August 2008: Six Month Milestones and More

[TwilightSurfer]

Ok guys, sorry I haven't been very chatty the last few days, thank you for all your support and good wishes - we're off now to the ILs and all being well from there to GOSH in the morning. Will try to get on or send a message some time after the surgery... wish us luck. But whatever happens, thank you so much for helping me get through the last few weeks.

Praying for you all pertelote {{{{{{P&M}}}}}}}}

ataraxis work gets in the way of rl too much don't you think?!

cc - that's exactly the problem! Gets in the way of RL and MN

VG lol at sausage - I have thrown caution to the wind too as Toby is showing signs of being very selective even at this stage - so I'm chucking everything at him in the hope that I can find more things that he likes. He was positively in raptures over the salmon. You sound cheerier today...hope it lasts.

dizzy Thanks for the message - I find it difficult to get dh to sod the housework and just go out - he can't go out until he's tidied up (it drives me MAD!) especially when the dcs will make a mess again as soon as they reappear.

He also occupies himself cooking/doing diy/paperwork/computerwork and generally avoiding the rest of us - I think it sunk in the other night when I said I wanted a husband and a father not just a blardy handyman who I live with.

I agree though it is going to fly by and we should be making the most of it but sometimes I just need to be reminded when it feels so difficult most of the time!

Back later as ds1 demanding that I play marbles with him (could be worse!)

grrr ds has been asleep since 12 in his pram (tired after swimming) so instead of catching a few zzzz's I am stuck here by the window in case he wakes - he never usually sleeps so long!

cc you are not alone. I dont know if I'm doing something wrong with ds which is why he wakes several times a night, but just plodding along hoping for a miracle each day. At least I do not have to go to work (yet)

vg I am off out to get sausages!

hi *ataraxis> thanks for lunch!

pf enjoy your game

oh, now he wakes up!

sambo lol what did you think was going to happen to him! (have to admit I did the same with ds1 and panicked when he slept for 2 hours at lunchtime - then later realised that is what babies really like doing and enjoyed the break)

hi all
hmm i hadn't thought to give DS sausages. He seems so fussy with what he eats. So far the only thing he'll eat with no complaints is yoghurt. i have to trick him into opening his mouth for anything else A boy cannot live on yoghurt alone!

i have so re sazzles and TS. how about we set up our own beach on here? i really miss the sun

and CC you're def not the only one with a waking child! i've accepted now that DS is like his father and will not sleep, ever, for longer than 2 hrs!

CC we're still not getting great sleep here either but thats great news about the possible move in May - May is one of my favourite months

pf am glad you've at least managed to have the chat though, do you maybe feel deep down he worries about being away so much and tries to make sure he helps in the house/fixes everything to the detriment of everything else? On the days when we think 'sod it' and go out for a massive walk with the dog/pram/bikes etc we always come home having had a great time and wonder why we don't do it more often

miamla another yogurt fiend here, am not having much luck with the weaning at all and it is getting rather wearing DH is upstairs just now trying to give her a bottle of EBM as we're meant to be going to the rugby on Sat and we can't do it if she won't feed from a bottle

he's away tomorrow morning overnight so feck knows when he thought he'd get her to try it, she won't take it from me and I had to tell him to go and do it [sigh]

am having a right cannot be arsed day

pertelote am horrified about my whinging on when you have such 'proper' worries shall be thinking of you until you tell me to stop

sausages eh? i would try that except there's never any left over in our house and to think i was veggie before i got up the duff.

pf i will try some fish/meat balls, cheers. do you cook them before freezing, the defrost and heat up as needed? i'm ok with cooking meat but a bit hazy on freezer storage due to aforementioned years of veggiedom.

pasta is the biggest hit in our house so far (clearly his mother's child). in fact you can see the evidence on fb

so what is everyone's schedule now that the LOs are eating? i'm mostly doing just breakfast and lunch at the moment, with milk throughout the day obv - unsure of whether to introduce tea as well, it seems an awful lot of food for such a little person to eat. then again, he might want tea, or at least the opportunity to try it out...so hard to tell.

