April 2008 - The One Where Our Babies Are All Turning Into Toddlers!

[KnitterInTheNW]

07 March: Ashton, a fourth child for gemprincess, 5lb 13oz @ 34+6
09 March: Ted, a second DS for Daftmoo, 7lb 14oz @ 36+0
21 March: George William, a first baby for KnitterintheNW, 7lb 2.5oz @ 37+3
25 March: Olivia, a second baby for TheMaskedPoster, 7lb 2oz @ 38+4
28 March: Pablo, a third baby and first DS for vacaloca, 7lb 14oz @ 39+4
28 March: Matteo Alexander, a first baby for Gangle @ 38+0 (?)
30 March: A baby girl, a second child for PortAndLemon, 8lb 15oz @ 39+5
02 April: Jak, a baby boy for rainbowdays, 9lb @ 39+1
02 April: A baby boy, a second child for bunyanvillas, 6lb 14oz @ 37+5
02April: Struan, a baby boy for Donnabels, 6lbs 15oz
02 April: A baby boy for mummyofaprincess @39 weeks
03 April: A baby girl for PippiCalzelunghe @38+2weeks
03 April: Aeryn Daisy, a baby girl for Denny185, 9lb 8oz @ 39+3
03 April: Benjamin, a baby boy for Micegg, 8lb 3oz @ 39+4
03 April: Roelof Grové, a first DS for SalLikesCoffee, 7lb 5oz @ 38+5
03 April: A baby boy for siikibam, 6lb 8.5oz @39+1wks
04 April: Matilda, a baby girl for AprilsFoolsBaby 7lb @
05 April: Ellis, a baby girl for MadameOvary, 9lb 12oz @ 40+6
06 April: Henry Peter, a baby boy for Sheds, 7lb 130z @ 40+4
07 April: Sebastian George, a fourth DS for Peachy, 8lb 4oz @ 41+1
07 April: Jack, a first baby for ThePFJ, 7lb 5.5oz @ 41+1
07 April: Lexie Bea, a fourth baby for babywhiting, 8lb 1oz @ 39+4
08 April: Alasdair, a second DS for bunnyrabbit, 8lb 5.5oz @ 40+3
08 April: James Samuel, a third baby for honeybee10, 6lb 7oz @ 37+2
09 April: Zara Mia Martin, a first baby for V1KK1M, 7lb 10oz @ 41+0
09 April: Jasmine, a baby gilr for Niceychops
11 April: Kyran for rdk, 7lb 13oz @ 38+3weeks
11 April: Sebastian James, a second baby for Fleecy, 10lb 2oz @ 40+4
11 April: A baby girl, a first baby for CeylonSapphire, 7lb 12oz @ 41+1
11th April: Florence, a baby girl for LouMoose
12 April: Maya Alice, a first baby for egyptianprincess, 8lb 15.5oz @ 40+3
12 April: Sophia Viviana, a second DD for AussieDivaonaBreak, 6lb 12oz @ 39+3
15 April: Alexander Oliver, a third baby for VictorianSqualor, 10lb 3oz @ 41+0
16 April: Ailish, a first baby for Mollyfloss, 6lb 11oz @ 40+3
16 April: A baby girl, a second baby for elfsmummy, 7lb 13oz @ 41+1
16 April: Zoe, a baby girl, a first baby for ToastAddict, 6lb 10oz @ 39+3
16 April: Jasmin, a baby girl, a first baby for Eggandketchup, 9lb 3oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy for paranoidmumy, 8lb 9oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy, a second son for lorisparkle, 7lb 12.5oz @ 41+6
17 April: Benedict, first baby for LadyBee 9 lb 3oz @ 41 +2
18 April: Millie Grace Jessamy, a baby girl for scorpio1 8lb 9oz @ 41
18 April: Cameron, a second baby for munchkinmum @ 39+5
19 April: Oliver Michael, first baby for bashboid, 7 lb 4 oz at 41 +3
20 April: Samuel, a first baby for Velbels. 8lb15oz at 41+1weeks.
20 April: Angharad Mai, 8lb 4oz, 40+6, first for 7monthsplus
20 April: Emilia, 7lb15oz, a first baby for SuzeM, 40+6
20 April: A baby girl for SushiMama
21 April: Eve, a second baby for OMaLittle, 8lb 4oz @ 39+3
21 April: A second DD for Monmoo
22 April: Sam, a second son for Soph73 @ 40+0
22 April: Molly, a first baby for EllieG, 8lb 8oz? @ 40+5
22 April: Daisy, second baby for AttilaTheHan @ 40 +3
22 April: Zoe Olivia, second daughter for Piccallilli2 7lb 1oz @42+1
22 April: A second DD for blinks.
23 April: Jessica Elizabeth, first baby for BabyBratt @ 40+1 7lb 12oz.
24 April: A baby girl, a second daughter for christmaspixie, 9lb 2oz @ 40+6/41+5
24 April: Miya Jade, baby girl for ShelleySare at 39+4
25 April: Amelie, a first baby for Dondons, 9lb, 41+3 (i think!)
25 April: Aisha, a second baby for Jaq39 7lb 14oz @ 41+4
26 April: Hope Olivia, a second dd for northeastmummy, 7lb 11oz at 41 .
26 April: Gabriel, a third child for Bainmarie @ 41+5
26 April: Eli Michael, a baby boy for LittleMissTurquoise, 7lb 15.5oz @ 40+5
27 April: a baby girl for Ayomi, 6lb 1oz @ 41+0
28 April: Jacob Andrew, a 2nd DS for Kaybeeand2boys, 8lb 4oz @ 41+5
29 April: Thomas Henry, a 2nd DS for TLSM, 7lb 8oz 40+3
30 April: Harry Samuel, a fourth ds for Chipmonkey, 9lb 5oz @ 39+2
30 April: Ellie, a baby girl for Annamama
30 April: A second DD for luckymummy74
01 May: Sophie May, a baby grl for Annieroo, 6lb 5oz @ 41+4
01 May: Euan George, a baby boy for Jenniejennie, 8lb @ 40+4
02 May: Robyn Olivia, a baby girl for soph28, 8lb 1oz @ 42+1
05 May: Nora Martina, a first baby for Eva07, 7lb 8oz @ 41+2
05 May: A baby boy for Beeper, 8lb 10oz @ 41+0
05 May: Gabriella Summer, a first baby for MommyHasAHeadache, 8lb 4oz @ 40+6
06 May: Wilf, 8lb 60z for bigbadmom @ 41+6
07 May: James Andrew, a second ds for Moominsmummy, 8lb 13oz @ 41+5
08 May: Ellie Isabella, a first baby for Carey87, 7 lb 8oz @ 42+1
08 May: Robin David, a 2nd baby for Woollymummy, 8lb 11 oz @ 41+3
09 May: 4 kittens for scorpio's cat!
10 May: Astrid Mary, a second dd for TheShipsCat, 8lb 8oz @ 42+0

