Sept 08: We'll soon be weaning, and of a full nights sleep we're dreaming ......

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Hello ladies.

Pull up a chair, grab a biscuit and lets start talking about puree vs blw and sleep deprivation

hang in there hopefully cold are horrid, and you feel just when they get over 1 another one starts, and its another mountain along with sleep deprivation, hope he gets better soon.
we had a simelar night again, but (touch wood) he seems easier to settle even after the screaming in my arms.
we're off swimming today yay!! its the first time, I know I shoudn't get too excited as he'll probably hate it, but DH is also coming for moral support, its his birthday tomorrow, so has booked a few days off work.

Oh, and I forgot to say that ds can roll from his tummy to his back - but not the other way round, but I he's close.

Went to my sister's for the weekend - she has 4 kids (mad!!) but it was really nice for my 2. M slept better there - we had 3 hour gaps!! (I can't believe I'm excited about that). However last night she woke 11, 12, 2, 4, 6, 7 ...

While I think the hooter hider is ridiculous, if it means people are more comfortable feeding I guess it might have a place (she says desperately searching for positive things to say). Actually sometimes I think I need something like that for when M is arching, smiling and generally on and off.

well done to ILTMIMI's DS - I wonder who'll be the first to crawl (I was crawling at 5 months, but I can promise you M won't be!!).

sorry, can't find proposed dates for Croydon meet up Carrie/Splish...

going insane here with beureaucracy (double whammy of British and Italian...). We're off on 5th apr and trying to get DD's passport... trying both atm... with DS it meant a day at the italian consulate, but now you have to do by post or by apt (managed to get one for 30th march ) but first we need to send certificates to FCO in Milton keynes to be legalised, and apparently they have a backlog due to the "recent adverse weather conditions", so I'm trying to get the British one done first, but obviously DP's passport expired less than 2 wks before she was born, so MIL's looking frantically for his birth certificate.... and then the cost !! I might have to go to London and if I do that'll be £81!!! otherwise "only" £46, on top of the £33 already payed to the FCO legalisation office.... that's basically a flight ticket!!

sorry for the rant...

ILTMIMI your ds and mine need to get together and teach each other the other bit of rolling over. Mine goes from back to front then gets stuck and moans so I put him back and he just goes straight back over again.

at those passport costs sunflower. I need to get ds2's actually as we hope to go to Spain soonish.

Hi everyone, George can now officially roll from back to front! Then cries with his face in the rug after about 2 mins!

Decided to start some weaning at the weekend, so far he has had, creamed rice breakfast which he loved, squash and sweet potato, not so sure! He seemed to really like carrot and seetcorn, I tried him with apple and banana puree this am, he didn't seem very impressed!
He has taken to solids really well, he gets very excited and opens his mouth willingly, I still want to try the BLW thing too, so will try and do a bit of both.

I got him one of those sit in activity centers today, he likes to be sat upright but is a bit too big for his Bumbo!

On another note, I passed my theory test today, am very pleased with myself, hope to be on the road very soon!

I have given birth to Darth Vader... I never realised how annoying the noise of that bit of snot at the back of the nose was before! How am I going to cope with another couple of years of this before he learns to blow into a tissue?!
DP laughed at my mattress propping up last night. We wheel the cot from room to room, depending on his night waking, when we go to bed etc (his room has blackout blinds, ours doesn't), so I didn't want to just prop up the cot, so I made an artful slope of towels to put under the mattress and prop it up at one end. However, it took me about an hour to ensure there were no wrinkles in the towels that might damage T's bottom, and that the slope was exactly the right gradient, and uniform. DP did point out that T was relatively unlikely to feel a wrinkly towel through a matress, although if he did he has a career as a mattress tester ahead of him!

I am tragically of all these rolling babies. If I put T on the floor he.... lies there and smiles at me. or cries, if he's on his tummy.

Sunflower at passport prices! We're going to limit our holidays to the UK this year, and pretend we're being eco-friendly, as opposed to poor.

rolling? what's that!?! I just tell myself that M's very ambitious already as she's only interested in standing and walking, (she loves her walker), but rolling? that would mean being flat on the floor.... and therefore screams!

Evening all, can't believe I haven't been on here since Friday!
In the Carrie household...ds has slept through without a dream feed for the last 3 nights ...BUT today has a cold, very chesty cough and is wheezy. Hasn't napped well and is generally not a happy camper so I doubt we'll get a good night.