VG perhaps i am being stupid (likely) but i haven't been introducing new things particularly slowly...on the 'let him have what you're having' principle, DS has had mixed bean chilli, pasta + pesto/home made tomato sauce, mash, fishcakes, porridge, fruit salad...we're not a very allergicky family though, otherwise i would probably be less cavalier more cautious.

ok so am now worried about my cunning plan has been built up to more than it actually is

I have been harbouring a dream to open a coffee shop/cafe where I stay as there is NOTHING here at all which provides anything of that kind - nothing fancy, just something small that would give me the option not to go back to work. I looked at one property but it was too big and in a complete state and insider info lead me to believe the landlord can be a complete nightmare. I started thinking about another one and when I made enquiries I found it was already being done by a local community commitee so I'd missed the boat

I thought feck it and phoned the bloke in charge and ended up chatting about it all for 50mins SO we've been emailing and I went to meet him last night - he has basically implied that I'm exactally what they're looking for and is wanting me onboard, with the possibility of paid employment once its open. All sounding a bit too good to be true.

So I went to meet him last night and it all seems a bit bogged down in committee stuff, they've not got any further than having spoken to the landlord and making a verbal agreement with them. The haven't planning to change it over from a retail unit and that could take MONTHS if its even passed and yet they were sitting talking about sandwich fillings

as its a community cafe I'm going to get involved as its only at the end of my street. There is no point in me thinking about opening an independent one now as where we live isn't big enough to sustain 2 and if this does open it will benefit the whole town including us. hopefully if I'm involved I may get some experience/work out of it but I certainly won't be sending in my letter of resignation yet

I just don't know anything about committees really and from what little experience I do have of them I find there is normally too many people trying to run the show iykwim? We'll see how it goes, its just not yet the get out of jail (literally ) free card I was hoping for

but on a happier note christening is all good to go on May 10th and after the church we're going here

dizzy, am impressed with your initiative. Bit of a bugger about the community thing scuppering your plans, but fingers crossed it works out for you in the long (but not too long) run.

On a completely different subject, I was looking at car seat things today and found this, which I didn't know about. Not that I would advocate carrying children without a car seat unless an absolute emergency, but is useful to have the info:

There are three cases where a child between three and 12 years old may travel in the back of a car using no more than an adult seat belt:

• short and occasional journeys made for reasons of "unexpected necessity" (so not on regular school runs, but you don't need to worry if you are picking up a friend's child because he or she has been unexpectedly detained at work)

• two other children are already using restraints in the back seat, leaving no room for a third. (However, it would often be safer for the child to travel, in the front of the car, using the appropriate seat or cushion.)

• in taxis

Sorry if it appears like a completely random posting, just something I didn't know so I thought I would share it.

Does anyone know why it is min 9kg with a group 1 seat? I can't seem to google any info on it (which was what I was looking for when I found the above)

just to clarify, not planning on doing it, just interested to know why...

don't ask me, i can't make any sense of the carseat thing. tried to look it all up to see if Joe needs a different seat now he's over 9kg and got completely flummoxed

cyteen Joe is over 9kg? dd is 6kg!! (hence the no intention, just interested bit)

Just found this from Bromley council

Baby is in a rear-facing seat because their head is heavy and their neck is weak. As soon as your child faces forward that support has gone, so it is safer for your child to travel rear-facing for as long as possible.

Baby can go forward-facing when they reach 9kg/20lbs, but they MUST be able to support their head too. We recommend that they should be able to sit up unaided for at least twenty minutes and have been able to do this for a couple of months.

have to go and deal with fighting children [tut emoticon]

God just nearly had a heart attack! Seb schoked on a chunk o Farley's rusk. Properly choked. I hadto stick my finger down his throat and hitch it out. (hope that was the right thing to do, but I panicked)

dizzy sorry your idea didn't pan out for you.Hopefully it will still work out, although comittees are a pain. As you say they could still be discussing sandwich fillings in 6 months time.

Yes, he is officially a biffer Thanks for the extra info, I'm certainly not rushing to put him facing forward. His feet hang off the end of his seat atm but he can stay in it till he's bursting out in all directions, I reckon.

Ann yikes! Glad you dislodged it, although for future reference I don't think you're meant to stick fingers in mouths when someone's choking. Afaik the best thing to do with a choking baby is tip it facing down and forward and thump it firmly between the shoulder blades with your hand - gravity should help dislodge the object.

I really hope I never have to do this!

good grief Ann, well done you - I have an outstanding ability to panic in all situations involving MY kids and yet I can competently cope single handedly in dealing with a 9car motorway pile up

cyteen, Dylan huge too and we have a seat waiting for her to go in to but am happy enough to keep stuffing putting her into the baby one for a while yet have dealt with too many traffic accidents to go rushing it

ataraxis thank you am also applying for a job as a civil ceremonies celebrant we'll see how that goes!!! if I ever get time to get the application done that it