May 2008 Babies....food glorious food....hot sausage and mustard!!!

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New thread as it's Nov so our babies are all hitting 6 months!

GDABD you are very lucky to be getting 2 full nights DC free enjoy!!!! Sorry to hear about that what has the health visitor suggested?

Baiyu You sound very happy

oh dear, now i feel silly not using my vouchers properly for years! you can't swap boots advantage points for gold can you?

macaco i don't think it would really help very much - it's a thread best left to die a death i think rather than sinking down to the level of some people who obviously are just looking for a fight - one of THOSE MN threads....

gdabd worry not i had it mildly with both boys and you have had a lot to cope with and done (and still doing) brilliantly. seriously even just talking about it once really helps - kind of one of those things that once you say "look i'm not coping too well and i need a bit of help / leeway / talking time...you feel a great weight off your chest and everything seems a lot better quickly. do talk to us if you need to though - sometimes better than talking to someone you know. (and you can cry all over the keyboard and no one will ever know)

Mitchell, red cabbage is only nice IMO if braised (ala Delia) not boiled in a pan, barf.

GDABD, Id almost forgotten about Friday - NOT!!! Im leaving straight after the school run to make the most of my freedom, even if I get there really early and have to sit reading my book for a couple of hours hehehe

Hi all

I know I haven't posted for a while but I do keep reading. DS is 5 months today and when I took a photo today I had to do a double take at the result because he looks SO much older all of a sudden - where has my baby gone?

We;ve been struggling with the lurgy - DS had green snot coming out of his eyes as well as his nose at teh weekend. Bleurgh. Most of Friday he just lay on my lap and couldn't raise a smile (he is normally v smiley). Dr advised breastmilk in his eyes which seemed to help and although he's had some disturbed nights he seems a lot better. Unfortunately now I have it (without the green snotty eyes ) and was laid up in bed most of today.

I'm getting excited about weaning. I think I will wait another 4 weeks and I think I will go for a combination of BLW finger foods and spoon feeding the sloppy stuff. I can't really explain why other than it feels more right for us. I do find it a bit frustrating that so many MN threads seem to get overrun with people taking very entrenched views on things. As if there is some single "right" way of bringing up children and those that believe they have discovered the secrets get all evangelical about it. Seems a waste of energy to me.

DS is sitting up well for longer periods but today he looked up at me suddenly as I got up and in doing so he flung himself backwards and cracked his head on the floor. poor boy doesn't appear to have suffered any lasting damage but I have resolved to keep a few more cushions round him for a while yet (perhaps I could tie a pillow round his head or wrap him in bubble wrap?)

baiyu hope lump on arm all ok sounds a bit scary? I didn't know there was a non-serious strain of MRSA.. also v impressed at the variety of foods you have tried your DS with.

Hi guys,

Just testing a new name out...

GW Have you tried a bumbo? A friend lent one to me yesterday and DS loves it... It gives him the stability to sit up...

GDABD - Sorry to hear about the PND, but I think it's one of those things that needs to be identified before it can be addressed. I often feel very down, but I don't think it's PND (IYKWIM)

Flick Be lovely to see you next Friday. You will be glad to hear that it will only be DS and myself, not the dog

Mitchell - Thanks for your FB message. It is much appreciated!!

Hope everyone else is well and having good days. The weather is looking nice here today and not so windy so will try to get out for a longer walk.

GLSBTD xx

gingerwench I'm on antibiotics now so will just have to cross my fingers it's nothing serious and it goes away soon! Missed you at 'mother sensory' (what DP calls it) yesterday, hope you're both feeling much better.

GDABD It's often easier to tackle something when you know for sure it's there I find. Good luck battling it, we're all here for you. I hope your nights away help you feel better too.

GLSBTT as long as you keep one word in common we should be able to keep up!

We have a bumbo but I'm not too convinced by it. DS is very good at thrusting his hips forward and getting half out of it. Also he can take the tray off (it's a new style one and I am seriously unimpressed) - so he finds if I put him down some finger food that it's much easier to take off the tray and eat from it than pick it up with his fingers

Waiting in this morning for more scrummy Usborne books, keep missing the delivery. If anyone wants books for Christmas I can give you a nice discount! E-mail [email protected] for info and to stop me buying them all myself! I just love them.

