Dec 08 mums - embuggerance to it all - sleep or no sleep we love our babes

[waitinggirl]

i hope people don't mind, i took the bull by the horns and did it. title a bit naff, but more important the thread exists rather than search for a better title. hope i haven't stolen anyone's thunder...

I know Veggie!! There is some washing up to do but I can't do it!!

Christening pics!!

Lovely pics Kayz, your boys are gorgeous.

Hello ladies,

Am back from hols and will confess I have not read up on whats been happening so hope you are all well and the lo's are behaving.

Still o further on with my potential redundancy. Seems like I have been forgotten, so I should find out for definite on the 22 July

I am officially a crap mother i have decided. DS refuses to settle at night anymore and its normally gone 9pm (after constant rocking and bouncing) before he is in bed. He then wakes on and off most off the night polishing off several bottles throughout the night (BF stopped totally now - he much prefers the bottle). He usually rises for the day about 5am. I have tried everything and don't know what to do. Needless to say our holiday was pants as I was up all night and knackered all day.

DD and I seem to end up at each other all day too as I am so tired the slightest thing she does wrong and I am shouting at her. Today she told me I am a bad mummy and she doesn't like me anymore. She then cried for her Dad which she has NEVER done.

Sorry for such a me post after I've not been on for a while & hello to some of the newbies I've noticed. I'm off to bed and will try to be more positive tomorrow.

oh Daisy poor you You are NOT a crap mother. Your dd may not like you today but she loves you and I'm certain you'll soon be her favourite playmate again. I think in your absence a number of the babies have been making life hard for their mummies so you aren't alone. How old is your dd? Sorry I forget! How do you feel about stopping BF? I really hope you get a better night tonight...if it's any consolation Phoebe is up several times a night for BF and, whereas she used to settle nicely for naps and night sleep, she has now decided to squawk the moment she goes in her cot - I think it's just to keep me on my toes - just in case I was starting to think I'd sussed this baby thing!
Anyway - she has heard my thoughts and promptly woken up...off to do my duty... xxx

OH bless you daisy, I am sure it is just a phase with DD. My DD1(aged 4) can be a tricky bugger and knows exactly which buttons to press when it suits her. She often isn't my friend either, but I just tell her (and occasionally myself!) that I am her friend forever and I will be here for her when she is ready to talk to me. Never lasts that long, but horrid at the time.

Been hungover and tired all day, so done very little. Back to work tomorrow and dreading leaving M. Will be in to check on everything in the pm. Sleep well xxxx

Best of luck for tomorrow Sybil. Will be thinking of you. I know you've done it before - but am sure it doesn't make it any easier. He will be fine though - always much harder on you. Hope that you get to the bottom of what's happening at work as well. Maybe try to focus on enjoying dry clean clothes and hot coffee and going to the loo in peace....

Also Daisy just to offer some solidarity. You are in no way a bad mother. Mums really do get the rough end of it sometimes. Am sure she doesn't know what she's saying. I regularly told my parents I didn't like them (including writing my Dad a note that I hand delivered saying 'dear daddy, i hate you, love lal). And I love them to bits .

Good nights all xxx

Oh Daisy you poor thing it's bad enough having a bad time of it at home, but on your holidays too. I know how hard it is to be bickering with LO's. If DS1 ever says anything like that I usually say 'I've made you really angry haven't I? Well I still love you' doesn't make me feel that much better but I kind of feel like it's passing the peace pipe.

Syb goodluck with tomorrow, when I have my morning coffee in my PJ's I will imagine you at your office looking all spruced up and posh.

DH cleaned out the basement today, it looks great but the house and the backgarden looks a bit like we are just moving in, crap, bags and boxes everywhere. The good news is I found DS1's redbook so once it's dried out a bit I can compare the boys. The bad news is we have had a few victims to the basement flood. Mostly old clothes (no that bad gives me an excuse to shop) that I was hoping to fit back into one day, some of our rockclimbing gear, and some cool posters I have picked up while travelling in France & Russia. But in general most things that where important are ok. DH has done a brilliant job of making a raised area to put the stuff we return down there back down. However we are going to try to get rid of some stuff on Ebay. I've never sold stuff on eBay before but will start taking photos and then see how it goes.

Morning all.

Thanks for the support. DD will be 3 in August. I love her so much but by gosh she winds me up.

