May 2008 - The Third Thread.... Hot sausage and Mustard continued.....

[Haribosmummy]

New thread... Hoep this one is a bit more accessible!!!

Flick - Yes, that date is fine... i'll come to you- it will work out fine and I'll being the rouge bootie with me for analysis!!

Sho - sorry to hear about the sickness. Glad you got your birthday lunch, even though it probably wasn't quite how you planned. Hope you had a good time!

Well, I have DH home for a week now - with DSDs too, but I still feel like I'm on 24/7 duty. I was really lucky to get 2 hours sleep in the middle of the day today, but even that was because DS is struggling to nap during the day if I'm not close by, so (I know I sound really selfish) I don't really feel like I get a break.

DDog is also being super senstive and has now taken up to following me around the same room!!! Two steps is all it takes to have him following me!!!

Anyway, I've started a huge Ebay sale which is going well - loads of items have bids or the BINs have been snapped up which is good news.

Night all.

HM x

Rogue bootie NOT rouge bootie... obviously!!!

HM i was a bit bemused by that!

Afternoon ladies

Enjoying a quick browse while dd watches cbeebies. She's never really watched any tv but the past week or so seems to have become fascinated by it. She's very sweet and waves at everyone as they come on screen and shouts out when she gets really excited.

How are everyones' LOs? Dd was 9 months on Saturday and (apart from the minor sleep issues) is doing great. She has two little teeth that she is very proud of and brushing them has become her new favourite thing. She's pulling herself up on everything and chasing me room to room (crawling). I keep having mini heartattacks when I put her down for a second and turn round & she isn't there anymore having scooted off somewhere to play. She has added a few more words to her collection but "Daddy" is still her best though she likes to shout "No" quite frequently at random moments.

I am still in a big dilemma about going back to work (due back in May day before dd's 1st birthday ) I feel incredibly lucky to have had a full year off but I don't want to leave her! It's a very interesting time for my work though and from the calls and emails in the last week I am more in demand than ever. There are a lot of people who need me to help resolve some of the headaches they're having but to be honest the idea of getting back into that world fills me with dread. I don't want to work in a really sexist industry anymore and have to be strong and hard nosed and then come home to dd and try and be cuddly mummy again. Anyway - I am considering my options!

Best switch the tv off now before dd gets square eyes!

Take care FMLs.
MM

Hi all,

Baiyu Cheltenham is lovely, a bit like Bath in fact. It's sort of near where I am from (Wiltshire) as it's in Glos. A have a good school friend who lives there. Lovely shops etc Would be a lovely place to bring up Finn too.

fuzzypeach well done on Davina...it will be worth it! I don't ache as much now when I do it. I think the first time I did it, I had to work the next day and I was looking more crippled than most of my patients!!! One of them asked me what i had done, and I had to say...'umm, an exercise DVD ).

Was it macoco who asked which Davina DVD to get? I have all except the new one, they are all on a similar theme, but my fave is 'the power of 5'. It's a warm up then you pick 2 out of 5 20 min workouts to do, aerobics, legs, abs, pump and cardiobox. Very good.

Thanks for those asking about work etc. i am loving being back at work, it's so nice ot have a break to the routine. I am fortunate to enjoy my job (although the patients are mostly PITAs, the staff are great!). It's nice knowing the girls are with DH too.

Superbro is in a very bad way. His heart is so broken and it's really upsetting me seeing him so down and upset. he is coming to stay tomorrow for a few days. I know he'll get thru this, but he's at that awful 'raw' stage when you just feel so shitty. And to top it off, the poor guy got a really really nasty threatening text from the nasty ex last week too, having not heard from him in ages.

Shoulder still bad although obviously I am able to type this now .
My physio thinks I might benefit from an injection to reduce the inflammation, and work are trying to sort it for me. NHS workers get so few perks so it's good to get this sorted. I was in tears again with the pain yesterday. Being at work is actually easier than being at home with the kids.

DD1 is trying to push the boundaries more and more. Little monkey. I will NOT let her win!!

Anyway, best be off....hope you are all well and had a nice valentines day?

LM xx

MM could you give work a go for six months and see how it goes???