I have a major dilemma that I need your help with, because for reasons that will become clear, I can't ask people who actually know me. I've really gone off ds's name. I'd gone off it a bit before we had him, but dh was so sure about it that I just put my wobble down to hormones (I had suggested the name in the first place!) and thought it would be fine. Its still a name I like, its just not the name of my son iyswim. His middle name is my favourite boy's name, which dh doesn't like, but was happy to have as a middle name.
I've been in tears about this a few times lately, but we've agreed we wouldn't go through the whole thing of changing his name by deed pole, and in any case, there's no other name we can agree on. Then today dh drops the bombshell that he's prepared to try calling ds by his middle name, even thought dh doesn't especially like it, if it means that much to me.
Now I don't know what to do! It was far easier to complain than it is to take action!!! He's not 5 months old til wednesday, so in the grand scheme of things people will probably forget that he had a different name for the first few months of his life, but it would be very very weird in the short term. Also I would feel sorry for him in the future - it must be a pita to go through life with a name that isn't your official name on paper.
So...what should I do?
Discuss.

ooo carriebo that's a really really tricky one. I don't envy your position.

If you're going to do it, NOW's the time. They start responding to their name about now so from your son's point of view he won't know any different.

WRT future problems for your son: I know a few people who go by their middle name, mainly because the first one is a family name that every boy/girl in the family gets given - they've always been called their middle name at school and by all their friends and family. It's not that big a deal.

Have you used his name much? Would it feel weird to you to change it? I've actually only just started to call A by his name in order for him to get used to it. We've spent the last 5 months calling him 'mister' 'cheeky chops' 'chunky monkey' 'sleepy bunny' 'grumpatron' 'sausage' and various other pet names.

No rolling from A here either. Although he's beginning to sit up unaided a little bit longer each day.

For lunch today we had, among other things, mashed avocado on toast which he sucked from the toast (as well as smeared all over the table, thank god for wipe clean tablecloths). He played/ate for 30 minutes, but the last 5 minutes was spent banging the table and smashing the brocolli to smithereens. I decided at that point maybe he'd had enough.

I don't know what to do
I'm quite sure he'd get used to it - as would nearly-2yo dd as she's quite adaptable really.

I just can't decide whether or not to go through with it.

CarrieBo Try it for two weeks and agree at the end that you'll talk it through with your DH.

I don't think it's really much trouble to go through life called a name that isn't your registered name tbh. A huge amount of people do it. Many people even choose to be called by their middle names themselves. Some other cultures have more than one first name and the one that they are known as, isn't necessarily the one that appears first.

I think if you're going to go for it, just do it and don't ever think about it again.

But if you genuinely don't hate the name you're already calling him, then I think with a bit of willpower you could probably get over it and just accept that's his name. How about double-barrelling his first and second name?

Sorry, that probably doesn't help.

For those of you using cloth nappies, is this what your baby looks like?

For those of you with LOs still needing to be held to fall asleep

here

If that picture doesn't freak you out then.......

(nicked it from another thread)

Take a look at my profile for a picure of my DD1 in her porn-star nappy

Tempted to order one of those pink covers

That Zaky is FAB, but to keep your baby asleep

Carrie - I've heard of lots of people changing names like this. Why not try using it for a few days and see if it really seems right.

carribo really feel for you, I would probably go with using the middle name as it is still his name IYKWIM.

I have a friend who has always been known by her middle name as her parents decided it sounded better with her twin sisters!

How understanding of your Dh too

I hope you come to a happy decision.

carriebo I really feel for you. But I would try out using his middle name and feel free to carry on using that if you feel happy with it. I know a lot of people who go by their middle name (including my 16 year old nephew). DH said he even knows someone who goes by a name which isn't his name at all, just a name he got called as he grew up.. even has books published under this name, etc. So don't worry. It really isn't such a big deal to not use the first name on your birth certificate. Hope this helps.

snowlight you are making me laugh, but I say YOU are the freak! How do you come across these things?

Too much time nursing at the keyboard!

Can't believe you can get matching fluffy nappy covers and hats!

I'm nicking this from another thread too, but any time now our lo's will be starting to crawl.

Make sure they have one of these

Snowlight that is just wrong!

Carriebo I think Snowlight's suggestion is a good one - can you agree a period to use the name for, and then discuss it?
I also think that if the only reason you're not doing it is because you think it will be inconvenient, then don't worry - plenty of people go by names other than their 'official' first name without a problem.

I am so losing the plot with these night wakings. T was up at 10 (resettled him), from 11:30-1:00 (feeding, then wouldn't resettle), 2 (resettled him) 3-4 (feeding and resettling), 5 (resettled him) and 6 (currenty feeding him).
I know he's ill, but it's driving me spare! I'm so worried that this is getting entrenched as a habit, as he's feeding less and less in the day, and screaming if i try to encourage him to feed more. I have a horrible feeling we're edging towards some kind of sleep 'training' once he's a bit older.