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July 2008 - Rolling, rolling, rolling, our babies just keep on rolling!

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sweetkitty · 04/11/2008 11:16

Sparkly new thread

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RomanCandleQueen · 10/11/2008 21:28

Things I love about Dewi

The way he looks all puffed up and milk-stuffed after a feed
The way he looks so adoringly at DS1
The dimple on his right cheek
When he grabs my finger and stuff it in his mouth
They way his feet are constantly moving
The speed of that smile first thing in the morning when I poke my head over the cot
The shocked look on his face when he sneezes
The way he eyes up my norks when he's getting hungry
That baby smell!
The Jimmy Carr hairstyle
The way his body is chunky and chubby in all the right places
I just love him!

NotanOtterOHappyDay · 10/11/2008 21:29

minkus thankyou..interestingly N has also started waking for 11pm feed

i think he is ready for weaning but will hold off for a while yet.Maybe about 5 months

think i may try a bottle of formula soon -my frozen ebm stores are runnibg low and i use them to top up the dream feed.need to be sure he will take formula when i need him to iyswim

Disney thinking of you x

smudge I am annoyed for you! you are doing a fab job

isaidno · 11/11/2008 07:40

Finished the baby lew weaning book - found it very interesting, although she did keep going over the same points. Anyway, I am still keen to give it a go.
Smudge - mothers always think they know best. In 30 years you will be berating your son for (or worse, the son's wife) for not doing the ironing properly!
I am afraid I have got to the age where i have to iron everything - even babygros and vests

Libra1975 · 11/11/2008 09:01

The trick is to have low standards even before the baby has born, that way they get all their exasperation and disappointment in your housekeeping skills out whilst you are still getting a decent enough sleep for it to go in one ear and out the other without bothering you.

DonutMum · 11/11/2008 10:21

Libra , quite so

sweetkitty · 11/11/2008 12:10

Or in my case have a SIL who is really messy then when MIL visits you she thinks your hosue is a palace

Actually smudge could you send your Mum round here I have SOOOOO much ironing to do today.

Anyway away to clean kitchen floor be back later I'm sure

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isaidno · 11/11/2008 13:13

My standards were low, trouble is the longer you become a sahm the harder it is to ignore the clutter around you. It was ok when I could escape to work / pub - now I have to spend alot of time at home and I prefer it tidier. Within reason obviously - I am not a clean / neat freak ... yet!

Libra1975 · 11/11/2008 13:29

That maybe another reason why more support should be in place to allow Dads to stay at home instead of Mums, I bet Dads would be able to ignore the clutter for years with a clear conscience!

ponto · 11/11/2008 13:42

Disney, thinking of you and Sam, hope his hospital visit goes well.

I think all mothers are annoying if you spend too much time with them. Mine keeps telling me to take it easy and not worry about the housework, then when I told her I was concentrating on cooking, washing and keeping the kitchen and bathroom clean, and not bothering with dusting, she then said "Oh I think you should always do your dusting, people always notice if there's a layer of dust when they come round!"

Things I love about Bryony:
The way she sucks her thumb when she's falling asleep
The way she splashes and smiles in the bath
The smile she gives me when she wakes up in my bed in the morning, looks to the side and realises I am lying next to her
The bald patch at the back of her head where she's rubbed all her hair off in bed
Her new stripy red and white babygro - she looks like a tiny convict!

Love reading everyone else's lists too.

I am still bfing, she is feeding 3-4 hourly day and night, after a couple of weeks when she was sleeping for up to 10 hours. Not sure what's gone wrong, but I'm not tempted to wean her yet (16 weeks) as it made no difference to sleep patterns with dd1 or dd2, and I'd rather wait until she can sit up by herself so I can feed her in a highchair. I tried to wait till 26 weeks with dd2, but when she was 5 months old she grabbed a tuna roll out of my hand and shoved it in her mouth, which I took as a sign she was ready for food! She ended up doing BLW (though I didn't know it was called that)as she refused to be spoon fed. For those thinking of trying it, be warned, weetabix and yogurt are very messy when eaten with fingers!

