January 08 Shiny New-Year Babies, not quite so shiny they are nearly one!!

[Lilyloo]

is this ok didn't want to loose everyone courtesy of Lucky!!

just had a text from cm, Nathan has fallen asleep on top of her...aah. Doing well those two

JKS OMG my dh just read your threads with me and says 'poor woman'
All still snotty here. Two little ones sleeping at the mo and ds3 hovering around the pc cause I said he could go on it after me.
Had trouble with our upstairs neighbours last night. They have 2 kids of about 4 and 1. They are up late running about and jumping etc.I have heard the baby crying for an hour at a time before now . They do washing at all sorts of times through the night. I normaly have a moan to dh about it but it just seemed to get to me last night. I said to dh to go and have a word which he did. He was very polite and asked if they could keep the noise down because I was poorly. The woman went into one at him 'how dare you complain about my children, your baby cries all night and wakes my children up, your kids make too much noise and scream and
shout etc etc....dh couldn't believe it. We are going to wright down each time it happens for two weeks then ring the council to complain.
I think what annoyed dh and me the most is when she said our children are up all night crying. I try to get them all in bed asleep by 7.30 at the latest and they only cry if they are poorly. Normaly they are very good sleepers gggrrr.....
Anyway sorry to moan. Another day at home today. Just mopped the floor and the washing machines just finnished.
Got Finding Nemo to watch later
Bye for now xxx

Lily that thread is me at the moment . We talked last night about how our relationship is really suffering ATM. We're gonna try and have a bit more "us" time instead of hiding behind our respective laptops each evening and not talking to each other. DS is always settled in the evenings so we have no excuse really.

Going to DH school panto now! 2 of DS's little friends are one this weekend so we've been to soft play to meet up and celebrate.

have good weekends all .

yeah it is really easy to just flop with tv laptop and not talk we had chat about it too!
We are both having a night off each this weekend and going in with one of the dc's think it's my night off tonight but i have forgotten to get formula so guess it will be dp's!

MM yay to Nathan hope he wins remember that photo so cute!!

Gingeme she doesn't sound very nice or maybe you caught her on a bad night ? Hope the council helps you out sounds awaful.

JKS more sympathy here what a night, morning, hope dh made it on time!

Ange enjoy school panto and have good weekend too!

Am so have just got two bank charges for going over overdraft. Basically dp put cash in bank but they said that it was over the overdraft for a 'short while' So they are charging me £70 for that priviledge and was only £20 over Apparantly there is nothing they can do, When i asked what the apr was on that the lady couldn't even answer me finished the call mumbling daylight robbery! Well that's only a weeks food shopping gone

Lily refuse to pay. They will not make you, they have got everything against them!

That is extortionate. Complain now and demand that they refund.

That's the good old Halifax for you. Have tried complaining she said there is nothing they can do.
They can but have chosen not too!
Basically she says it doesn't matter if you put cash in the account on the day as some transactions can come out before you put cash in (before the bank opens) !!
She said the basic charge is £35 per transaction regardless whether it's £1 or £100 overdrawn.
Doesn't even show up as going overdrawn on the online statement!
Can't refuse to pay they take it automatically and the vicious circle goes on then as we have even less money the month after etc etc as if things aren't tight enough with xmas

Hi guys

Am REALLY struggling with DD ATM

Totally dreading the next four days as DH at work and am on my own. DH said today he has never seen her so bad.

Is impossible to cook DS's tea as she is screaming so much, but of course the minute I pick her up she stops!!

Constantly whinging, screaming,whining etc.

This evening was total melt down and I lost it (twice) ) and had to just put her in her cot as I couldn't deal with the noise anymore. Even DS said "DD be quiet"

She had a good tea but got into such a state she is in bed already and would not take any milk so going to have another early start. This morning was 5am.

She is not the easiest baby throughout the day either but evenings are spectacularly bad

Sorry to hear of bank charges Lilyloo - Iwould be so Can you not threaten to close a/c? They may back down.

Madmouse - Awww Nathan sleeping on c/m sooo sweet.

