Sept 08 - Is it day or night?

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Hope no one minds me starting a new thread?

hello new thread.
doing much better, especially as i can express loads of milk in the mornings which means someone else can do 2 feeds a day!
took A to GP today and a lovely doc gave him a clean bill of health (quite understood about terrifying hv clinics!), thought he was recovering from some cold and heat rash.

took hv and gp advice and have somone round each evening for next few days as that's when he needs endless joggling and attention and i have no energy.

hoping antibiotics / thrush cream are doing their stuff and breasts will feel better soon - thought they were but now not so sure.

Hey all - just a quick hello to get the new thread in my list. Sorry I'm not managing to be around much but we seem to have loads to do all the time so rarely have time to sit down and catch up.

All well in the Sunshine household. Effy doing really well and we're all getting used to being a family of four. The only bad side of life, for those of you that remember me from the ante-natal threads, are that things are a million times worse with dad and it now looks like he's on his last legs. Am heading up North on Monday for the day and am expecting that to be saying goodbye to him. Can't tell you how angry and sad I am that it's come to this.

Sunshinemummy I am sorry to hear about your dad. Just remember you did all you could to help him and he knows that, the rest was up to him. My dad does not listen to the doctors advice either and there is nothing I can do to help him. It is his life.
Keep strong for your new family please.

im also expressing alot better too - hooray!!

Midwife had discharge me today and also dd2 is now 10lb 8oz...she had put on 11oz in 7 days!! !!!!

Mel ive just started penicillin yesterday because i've mysteriously managed to get strep b in my c-section slice. hmm and it is safe to bf while taking it.

And this morning, i got a call from the clinic saying another swab has come back showing a 2ndary infection.. nothing major, just means more anti-biot's. mixed anaerobic flora on top of strep b on my "slice".

this is turning into quite the nasty recovery experience. now taking all the antiB's, its going to wreak havoc on my guts. great. just what i need on top of everything else. :::sigh:::

i know, i know. my problems are very minor on the greater scale of things. but gawww! im just a walking infection factory!

in a bit (if my guts allow) we have an appointment at the local day nursery for ds1. i know he will benefit greatly from it. and it will be hard for the mommy ...but its going to have to happen at some point (first day at school, etc). since being home from hospital with ds2, i still catch myself in amazement that i have 2 children now! wow, who'da thunk?

A new thread already we really are committed to mn.

Eandz saw your comment about mother and baby clubs on the old thread. I had the same problem with ds who has autism. Felt really left out and embarressed but it was a friend who ran the club and she was great at making me feel welcome. Stick with going as it will get better. Two years after going to my first club I was running it and we were very welcoming to anyone who joined, and quite popular.

Slings I have a celeb sling (off ebay) which is like a long scarf with 2 rings to secure it. I am having loads of trouble getting Robyn lying down and looking comfy without looking as if she is going to fall out. She is 3 weeks old and under 8lbs so not huge does anyone have any tips or maybe suggestions for a better one. Am a size 18 so need something well fitting and want to be able to bf in it. She does fall asleep in it so she must be comfy.

Nappies Who is using reusables? We have little lamb ones but they are huge on her, ashould i just try them anyway I don't want to buy pampers for ever.

have the halloweeny names thrown anyone off? ((aside from eandz)?

A new thread already we really are committed to mn.

Eandz saw your comment about mother and baby clubs on the old thread. I had the same problem with ds who has autism. Felt really left out and embarressed but it was a friend who ran the club and she was great at making me feel welcome. Stick with going as it will get better. Two years after going to my first club I was running it and we were very welcoming to anyone who joined, and quite popular.

Slings I have a celeb sling (off ebay) which is like a long scarf with 2 rings to secure it. I am having loads of trouble getting Robyn lying down and looking comfy without looking as if she is going to fall out. She is 3 weeks old and under 8lbs so not huge does anyone have any tips or maybe suggestions for a better one. Am a size 18 so need something well fitting and want to be able to bf in it. She does fall asleep in it so she must be comfy.

Nappies Who is using reusables? We have little lamb ones but they are huge on her, ashould i just try them anyway I don't want to buy pampers for ever.

i also have LL reusables. dd is 8.5 lbs. they are fine on her bur had to go back to paper tho as umbelicus is slow at healing.

Sorry computer froze so I did the usual click everything loads and it might get better.

Robyn is sat here trying to poo, she strains and I can hear her bowel squeaking. She last pooed Saturday and it was like toothpaste, she had trouble then, real cranky, lots of straining yet it was really soft. Her nappies are really wet and she does loads of smelly trumps. She looks and sounds constipated but not sure why.

Debs75

slings - my mum made me a sling like this one (well, actually she made 3 out of a fleece blanket), it's comfy for bf too (if you want to make your own check this site)

nappies - we're using washables too (a mix really, mainly Sandy's, few bamboozles and saving for pop-ins), but come here. but she just got into her size s sandy's (nearly 6wks old) so been using muslins, can boost with cheap microfibre cleaning cloths.

i also have a pouch sling which i am using for the nursery run with dd1. I nearly forgot about it but putting on a woven wrap o/s the nursery was a faff wot with having to get a toddler in a cast out of a car and inside the nursery on a wet day... life is slower and more faffy due to this broken leg.

