Feb 06 - ......Meh.

[Phoenix]

Am now. Dd had gone to inlaws for the night, and we were supposed to pick her up and have dinner with them tomorrow night. We were using the time to try and tidy and clean the bombsite that we call home. I have worked really hard today, and am knackered, and they have now phoned to say that their heating has broken, so they are bringing her back after tea.

House will still be a tip, thank yous still won't be written, Christmas cards won't be written, presents won't be wrapped, and dh will go away on Tues morning and I'll be left with it all again. When I dared to express my disappointment, dh had a go because I was apparently trying to make him feel bad for going away. He'd rather go away and never come back anyway, which has been obvious for ages, so it's just another excuse for him to shout at me.

CSWS- you both have a new baby and a toddler, and I'm sure it was just a really bad day. You've barely slept since DS arrived, and you've been ill- just leave everything else- it doesn't matter- only resting, feeding , eating matters! No-one will expect cards from you this year- just send an email to your mailing list saying you're giving a charitable donation instead environment and all that.
Presents don't need to be wrapped for a few weeks yet- and DS had an improvement of 1.5 hours last night in his sleeping, so thats a good sign. Thank yous? Yeah- I think I sent mine by the time DD was 6 months so hey, no panic yet. Just because he has to work away doesn't mean you have to be happy with it, it's just something that has to be endured- you're perfectly entitled to feel upset by him not being there each week when you are having such a hard time, and you're coping alone. That doesn't mean he can not work away from home, but you are being perfectly normal and justified in being fed-up about it.
When DD was little and had colic for weeks, I was ready to leave- really leave home- I just could not take it. (And I hadn't discovered mn then) I know in 3 months time... it will be me back in that place- but this time I know it's a phase. It's hard, but it will pass, and if you need to offload to deal with it, then you just have to do what you need to do.

Oh, csws, you sound so . You know me, and I'm not a cuddly person, but you really seem like you need a (((hug)))

Forget the thankyous and Christmas cards, just send a mass email Anyone who is your friend will understand.

Phoenix - he was up at 8.45 today.
Usual wakeup time is 6.30-7, but he still isn't getting enough sleep.
I hope the high bp was a one off. It is so easy for the medical people to tell you to relax, but so hard to do when you already have a dc.

How did EPPM write that huge post in the time it took me to write 4 lines???

Phoenix- sorry to hear about BP- hope it's lower on weds.

Jas- some people are just nasty aren't they?

Ah Jas- you said the same but so much more succinctly!

HOW ARE YOU TODAY CSWS?

Tired! ds wouldn't sleep in Amby at all, and wouldn't settle all that well on dh, and I didn't get my couple of hours headstart like usual (dh has ds downstairs) because of the in-laws delaying everything.

Unfortunately can't not do thank-yous as many are from in-laws friends, and they nag repeatedly about these sorts of things. Christmas cards are bought, address labels mostly printed from last year's file, so just need to write in the cards themselves (sadly totally blank!).

dh took dd swimming this morning whilst I did grocery shopping, and we are off to in-laws for dinner as originally planned (we were supposed to pick dd back up).

ds still feeding every 1.5 - 2 hours! I don't remember 8 weeks being a classic growth spurt time .

Am sorry to hear that you had a tough time last time round EPPM, and hoping that it's easier for you this time.

Sorry I forgot to comment on your bp Phoenix - hope it lowers for you.

csws for not sleeping in the Amby at all last night. And for in-laws heating breaking and spoiling your plans.

I've trawled through the old ante-natal threads this morning and i made a comment about having high BP right from booking in last time. I can't remember that but do remember at most mw appointments it was up and i was sent up to hospital for monitoring where it quickly came back down. I really think it's the mw (same one this time) that makes it go up . I've ordered my own BP monitor from Boots to check it at home myself

We've just put our christmas tree up and ds wasn't that interested in 'helping' but he hung a few baubles .

Better luck for tonight, csws.

DS was in bed and asleep by 8.15

Has that lasted Jas or was he up at 5am ?

Ds went to bed at 6.50pm, woke up at 4.40am asking to come into my bed, i told him it was still night time and to go back to sleep for a bit longer and he did. I heard him put his lullaby back on at 5.45 but he didn't shout me. He went back to sleep til 7.30am

2.5 hrs in the Amby last night, but dd went and got up twice during this time to ensure that my sleep wasn't uninterrupted!

On briefly girls {{{{{{Big Hugs}}}}}}} CSWS sleep depravation is horrible, I wish I were nearer to help you out too, although your probably glad I'm not Agree with EPPM stuff the thank you's for a bit, you have two small children to look after and one in particular who is after more attention than you have arms for!

WOW you have gone totally bonkers in the small period of time I've been away, may I suggest you take a leaf out of our old lurking friends book and do a personal training qualification, so you can make money out of your obsession ya looney.