Has anyone decided what to get their LO for Christmas? Maybe just a big wrapped box to play with?!

Have a good day everyone.

Hi everyone...

How's everyone today? GLSBTD I might just have to call you serious or aomething...not sure I can cope with all those initials! How are you, did you go to the Science museum? Was DS impressed? Saw your other thread...what a row that turned into. Never post on anything where the word judge appears is my rule. It always ends in tears. It's chat so it's deleted in 90 days anyway.

baiyu we have a bumbo and DS also tries to escape, although it was great when he was younger.

GDABD glad your HV has given you a diagnosis so you can get some help if you need it. Hope you have a lovely weekend.

GW that's what we are doing, a mix of spoon feeding and BLW. It's working well. I gave DS a big lump of banana to play with eat the other day and he managed to give it a good gumming!

Still only the bottom 2 teeth but still seems to be teething. When do the top ones come thru?

Gotta go to work today (I do 2 days). NOT looking forward to it. I feel like wailing "I want to be a housewife" which really surprises me as I never thought I'd be happy to be a SAHM. My boss is mad as a box of frogs too.

GDABD - What does your HV suggest you do to lift the mild PND? I hope you really enjoy this weekend? Imagine all that chat and sleep!!!

macaco I am with you on the work thing. I start back 4 days a week on the 1st Dec and really, I just want to carry on raising my kids without involving any strangers . DS doesn't eaxctly love the bottle and I don't like having sore boobs for half of the day. I know there is legislation in place which entitles me to have a quiet, clean, private place at work to express but it's an all-boys school in a really rough area and the Headmaster is a bloke. Do I want to discuss my boobs with him or any of senior management? Aye, right. Moan.

Macaco - YOu are right, that last name was far too long!!! You are so right about the judge thing.. I thought it seemed so wrong to judge a total stranger, but I have learned my lesson (the hard way!) I won't be doing that again!!!

Baiyu - thanks so much for the link.. WIll be ordering shortly!! I love the poem books. I am glad you are on anti biotics.. ANy joy with your sis? I do agree with the bumbo thing - I think DS will grow out of it quite soon and think I'm happy I'm just borrowing the bumbo for a few weeks.

Mocat and macaco I am back at work for a few days per month and it's HARD, isn't it? I am lucky that I am working from home most of the time, but I am still finding it a struggle!! Though, I used to work in an male dominated environment and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

GW - I am also allowing DS to explore food - he gummed on a sausage last night, which I am not sure is within the guidelines, but he really enjoyed it. He's not going to be a veggie!!!!

TheSeriousOne I like it! That's fab, sorry I got a bit OTT in my e-mail I just really like the books! The poetry one is lovely, I thnk I'm going to stock up on it now while it's half price. My sis is also back on antibiotics (course no.4, I don't think that's good for you...) She's also booked in for loads of blood tests this week so hope they work it out. My arm isn't so bad since I started taking the drugs but they are making me feel a bit queasy. I bought my bumbo on MN and the tray on ebay so I may just sell it on (actually that's a lie, I'll blatently just stick it in the cupboard where it will take up space til/if no.2 comes along!)

GDABD £5.50 in tesco vouchers today, won't take me to a hotel (tho I'm sure you saved up for an age) but going to try and get vouchers for somewhere to go for a meal at the wknd, yippee!

Hugs for all you going back to work. I'll have to face that eventually as at the moment our whole family is living on DP's student loan and I just don't look at my bank statements (and rejoice that the bank think I'm still a student so I have a big overdraft!) We also don't have mortgage to worry about so I appreciate that makes my choices a bit different. Mocat Hope you find a clean stationary cupboard or something...you poor thing.

It's 7.30 and DS has been asleep for 20 minutes, could this routine be working?!

evening all .

Thanks to all of you for your kind messages.