Sorry memory gone to mush can't remember anything else all I can hear in my head is screaming and DD has been asleep for 20mins

Simpson so sorry. Do you think this is still down to her dairy intolerance not being sorted ?
Can you push for another hosp apt.
It seems more than tiredness her screaming as dd can be whingy at tea time but your evenings sound much worse than that.

Lilyloo - After I put her down at 5 ish she was quiet for 15mins or so then SCREAMED so I got her up and she was trying to do a poo. It got so bad I had to help her go (sorry TMI) with tissue etc

She was such a happy little bunny once she had finished and came downstairs for an hour and ate LOADS of blueberries and a satsuma

Have got docs on Wed but can't put up with this till then. Hosp called this morning. Her pead is on leave for 2 weeks and they are busy, probably won't get seen till Jan

Think I am going to put her back on normal FF which she is intolerant to but not as bad as this till Wed when I see GP.

Oh to add to my weird night, before i forget - gingeme i dreamt about you!!
I was on southend seafront with the boys when i saw 3 red-headed little boys playing and knew they had to be yours!
Turns out you and other London MNers had come down for the day (it was summer btw) so I joined you for a bit.
Was fun, we went on a bus ride (not sure why or to where) and went to a pub, lol.

Anyway.....

Simpson - poor you lots and lots of virtual ((((hugs)))) and i know what it's like to be on your own with the DCs so sympathies there. Keep coming on here to scream/vent/moan/cry...
it does sound like your poor dd has lots going on there. i really hope you can get her to a doc soonish and in a week/month's time you can look back in relief at sorting it out.
If she is getting in a state but will go to sleep for 11/12 hours you may as well give in for now and let her go to bed.
i know 5am starts are horrid but getting rid of as much of the awful time as poss for now makes sense.

Lily - i know what you mean about teatime whinges - sometimes i wonder if we should really bother with tea when they refuse to eat it/scream and shout/throw tantrums/etc!

also, asked dh (used to be a banker) re bank thing, he says:
write the chief exec of HBOS, say you think it is unreasonable behaviour, mention the Banking Code and ask for the contact details of the Banking Ombudsman to take your complaint further if you remain unsatisfied.
He thinks the fixed charges were deemed unfair recently and others have been getting them refunded.
worth a try?

Ange - panto, lol. i'm not a fan but accept that we will have to show willing when the boys are older.

gingeme - thanks to your dh your neighbour sounds awful def keep a list. in fact write down anything you can think of that has already happened too, with as much factual info as poss, dates, times, exact words said, etc.

Madmouse - hope you have a better night, don't know how you cope with work after bad sleep. love the beetroot pic

Dh made it to his meetings today thanks!
DS1 wouldn't believe me that it was breakfast time so soon after getting up, lol!
we didn't make it to playgroup as ds2 slept for 3 hours this morning.
ds1 and i did gluing (with some dyed pasta we did yesterday) and he did some painting too.
I set myself a list of jobs to do and did most of them so feel more positive. it is so easy not to manage anything 'extra' and just get by but that makes me feel so down at the end of a day when i've done nothing.
then DH was home about 2ish with fish & chips for a late lunch, yum!
I went back to the sodding door handle shop and got the things for handyman tomorrow.
DH had his stitches out from mole removal and got his results - benign
we both agreed we had been worrying but didn't want to mention it!

sorry long again

JKS sounds like a good day i know what you mean for feeling guilty about 'just' getting through they day. Don't think we give ourselves enough credit for doing that! Tell dh thanks worth drafting a letter i guess but don't think i will get anywhere (worth a stamp though)!

Simpson can you not take her down to a and e ? I know it seems drastic but she needs to get this sorted. How on earth can she be expected to be left in such agony until Jan. I think you really do need to start ranting a little it's just not good enough. There will be more Pead that last post is so she obv in pain. Is she just on soya now ?

JKS - fab news on your DH's results Thank God DD is a good sleeper at night (probably jinxed it now!!) and as long as she feels ok is a fab eater too

Lilyloo - She is just on soya now and had been ok till I gave her a soya yogurt a couple of days ago and now she can't tolerate soy milk Going to try cow & gate tomorrow (although sod's law went out and all our local shops sold out. Grr)

Will see how she is tomorrow.

