June 2008- Some are sleeping, others weeping and some are just eating

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Thought I'd start the new thread using paro's suggestion

sponge lol at your post - if your mum can't think you're the best then what hope is there for our lo? But from chatting ot friends/looking at here I think the competitive mum thing just carries on (even at 18 had it re dss and his a levels ) so think we just have to learn to laugh at it...

alipalli we also had meltdown re door bouncer so its gone back in box for a few weeks (am hoping its like th bouncing chair which is now a hit but wasn't at first).

Have got tbe baby einstein dvds which madam seemed to quite like.. is it bad that I've now repalced it with sex and teh city film dvd -bad mummy

The Nomura/Lehman brothers thing has come out now in the news - that's what DP was doing all weekend! He works for Nomura and used to work for Lehmans. Going to mean a lot more work for DP. Maybe he'll see his son even less than ever now. Hope not.

Thanks Sponge. It wasn't just your post, I felt paranoid as soon as I posted it... It's just one of those things isn't it? We each have the best baby in the world. How that is possible I don't know, but it is. When the London ladies meet up I can see that Amber's Luke is super advanced but somehow that doesn't make Ryder any less perfect. However I am terrified that if I have another he/she could never be as perfect as him!

BTW I want a bumbo now! Alex looks gorgeous in his.

At a friends at the weekend who was explaining that when she has a baby she'll continue to work. It was only after the conversation continued I realised she meant she'll not stop working at all. She works in IT and thinks that she'd be able to work around the baby from the birth onwards....and this is without childcare! Do you guys remember thinking similar stuff? I thought I'd be a domestic goddess with cakes and dinner parties etc because I'd be at home so much with so much free time...

Having a day at home today as we're both coming down with colds. I would make it a sofa tea and cake day, but went shopping yesterday and it wasn't much fun as things didn't fit... It'll be a water and grapes day instead...

PP sorry to hear you are poorly - I know exactly what you mean re having another. I think edie is perfect and know she is quite an easy baby yet have found it so tough (and the whole pregnancy thing was very very stressful) - I want anotehr but am worried that it'll be tough and not sure I've got enough reserves left to deal with any more setbacks (esp any pregnancy issues)..

Lol re your friend - know exactly what you mean.. have one who is planning on going back really soon after birth - I've got nothing against that at all as her decision but even if I wanted to not sure I'd be able to manage a routine of working/getting baby to nursery yet so full marks to her if she can manage

amberc that is a bit tough for your dp as won't be easy to do that kind of job ..but luke will still know his daddy - just have to make sure time they do get together like on holiday counts. My dh talking about changing his job -partly so can spend a bit more time at home - loads of evening stuff with his job at minute and its really getting him down. I think a lot of his colleagues seem to enjoy it /think its normal to spend 2/3 evenings a week doing work things for what seems like spurious reasons...

There must be something in the water PP as DH and I are coming down with something and Isaac has been a lot more snuffly than usual.

Its tough when partners work so much - DH works for a well known Pizza Chain as a restaurant manager which is not 9 - 5 Mon to Fri so last night he finished at 6, then had to go back in at 11 to close up as the manager supposed to be doing it was sick. He is also looking at a change although whether that will be better or worse remains to be seen, although if it means more money I might not have to go back to work.
Funeral date has now been sorted, my GM put her foot down with my aunt and told her not to be so selfish there are other people to think about too - not least Isaac and his cousin (6weeks)

Does anyone else find that they are in a never ending laundry factory - I seem to be doing at least one load every day, more if I am doing nappies/bedding. Sure we never had this much BC (before children)

Have found TGF and LauraT on ravelry, am boring and using my RL name on there though

PP - superadvanced?! So I am a guru with a super advanced child. Isn't it funny how I feel so massively far away from that!! I think what PP means is that Luke is VERY strong! Clearly I think he is a genius though.

Already had an email from DP saying he has no idea what time he'll be home tonight. I'm sure all this will be great for his career as long as it doesn't mean i'll never see him. DP sees Luke for 20 mins each day monday to friday - does anyone else's DP see them that little? Aberdeen I know your DH works offshore so I imagine he's away for stints?

