Morning all. Firstly, Lal hurrah, that's fantastic news and you must be so relieved
trace huge hugs coming to you across the ether, really hope you got a bit of sleep and that it goes well with the doc today. The mastitis has been such a problem for lots of us
veggie am off to town today with any luck so will take a look in boots - though I may have been making it up
zj harumph to your dh, that's pretty pants of him to cut down to such a short time coping! Maybe he thought she was hungry and just didn't know the right signals. We're with them all day and so have (hopefully) got a better idea of what they're trying to say (but see my whinge below!). Hope he gives you a bit more time off after his suffolk trip.
LadyT your glamorous social whirl never ends! dd really put you to the test yesterday, did you get a decent rest overnight (apart from the screaming!)?
disenchanted hello! good to see you! re weaning, LadyT's quite right. Some of us have tried with no success, others having a bit more luck, whatever works for you (as long as it's not honey, still don't really get that?!) How are you finding being a mum?
am feeling a bit end of tethery here too despite the sunshine. DH got home at 9.30 in the end so we didn't have dinner/bed til late. DD woke up at 12, I said could he try to settle her for once as she'd had a big feed before 7 and if we're going to start thinking about putting her in her own room, there's no way I'm going to do every single night waking my only saving grace at the moment is being able to fall asleep in bed with her on the boob so am keen to keep her in with us a bit longer! So he picked her up, jiggled her round a bit for about 20 minutes as she got progressively more and more cross and decided that apparently shushing doesn't work well it does if you do it a bit louder! And just sitting looking at her as she cries is being there physically, but she doesn't know you're there. Looking at child does not = helping them back to sleep.
In the end she came onto the boob anyway as it's becoming the only way to get her to sleep at any time of day. She went off to sleep about 1, then woke again at 2, 3, 5.30 (needed a change, peed all over her vest again and woke up fully by the time she was changed and dressed - would have got dh to do this as night changes are usually his domain but was so deeply asleep I'd have had to yell to get him up), back to sleep by about 6, and woke up again at 8 for the day. Come 9.15 she's rubbing her eyes - I think surely this is a bit early but if she's tired she's tired. Rush to the cot, put her down, grizzling for 5 mins which turns into yelling for 10 mins despite being picked up and cuddled and shushed. She's in the sling at the mo looking exhausted but refusing to go to sleep. (nearly an hour later)
I just feel as if I don't know her signals at all any more - default to putting her on the boob for getting to sleep which means no proper pattern of feeding, she's still so distractable in the daytime that she does a max of about 5 mins at 'proper' feeds before pulling off and looking around and I can't force her back on - being in a darkened room helps a bit but that means we'd be imprisoned at home. DH keeps insisting that if I leave her to grizzle she'll find her thumb in the night - after 15 minutes of off and on thumb sucking and then flailing and yelling I just give up and about 2 mins of boob gets her off - but only lying down, if she's sat up with me as soon as she's horizontal she's off again, even if she's had a good burp. If we move her to her own room I foresee lots of nights where he lets her cry in the hope that she'll settle back, she gets really upset, I end up having to feed her off to sleep anyway. I asked him the other day how long he'd be willing to let her cry for and he said an hour it was one of those conversations where he said it was a joke but it seemed like her really meant it.
not sure what to do. He works long hours to support us (for which I'm enormously grateful) but this means I'm on duty from 8am til usually about 7pm, but that's when she goes to bed. Night time is also my domain. It's getting to the point where I'd really like him to give up some hours at work so I can get some help during the evenings and so he can see her other than at weekends. And so the "parenting" isn't actually all mothering, and so he gets to know her a bit better and realises that shushing does work, you just have to persist. Yes, she's usually a smiley lovely thing, but that's even more exhausting than a newborn in its own way.
right, has finally gone off to sleep. Hopefully she'll get a good half hour in and be cheery when she wakes. Why do they taunt us so with their tiny naps followed by waking up grumpy?
will be cheerier later, promise.