Debs, how old is your baby? if still bfing, they start to poo less often round about 6 wks iirc. by 12 wks dd1 was pooing once every 6 days. t'was bliss.

imoscarsmum don't worry about sharing stories about having a calm baby, it gives me hope for the future .

My expressing is going well, DD had a little bottle of about 2floz after her last feed yesterday at 11:45pm and she slept 'til 4:45am which was a bit longer than normal. Have expressed twice today as DS was at nursery and I think I'm getting more out each time. I'm sure drinking loads of water makes a difference.

debi I've started my e-baying too. Made £25 on 2 pairs of jeans but got more items to put on. I can't wait to have more space in my wardrobe.

DD is now poo-ing every other day. Which is rather nice as we don't have many leaky nappies and therefore less washing .

foxy my DD is 6 weeks tomorrow so that sounds like her poo-ing is on schedule!

Debs75
ds has been acting the same way lately. seems to really be uncomfortable and hadn't pooed in a few days. he really seems to be straining as well.... perhaps something I ate?

dd has just stopped having a poo at 3am. thank heavens. Hate pooey nappies at night. She's having 2 poos a day still at nearly 3 wks. roll on 6 wks!

Just had Effy weighed and measured and she's growing well. The HV clinic at my doctors is really weird as you don't talk about anything other than weight. At my old clinic, when DS was born 2.5 years ago, they chatted to you about general well being and gave you advice. Very strange here that you weigh the baby yourself, they check the weight and then you just go.

Effy is just doing fantastically well. she's such a happy angel little girl. I'd forgotten how much those early smiles just melt your heart.

imoscarsmum 'shouting 'what is wrong with her' at DP ' Me too after the second night of hell. Weigh-in today shows she's just had a growth spurt. Lots of babies are lovely in the daytime but monsters at night by the way, and only a saint can be patient in the early hours of the morning after night after night of disturbed sleep. Don't feel guilty about your normal feelings.

'the midwife made me feel crap as I asked gor G&A at 2cm (followed, god forbid, by an epidural), when 'better' ladies were coming in for pain relief at 6cm or more - I was such a bad person for not coping without pain relief! (Obviously I should have been at home in their eyes, rather than 'wasting' resoources)'

This is the very thing I needed councelling for. I just couldn't understand the whole thing. Either I was crap/a failure to be unable to handle things or there was something very very wrong that wasn't diagnosed and/or was being overlooked or ignored. As it turns out it was a bit of both, - not me being crap, but being unable to handle things BECAUSE of the environment/way I was being treated rather than supported. Plus it baby probably wasn't positioned brilliantly due to me not being positioned brilliantly iyswim.

I only went on to deliver naturally-ish (as it turns out against hosptital policy) was because the labour ward was so full the mlu I was in was being begged to take people from it AND a SHO perfomed the outdated and very dangerous fundal pressure. It 'saved' me from a c/section BUT actually carries more risks and was done without my consent . However, it wasn't this that gave me flashbacks, - it was the 2cm not-coping bit.

'Every day is a bit of an experiment'

Potxola You're a genious for coming up with that line. Seriously, - if only the parenting books would say that we'd all feel a LOT better (but they wouldn't sell probably )

notcitrus SO glad you have help. It sounded like you and MrNotcitrus had a lot on your place WITHOUT a baby as well. IF you can manage it arrange a couple of things like a private walk around the block with just MrNoticitrus or a quick drink at a local and a haircut or something. I found both these things made a world of difference to me in the early stages with DS.

Very sorry about your news Sunshine

munki and sunflower I KNOW WHO YOU ARE......

foxy How long does the plaster have to stay on?

last night at 10.30 pm i shouted 'shut up' to dd1 she's been waking 2x per night for milk then again at 6 am. tandem feeding is no lark as she's always been a boob monster and would feed as often as dd2, given the chance. i never wanted to tandem feed anyway but she gets a lot of emotional comfort and with a new sis, dad away and broken leg, how can i deny her

Foxy I'm finding I have a lot less patience with DS atm (only 22months - bless him and really good on the whole), but my fuse is less because having 2 is stressful enough without the additional sleep deprivation.

How do any of you ever get anything done?

BTW: I have a woman from the surestart centre coming on Thursday afternoons for the next 6 weeks to play with my DS because the HV thinks I'm finding it hard and that he is getting left out at an age when he needs attention.

I'm a bit embarrassed, because agreeing has left me feeling a bit of a failure , but on the otherhand DS will love it.

MM don't feel a failure just accept all the help you get offered.

I am lucky in that DS still goes to nursery full-time so Effy gets my full attention during the day (at least when I'm not loading up the washing machine or Mumsnetting that is). I'm also lucky enough to have a cleaner so don't have to worry about any of that and DP is great at sharing cooking.

Without this support I'd never get anything done and even with it I also have a shorter fuse than normal.

cast to come off on 31st oct, counting the days. i have a cleaner for 3 hrs on monday. will ask dd's godmother to have her on fri pm. she does tues and thurs full days at nursery. so that is how i'm coping.

on a lighter note, a Gap outlet opned at the shopping centre 2 miles away. will check it out at the wkend and report back. their sixes are good on me. hope they are doing children's clothing too as they fit dd1 v. well.