August 2008 - Warning! Stunt Babies At Work

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Here we all are

I'm not excusing his childish behaviour in any way, but sometimes it can be hard for dads to feel any useful part in their DC's lives, especially when they're little and still bf. I have found it hard, especially since I've gone back to work, that even though DH will settle DS to sleep for his naps while I'm at work, if he wakes at night it is always my turn. But, on the odd occasion where he has tried to settle DS, I end up getting worked up and taking over because he 'isn't doing it properly'

Ewww poo, better go wipe...

thanks hots but you've made me cry again. incidentally there's only enough milk because i went out yesterday to get some!

forgot to say, oops, hope you have a really good trip

miamla you poor thing, what a rotten way for your dp to treat you. Hope you manage a nap/something nice for you today. We're all tired but there's no need for such utter selfishness. Hope he comes to his senses and apologises later. I hate the silent treatment, so childish.
How did you get on with that hideous work form? Still no word from my work on either parental leave or 4 day week.

oops have a lovely relaxing break, hope the sun shines on you some of the time at least.

ds is certainly making a habit of sleeping 11pm to 7am, I actually feel quite rested and normal today

sambo yes, form done with a whole lot little help from thelovelyVG vg now you've made me cry! what's the betting that he doesn't read your post.doesn't matter, it helps that you wrote it, thank you, i feel a little less crap.

fortunately DS is on good form today. he's currently on his hands and feet trying to pick up a round block with his mouth

vg are you going cold turkey or phasing out gradually?

vg lol.

miamla hugs. But you know that I'm thinking of you /here for you anyway. Don't you .

day one of new healthy living. ARGH!!!!!!! Drinking lots of water and telling myself I am NOT hungry.

Got dd home as she has a temp and also her and ds have a few spots on their legs .

VG sorry can't help but I also want to give up at a year so any advice would be great. I'm leaving it till then as still a bit worried about his weight in case I really have to go cold turkey.

Miamla no DS not doing well on understanding no just laughs at me too. We had a wake up at 5.30am - seems the LOs are still in-sync. DS walking and standing up quite well now. Sorry to hear DP being an idiot - had hoped he might have come round by now. HP you're right though I too always end up even if he gets up with DS in the night because otherwise I sit there listening to DS crying and can't sleep anyway.

Miamla I could have written your posts, apart from the bit about tree pruning. It is so trying isn't it? As you have to be the one keeping your temper or not bursting into tears because that just causes more agro.
However in fairness to the Mansteak he has got better at getting up in the night. I think it is just a long slow haul of re-education for them.

I have fb'd you my number if you want to have a good moan.

VG you wise lady you.

Shitey night here, though probably not as bad as some. Iz took ages to settle and then woke at half midnight and again at 3is and took two hours to settle. Why little girl Why?

This morning I have unblocked the bathroom sink so now it drains properly again, but unfortunately only into a bucket under the pipe as the seal has gone on the pipes. DH not going to be best pleased but it would have been the same if he did it, but with swearing and throwing of wrenches.

I too want to phase out BFing in the next couple of months. Izzy has at least 4 feeds a day, sometimes 5 and at the moment a couple at night - though I am not sure how much these are comfort or hunger.

I am replacing her occasional afternoon feed with a solid tea so she will be on three 3 meals and afternoon tea and the BFs when she wakes, before naps and at bedtime.

btw (vg* ythe lol was at your post to miamla's dp not about bf or anything - x posting me thinks.

re bfing i think the dr gave quite sensible advice. Though I know dd had 2-3 cups of milk a day for a good while, water at meals and milk at other times...

My ds will not eeat off a spoon. well he will if you hand it to him but very little of that makes it into his mouth. SO we are truly BLWing now. Sometimes makes family meals more complex as where i might have done rice or couscous i have to rethink. Though i guess he would either learn to pick up rice etc in mounds or else be fed those bits .

steaky what are you giving as afternoon tea?

I think ds needs an afternoon snack as it is a long time from 12-1 lunch (depends on day) and 6pm dinner. he has 2-3 bfs in there between those meals but I think he needs solid food inside him. He gets very fractious when hungry - and can be v upset at dinner time until given food .

VG no unfortunately he's never taken a bottle and only really sips out of a cup and also prefers water. One thing I can be sure of is that he gets enough vitamin D in the form of sunshine .He has cereal with cowsmilk in the morning.

albs H obviously has hangry tendencies

Miamla nothing to add to VG's world class analysis of the situation, except this large slice of home made apricot tart

Hope you're not all as sweaty and irritable as we are here. It is actually too hot to go outside, DS and I are hiding in the house after another stupid early rising fiasco and a trip to soft play/lunch with friends.

VG I think Reese continued her night feeds because she wasn't getting the full amount of nutrition she needed during the day. I was trying to be a good mommy and give her lots of food-foods when what she needed was more formula in the daylight. To get her off of night feeds I stopped food-foods for a couple of days, offering only formula at feeding times, then giving a bit of rice cereal at bed followed by a bottle (8pm). Night one was difficult but we made it through til 6:30am. Night two easier. Night three PERFECT! We've only had one night feed since and that was one day of our travels this past weekend. I think that was due to all the confusion/travel. After the 3rd day I reintroduced food-foods at normal feeding intervals PLUS formula in a bottle at the end of each meal. Her intake during the day DOUBLED in just 4 days time. As for the introduction of milk versus using a formula...you would have to add a daily vitamin if you switched to the milk. You would not have to do that if you switched from bf to formula (cup or bottle). That kellymom link a few pages back that I think sambo gave me had really good info on the subject.

Ds hasn't had a proper bf in about 3/4 days.
Didn't want to wean off yet, but will just go with wahtever he wants.
He had a small bf in the night, but I still ended up going down for a bottle of f.
I am just too tired to do the offering water, as can't deal with the crying atm.
I have told dh that something has got to change re dcs sleep routines. I can deal with ds waking,but dd should be in HER bed and sleeping all night by now.
She used to sleep so well but all went tits up whends arrived.
I did so well with the rapid return a while back, it was hard work and heartbreaking to do it. Most importantly it worked. When dh is off he undoes all my hard work for the 'quiet life'. Yet he moans about the lack of sleep. He has agreed to do it and stick to it, and we will start when he is off work next week. I understand when he works 12 hour shifts it is easier to let dd just hop in our bed, but would be ewasier to deal with 1 child waking in the night than 2.
Does that make sense or am I rambling as usual