Hi Soph. How nice to hear that.

Scorps. I really hope things work out, whichever way they go. Enjoy your steak and chips.

I'm off on a date to the Theatre straight from work. 2nd time at the Southbank in as many weeks. Might even try Giraffe again.....

BR

Hey Soph, great to hear from you again! Great news on work listening to you!

Scorp, well done in finding out all you need to know. Like you say, you might not need it, but it's good to know anyway, I think.
Well, if you have roughly £350 a week, with no rent or ct costs, I think it could work ok if things are properly budgeted for. It's obviously not going to be a life of luxury, but then again - flashy things won't always make you happy, and being a happy family, even without dh there, has to be worth it if it becomes unbearable otherwise.

Would it count towards the money received from (d)h (so deducted from benefits) if he paid for extra things instead of giving you the money? E.g. would it be possible for him to pay for, say, 1 morning nursery a week to give you a break? Or don't you think he'd want to do that voluntarily anyway? Sorry, it's a little hard for me to think of the options without knowing if he'll turn all nasty if you split up.

Thanks for that link, Ladybee. I'm ordering some books from Amazon anyway, so have just added that one. Having not even been a "natural" mom with my first, the book sounds like a really good reality check for the second. It's weird, when I'm with R, everything's perfect, but I remember those first couple of months as hard emotionally. Not the physical side, or the tiredness, but the fact that after so many years of working, I had no idea how not to be in "office mode" when meeting people I don't know closely.