Rumpel · 11/11/2008 14:43

Hi All - just a quickie today.

DISNEY - xxx hugs to you and yours.

SMUDGE - second the Mothers thing. Mine is a bossy mare and so am I so no doubt I will be the same My Mammy keeps going on about teaching DD patience - if she was that good at it I would have some .

Am still neck deep in ebay stuff I'm selling - in order to buy other stuff! Bought C a beautiful wooden rocking horse off of ebay for Xmas - with my ebay sales. Also got my DH a really unusual piece of amber with a midge (a Scottish favourite beastie) in it pendant.

Well gave in and put Calvin in his cot in the other room last night. felt a bit guilty but I soo need a decent sleep as you can only handle this sleep deprivation thing for so long before you go mad, run away, fall over, lose all your hair, start dribbling down your front! And ti was GREAT a decent sleep - only up 3 times. Once for a bottle and twice to stick dummy in and settle him. He is in the study at the mo' as that is where the cot is but he will be moving into his own room at Xmas when Dh is off and we can get the room sorted out. The problem is I'll then need to start sharing a bed with DH again he snores like mad arggg!!! If I was rich enough I'd love 2 semis -then we coul put a door in the middle and he could have 1 side and we could have the other and we could meet for dates Good sleep, less mess to clear up - it would be fab!

Anway am off as trying to get all the housework done today so I can get the palyroom painted tomorrow when DD is at nursery.

Take care allxxxxx

pigleychez · 11/11/2008 15:27

Hi All,

Went to Babyclub this morning and bumped into a lady that was at the same Antenatal classes
as me. I briefly saw her at the hospital as we were on the same ward but she left the day I arrived.
Then to top it off another lady came with her little girl who was in the opposite bed to me and next to the other lady.
How bizzare is that!
Was great to see their babys and see how much they have grown since birth.
All 3 of ours babys were born a max of 4 days apart!

We are going to meet again tomorow at a Baby sign and Rhyme class.

Also was speaking to a lovely Danish lady whos is over for a few months with her DH's Job. Discussing the differences between the two countrys.
So all in all a nice time at baby club today

Disney- Hope everythings going ok

Smudge- My mum drives me crazy too. The latest thing is that Im giving in to her! No, its called comforting her when shes upset!

Rumpel- I too think I will sleep better when Abigails in her own room, just brave enough to do it yet.
Ive been going to bed about 11pm but not going off till 1.30... its very frustrating!

disneystar · 11/11/2008 20:20

hi guys im back
well samuel is ok but he needs to have his open heart surgery sooner rather than later now
we have had good talks with the consultants and he needs one double heart bypass
and reconstructive surgery on his skull both are a 8 to 10 operation each if we dont agree he will not live to see 5 years old
there is a certain age they like to do the surgery i dont think they are going to leave him to long as hes in early stages of heart failure now (this can last many months)over gradual time
to have the head surgery and a tmi alert now
they have to take his whole face of cutting from ear to ear
remove his eyes and crack open the skull reset the bones allowing the brain to grow
reset everything back into place
take some bone from base of brain and mould it into a new forehead he wont live past 2 years old without it
now i cant take this in right now i feel sick and numb as im sure you would to
i have decided not to think about this for a while and absorb it slowly or tbh its going to drive me mad and i already have pnd
they have to repair his heart first as hes not strong enough to undergo any surgery without doing that first
i feel very very guilty as i was told this around 24 weeks pregnant and i decided not to terminate and carry on and give him a chance
but in doing so i have made this choice and now he has to have all this pain and ops
but i just couldnt do it i loved my unborn baby no matter what
they are letting us take samuel to disney next year before the ops as they thought this was a good idea,
i know the risks and i love my son i cant say how i feel just yet as i just dont know
thank you very very much for all the support you have given me and my family
i have talked with my dh and we have both decided we are going to hold a birthday party for him next july and hire a place so that all of you are invited everyone on the ante natal thread and here
i know this is some time away but please think about it
i want samuel to meet as many of you as possible before he goes in
whats your views on this guys?
off to do bottles now and hopefully relax x

JODIEhadababy · 11/11/2008 20:27

Glad your back and to hear how much surgery Sam will have to go through, but you are doing an amazing job and you made the best choice for him.