It's a bit complicated but the problem is that while I've been gone they've had an awful team in place who have got themselves into a lot of trouble. They want me to go back to put things right and to rebuild bridges etc (not literally though I do work in construction!) It will be a lot of work in a hostile environment and not the ease-back into work I need!

fuzzypeach I think it's the other babies are advanced, not yours slow learners. We have sounds but nothing that makes any sense 'G' is a favourite. And my DS1 was slow at talking and then overtook the others. Everyone comments on how good he is now, has a very good vocabulary. My opinion is they all catch up in the end, and if they have problems we'll still love them cos they're ours

No words here either fuzzypeach at almost 11 months. I think MM's DD must be very advanced!

we have gagagaga and that's about it apart from braaaa.....

don't be too worried if there are some storming ahead with words at this age and some that aren't - ds1 was subject to many an anxious MN thread about him not "talking enough" and now he has a bigger vocabulary and far better sentence and phrase construction than many of his friends. o'h and he was 8 weeks prem which apparently was going to make him slow to pick things up

HM can you email me please with the date we put in the diary - i can't find my mail to you and can't remember which date it was....sorry for being so pathetically disorganised!

DS2 also not saying real words but is babbling saying things that sound like mama and dada but definetley not with meaning. All babies do things in there own time, the age range for developing speech, crawling, sitting, walking etc is huge so no one must worry that there lo isn't doing thigs as they will in there own time. It is nice to hear what other lo are doing though.

We are trying to decide as a family whether DH should start working away from home offshore. Which would mean 4 weeks away and 4 weeks home with one home trip being 6 weeks with the extra being 2 weeks holiday.
Obviously we both know the time away will be hard on everyone. But then think he will be home so much in between instead of only seeing the kids for afew hours in the evening now and on weekends. He would only do it for afew years so not forever and in this time would gain so much experience and would finish his degree in 2 years so be able to get a really good job onshore. I know the 4 weeks away will be hard but I have my parents living 5 minutes walk away so do have local support. Sorry just waffling.

HI again,

No talking from DD2 here, unfortunately DD1 makes up for it .

Feeling really today. I've been feeling a bit wobbly for a few weeks, like the PND I had last year. Kept trying to ignore it but have realised that I do feel the same as I did. I have phoned the HV to see if I can see her next week. I have still been taking the herbal ADs but obviously they don't seem to be doing much .

fuzzypeach It's called 'high energy five', not power of 5 (I got it wrong!). I too like her DVDs but get bored so I would recommend it. I think it's £9.99 on play.com.

Anyway, sorry to sound so negative. The worst thing, is I can't stop shouting screaming at DD1. I keep making her cry I shout so much at her (she is trying it on a lot at the moment).I don't want to be that sort of mummy. I don't want her to become scared of me. It makes me so sad. I just can't cope with her being so naughty, she's always been such a good girl. She keeps being very rough with DD2, she pushed her over in the bath today and poor DD2 really whacked her head. I was sitting on the loo at the time (in the same room).

I def. agree that all kids progress and develop at different stages.

One LO I know here is walking (she's 11 months now) but she's been walking for AGES... it made me feel really bad, cos DS has only just started crawling, but they all get there eventually.
My DSD2 didn't start talking properly until she was around 3 (A little later, as a I remember) I was getting really worried about her, but needless to say, she is now a perfectly normal 10YO with no speech issues!

Fuzzypeach - DS says Mama (but ONLY when annoyed and I'm really not sure he's calling for me or if it just happens to be the noise he makes when he's in a strop! )... that's really the only word. He knows his name, and the dogs name and I think he knows who daddy is.

Flick - I'll e-mail you later on.

Mitchell - have FB'ed you about the job, but I think, overall, it's worth it.

Luckymummy - How is your shoulder now? It must be very painful with DD2 - th babies are HEAVY now, aren't they??? We went to Madame Tusaurds yesterday and (we had't realised that buggies weren't allowed) had to carry DS around the whole thing - DH has a VERY sore back this morning!!

I really hope SB feels a bit better soon. He's really had a rotten run of it recently and he sounds like such a decent bloke It must be very hard for you, I know how much you wanted him to get away from and over the evil Ex but it sounds like the new nearly-but-nothing-happened new guy has had an even more devastating effect

MM - Sorry about your job situation. Sounds like a horrid situation to be placed back into and I can't imagine the construction industry is the easiest place to work at the mo... The cbeebies made me smile though. DS loves PeppaPig. I swear he actually prefers the credits (when the song comes on) than the acutal programme!

Ah, well, best get on... DS will be awake soon enough.

HM x

LM Sorry to hear that you are feeling low at the moment, hope the HV can help. Maybe even just admitting it will help and I am sure that things are different now with you being back at work.

HM Thanks again

DS1 is also being a handful, could it be that our babies are doing more and the older sibling is taking strain????? Just a thought as also having problems with DS1.

Oh, sorry, LM - I just read that you are feeling down... Hopefully, as Mitchell says, getting the feelings out will help.

I do agree with mitchell about the age thing... It could be with the sublte-but-swift progression from baby to toddler(ish)dom is causing the older children to question things a little more.