I had a weird day. My very good chum is over from USA and 3 of the other girls came over with their kids to see her and her baby too. I had this strange feeling all day which can best be described as 'overwhelmed' by it all. I was doing OK til mid afternoon then I just felt really close to tears and I just wanted to hide away. I was washing up and DH came to see if I was OK and I just started crying. He told me to go upstairs for a bit. My (excellent) friends knew something wasn't right and within mins I had them all up in my room giving me hugs and I had a good chat with them all. We were laughing cos we left DH and USA friend's DH downstairs entertaining all the kids for an hour !! I felt loads better for a good cry and for telling girls who are my closest friends how I feel.

The HV doesn't think I need meds or counselling as such, but she has advised me to talk more to DH about my feelings and she will come and see me weekly. She was very helpful.

baiyu Yes, we all saved our vouchers up for ages, also, we use a Tesco credit card for everything we buy then pay it all off at the end of the month, so we get loads of points that way too.

I'm just gonna email you about these books....

GW I sit DD2 down and just out a pillow behind her. She's already got a big red blob on her head so any other marks would go un-noticed .

DD2 suddenly eating really well now. One whole weetabix for breakie, 5 icecubes of veg for dinner and big bowl of fruit puree for tea. I have already found that I can drop one milk feed a day so she only has 3 bottles a day now.

LM xxx (always luckymummy )

GDABD You are lucky to have such good friends. Hope getting things out in the open and talking about them start making things better.

gbadb glad you are talking about things - and overwhelming is a very good way of describing it tbh

tso like the new name! you were more than welcome to bring the chocolate dog - ds1 is a big fan!

we were lent a bumbo when ds2 was around 6 motnhs - within about a week he'd tipped himself out over the side and ended up with a massive egg bump on his head...and a friend of mine's child tipped himself out and bumped himself as well.

can anyone believe all the christmas ads on tv????

and also what has MN come to when a front page debate is about whether you dress up to go to M&T group!!! I'd get slated on there - we buy a bit from jack wills and i was sent the christmas catalogue from their sister company aubin and wills - bout a knitted dress, cape (!!) and chunky cardi from there today. DH told me to which is very sweet of him

I saw that thread flick. I see no wrong in wanting to look nice, just cos you are a mummy? I tend to go along the 'nice but practical' lines.....boyfriend fit jeans and a nice jumper, a few beads to accesorise (something my sis taught me ). I usually wear a bit of blusher and mascara when I go out, not just to Tescos

but if I know I'm gonna see people I know, IYSWIM.

Must go and pack for my weekend away.........

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Flick - I agree SO MUCH with your point about M&T groups. Since when do you have to be a lousy dressers to be a good mummy?

I've found it REALLY hard to cuy clothes since DS arrived and I feel terrible about it.

I think making an effort / having the time to, should be commended. I hate the fact I often get to places and realise I have no make up and sometimes I haven't even brushed my hair . I hate that, and it makes me so I have the most respect for those who manage to do it properly.

serious I have just sent you a long email

GDABD's - Just wanted to say thanks. Your mail meant a lot to me. thanks,

TSO xx

Alright, who wants a virtual brownie? Nearly ready to come out the oven, chocolate and beetroot a la Hugh F-W served with lashings of creme fraiche. Remember we used to do this on the ante-natal thread? Seems so long ago!

Oh yes, virtual brownie, please!!

LM Glad you are happy by the end of the day! Aren't Dhs lucky fellas to get all of our ear-bending!!

Signing contracts tomorrow with new childminder so I have typed up a few questions and bits of info to bring along. I've managed to write three pages . Blimey Charlie - I hope this woman isn't easily intimidated!

Must admit to putting lippie on and wearing something half reasonable to M&Ts. I even wipe DS's face on the odd occasion.

Lm Would extra points come your way if you changed your name to Tesco'sTottie or something similar ?