I will be glad and honoured to attend Sam's 1st birthday party.

Libra1975 · 11/11/2008 20:28

I have just come from reading the Times report of the little boy who was murdered by people who were suppose to love and look after him and then I read your post Disneystar which demonstrates how much a mother should love and look after their child, the love you have for your son comes thru in every post and the strength you have is inspirational.

EEC · 11/11/2008 20:31

hello all - sorry have been absent for such a long time. have been feeling pretty low and not communicative. Have spent hours trying to catch up and have only just finished reading the last thread. Will try to read this one later.

Have missed you all, but a bit like not wanting to phone a friend that you haven't phoned for ages, it seemed that I couldn't post unless I had caught up with the thread. Silly I know!

R is gorgeous and keeping me happy enough in himself, but am feeling very lonely and isolated. haven't been out once in the evening since he's been born as I still haven't managed to really make any friends here. pathetic i know. Don't really go out in the day either... Must do something about it.

For info : Rory is now 15 1/2 weeks, a gorgeously chubby 16 lb and still waking once or twice a night. No routine in the day -eats and sleeps every three hours or so, when he wants to, but goes to bed at 7 or 7:30 most nights.

He giggles madly, but no rolling here yet.

Afraid to say he has been in his own from about 2 months and we have both been sleeping better ever since. Can't help feeling guilty about it though!

sweetkitty · 11/11/2008 20:35

Oh disneystar your post has made me cry poor wee Sam, we all love our wee people so much, even holding them for their injections breaks our hearts.

Sam has been sent to you for a reason, I think you were right at your scan to give him every fighting chance, someone knew you were the right person to give him to as you would love him and fight for him and in my book that makes you one special lady.

libra1975 - I know some people should not be allowed children, everytime I hear a story like that I want to scream, I would have taken him. PreDC these stories were sad but now they make me cry.

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EEC · 11/11/2008 20:36

Have just cross posted with you Disney. It made me cry to read about how much you and your lovely Sam are going through. You are truly amazing, and you must remember that you have and still are giving him all the the love and chances that he needs to lead a full and happy life. My thoughts are with you constantly.

NotanOtterOHappyDay · 11/11/2008 20:49

Disney i am so pleased samuel is ok and that he is getting such good care both from doctors and you and dp

you are doing your best by him so please never feel guilt

EEC are you ok? Its nice to hear from you

N is 17 weeks i think and not rolling either - i went out once since his birth and that was when he was 4 weeks old for an hour

I have been RUBBISH since n;s birth at keepiing up with friend s and seem to have dropped a lot of them like a lead balloon as just coping with housework and feeding etc is too much

you are not alone

Please CAT me if you want a chat -i have older dc's too and sound in a similar 'rut' if you like!

isaidno · 11/11/2008 20:51

disney - I would be honoured to come to Sam's party.
EEC - nice to "see" you again; keep popping in - virtual friends can be as good as rl ones xxx

I've had Poppy in her own room for 2 weeks now, and she sleeps til about 5am (from 7pm) since then. It is much easier to ignore little whinges than when she was next to me. About 3am she seems to stir, cry for a minute, then find her sucky fingers and go back to sleep. previously I would have just fed her then.

TJuice · 11/11/2008 21:52

hi disney - so glad sam is okay.

i think SK said it so well. we were with you when you made your decision and we're here now. sam couldn't have a better mum xoxo.

if I'm in the UK, I would love to come to Sam's 1st birthday!

