September 08 - Just ladies with babies

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I thought I'd start a new thread before we run out of space...

Wow! No problems feeding then!

actually she does feed more often in the evenings, but i'm slowly giving her an earlier bedtime so i think we're coming to the end of cluster feeding.

better go, night garden has finished so it's DS's bedtime.

Mel I will point that out to him - he was practically in tears he was so tired this morning (T was up for about an hour after his bottle feed, probably because he was so cross at being woken!), so I'm hoping he'll be more prepared to be sensible.

Meglet 5 mins?!?!? T feeds for about 40-50 mins still (although he does tend to go 3-4 hours from start to start of feed). Should I be worried about the insanely long feeds?

Grrrrr DP's mad father showed up today while we were entertaining my family (who we hardly ever see as they live many hundreds of miles away). We were not amused.

I think we might need to begin cutting T's daytime naps back a teensy bit - he is going to bed later and getting up earlier ever day at the moment, and is perfectly ready to play at those times. I've been a bit sloppy with the daytime naps and they've been a bit long, so think I need to just cut down a few minutes at a time and see how we go.

You must have very fast flow meglet, I am like this too!
Hope the routine gets sorted for you hopefully I am a litttle that your dh is so enthusastic with the night feed. My dh is yet to do one. The past few nights baby muffin has required a boob at four am. Ive just hooked him on and fell back to sleep . Iv woken up around 7.30 with him head butting my boob wanting another one. Gosh, I hope this is safe. Ive put a tomy bedside on my side of the bed so he cant fall out and always use blankets now.
I am feeling very festive and have put my tree up today . xx

ninja hope saturday was fun. Think you may have got cold from me as I started with one on Friday, sorry. Got back fine from Trafford centre thanks - traffic jam was clockwise round M60 and I go anticlockwise.

Although C is an angel baby normally in daytime, am v of those who have LOs that settle in the evening. C still will not settle and just cries/wants to suck constantly from her penultimate feed (about 7.30pm) until about 9.30pm. I know it's only 2 hours but with DP's working hrs we never get to eat before 7.30, so end up shoving tea in our mouths while comforting C.

TBH, it's more that I worry that we're doing summat wrong. She won't settle in the bedroom so we just keep her with us - as she's 10 weeks old I get alot of useless helpful advice like 'she's old enough to settle herself now', 'they grow out of colic by now'.
I won't leave her to cry but just don't know what to do. DP and I have only had a handful of evenings were we've managed a conversation.
Not after perfect solution but does anyone have any thoughts - if it really is a case of 'she will get there one day', then so be it but it feels like she'll be like this forever. How do I know when it's time to try settling her in the bedroom after 7.30 bottle? DP and I worry that she'll just get used to 10pm bedtimes.

hopefully C is still in some newborn clothes and 0-3 month old clothes sort of fit but do hang off her a bit. Have loads of pretty dresses that she's not big enough for yet - wish she was!!

We have also started having the dropping off in the arms and waking the second he touches the cot. It was driving me completely and utterly insane last night - I finished his last feed at about 11pm, and it was 12:30 before he managed to stay asleep in his cot. He fell asleep for the first time at about 11:15, and I really consider 1hr 15 mins a ridiculous amount of time to be putting him in the cot...
During the day he is supremely unconcerned about the cot, but in the evening he is totally unimpressed with it. And yet after the 4am feed he plops straight back into it. Grrrrr.

T's gut situation is also driving me insane (think it is partly to blame for cot hatred). He is going every 3-4 days again (for the past 10 days or so) and really impossible to settle for the last 24 hours or so before he goes because he is so uncomfortable

imoscarsmum - do you think your lo is unsettled between 7-9pm because she is over tired?

We found this was the case with ds2, so when he was 6wo we started the night time routine earlier. Bath at 6, then a big feed and he's in his cot asleep about 7-7.30pm.

He took to it straight away because he was so tired. I would have him constantly on the breast from about 3-6pm, so he still had a chance to cluster feed.

Maybe start by bringing her bedtime routine forward by 30 mins everyday until it gets to a time that suits you all?

My mum helpfully says the reason C wakes when put in his moses basket is because its cold. Try putting a hot water bottle in for 5 mins to warm it up first. Oh yes, because thats sooo easy while holding a baby! It might actually work tho

C sleeps pretty much all day and night, think I have a lazy one, but has his party time from about 8-10. He's wide awake, laughing, smiling and waving arms and legs everywhere. Don't think there is much point in trying to settle him into bed at this time so keep him up with us.