My mum wants to take DS to see The Wizard of Oz at her local theatre. She is going to book tickets at the weekend...

poor simpson and poor dd
you must be reaching the end of your tether

No good from hospital re: paediatrician. Is it a consultant you are waiting to see? If so say it is urgent and ask to see a 'member of the team'. All consultants have a number of registrars, special registrars and senior house officers under them. all qualified paediatricians, just not consultants.

So sorry, soy formula seemed to work for a bit didn't it. When can you see gp?

Gingeme neighbour does not sound nice. Maybe she was being defensive?

JKS so relieved about the mole. I always worry incessantly about everything so know how you feel.

It was hard to get up this morning but had a decent day at work, can still make myself useful. Just starting to realise how little you can cram in 2.5 days if you do not want to fall in the trap of taking work home/staying later.

LA TRUCHA I mean laTurkey are you ok you are very quiet.

You too Lucky, where are you

trying to get an early night. Nathan went to sleep very quickly, well the milk flows a bit more quickly after a day at work so that fills up nicely. As soon as I sit down with him when I come home he does not so much root as get the JCB out , dh was in stitches seeing Nathan dance across my chest trying to get the other side of my clothes...Then it is tea and then milk again. Any wonder he sleeps. Now keep it that way

JKS sorry great news for dh results

I love pantos think sil will take kids this year for their xmas pressies as we a litle skint!

Simpson that was my favourite film as a kid!
Have you started a thread maybe someone with experience of dairy intolerances may be able to help ? Seems mums are more knowledgable than some of the professionals as seen on this thread!

MM lol at Nathan JCB routine how cute

good idea Lily, try under breat and bottle feeding simpson

Hey ladies sorry not been around much, have been feeling (and being) very sick ? hopefully week 16 will be the magic week! plus DS is not sleeping well, up at least 3 times in the night for 3o mins or more plus he is not eating, barely anything which is really worrying me, he won?t even eat the usual fail safes

Have skimmed through:

MM ? sorry to hear Nathan isn?t well

JKS ? love all your Christmas traditions, I?m feeling festive though wasn?t up to digging the tree out today which is what I meant to do, feel mean as DS loves seeing glittering trees and likes to bop to Christmas songs sorry about the sleep issues you are having, must be so tough

LaT ? the tree planting sounded nice. Sorry to hear about the whole bf thing, you ok? Thanks for posting that link to last year, how funny, especially about what to wear at the birth, in the end it was exactly what I happened to be wearing at the time!!

Lucky ? poor A, hope the rash gets better soon.

Hello lily, Gingeme and anyone else I have forgotten to mention!

Madmouse - X posted. Have just started one under Allergies if no help will try breast/bottle feeding.

Told the Pead/Consultant's (can't remember which) secretary this morning it was very urgent and bless her she was lovely. My next appt is on 12th Feb so she will send a letter giving new date but said it probably won't be till next yr

Mrs mcJnr - started another tradition today which I have read about on MN and my mum used to do which was to buy the multi pack of cereals that are forbidden (ie coco pops, frosties etc)I remeber being soooo excited about eating a naughty breakfast

[sad person emoticon]

So remembered to pick one up from supermarket today

LOL Simpson, I actually bought some of those recently and ate my way through them I needed the cornflakes for a receipe for DS!

Firstly - MM thanks for asking for me - dont worry all ok here (see underneath)

Simpson - Pathetic. Camp out at your GP's door (pead's hospital) and refuse to leave until she is seen to. How can they expect a 10/11 month old child to live in agony for more than a month!! for you.

MrsMc - Glad the pregnancy is going well.
Aaliyah's rash seems better but still a few places (where the skin had opened) that are still sore for her. We're currently changing her nappy every 2 hours and lathering sudocreme on it.