Jas, what a horrible neighbour, for you.

Hi Phoneix, Flame, EPPM and anyone else out there hope your all good. Am bbsitting at Meridians again, though they should be back soon, hopefully only 3 weeks or so till I get my own laptop, dear Santa.....

Oh btw small victory with the gym, they have given me my £3.80 back, hurrah! I had to throw my rattle and quit 1st, then it took a week of wrangling, but they've finally said I can have my money back, huzzah (and it is rather cold to exercise outside at the moment)

2.5 hours? It just gets better and better
Here's to another extra hour tonight!

Sleeping seems to be cracked here, hope the same can be said for you csws. Asleep by 8.15 again, and had to wake him up at 8

I am posting from the library, as I killed my computer on Sunday I'm hoping it can be fixed, but no idea if/when this is a realistic hope

Now is the time I regret having a mac....I know lots of computer fixy types, but not for my computer.....I'm considering asking my parents to take it to France for my dbs fil to look at over Christmas if I can't get it sorted by then

Oh bugger Jas (re computer, not sleep). Not sure that even dh is great with macs, but can you describe symptoms just in case?

Sleep not cracked here. 2 hours in Amby, but couldn't resettle him in it, and I coughed through the first hour of his 2 hour stint. dh then disturbed us at 4 leaving for Dublin, and I got almost no sleep after that.
Managed to get dd to school on time by myself though, and got ds weighed at clinic (13lbs). Got to take him back in a few mins for first jabs - poor thing has just gone to sleep, so he won't be happy about that.

It's my wedding anniversary today, but we obv won't be celebrating.

Well, DD had a playdate yesterday, and was so shattered, she got up at 10am. DH is trying to chivvy her to nursery atm.

I have to go into work for a meeting this afternoon, so it's not quite all over yet.

I have a mac Jas... but I know nothing about it I'm afraid, as we've only just got it, and never had one before. Are there fora you can look at online that might help? (similar to the way linux people help each other)

CSWS- am very impressed at you getting DD to school ontime!

hello . amat friends hoiuse babysitting, so on her laptop, which means typingeven worse than usual Obviuosly I went to aerobics first

Not much sleep here either due to ds2 having horrific cough that involvees hacking up phlegm all night. In fact, he did it all over dh's head at 2am night before last! And the prevoius night dh fell downstairs and has a huge friction burn on hid thigh, as he was taking ds2 for a wee.

Friz, hurray for your £3.80 I'd hve fought that one too! And I havent gone mad thank you very much. I'm now doing what I truely think should be the minimum amount of exercise per week in an ideal world. Which means I cant always do it cos of the kids, but I'd like to be doing alot more. No way on earth I could do a pers trainer qual though; I'm just not fit, I look very unfit, I'm not a role model, and I'd need a more extensive base of knowledge berfore stsrting anyway. I so wish I'd beenin this situation before I had the boys; I thought about doing it, but I only used to run then, nothing else, so it diidnt aoccur to me that other stuff was fun IYSWIM. My best hope would be traininig hard for a year and seeing how it goes, but I dont think I'll ever regain ym fitness.
there's a very very slim chance I might get a hol this year, abroad, cheap, with no kids Cant gp into details incase it doesnt work out, but all keep your fingers crossed for me!!

Hi Wow- nice to see you. for DH though, sounds painful.
A pre-emptive 'Yay' for holiday...

Hope everyone else is allright, y'all obviously too busy atm with rl, but I don't have one of those

Ouch for dh WOW. Will ds2 not use the potty at night?

We had a better night thanks to ds' jabs, and he's been more alert for it during waking times today, so would be great if we could keep it up. [not optimistic] He didn't go in the Amby though, except for 40 mins in the evening, which took 30 mins to settle him for .

Just given him a bath and put him in a gorgeous sleepsuit that he had as a present, only to discover that the legs don't have poppers, so I will have to undress him every time he needs a nappy change. Why would anyone make sleepsuits like that?!

What jabs do they have at his age csws? I have completely forgotten all that side of things... don't remember taking DD except at around 14 mo... but I'm sure there were more than that

Those sleepsuits drive me mad- I kindly gave all those ones away, rather than keeping them

You mean I'm supposed to know why they're injecting him EPPM . Think it's polio, hib type stuff. 2 jabs now, 2 more at 12 weeks, and 3 at 16 weeks . mmr is the 13/14 month one.

Have put a new pic of ds (in said sleepsuit) on profile.

Wow- his eyes are so dark!
I don't think he looks like DD particularly- she really looks like you. He looks so big already!

Hello

A lovely man at the Apple shop has fixed my computer
For free

I did have to drive to Lakeside, but was definitely worth it

He had to reload all the operating systems and do lots of other technical stuff....

The dds are pestering for computer time so I'll be bnack later