DS was slightly better last night. TBH his sleeping has gone up the wall since the BF stopped. Its my own fault as when I introduced more than one bottle of formula my supply began to dwindle a bit and it took ages for the let down. So DS ended up screaming for food and nowt coming out! I thought I was okay with it, and I am DS almost 7.5 mths now. BUt my hormones have been everywhere since. I'm hoping they settle soon.

syb Good luck for today. I have to return some forms to work today about whether or not I want to be made redundant. They should have been back 2 weeks ago, but I was left out of the loop -

Morning,

DH is back at work today after a week off. My Dad is still here at the minute so DS1 isn't being too much of a pain.

Meant to be having my blood tests today but I feel really ill! So going to rearrange it.

Hope you are all well.

Hi all,

Had lovely weekend catching up with family I hadn't seen in years, and it was nice for them to meet ds and dh. Paris was lovely - beautiful weather, lovely hotel (although a little non-French feeling) however we were hardly in the room and it did have much needed aircon for night time!) Walked everywhere, Didn't doing any of the lineing up to go in places as I'd done it in the past and just wanted to walk a lot. We think about 8 or 9 miles in total!! Lucky, as we had many a lovely baguette, gooey cheese, olives and much red cheerfulness to work off!! Had a lovely Nicoise salad for lunch on Saturday, and many coffee breaks soaking up the atmosphere on the bustling sidewalks. It was the smoking that I had forgotton about though! Everyone, all the time smoking really makes you appreciate the non-smoking pubs and restaurants in the UK. Ds was a trooper and did really well in the buggy in such hot weather. He kept getting hot and sweaty but rarely complained at all as long as he got his drink when he was thirsty. The Eurostar was brilliant! Couldn't believe how fast it was!! Had a melt down on the way though as I was meeting dh at St. Pancras, and had to change trains -both stations all lifts broken!!!! Why are the lifts always broken when the buggy is loaded with about 10kg of extra gear!!! Someone helped me once, but the next time I couldn't be assed with getting help so just carried the whole thing up stairs - not one of my best idea's on an empty stomach, however neither was my idea for dh to go straight to the station from work since he's always so late - this time he managed to park up at the bar for over an hour waiting for me!

Anyway, have read through quickly, but it was a while ago and have forgotton a lot

All this talk of lunch in Paris - wow!
Yes tennis was edge of the seat type stuff... was really wanting Roddick to win it. He looked so sad.

Lal glad you will be around more

Arti, glad you had success with the sleep thing - I think we have a slight problem with a not completely dark room so I'm going to try and make it pitch black, however he's not doing too badly with the sleeping.

Lady hows the house hunting going? We may well be moving that direction as dh has to put top 4 work location requests in on Wed and will get one of them - hopefully the first. We want to be somewhere out a little bit from London for a bit more room to move and cheaper living costs, however still close enough to get into London if need be etc... Perhaps even back where we were - just not our flat .

sorry - my English is atrocious in the above post

"didn't doing" ??? LOL

and my spelling.....

Oh Kayz hope your ok, do you think your a bit tired after yesterday. Will you have to wait long for another appointment?

Daisy you've done brilliantly with the BF and although it wasn't your intention you seemed to have weaned DS onto formula in nice way. Is DS your last child. I imagine aside from the hormones I'm going to be quite sad when DS2 stops BF cos he is the last baby I will feed. So far he hadn't dropped any feeds but I know when even that starts happening I'll be a little

Feeling really vague and greyheaded today, partially lack of sleep and getting over this cold. DS1 was my doctor yesterday and apparently my temperature was 5000 degrees and my pulse was a motorbike. Not sure what that means but it doesn't sound good.

Is anyone here business savvy. DH thinks I'll be able to handle all the accounting type stuff for the limited company. We can pay an accounting firm to sort everything for us but he figures if I was able to register the company I can do the rest. I quite like the idea of having a go but just a bit confused with all the NI and tax stuff. I think I need to let the HRMC about the company but no idea how to sort out our tax, we are both going to draw an income from the company, esp as I will also be using the company to invoice for my course marking work which I will eventually start. Should I do a book keeping course or is it all fairly easy to work out. DH is going to find some book keeping software to sort out all our ins and outs. But am I letting myself in for too much, should we get someone else to do it. Is it a legal requirement to have an accountant?

Right time for coffee, thinking of you Syb!

Oh Daisy, one of DH's workmates is on his honeymoon til tomorrow and the cut off for VR is today, no one was willing to tell him but they weren't going to let him use it as an excuse. In the end DH rang him and broke the news to him, DH also spoke to HR and they let him fill out the paper work on his behalf. A bit rough though. I'm sure in your case it will be fine. If not they would have a discrimination case wouldn't they because you were on Mat leave. I wonder if Spiggy knows what happens in that case.