Well, I am thinking of moving Elodie to her room but need a chair in there first. Also want to get a gas alarm as her room is next to the kitchen.

She's been waking up for a feed again - between 1 and 2. Guess she is getting hungry. I tried her on some Hipp vælling which is some kind of corn-based drink and she guzzled it. She is 23 weeks today . . .

shortshafe · 11/11/2008 21:56

Hi all,

As you know I'm not a prolific poster , but I check in most days to see what everyone is up to!

DISNEY - I've followed your story since day 1, your bravery and courage never cease to amaze me. Every day that Sam is with you is a blessing and I agree with whoever said that he was meant for you - a very special baby for a very special family. Going to Disney next year sounds like a wonderful idea. There won't be a dry eye to be found at his birthday party next year!

RE feeding and routines, Isaac has 1 bottle of formula around 11pm, DH does this so I get a bit of a break. He then sleeps until 7am ish, then breast feeds every 4 hours or so, he can manage 2 hours awake but then needs an hours nap to recharge! I'd love to put him in his own room but he's going in with his big sister so think we'll suffer his grunts and moans for a while longer!

RE mothers, (bless 'em) DD is my mums PFBDGC so poor Isaac doesn't get a look in! She's learnt not to comment about my housekeeping or parenting as she gets told to shut it in no uncertain terms! We get on great as long as we don't comment on each others life style choices

I've not been brave enough to go to a baby club yet, and I avoid the health visitor like the plague!

I managed to keep up with most of my friends when I only had dd, now there's 2 of them there just aren't enough hours in the day. It does get more than a bit lonely stuck in with 2 under 3- funny how the invites for lunch dry up?!

mcchesers · 11/11/2008 21:58

Disney - I'm set here in tears. Sounds like you are in the right place with the right doctors and that baby of yours has just the right mama!
We're right here for you anytime you need to vent.

Aidan and I would love to come to Sam's 1st birthday.I was just thinking we don't really know too many people with babies and would we be invited to any birthday parties?

I've been given setraline and am going to start on it tomorrow. I'm thinking that I might just need something to kick start my brain.

EEC - good to hear from you!

sweetkitty · 11/11/2008 21:59

I'm glad (in a way) it's not just me thats feeling very lonely and isolated right now.

I go to two toddler groups during the week but all my "friends" have left as there DC are all 3 and at nursery now. I know I should go and make new friends etc but it's bloody hard especially with 3 plus going out with 3 on your own anywhere is a nightmare so I'm stuck in most days.

You guys are a lifeline though

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Sarahpo · 11/11/2008 22:24

Hello MN'ers and thank you for your welcomes to the July 2008 club I haven't found a post-natal group locally so a virtual one will do just fine...pigley chez if you would like to meet up that would be great as the one lady that i know in this town, well i think we are getting on each others nerves now!!
speak soon hopefully sarahpo

JODIEhadababy · 12/11/2008 07:25

Morning,

I'm feeling all sad and lonely here too, thank god for MN! With DS1 I was out al the time, songtime, coffees, toddler groups, baby yoga, swimming, god his social life was better than mine ever was. Now with 2 of them I'm virtually house bound, so god knows what it's like with 3! DS1 is going through a pushchair strike, which is fine when just popping to the shops for a loaf of bread, but when I want to go to town, nghtmare, and as for nice coffees or lunches with friends, well, that doesn't happen anymore!!!! AND to top it all off he's dropped his nap, so I don't get a minute to myself all day! (until he's at nursery! )

disney I was teling my DH about the latest developments in Sam's health last night, and I couldn't finish it as I was in tears! He had to read your post himself, and by the end he was in tears too!! I believe you've made the best choice for him, now I might be over stepping a mark here, but without your care and love, he would never have smiled, never have known love, never have had a huge cuddle, etc. You're a very brave lady, and I;m sure Sam's a very brave boy too.