Going for pre holiday waxation in a bit - not looking forward to that at all as it's been so long and will hurt like hell - it's like parts of the amazon rain forest - totally untamed and has not been explored for a long time.

guruamber - re pre hol wax - havent been near hairdressres or beauty place since pre baby and need to...

sorry about your dp -tbh its not that unusual - dh tries to work at home on friday to counter this if he can.

alipali - you can get combination car seats that work from birth to about 4 years old. We have one and will put Fraser in it facing backwards when he reaches about 7 or 8 months. Duncan is now using it forward facing but we didn't turn him around until he was two years old. They are only a bit more than the stage 1 forward seats so it's a good investment.

spongebrain my mother didn't roll over until she was 11 months old and she's fine now I agree that mothers can get too hung up on when the milestones are achieved instead of just enjoying that our wee ones are growing. And it's nice to be able to share that excitement...

Amberc my DH isn't too bad - he's been away about half the time and when he's home he only works a 7.5 hour day and we're a ten minute commute for him. I'd say he gets about 2.5 hours a day with the boys on the days he's home plus all day on weekends. It's very hard when he's away for more than two or three nights though. Running the house leaves me exhausted and then the mess and upheaval when he gets home always throws us. I spend the whole time wanting him home and then the first 24 hours he's back upset because everything is so chaotic (my DH is very messy and disorganized. Not sure how he manages so well at work because he's not organized at all at home!).

amber take paracetamol beforehand. I got waxed 3 days before my due date and it was fine even with no paracetamol like I usually take

amber lol re. the waxing. Went to put on a dress at the weekend and was and at the state of my legs!

HH agree on the laundry front! It does seem to be never-ending and each wash is 3/4 baby stuff. Also can't always be bothered hanging so many little things out on the line so seem to always have the drier on as well!

sponge you've made me want to get the bumbo chair out for A. Will be nice to have somewhere else to put him!

PP hope your cold gets better soon. Know what you mean about the shopping trip, although I had one this morning and had some banoffee pie to make myself feel better! Was yum but feel v guilty now!

debs I brought EBM onto the flight and fed A with the bottle while he had the seatbelt on

A has been sleeping virtually all day today .

Fraser throws up in his bumbo chair. I think he's not strong enough to hold himself upright and his tummy gets compressed...

Hi all, had a mad weekend of driving to Aberystwyth, then to London. Tiring! No computer time, and lots of posts but several made me smile: Amber on the waxing (I too have a forest down there; less 'bikini' line, more 'longer length shorts' line. But at least you don't notice where the leg hair ends...)
Also Ali shouldn't laugh but I did like your description of Peter in the bumbo! I had images of you prizing him out. I've met him, I'm definite he isn't totally oversized in any sort of abnormal way! Alas, bumbos are not for us at the moment; Iestyn is a Victorian-sized baby (8th centile and proud of it!) and his bum is the size of two satsumas in a handkerchief.
Sponge I think each baby is individual, and I'm already blocking out competitive comments (none on here; I wouldn't dare to compete on size as Iestyn would fit in some of the thread babies' hands! We take pride in smallness in this house!). I'm partly doing it because Iestyn will be bilingual and will therefore (probably, unless he's really bright, which he is of course ) be a bit later talking. But he'll manage two simultaneously.
OK, off to the Britain's Got Talent website now to put Iestyn up. Ah, if only producing spectacular nappies would count...

Ali also loved the description of Peter in the pool as 'stoic'! I desperately want to take Iestyn swimming but I had my ear procedure on Thursday and I'm not allowed to go for 2 weeks now.

There are lots of people missing here aren't there? Dramaqueen, neenz, makescakes to name three.

Oh, p.s. Iestyn has doubled his birthweight! Yaay!

essie pmsl re. the satsumas description That's great Iestyn has doubled his weight!

I know what you mean about DH/DP as when he is here at weekends all my neatly organised schedule is thrown out of kilter and the baby gets pissed off. He doesn't know DP as much as he does me so wants mummy when DP has him for too long and then needs to be cuddled a lot. DP made him cry in the bath the other night by making a duck noise and I felt really sorry for him as I wanted him to do bathtime as a treat as Luke loves it.

The door bouncer - oh my god - it's the cutest thing ever! Got Luke in a good mood to have a go and he really enjoyed it. He reminded me of those bouncy move a breakdancer does before he gets on the floor!! I videoed a bit on my phone but the quality is crap. WIll do a proper vid tomorrow on the camera once DP shows me what on earth to do!

Has anyone noticed their LOs becoming much more vocal now. I can't shut Luke up! He only does it when he's playing on his own really though - mostly talking to his baby gym danglers.