He's also been in 3-6mth clothes from 6 weeks, not many of his 0-3 clothes fit him by then. His toes even curl up in the 3-6 mth sleepsuits now tho. Am going to get mum to cut the feet off and sow them up so I can get a little bit more use out of them.

Have a good day everyone.

ILTMIMI it's worth a try. She feeds really well all day and gets regular naps - so I thought it was colic and didn'tthink it was overtiredness. At 10.30pm she goes down like a dream and sleeps through till 7, so I really am not complaining about her - just worried we are doing someting to upset her.

We generally bath her at 7pm, so maybe tonight I'll try 6.30 bath and feed at 7. Each day is an experiment (who said that initially?)

Oh, and for those who have partners who work away, does it strike you as a peculiar quirk of unfairness that DP gets to go on his xmas do overnight, plus he is going to Las Vegas in January on business for a week, and so will get meals made for him, gets to sleep well every night etc etc. I know he works hard but it's me that could really do with the odd night away!! He gets to have a lunch hr too.

Don't get me wrong, would really miss C if i was away but one little, tiny night with the luxury of eating a meal slowly would be so nice.

imoscarsmum yes you do deserve a night out - your DH WILL cope!! DD1 was like that in the evenings, and it was over 3 months before she settled so I think you will get there. M has just strated settling in the evenings this week, but the nights have been worse! I think you've got it the right time round.

The night out was fun. Really nice food and good company. I left at 12.15 and it was still going strong. It was a bit odd wandering into the bar at first and wondering if any of the womenwere mumsnetters. I was there about 15 mins before I found any!

We're both full of cold today (poor M couldn't do 2 sucks without coming off screaming last night as she couldn't breathe and feed ). So I'm looking forward to a nice quiet day in the house. She's asleep propped up on the sofa atm.

imoscarsmum Personally I believe your lo will manage it by themselves eventually, but there is not harm in trying things out and seeing what works. Just be gentle about it! Also recognise how lucky/far you have come now that you get a decent night, if not evening!

Hopefully Didn't you know that there is a switch under your pillow, so that as soon as your head goes on it, it gives your lo's cot a mild electric shock to wake them!

Personally, I'd rather have a stress-free evening with BS by my side than an evening full of settling and re-settling. If she's only going to go to bed at 11pm anyway, .....

starlight it seriously felt like that last night! He happily sleeps in his pram carrycot in front of the tv with us from 9-10:30, and then is horrified by the prospect of either pram or his cot after that feed. and then after 4am and for his morning and afternoon naps he is thrilled to get into his cot! insane baby.

Well what a quiet bunch you all are today! I have been for a nice 2 hour walk with T and no one has had a single thing to say for themselves...

I'm here having a very boring day - stayed in and realised how much I have to do in the house, ab=nd then did none of it.

I can tell Mat leave is going to go too fast!!

Have to say I had a quiet day too. We did the shopping at Tesco then came home and then C fell asleep in her Mamas & Papas swing, and I confess I nodded off too!! We all need days like this - rest of week is full already.

Going to stay at my sister's house on Wed whilst DP in Glasgow. She has 2 LOs (5 and 18m) who sleep very well from 7pm. Hehehe, bet they don't once C starts up for 2 hours....[evil grin].

hi all,

we had a fab night (though I'm probably speaking too soon). put dd in her crib last night for the first time in 2 months (co-sleeping, more out of laziness really), and went down with usual little complaining at 7.30, then fed her at 11-11.30, put her back in the crib, and no prob, straight back to sleep (while I laid on ds's bed telling stories for an hour trying to get him to sleep (though I was sending myself to sleep!). dd woke up guess around 5am but we just left her and she just went back to sleep til alrm clock went off at 7am!! she was obviously ready for her crib (or did not care), it was probably me who took longer to fall asleep withou her!! though nice having space!

fingers crossed for tonight... ...

sunflower that sounds brilliant! Hope you manage a repeat performance.

I am dreading tonight - T has been straining loads today, and produced nothing (nearly 4 days sans poo). he is getting increasingly cross and I have visions of taking turns to hold him all night...

Leonie I have no qualms about the car seat for some naps, especially with the funny cushion thing in. When is it ok to not use the cushion thing though? T is very very long and his head is already touching the top of the head support bit of the insert (also a maxi cosi cabriofix).

Hopefully - Did you get my email about Thurs hun, 11am at Victoria Starbucks??

argghhhhh!! Af is def here....gosh i was slow to catch on as was on the toilet this morning and i thought why am i bleeding!!...but its my AF....had no signs of it today...oh well time to sort out my coil.

DD2 is 10 weeks and one day old