it in a beaker not the bottle. of course he may refuse beaker etc but we'll see.

Intending to bf for a while longer though. not thought about if i'll let him self wean or if i'll do it at some stage. i guess i don't need to give him cows milk unless i'm not there. . or what? no idea, this is all new to me, as dd was on ff by now so it was a simple swap.

la la la. rattling on to myself .

No1 That's good news that your DH is getting the need to be consistent about bedhopping. My DH sleeps through it all quite happily so I've had no such interference.

Have had another tetchy sweaty time with 3 kids at dd's swimming lesson, DH says we should quit as it stresses me out so much. I had already decided not to go back in Sep as DS1 will be too tired to handle the waiting around. Dizzy How on earth do you manage with all your out-of-school activities? DH says I am spreading myself too thin, running myself ragged and not getting stuff done. I say I am trying to get more me-time by procrastinating about the boring stuff eg furniture shopping and coffee in Ikea vs laying linos / organising a lino-layer.

hi everyone gosh it's been a hectic day
Can't stop for a proper post but albs thought I'd say I've been told it's bad for kids teeth to have a bottle past one apparently!
hope everyone's ok! All good here, hopefully post better tomorrow!

I am lurking but writing a bid document for DH. My main skill is blagging and so bids are my natural medium. A sad state of affairs.

Much support going out to Miamla and Steaky too. VG was spot on as always.

I do think it takes men a vastly long time to adjust to fatherhood. It is like jumping in to the atlantic here. If someone pushes you in you'll swim but if you had a choice you'd keep dipping your toe in and pulling it back out.

Finding where the line is in your relationship between them finding their feet and taking the piss is the vair vair tricky bit.

I still find it hard at times to let DH make decisions about the children and we have had our biggest row in years this week.

No blow by blow account here, but our conversation this morning after much tiptoeing around each other over the last few days included the following exchange:

Me: 'Just a tip. If you are talking to your feminism SAHM wife it might be a good idea not to say "Well, I'm the one who makes all the money round here"' ever again.'
DH: 'Ah, yes. Point taken.'

Normally we have an unspoken bell curve policy for arguments and ignore the top 20% of ridiculous claims/accusations made on either side but that one I couldn't let pass. We have learnt the hard way how to argue in constructive ways ...

Tiredness has made me a cantankerous fecker in the last few weeks with DD2 waking 5 times a night so there has of course been fault on both sides.

I am currently having to bite my lip on DH's approach to stopping DD1 biting her fingers because he so rarely intervenes to change the way things are done and I need to let him do it when he feels strongly.

It is v. hard to make room for them when you are the primary caregiver and I think it is often right to pull rank when you are the one getting up in the night for example ...

As my grandmother says, bringing a third person into your house is never going to be easy. She has a range of rather less worthy expressions too which I'll share another time.

Sazzles - bad luck there on having to tidy with no audience to show it off to.

What a long-winded old gasbag I am.

Red what a cheeky DH glad you're coming out the other side of your difficult time.

Have not been waching Wimbledon or stuffing my face , rather I have been finally finishing my Mei Tai mk4. It is absolutely beautiful, just hope DS appreciates it . Dark blue sewing in artificial light has made my eyes ache though, and my head is still spinny from my not too good driving lesson this afternoon so am away to my bed.

Hope to elbowDHandDDoffthecomputertomorrow find time to chat tomorrow

He is such a lovely, generous, gorgeous fellow generally that I've put it down to the fact that he is wild-eyed with tiredness.

If he'd meant it I'd have done damage I think ... Having checked that he really didn't I'll just put it through the 'stoopid things said in anger' shredder.

Red, nicely written. That's pretty close to what I attempted earlier and then deleted because it got all soggy with realmelifecrap.

DANG IT! Reese's sippy cup ISN'T leak proof!!!

If I had to count how many times I've had to STOP what I've started today I'd be in the MILLIONS by now.

DD1 got bored with Tennis after the Williams match.

Sazzles I keep meaning to come unload the truck load of praise I have for you over on the Hot Mamas thread. Here's a snip-it. WOOOOOHOOOOOO YYIIIPPPPPPEEEEEEE YOU ARE TOTALLY AWESOME! Shwesh, you wouldn't what else is in this truck.

INTERRUPTION NUMBER 876,563,986

Steaky I understood your ramble earlier. That's the idea...BM & formula are not only higher in calories than whole milk but BM & formula have loads more vitamins/minerals that are necessary for the growing child.

I'm not advocating bottle feeding/breast feeding beyond a year. A cup is best for whatever choice you choose.

There is a "toddler" version of formula (at least here in the US) that is recommended after 12 months.

I've truly been amazed at how much Reese can eat (spoon fed or self fed) before downing 4 to 8 oz of formula at each feed (3 main feeds a day). Tomorrow I'll try to write down when and how much she's eating/drinking because as I sit and ponder this I'm struck with empty-headedness....I know she has at least two other lonebottlefeeds during the day plus those three feeds I mentioned.

What is it with our menfolk?! DH rocked up at 3am this morning . I'd been awake since 1am - not because DS was awake (he incredibly slept till 6.30 with a bit of a cry out at 5am but went quiet before I got to his room). So I was calling DH and texting him to find out where he was (he'd gone to some work function as some visiting VIPs from the UK and US were in town) and he claimed he couldn't get out of it - 'if I want to get promoted blah blah blah' Anyway as usual he wasn't able to resist the temptation of 'just one more' - I know this is a weakness of his as it's one of mine too we've been together for 15 years this year so should know him well enough by now but surely it's a bit different now. Anyway my last text to him (a bit of a cheap tactic) mentioned that I wanted to go home. So he came home and wanted to talk about it. I said I didn't want to but just wanted to sleep as I knew that DS would be up in a couple of hours if not before and he was drunk and I wasn't sure whether I really do want to move back to the UK or if I was just pissed off with him. My problem is I really appreciate all the advantages we have had by coming to live here but I also really miss my family and friends.

Anyway rant over! Gosh your lo's seem to eat and drink a lot. Think DS solid food intake quite good but we are only on 3 bfs a day. I haven't been bfeeding him from 7pm when he goes to sleep till 6am in the morning as even if he wakes he doesn't seem to want milk just a cuddle then cue me trying to put him back in the cot about 10 times with him standing up and crying as I try to make a quick exit...(yawn)

Sorry that was a bit me me me. Sazzles can you post your achievement on here? Still haven't made it across to Hotmamas .

Red yes sometimes engaging brain before speaking is not a concept DH or I grasp sometimes. It's easy to say stupid things in the heat of the moment especially when tired.

morning.

red am amused in a "dhs don't think before opening mouth" way!

expectant. Is coming home an option?

ann yes that too re bottle .