Lol mocat, i bred a cat called Posh Totty . A weekend away could morph a tesco's tottie into a tesco's hottie
gdabd 3 words - your not alone.
I'm feeling loads better about the weaning issue, just worried shes not getting enough food. today i tried her with lamb and mash ( i removed a few chunks of lamb from a hotpot i made ( colmans not delias ). It smelled lovely, two mouthfuls, 3rd came out with a wail. But i shall keep trying.
I'm quite upset that people can be so nasty on the mn threads. I havent seen the thread in question i dont think but it made me think. so i have started a yahoo group, called Homewithbaby for anyone that would like to join. I will try and moderate it and hopefully there will just be a friendly place for people to chat and swap ideas without feeling as tho they might get bitten.
And it might be more comfortable knowing the messages are not for public veiwing but just the group members.

I seem to have been neglecting myself since lo arrived. My wardrobe hasnt seen a new item for over a year and if i was living at home my mum would have been dusting with my knickers long time ago trouble is by the time i am feeling jolly and do my hair etc the day is nearly over. i have this awful thing where i just can not get going til past lunchtime and i have missed the day. there is a M&T group in the next village but it finishes at 12 and i dont think i can get myself together to get there!!

denny ive only had red cabbage in salad, i didnt know you could do much else with it

Maybe it's a 6 month thing as I'm feeling a bit down and overwhelmed by it all at the moment too. It makes me feel stupid as I know how lucky I am to have my boys and dh, and reading some threads on mn brings it home to me what a tough life some people have, so I feel like I've got no right to complain when all I have is a feeling of not being able to cope very well sometimes.

I saw on the In The News thread that theree has been a particularly bad baby abuse case recently, I didn't open any of the threads about it and I'm even avoiding going into Chat as apparently there's a thread with graphic details in the title. I can't deal with that now, I read one thing about the case and went into the kitchen and burst into tears. I don't know how people can read about things like that and discuss it rationally without going mad or being sick.

Sorry guys, I feel bad for talking about this here, I don't want to bring you down. It just all feels very raw today.

TSO hoping you feel better today my dear - whenever i've seen you i've always thought you look lovely IYKWIM?! I know what you mean although i have no excuse for not brushing my hair it just looks really really really dreadful without it

there was a thread a while ago about how to look yummy mummy in about 5 mins and the overriding advice was "hairbrush either just before you go out door or in baby's bag, lipgloss and one of those easy put on wipe over your face all in one powder things". and it works, most of the time except for when you're taking ds1 to the office to see papa and then you have to make a bit more of an effort or else he moans (dh not ds1!)

did i say sam cut a tooth?

DBM honestly don't worry about talking about that on here - if it's something that's upset you we're all here to listen. I agree it is a dreadful case and I am staying away from the really graphic stuff because i agree it is horribly upsetting. the only thing i have heard that i do agree with is that there should be an independent enquiry into what went wrong, not just the council investigating themselves, but i guess that IS for another thread

see you all later

DBM and babylove (and anyone else feeling ) I'm so sorry to hear you are down too. It's soooo hard. I think we should all really use our lovely May thread to support each other.

DBM I felt/feel the same as you....as in 'what have I got to be down about, I've got 2 lovely girls, a lovely home, DH, family, friends etc'. The HV said I must not feel bad. She explained how my feelings are mine and no-one can take them away from me. If I feel like that, I feel like that. You can't rationalise it. I do know exactly what you mean though. I think of people like serious (as I like to call her) who is on her own with DS 90% of the time, and has a pretty unsupportive DH even when he is around (sorry serious, just being honest).

I'm lucky enough to have enough medical training to really understand and takeon board that depression is a chemical problem, i.e. not enough serotonin in the brain. It's not something you can help. I hate feeling like this. Last night DH wanted to stay up to watch the football highlights,which was fair enough, and I actually felt nervous about going to bed alone. You know that sort of feeling where you just want to be with someone at all times. It's so hard.

babylove When I really stressed with weaing DD1, a few friends suggested I have 2-3 days off weaning. I did, mainly to give myself a break from the stress. It really helped. I used to get so wound up about feeding her. It was lovely knowing I wouldn't have to think about it for a few days. Why don't you give yourself a break and have a few days off?

Baiyu thanks for the email. I would love a virtual brownie. Shall I put the kettle on girls?

LM xxx