Ok now all about me me me

Am still feeling very lonely but am managing to get myself out and about which is good.
Aaliyah is doing all sorts of things I wish she couldn't. Today she has been near enough running across the floor pushing her walker yelling mummm mummm but in a happy mood instead of wingey mood.
She refused her afternoon nap (AGAIN) and then fell asleep on my chest drooling. nice! lol

She's is a very hard child lately what with the following me around wingeing and screaming for (seems like) no reason. Plus she is refusing to sleep so getting overtired and grouchy but there seems to be nothing I can do short of holding her down til she screams herself to sleep. I wouldn't mind this as she is sleeping well at night but the thing is she's moody from around 5pm.

Mummy cat has gone to a friends house for a week as the last remaining kitten is still feeding from her and you can't spay a cat till her milk has dried up. So she's gone for a holiday to allow the milk to dry up. Meanwhile Hugo (kitten) is having a whale of a time here chasing and playing with Salem. He's currently curled up on the sofa with him.
Princess (Mummy) is apparently loving all the attention she's getting on holiday and I'm almost positive she's going to end up staying there as her permanent home but we'll see.

I'm going to see my friend for the day tomorrow, then going to another friends for dinner on Sunday followed by Aaliyah spending that night at my mums and i'll be picking her up sometime on Monday. Dad hasn't seen her for a while so wants some time with her - hence her night's holiday.

I've found a job I want to do (fingers crossed I get it) its PT 20 hours a week at cats protection Its only min wage but its something I'd love to do so seems like a must have job and something I just MUST at least try to get. Only problem is the hours as 9 - 1 and with DP working nights we're trying to find a way so that he can go to bed at 12. If we can get Aaliyah to start having a nap at 12 till 2 (so i'm home when she wakes up) this would be fantastic and all problems solved but if she only naps for an hour then DP thinks he'll be recharaged and have trouble falling back to sleep again so hmmmmmmm..... we're working on that.

Anyways i've rabbited enough (well done if you read this far) lol

LOL

Think DS will LOVE them.

Our local post office is great for little stocking fillers - got DS a cardboard glider plane thingie that you slot together for 25p

I bet it will be the present he plays with most ALL day....

Lucky great news about the job that sounds perfect for you when does it start ? Can dp go to bed when you get back ?

MrsMc at eating the cereal because you needed the cornflakes!!

Lucky - sounds like a great job for you and I think you'd be fabulous

No he says 1pm would be too late as by the time he's settled down after dealing with the mad hatter that DD has become!! lol It'll be getting on for 2:30/3pm which would only give him 6 hours sleep (yes I know I wish I could get 6 hours sometimes but he has a hard physical job so I have to understand that)
I dont finish till 1 and woldn't get back till 1:30 at the latest but he still thinks its no good.
We're trying to work it so that he has her till about 12 then takes her to my nans where I can pick her up but that would mean needing 2 cars so we'd eat into the money I was earning running them both - unless I start biking it but I'm refusing to do that unless he agrees to as well as I have LOADS of hills to deal with and further to go than him.
Plus my nan is quite old and lives in the top floor of flats so it would be really difficult for her to get up and down and its abit small and messy for aaliyah to not cause havoc!! lol

My friend just rang. I knew his eldest daughter is pregnant, aboutl midway through, but when I asked how he was he said 'well. let me tell you a story. been a bit of a strange week.

His youngest daughter (19) has given birth this week! Full term. Did not know she was pregnant. Put on some weight and both mum and boyfriend's mum had asked you are are not pregnant are you. she said no...Healthy little girl, she is up and about and breastfeeding. Could not believe it. Friend still sounds shellshocked...

Baby is sleeping in carrycot in travelcot (lots of people have ralied round) so I offered my moses basket, waiting to hear if she wants it.

quite a little surprise

Lucky go for it, do it, you will work it out. You may be able to work 8-12 if you ask, or dp will just have to toughen up a little and let go of his pampered sleeping habits to make you a bit happier. My dh has learned in one week how to get up over an hour earlier, get Nathan ready and fed and out of the door on time. It can be done. Just do not base it on Aaliyah napping from 12-2 as she will keep changing her sleeping habits and that is not going to work.