Sept 08 - Is it day or night?

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Hope no one minds me starting a new thread?

sorry to hear about your rough night and morning fullmoonhowler! Hoping your day gets better

today is me and dh's 1 year anniversary and i'm so nervous about leaving ds with MIL tonight. she's brilliant with him and he already seems to recognize her.... i think i'm just going to miss him too much! feel bad because dh wrote up his card and gave it to me this morning, then looked at me like 'where's mine??' i had to admit that i haven't written in it yet think i'll have to come up with some creative in the small amount of time that i have between feeding ds and trying to get ready before MIL gets here.... oh it's gonna be a long day......

sorry to hear about your rough night and morning fullmoonhowler! Hoping your day gets better

today is me and dh's 1 year anniversary and i'm so nervous about leaving ds with MIL tonight. she's brilliant with him and he already seems to recognize her.... i think i'm just going to miss him too much! feel bad because dh wrote up his card and gave it to me this morning, then looked at me like 'where's mine??' i had to admit that i haven't written in it yet think i'll have to come up with some creative in the small amount of time that i have between feeding ds and trying to get ready before MIL gets here.... oh it's gonna be a long day......

have a good evening mella and don't worry - enjoy it.

hi everyone. so the good news is that after 3 or 4 bad evenings and nights where alfie just fed constantly and i had 3 hours sleep max each night, he had a good night last night, only waking once and only needing to feed for 40mins instead of the 2 hours plus that it had been! have been giving him a dummy too which seems to help. hopefully was just a little growth spurt and things will settle down for a bit now.

can we talk blood loss please girls? i had 4 days of lochia then replaced straight away by red blood which i still have now at 19 days post birth. also last night i had a few clots about 1p size. is this ok? have had the occasional sharp tummy pain too. could it be an infection? otherwise feel really well. and...(tmi warning...) the blood loss doesnt smell particularly nice (although does it ever?) sorry

plusone i would definitely go to your gp and get it checked out. i remember my midwife asking questions about colour, consistency, etc. and she always said that if clots came back or extra bleeding started back up that it could be an infection. hopefully you can get in straight away for that!

mellabella - have a good night! enjoy it, and I'm sure you'll be forgiven...

Hopefully Glad you are back, hope the new house is nice and worth all the hassle of moving. The sling I use is a celeb sling, basically a long rectangle of fabric with 2 rings and you sit baby as if you are burping him and then tighten the fabric around. Robyn loved it and settled into a nice sleep nestled between my boobs. You can tighten the faric as much as you want and adjust it so the back is upright. I also held her in place, you don't need to but it was nice to hold her there.

Digitalgirl When you say sleeping bag do you mean like a grobag. I have had Robyn in a 0-3 month size now for 3 weeks and didn't realise I should wait 2 months

Debs - I think you have to wait to use a sleeping bag if you've had a premie, not sure about full term babies tho, I used mine as soon as we got home from hospital (5 days old), as long as the arm holes are small I don't see the problem.

Imoscarsmum - Sorry to hear about your LO's reflux , my DD occasionally throws up thru her nose and it really is gross, I feel so sorry for her even tho she doesn't seem to even notice! I'd hate to have that every day, I feel for you.

so i only ever breastfeed and yesterday when i pulled out my nipple from sons mouth, instead of milk coming out, it was blood where the milk usually comes out of....what do i do? i really don't think i have any milk.

eandz have you had any scabbing. this happened with dd1 when she sucked the scab off. everything was fine by the next feed. try expressing a little if you can to check.

had Robyn weighed on weds and she is back up to birthweight again. that means 5oz in 1 week. soon she will fit into all her clothes. still in first size or newborn.

aren't these cute, wonder what the xmas ones look like

yeah, when i expressed, no milk just blood. i feel really defective. i've been trying hard not to complain or get paranoid.

Hello all...

Kagey, thanks for that. Hope it keeps going well for you

Imoscarsmum...I have tried to bf too before the ff, but Toby is having none of it!

(NB: ayone now when your milk dries up? Still leaking a few drops now and then)

Notcitrus...I completely know where you are coming from...For me it was switch to ff or lose what little sanity I had left! I also got alot of conflicting advice re: bf and ff. Very frustrating.

Plusonemore..sounds like an infection to me (I had one with ds1 about 3 weeks after delivery) Go to see your GP as they may need to take a vaginal swab.

Debs75...you can use sleeping bags/grobags for babies from 7 and a half pounds. Toby has been in one since day 1. Make sure you get the correct tog level though. eg: 2 or 2.5 for winter - 1 or 1.5 for summer. HTH.

Toby still in pain due to wind/colic. Given up on infacol. Also seems constipated today -poo a bit harder than usual. RE: his pain - Could it be reflux??? Thing is, he is not normally sick - only after a really big burp.
Last night he had a bad patch from 8-11 then went from 11pm to 5am between feeds but was awake and distressed til well after midnight....any tips?

eandz This is what happened to me with ds1. I couldnt express at all and what did come out was blood. (I decided to switch to formula for ds1 due to his small size and desperate need for milk, any milk!) Perhaps you have cracked nipples and it is blood tinged milk IYSWIM??