Hey PMK cross posted glad you had a lovely time, I love walking around Paris, so want to go, once we sort our what is happening with DH's work will look into it. Also Arti have been thinking of Calcot manor too, what else is there to do apart from the spa, is it on nice land, is there any outdoor type stuff to do. Did you think the crèche was good.

PMK I feel your pain on the getting to St pancras with a load, DS1 and I have done the dash to St pancras for the train home many times and it's a difficult at the best of times with no one helping but with no lifts, pain in the bee-hind.

Oh I wanted Andy to win too, he is such a great player but has always pipped by Roger, I so wanted him to do it this time. I was secretly going for him the whole tournament but because everyone was so excited about Murray I didn't want to upset the British. DH and I had a giggle when they where having their photos taken at the end, Andy looked like Stiffler from American pie.

Morning folks, just a quickie, me and Pingu are going to London Zoo today and meeting there at 2pm if anyone fancies joining us?

Tilly and Kayz - glad you had lovely christenings over the w/e...

DaisyD, sorry your hol was a bit checquered. It must be upsetting and wearisome with DD but don't kids only challenge the person they feel most secure with? I hope it picks up for you and also huge sympathies about work. I have had some trouble with my own work last week when you were away and I know how hurtful it is when you feel forgotten/not wanted. Have you been working there a while and will you get decent redundancy? The minimum is one week's pay for every year you have worked there but most firms would pay more (not mine).

Syb, good luck for today. Thinking of you, and waiting anxiously to see how M is in view of the fact I will probably be doing the same soon. How many days are you doing?

PMK - glad Paris sounded so lovely...and exciting about your DH's job. Hope you do move back towards here, that would be ace. I am vaguely looking at houses but am hoping to get the money thing resolved first. There's one which we need to view but it's much more than we could afford, however, it's been on for quite a few weeks now and I wonder if they would take an offer...

Veggie, re: the book keeping - I think it's one of those things that is simple if you know how. So an online tutor might be enough - otherwise they do courses like that at nightschool and stuff, and they will probably begin in September.

Morning everyone, long time no post again from me!

Daisy sorry you had a hard time on holiday and that's rotten about the possibility of redundancy.

Sybil good luck going back to work.

Kayz I hope you feel better soon - too much party stress? I loved the photos, you have two gorgeous children. Your cakes looked fab and definitely nicer than SIL's. (They probably tasted better too as made with love.)

Trace I thought the cake you made for DD1's birthday was fab and helped inspire me for DD's birthday cake (picture on profile in a minute or two). She had her 3rd birthday yesterday and we gave her a fisherprice castle (hence theme for cake). Party went well - we had the paddling pool out and ended with DD going round the garden on her scooter butt naked. Unfortunately, photos not suitable for posting on the internet but they are v funny.

Seriously tempted by trip to Paris but fear I live too far away for affordable daytrip, poo.

LOL!! Veggie - I said that to DH the other day when Roddick / Hewitt were playing (Stiffler)! he really does!

Yeah I had a total meltdown at earls Court and flipped out at the underground staff as they were all standing around in a group with bright orange hi-viz London Underground jackets on and I was late, and I asked them if there were any lifts working and they just said "we're not working at the moment can't help you" I completely came un stuck!! How bout take the damn jackets off then!!!
dh wants to go back again and watch the last stage of the tour

Lady - if you needed me to look after O for the day we could do the great baby exchange at Twyford station or something!

Spot - prob can't do zoo today, as I haven't a bit of food in the flat and can't even wait for a delivery!! have to grit teeth and visit the suppermarket

or the Supermarket rather.....

Just wrote a massive bloody post & its vanished

So far this morning DD has scratched me, slapped me and woken DS from his nap as she wanted to go out. I'm at a loss what to do. Whatever I try I just get 'I want my Daddy'. TBH DH spoils her something silly, and its the main cause of many a row between us. I'm going to sit him down tonight and have a proper chat about how to handle her. We need to be doing the same thing but DH rewards her appaling behaviour with 'treats'.

PMK glad you enjoyed Paris sounds fab.

lady hoe your work woes are sorted soon.

kayz & tilly glad your christenings went well

Daisy... sounds like you're having a tough time. Def have a chat with dh
a-la-supernanny style. I'm no expert but I know you both have to be on the same page and backing each other up consistantly - learnt that the hard way with our dog! otherwise they just play one off the other...