Hopefully it will be easier (well, in that respect at least) as I'm not going to walk straight from the boardroom to the theatre again. In retrospect, not the world's best idea ever...

Sal, if he is willing to say pay half for the kids school shoes or whatever it's something that scorps can decide to declare or not but generally if he pays a bill she has to declare it if he buys 'gifts' she doesn't.

(that's info for you as well scorp, but just answering sal )

Ah ok, thanks VeeEsss. I find the whole tax and benefit thing both confusing and interesting sometimes (read a thread on benefits earlier which got me thinking). I guess speaking to someone in person might be clearer, but hell, some of the info out there is enough to make you want to give up.

Peachy - are you around? I have an autism/asperger related query I wanted to run by you.

Ellie, I'm no Peachy but I might be able to help. Whassup??

He would pay me what CSA says in 'money', then would probably pay a nursery day, or get shoes, or whatever. Whatever husband he may be, he is a fantastic father and he would never leave the children without, or me struggling with them.

There is a drop-in in 2 weeks i can go to at the childrens centre, to get benefit info.

Reilly starts swimming lessons this afternoon at the leisure centre; he has school ones but not every term. Jamie will start in January, at the leisure centre too.

Back to school on Monday, not long to go!

Others with dyspraxic children - do yours twitch, like with hand flapping at exciting or stimulationg things (Xbox, cars racing on floor...etc?). It is driving me mad (in a nice way obv)

Ellie- any chance you could email it to me? Am here to say I am taking abreak; deregistering but hopefully will be back when feelin stronger and just on here, camping etc.

Will bewatching you all though so BEHAVE.

Scorps- you know where I am and will definitely beback before DD2 arrives, if only on this thread.

Sending all the little ones hugs, speak soon when things are better, feel free to email me or facebook me any time. Use peaches and cream 04 at bt internet dot com

That's good, Scorps. There's something really nice knowing that he is a good person, good father, even if he is obviously a bit of an idiot on the relationship front sometimes. Doesn't make him a bad person, some people just don't know how to deal with their own issues, which might be the case here. What I'm trying to say is probably coming out all wrong now, but I mean to say that it is good to know whatever issues he has, he won't try and make your life hard on purpose. Hope all works out well.

Nicer topic - cool, swimming! When I'm home with R, I'm going to start taking him swimming too, but the thought of having to get into a swimming costume in public freaks me out majorly!

Peachy . You are such a big part of this "thread", of Mumsnet for me! (This group, when prenatal, was my introduction to MN - can't imagine MN without you.) Make sure you post on here every now and again, make up complete random names and we can guess who it is! xxx I know you'll be back and all that, but I just want to say now what I have often thought: thank you so much for the advice, chatting, generally listening to my random blabbering whilst hiding your boredom , for being a friend through what feels like a lifetime.

You other lot, no-one dares go anywhere! I'll stamp my feet and huff and everything

Sorry to see you go Peachy, and I'll look forward to you popping back now and then. I hope things aren't too bad for you at the moment, are you sure you couldn't do with some support from us?

Soph, really nice to hear from you again - and congrats on both the job and Sam's progress.

I'm in a big black grumpy mood today, so am going to bugger off and stare into my tea.
Grr. Hurrumph.

What's up, ladybee? Guess the weather's not helping... Glas of wine to cheer you up??

Dunno, just feel a bit overwhelmed and annoyed at myself for not just getting on and doing stuff that needs doing...and then resentful that it's me that has to do it.

DS is a bit grizzly at the moment too (although not all the time), so today needed a lot of attention, which is fine but there was a little voice in the back of my head saying 'you need to make that phonecall/you haven't done that email/have you paid this yet?' ...which just made me end the day feeling wound up.

We have no wine...it's on my list of things to sort

Of course, why this is MY list is another matter altogether.

Damn, hate days like that. Any chance dp could take on a bit more if you say how you feel? Even if only until ds feels better?

Am going to bed now as annoyed with dh over nothing. Think I've got p(ost)ms, as I know I'm being rediculous, but can't help feeling majorly pissed off about something silly. Urgh!

Chat tomorrow, hope you slept ok.