Off to get some food......not good food, stodgy food!!!

apart from taking ds1 to visit a preschool today all I seem to have done is eat biscuits (have had some sweet and some savoury, some plain and some with stuff in the middle- so I think that counts as a balanced diet ) and clean up splutters. Ds2 have been spewing up quite a lot of his milk the last few days. Thakfully it comes straight back up before it curdles so doesn't smell as spewy as it could but its still gross and hard work as if its lots of splutters he then wants fed again straight away. He's cried more today than usual and its now grating on me. DH has just taken him for a wee walk so get him out of my face and hopefully he'll get half an hrs snooze.

eandz poor you! does is hurt to feed? I've got blisters on one of my nipples (the one that had mastitis) and it hurts when DS latches on initially. one of the blisters has popped and has turned into a blood blister, but that happened before and it eventually disappeared.

dave

the woman who owns our local baby shop told me when i was pregnant that I shouldn't use a grobag till the baby was two months. maybe I got the wrong end of the stick.

anyway - grobag didn't work last night, he's still startling so we had to swaddle him again (which he hates and if he's awake enough he'll fight his way out of it)

even tried the dummy last night, which he sort of liked but needed me to hold it in his mouth the entire time. which didn't help me get to sleep. in the end DS slept on the edge of his cot from 3:30am. then after a 6am feed he slept in the middle of it, but on my arm (snap fmh). i think that's progress.

other than that I've had a really good day today. DS was a star and slept in his pushchair while we went for a walk in the woods and then woke up for a feed when I stopped for a hot chocolate. then went back to sleep whilst I went shopping and then met the nct girls for lunch, woke for a feed and a play, then went back to sleep for the walk home. then fed him at home then he slept in his moses basket while I had a long chat with a friend on the phone! Such a good boy!

Despite having had little sleep (1 3-hour stint), I seem quite perky today. Just as well as A has been demanding food every couple hours and not napping. Eventually we gave him a bottle of EBM seeing as he was still complaining after I'd fed him for about an hour the 3rd time this afternoon when he normally naps for a few hours. Still grouching.

GP was annoyingly patronising, complete with the Special Voice for the poor deaf mum - even after mentioning the doctorate in neurobiology which normally counters that. Still, got scrips for minipill, more ADs (I didn't tell her I already had 4 months' worth at home), and a diflucan. And pile of condoms, because she clearly wanted me to have them...

This is where I'm confused as people have been talking about 'standard' flucanazole doses for a week, but diflucan is supposed to be one shot. I have a spare which I might take in a few days if no better - and as GP refused to give anything for A, I'll probably have to go to his GP on MOnday and insist he get treated for thrush even if he still doesn't show it (like I don't). He's smelt like rising bread dough since birth - anyone else's baby smell like that?

debs grobags say from 7 lb upwards. But that leaves half the bag empty - A prefers swaddling so far but I think he'll like the bag when he's bigger.

New mummies, - don't watch the news .

But if you do, please rethink how bad a mummy you really are!!

nc diflucan can either be one loading dose, or daily doses and for thrush in ducts BOTH are advised!! If you read the leaflet inside it should say that. I don't think just the loading dose vwill get rid of it, but might make it resistant to the medicine, I'd phone a bf line to get prioper advice.

what was on the news dave?

DH was a star earlier, he had sensed I was a bit stressed and came back from his walk with a fruit pie and 3 bags of sweets for me .
I decided though that I was still a bit stressed and the only thing that would cure me is Dominoes pizza so he's gone to get some!

notcitrus ds has had a very interesting, sweet smel to his breath from birth. Anyone I've mentioned it to (MW, bf counsellor) has said 'how strange, never heard of it' but i'm thinking it just must be the breastmilk, its so sticky!

spoke to a MW on the phone today about blood and clots and she said if worried to go to gp, but that its better out than in and that if the blood isnt actively trickly down leg (urgh) then its prob ok. she also said to phone 999 if it did start trickling down leg!! gonna see what happens over the wkend

Also with thrush make sure that you wash your hands religiously before and after each feed, and treat the baby too even if they don't show signs, because they can transfer it from one breast to the other. And if its really stubborn, I've read that you should wash your bras at 90o to kill the fungi, and if you're putting cream on your nipples, allocate a different finger for each nipple and never get them confused! I really hope all those with thrush get better soon.

Well there was me fretting that my baby's routine at a month old isn't as good as I'd hoped, and then tonight I found out one friend has lost her baby at 15weeks, and another has been left by her husband. Its the night for bad news, and puts things in perspective for me. Gonna snuggle up to my dh while my ds snoozes next to me and dd sleeps in the next room, and count my many blessings.

debi your definition of a balanced diet is inspirational, I'm tempted to print it out and put it on my fridge!!

ninja - the leaflet inside the flucanazole capsule just says 'Do not take while bf'!
I think I'm going to have to go to the walk-in clinic tomorrow as the only way to get me and A treated rapidly.

Definitely avoiding news - would like to also avoid the NSPCC ad. I know they need to drum up cash but I think the NSPCC go to far - I still have nightmares from a school assembly they did when I was 8, when they told us lots of horrific stories to get us to get lots of sponsor money.

Sorry to hear your friends' sad news carrieon.

OMG Ds has been asleep in his Moses basket for 2 1/2 hours! I havent fed him since 6:30. We're still in the lounge, I didn't want to wake him to take him upstairs. When he next wakes, we'll go up and I'll feed him.

I just can't believe it. .

DG Baby Starlight has started to do this a little. I'm torn between letting her sleep until she wakes to encourage her to get used to long periods without feeding or waking her and tanking her up so I don't risk her being up all night! what to do, what to do........?

so dd1's cast is history! it came off yesterday, a week early. feels like an albatross has been lifted from my neck.

she was having pain in the ankle and they called us in to have a look. wa-hey!

she still won't walk on it yet but i don't care. it's gone.