Talking of 'advanced' no idea if this is or not but Luke amazingly for me has just picked up a rattle and stuck it in his mouth. He has never picked anything up on his own before - I usually put things in his hands.

Waxing wasn't that bad at all amazingly!

Amber - remembering my child development courses, babies put stuff in their mouth for the first few months as they use their mputh to explore, so well done Luke as he is obviously enjoying exploring his surrounds and objects

essie shame you can't get car miles like air miles and use them for free petrol. Great news about Iestyn doubling his birth weight.

I should take Isaac to be weighed this week but not sure I can be bothered - Sit in a huge hall waiting for your name to be called, strip baby, while fielding weird looks because I use real nappies, baby wees while being weighed (is that all boys or just mine?), get tutted at by matronly HV as obv baby shouldn't wee while being weighed , tell weight HV whether or not you want to discuss anything else - stern looks if you don't, sighs if you do, redress baby, move to another area to wait for your name to be called again, see another HV discuss 'concerns', leave hall....GO TO PUB
Actually my 'assigned' HV is lovely and Isaac flirts outrageously with her but some of the others are very out dated (one told me I couldn't give calpol until after 4 months)

amber Isaac has started picking things up and putting them in his mouth too, but not limited to rattles, includes muslins, nappy wraps if I don't move them quick enough, towels, fleece liners, vests .....

Right off to chop chicken for dinner!!

hh am with you on hv visits to get weighed -went last week and won't bother again...

amber yes the shouting around here is quite lively - seems to be the same, mainly directed at animals on the playmat or dh.. that is when she isnt shoving muslins in her mouth - she thought christmas (if she knew what it was) had come early today as had two to play with her in pushchair earlier.

Blimey HH - our weighing sessions, gop upstairs in Doctors suregry, nice room with chairs and a heap of toys for children of all ages to play with, see HV who giggle if DS wees and says it happens all the time, discuss any problems with them and the go or stay to chat with otehr Mums.

DH doing sausage sandwiches for tea, both to tired for anything else.

PP LOL at your IT colleague - I bought loads of stuff to learn quilting with 'while on ML' which of course is gathering dust - haha!

needahand lovely to meet you today - sorry about storm's little meltdown. she was knackered for some reason and after failing to feed in born ended up sleeping in the car seat on the (long) way home and was fine after that. went to sleep as normal, happy as larry.
S is a smasher - I do hope his cough is gone soon.

laura/hh i have 'friended you' on ravelry - also not snapped any projects yet - my camera card is always full of storm pictures!

hh totally with you on the washing. i just wash the baby clothes in with ours to cut down, so it's just nappies every three days or so. we have a washer/dryer, but i normally just hang it up indoors as can't bear the extra cost of the drier.
our HV weigh ins also like sophie's - nice, with playmat etc and HVs friendly, if a bit dippy (any question always gets refered to BF counsellor/GP etc etc).
but i only go about once a month - can't be bothered otherwise!

Oooh, greenfairy, I'm coming out of the closet as a quilter! However, I need to make one for my friend who is pg, and it's not easy with a newborn.

Hedgehog - I wish that you could get car miles! Train miles would be good too, because the cheap tickets are only available between 4am and 4.03am on alternate Mondays in months without an e in the name, or some such crap, because I never, ever get them. Even when I book 6 months in advance!!

Morning all,

Laurat - thanks for the advice re flying

Ethan is very vocal too with the toys on his babygym and loves to put things in his mouth too, he has one of those flat teddies, teddy has a pointed brown noise - for some reason he loves to suck it - can't imagine what it reminds him of!!

oh, he's awake must dash.

apologies for no more personal responses - no time .

Morning all,

Ali DS also gets wedged into his bumbo!

Not much going on here. The dryer part of our washer dryer is not working so I am on washing strike! Our rotary dryer is also broken due to dd2 swinging on it. Someones comming to fix it on thursday so then I will have a washing/drying marathon.

Sponge Your ds is indeed very gorgeous!

We're a bit fed up here today. Unfortunately our colds have got worse so Ryder and I weren't able to go to the London Ladies meet up this morning.

LOL at the flat teddie Deb.

I should get Ryder weighed pretty soon...it's been over a month! My HV isn't as bad as HH's, but it's not great either...

Ryder is 3 months today - have any of you been celebrating 1/2/3 months? We haven't at all, but might do something tonight...