Sept 08 - Is it day or night?

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Hope no one minds me starting a new thread?

Im not sure how to bring over the list, i thought it would be nice to update the very 1st list to see who went for a suprise and what they had and if they quessed right at what they thought they were having etc

hello new thread! Will we get as active as the antenatal thread? I doubt anyone has the time...

lolly lovely idea comparing lists.

ninja - yes, that was an xs sandy, we're onto size small bamboo sandys now, loving them, loving the few bamboozles and pop-in too, but join this thread

is it day or night? well, if dd's awake, then it's night!!

I've found you - I had a panicky moment when I saw the old thread was full!!

Good idea about the list and it would be interesting to do some Statistics on it.

I'll join the thread sunflower I've got some Sandys but not the bamboo ones - have some bamboozles that are a bit big atm. I'm using Ella House Hemp ones at night and like diddy's in the day, but have lots mopre to try. I used them with DD1 but there was a lot less around then.

ninja only discovered washables when DS1 was 18mo, and then only got prefolds, which we both hated though, he found them too bulky and used to take them off, but they cured his nappy rash at least! this time I spent 2 months of annual/maternity leave researching before dd arrived and got addicted... selling stuff to fund a big pack of pop-ins atm...

as I didn't see dd was a girl on scan with my own eyes (we got to the 20wk scan still undecided if we wanted to know, only asked at the end of the scan), I had to check 3 times when she came out, especially as she was the carboncopy of her big brother... glad they were right though,as I had received so many girl-presents!

The GP has given me antibiotics as he thinks the return of the lochia (and some scar pain) is a sign of an infection. I think it's Amoxillin I'm on. He said it was safe to BF but I read the instructions and there are possible side effects in the baby - tummy upsets etc. As if he doesn't have enough of those already! I'm not stopping BF for a week though - I'll just keep my eye on him. Meanwhile the GP hasn't prescribed Gaviscon as he said you have to mix it with the milk so he didn't know how you could give it if you were BF - he said he's talk to the HV and let me know when I got back for my 6 week check. So we've bought some Colief, which the HV also recommended, and discovered you are supposed to express some milk before each feed into a small sterilised container and mix with a few drops of Colief. This is going to be tricky if we go out. In fact it will be tricky enough staying in! We're going up to the in-laws tomorrow for a week! All I can think is that I'll have to express off enough milk so that there is some left over to mix with the Colief before each feed as well as the 6 oz for the night feed. I'll let you know how we get on!

Signing off now as I need to iron my jeans (still damp) so I can wear them tomorrow. He puked all over them earlier so they had an unplanned wash!

Hi,
jearund Hi, as you can see by the number of times I post here,Lorea is keeping me busy, well her and her brother, but I often wonder how you are coping.

I am glad my advice has helped. It is all about trying things, isn't it? The close baby carrier that I loved so much when she was smaller, is not working for her at the moment and I am selling it s soon as I can. Because she has colic, she likes being very close to my body and the kari-me is like wearing a very tight t-shirt with the baby inside. Whenever she is on it, falls asleep and calms down. It is a bit of a pain to have to do the knot with the 5 m of fabric, but it is what works for her.
I remembered Sassafras talked about the Gypsymama being great and similar to the kari-me one . One is arriving tomorrow £10.00 cheaper, because they used it for demos, so I am pleased. I use the sling all the time at home, so I really need 2.
I can't belive what you said about the Italians. I just don't want any advice from Spain anymore. Acording to my mum my son was going to be a "mama child", VERY CLINGY because I gave him all my attention when little....
Pacita do you like the Kari-me?

jearund sorry to hear about you troubles.I havent had the time to read al the past posts,sorry. I remember taking Amoxillin for about 10 days while I was BF my ds and he was fine.
Have fun with the in-laws.

Thank you everyone for the supportive posts. Yes I did have a placenta abruption, and although deep down I know this was not my fault, I blame my body for letting him down so badly when he needed me the most.
anyway I have written my birth story as well as the following 3 weeks if anyone is interested in reading it, its under the birth stories thread under CRASH C SECTION be warned it is very long

Potxola, was thinking of you today, t hinking back to when we had the amnios and all the worries, and here we are with our lovely little girls. I know what you mean about all the fabric, putting on a wrap can seem like such a faff but it's worth it. Some of the ladies at the breastfeeding support group I go to has asked me to demonstrate, I was chuffed and feel very pleased about it.

The hv in charge of the breastfeeding group has asked if I would like to train as a bf peer supporter which I'm very excited about as well.

potxola in do like the kari-me although DS hated it at first. Also, i'm not sure in i'm tying him right. Do u know of any videos? And what posture does lorea prefer?

I have also ordered the tricotti, which is on its way. Same thing but much simpler to put on.

hi guys!

who is fullmoonhowler?

jearund i wouldn't trust a hv to diagnose reflux, sorry. please phone a bf helpline and have a chat. other issues with bfing can be in play. fast letdown/oversupply, some babies are just spittier, babies screaming in sleep is many times normal. i think reflux is overdiagnosed.

antibs are safe in pg but keep a lookout for thrush.

i have a Gypsymama for sale. £25. VGUC.

pacita, try the kari-me again. sometimes babies just fuss and it may not necessarily been the sling they were grumping about. video

eandz - it's sunflower... halloween name...