I am not trying to liken my Ddog to a child, but when DS came home first, the Ddog really just stayed out of his way. He knew, instantly, that DS was above him in the pack - thankfully I've never had any issues there - but recently (esp. now DS is moving), their whole 'relationship' has changed and they really play with each other... In my case, it's not an issue, as Ddog always submits... Og God, thank goodness DS came along and saved me from being a crazy-lady-with-dogs

HM found it! in the diary

LM I'm so sorry you are feeling down at the moment. We are going through a similar thing with DS1 - he is so very wilful at the moment and has started pushing a bit as well. I make him sound dreadful sometimes and he is a good little boy, but incredibly defiant - remember it's just a phase! have you got toddler taming? it's very useful. ds1 pretty much does something we ask him not to, we tell him not to, so he looks at us, smiles and does it again, straight away. he is getting time out after 1 warning now for everything and it does seem to be getting through and he does hate time out, but I am shouting at him more and more and louder and louder which I hate.

sorry not much help just sympathy

Thanks so much for all the commiserations and help with sleep issues lovely ladies. Still not resolved but lovely to know I am not alone! We've been managing the 9am nap easily most days and then trying very hard at one too but today has baby sensory at 9.30 so it's all a mess. He fell asleep about an hour ago and is still down having had no lunch (2 hours late!) oops! Still, had a lovely coffee and blether with the ladies from Baby sensory which was fab as I get so lonely at home all day.

LM Thanks for the advice about Cheltenham. I really fancy it but don't want to get my hopes up too much in case it doesn't happen. My mum was a 'cheltenham lady' but hasn't been back since so i think she'd find it fun coming to visit and reminisce. Hope hope hope. So sorry your shoulder is giving you so much trouble.

Well done fuzzypeach and LM for all this exercise! I bought a yogalates one last week but haven't done it yet . Is Davina good to do when LOs are awake? I'm not sure I'll be able to focus on yoga with DS in the room!

Good luck with your difficult decisions mitchell. I don't think I'd be able to cope but you seem very good at coping with your 3 so I'm sure you'd manage.

Words wise we have 'daddy' but I think a lot of things are 'daddy' but he gets a lot more enthusiastic about it when he can see DP! No crawling here either, I don't think he's going to be a fast mover but that's alright with me. It's not as if any adults only know how to roll!

I'm getting bitten a lot by DS2 at the moment. I think he's teething, but since he has 8 well through anterior teeth it hurts! He is going to learn the word no at a very early age. I've started saying no and putting him on the floor, what a mean Mummy I am .

Would like to add I love Cheltenham, we used to go shopping there as a child. Hope it works out for you baiyu.

I may have a potential job in the pipeline from the summer, 2 days which would be my ideal working week. Going to chase them in the hope they don't think of anyone else. All the best jobs are word of mouth, and it's a practice I would love to work in. Would be good to have my own money again. I have DH's birthday on Monday and I feel he's paying for his own pressie!

My friend's little boy didn't crawl til 14 mnths, was just happy watching the world go by. Much easier to keep an eye on them IMO. 9 mnths and 8 mnths was far too early. At least we have one stair gate in place from DS1, but got to baby proof my inlaws new kitchen DS2 loves opening draws and cupboards and has already trapped his hand in a drawer when we were there at the weekend.

fuzzypeach I think you're right not to worry, if the HVs aren't concerned then you shouldn't be. They all go at their own pace don't they? Speaking of HVs I've not seen ours in about 3 months. Do other people get visited or go in to see them? Since we moved back to Edinburgh (when DS was 6 weeks old) no health professional has been to our house. We could be living in utter squalor for all they know (PS we're not! I just worry that families with difficulties could go unnoticed here)

So shocked had to come straight on Mumsnet.

They've changed the actress who plays Libby Kennedy on Neighbours! I remember them changing ones in years gone by, but I only watched it yesterday and it was the original one. Do the Aussies think people won't notice? Sorry I'm very sad but it is daily 'me' time that keeps me sane, get very cross when I miss it. DS1 thinks all progs I watch are neighbours .

DS2 had final settling session at nursery today. Say goodbye tomorrow and he's on the road to 2.5 days a week .

flick do you mean Chrostopher Green's toddler taming? Yes I have got it, but haven't read it as DD1 was always such an angel. Will have a look through it.

Thanks to you all for reassuring me that I'm not alone. Yesterday I was just feeding them both lunch in floods of tears, feeling so shitty. I feel better today. It's nice having my bro here.

Anyone else looking forward to the Brits tonight?? I am a big Pet Shop Boys fan ...must be my big gay brother's influence...LOL! and they are getting lifetime achievement award...hurray!

fuzzypeach you can email me at luckymummy74 at yahoo dot co dot uk.