LadyBee, I was feeling like that recently too. What I found that helped was just to do nothing and not expect to do anything for a few days, and now I feel able to get on with it all again. Mine def ties into when I'm due AF, so for a few days each month now I just eat cake and watch telly/play games on the laptop when G is in bed. And G had cbeebies on far more when I'm feeling bleargh. Saves us all a bit I think! It's really tough too isn't it when the little ones need more attention than normal, and especially when we're feeling fed up too. When we have days like that, by the end of the day I just want to shout 'JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!!) but never do of course, might have a few jokey 'get off mummy' putting him down and tickling him's (know there's not meant to be an apostrophe there but it looked better with one!) and that distracts us both into being a bit more tolerant of each others grumpy mood.

Peachy, hope everything's ok and will get sorted by your break. Come back soon though, we'll miss you!

God i have had a month of that feeling now Knitter. I have stayed in alot too - not sure if it helps or not! Almost feels like you should make yourself strong enough to face outside again iyswim

Ladybee hope you feel better soon

Peachy i hope you are ok

Have just contacted Relate. Hope they can see us, i really need some help

Good for you scorps. I think is quite important to get something like that going if you are going to have a chance of working out. Having a third person is a good way to air issues without it descending into tears and tantrums and getting horrible. It may still, but the third person will give focus and bring it together.

peachy - I'll email you, yes please.

BR - I tried to post yesterday and damn work 'puter went kaput so lost it. Essentially - I am working with a young person of 12 who has just been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. I have been doing a bit of reseach and the stats for late diagnosis/poor mental health in future are a bit scary. He is really struggling and I was wondering about what support is useful for young people on ASD? Are there any good resources you know of? What kind of approach to use? Basically, please tell me what to put in my case plan and then I can take all the credit

ladybee - hug to you. When I have those days I go to work and eat cake and pretend I only have myself to worry about. When you are with the child/family it can become too much sometimes....
Have a nice cup of tea and a un-mnetty hug from me x

Wow loads of post to catch up on.....

Chin up to all those feeling down and a virtual glass of whatever you fancy...

peachy please pop in now and again and if we can help in anyway, well, that's what we're here for.

Ellie, that really is a Peachy question as my DS1 is only 6 on Monday. I would say have a look at the NAS. We went on one of the HELP seminar in the summer and it was very informative and extremely helpful. We have excellent support from DS1's school and the Senco at school and DS1 has an IEP which really helped us to understand the areas in which he needs help and the reviews highlight imrovement and progress which is all very positive. He also has 10 mins one to one each day whcih can help in many ways, one of which is to calm him and prepare him for the day.

Do you have his DX report? This should highlight the particular areas in which he has difficulty. It should also list actions that the Paed recommends wchih will help to pin point areas which you and he need to focus i.e. DS1's problems are nearly all social communication. He always plays his games by his rules and everyone else has to follow. We try to get him to listen to others and to join in, or let someone else lead the game. He also has the common issue of problems when finishing an activity so has to have almost a count down to something finishing so he is prepared.

Some children have a safe area at school where they are allowed to go when things are getting too much for them. May be the library or a quiet corner.

Without knowing the child it's difficult to go into specifics but (from what Ive read) it seems most children with Aspergers benefit from a routine, knowing what's coming next, and in what order things will happen.

Is he aware that he is different? There is now a topic within the special needs section in MN Talk specifically for teens and pre-teens. I think it might be worth posting on there as he is at a very pivotal age and MNers with children this age should be able to give you more appropriate advice.

Wow long post...Sorry for waffling!

BR

Scorps. DH and I went through a bit of a bad patch about 2 years ago. I'm not comparing our issues to yours in anyway, or implying I know what you're going through, but Relate saved our relationship and our marriage and there would be no DS2 if it wasn't for them

I really hope they can help you too.

BR

Hey everybody. Just ate a whole pizza on my own. It was good. Thought I'd share (the occasion, not the pizza of course. Oh no no no)

at whole pizza

We have very lush pizza place just down the hill from us.

mmm.... pizza....... must be strong!!

As in 6" or 18"?? One would obviously be much more impressive than the other

Have to read lots of posts now, what are you lot playing at there are pages since i was last on!