I've got a Kari-me too (and a Gypsy Mama that I haven't tried yet). I did a 1.5 hour shop with it (it took so long as everyone stopped to admire DD) when she was 2 weeks and it was brill! I have to say that she's quite settled so I don't need to use it as much as I thought I would. I think I need to go to a sling meet as my tying is hit and miss!

barnpot off to read your story

barnpot - just read your story... can't begin to imagine how hard it was for you, but hope writing it helped you see it objectively and showing you that there was nothing you could have done to prevent what happened.

Hi ladies, glad to find the thread. Had quite a bad night last night and found myself thinking some rather surprising thoughts and a bit worried about myself now.
Basically DD has been an angel baby but last night simply would not settle at all. She screamed non stop from 7pm to 11pm - we fed her, winded her, changed her, rocked her, shush-patted her, tried to skim read the baby whisperer (don't pick her up but don't let her cry it out either, what's that all about )- all to no avail.

When she cries in the day, i handle it fine so why did I end up shouting 'what is wrong with her' at DP and (even worse) 'why on earth did we ever think we could cope wth a baby - why did we have her, I'm such a crap mum'. I am horrified at my words and can't believe that such a relatively short bout of crying, when she's such a calm baby in the day, set off such an impatient reaction in me. FFS, the health visitor warned me not to share my story of having such a calm baby with other mums as I would (in her words) 'make enemies'. So what is wrong with me - why am i such a bad, impatient person?

moonlight - re your commenst about itgoing wrong at 2cm - exactly what happened to me. I had to lie on my back on the bed ith heart monitor attached and every time a contraction came, I had to just sit there are try to cope. What I wanted to do was get up, move, get in the bath, lean over etc.
the midwife made me feel crap as I asked gor G&A at 2cm (followed, god forbid, by an epidural), when 'better' ladies were coming in for pain relief at 6cm or more - I was such a bad person for not coping without pain relief! (Obviously I should have been at home in their eyes, rather than 'wasting' resoources by being in hospital- that's how it felt anyway). Unlike you, I never got to have a go at full labour as I got the c-section about an hour after the epidural. As it turned out, it was a good thing as I already had the epidural in so was just topped up, and it could have turned into crash c section had I not.

Imoscarsmum there is nothing wrong with you. We all have expectations and complains about our babies and, of course, insecurities about what sort of mums we are.

I think you are safe in this thread, you can tell us your baby is an angel and we will be pleased for you
My baby sleeps and feeds during the day too.
Yesterday I was up with my girl from 2 am till 9 am, yes, you guessed, she is asleep now in the sling and I am pretty tired.
She was born 2 weeks early by C-section and she also starts to cry in the night,around 8:30 only stops with the confort of Bf.
I have been told it is wind or mild colic and I now give her infacol before each feed. i tried gripe water, but it does not work.
Everyday is a bit of an experiment, trying to see how can I help her ith the pain.

You are a great mum. Be kind to yourself! I say that to myself when I am having a bad day.
Foxytocin I thought you had sold yours. I did look at it at the time. I bought mine for £33.00. They had it on offer, it is the one Sassafrass has in her profile, it is purple.Having said that if there is something wrong with it when I get it today I would return it and contact you to buy yours.

Pacita today she is sleeping in the normal position, she is too big for the newborn, hamock position. I love feeling her so close.

imoscarsmum - same thing with DS1 - went in at 6pm, after 13 hours of contractions (which started less than 10 mins apart and strong straight away), to be sent home as only 2 cm. went back at 11pm cos couldn't take it anymore, still only 2 cm. went in birth pool, but just felt cold, G&A made me sick, and pethidine made me drunk and sick but could still feel the pain, just couldn't react to it or to the horrible MW that was too busy telling DP how unhappy she and her husband were in their jobs for nhs, and kept telling me to stop being a drama queen (I was interrrupting her moan with mine you see)... luckily new understanding MW arrived, had epidural, passed out at top-up, but finally was 10cm by the time the second top-up was due (while nice MW rushed next door to "catch" a baby whose mother had just come in ). 1pm finally DS was born, though didn't feel much as stll some epi left. This ime, DD was quicker, though had on-off contractions for 2 days, but veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery painful as I refused drugs (didn't wnt to risk slowing things down, terrified of a repeat of DS's birth), but wish I'd gone for epi as DD was facing wrong way, and maybe would have a "pleasant" birth memory...

Sassyfrassy well done dor doing so well with the BF! My little one is feeding on demand and putting on weight,everything is ok now and I don't give her any formula.

I do remember when we went through all that and that MN who had to terminate EmsyRo. I wonder how she is doing.
I can't wait for the wrap. i did not realised that was the colour you had. It is lovely. They sell it without the bag, but I don't care.

ps - went through those horrible moments/thoughts with DD for 2 weeks as she just wouldn't settle at night, were so used to DS being a quite settled baby.... it's normal, think of the stress you've been under, and hormones, and lack of sleep, plus your life being turned upside-down!