Oct 2007; This little piggie had loads of roast beef and ^This^ little piggie would have none of it!

[Dalrymps]

Psst over here!

I think they are very difficult to get in the UK although some places do sell them. Why the companies doesn't sell them here makes no sense to me.

My turn to kill the thread!

I'm here! been out at pils but back now.
I started another thread about dylans eating to try to get some advice so have been typing away on that.

You've all given great advice on the issue so I won't bore you with it. I was just asking other mumsnetters out there if they think Dylan's eating probs could be partially down to silent reflux. I don't know if this is the case but I think i'm going to look in to it anyway.

Hope you've had a nice day

Hi to everyone else x

Dal have to say I haven't heard of silent reflux so can't comment on that. But from reading all your posts on here about Dylan's eating it sounds to me that he is simply a smaller than average little boy with a smaller than average appetite. WHo also doesn't like lumps. You are right to be doing all you can to try and improve his dietary intake / variety / consistency which I think you have been doing very well. But one of your recent posts where you said something along the lines of you wish they would all bugger off and stop worrying you sums it up for me really. Your worry is generated by the hv's etc who have been involved and NOT by your instinct as his mum. He is happy and settled on the amount he has and would not be if it wasn't enough for him. I would trust your instincts - you know your little boy better than anyone.

Sure it is easier said than done to stop worrying - I have been lucky with both my boys and how they eat so perhaps am not the best to advise. But I think you are doing a great job by him and should trust your instincts more! Good luck xxx

Alice - thanks, I know that really. I guess part of it is that dh doesn't spend as much time on mn as i do so doesn't get reassured by lots of other mums that he's ok as I do.

So... when I try to trust my instincts and tell dh to calm down and that Dylan is ok he just gets wound up sometimes and says that i'm in denial about the fact there is a problem and I don't realise how bad he is with his eating and that he's really worried about him. This then makes me doubt myself agian and so I start looking for reasons as to why he eats the way he does as maybe i'm not 'looking in to it' enough or not showing enough concern.

Dh finds it very stressful and finds it difficult to accept that this might just be the way Dylan is. I try to tell him it is just a phase in Dylans life adn he won't be like this forever but he just gets really stressed out about it now and again.

Anyway, thanks for the advice, just trying to explain why i've gone off on one again.

hello lovely ladies, i can;t remember who has LO's that have started walking or trying to walk with help...... but i have a question.... did they have a funny limp or rather drag one leg whilst the other moved normally..?

Eren has been walking around the house whilst i hold his hands, but i have recently noticed that he moves his left leg forward quite normally but he really drags his right leg.

When he's in his walker, his movement is normal and the dragging rightfoot disappears..... which i put down to the fact that he doesn;t put his body weight into it because he's in a semi-sitting position.

Am i making any sense? [hmm}

Is this normal or should i be worried?
DS thinks we should take Eren back to the osteopath who helped us with his colic....... she worked wonders.
Neurotic mummy alert

i really should check my spelling before i post!

I would get it checked out if I were you. It may be nothing but its best to get it checked

Hi all

Been thinking a lot about what you've all said and I've talked to a lot of RL friends some who knew me when my parents were divorcing...

I feel sorry that's she's now on her own and I know that she will struggle; you're all right in that leopards don?t really change their spots. I suppose the difference between now and any other time we have tried to reconcile (only about 4 times in 18 years) is that I have the boys. On one hand I don't want her to be with them as she was with me but on the other hand I don?t want them growing up thinking 'how could she abandon her own mother??' I know I'll tell them what happened and they will know my side but I don?t want them thinking badly of me. I've only ever had to think of this situation in terms of my own feelings as my brothers' and I have always had an unspoken agreement that we would all make our own decisions when it came to seeing our mother now I feel I'm making a decision for 2 others and I'm worried I'll get it wrong.

It's her birthday today (ironically enough) and she's either 58/59 and I do really feel for her. She?s just lost her husband, she's in a foreign country (although she's been there 9-10 years she won?t have made an effort to learn the language it will have been too 'hard' for her and too much effort) and neither her children nor her family will speak to her BUT I do understand we aren't talking about a sweet little old lady here.
I know I've got to make a decision (to see or not to see!) but I want to be able to live the decision I've made...

I get the impression I'm going to have to write, speak or meet her to talk about why I don't want to have contact now. I'm happy to tell her about how she was, how she made me feel, what impact her behaviour had on my life and also the calmness I have when she's not immediately involved. She needs to hear why though she may not hear me iyswim. This may sound like rubbing her nose in it but I really don?t feel that way towards her. I don?t want to expend any more energy over her as she's had far too much of my time and stress over the years. By walking out, drinking heavily and behaving really badly, for putting every husband she's had way ahead in front of me in terms of loyalty, for being emotional abusive before she left, during the divorce and afterwards and letting her husband verbally and emotionally abuse me with her listening yet doing nothing. For never making any effort to come and see me and expecting me to come to her, for not paying anything towards me and claiming she had no money despite at least 2 holidays a year whilst I was wearing shoes that had the holes covered in cardboard (I even wore plastic bags over my socks, in my shoes when it was winter to keep dry) for all of this and so much more she needs to know there are consequences. For making me go to school when I had been sick so she could carrying on seeing her 'affair' man, for going from man to man and trying to tell me that 'he really is the love of my life?, for not taking any time out to sort herself out, be on her own and try to reconcile with her children. She has had her life very much on her terms and I have had to just accept all of it, on my own and just deal with it. She is a weak woman who needs to be with a man so no doubt another husband will soon be on the horizon which would be number 4! Not bad for a Catholic girl adding yet more ironies to this situation. She?ll be all contrite and then she?ll be off with her new man and we?ll all be forgotten. I definitely agree with the old adage of ?if banging your head against a brick wall hurts, stop doing it?.

I think I?m going to stop and move away from the wall?

sigh

...and breath

I think I know my decision; it's just working out the best way to deliver it.

xx

Muppet - you sound like you know exactly what you want to do. From the reasons you have stated (i'm sure there are many more reasons too) i'm not suprised you don't want her draining any more of your emotional energy.

Your feelings towards the situation remind me so much of my own. When your own mother acts in such a way it is very stressfull. I can erlate to you saying you have a sense of calm. My whole life feels calm and easy since I have not had regular contact.

For what it's worth, you are a lovely, wonderful, strong person and are this way despite what she put you through.

You don't have to do things on her terms anymore.

Your lo's will not thing any less of you because, unlike her, you always think of their needs before your own.(((hugs)))

Muppet Dal put it so so much better than I could! Just remember I'm here (as I'm sure we all are) to support you through this whatever you decide - anytime you need a rant / chat we're here x

Dal I understand it's tricky when your dh is worried and that that makes you doubt yourself. I think you have done this already but how about going to see a dietician with Dylan - not for them to tell you he needs to eat more etc but for advice on how to increase the calorific content of what he will eat so that you know he is getting the max possible? Maybe that will help your dh?

Anyway in the middle of cooking tea but just had to pop on quick to say that! Oh and Mine agree it's worth getting Eren checked if you are concerned. It sounds like the sort of thing that may well be something but equally could be nothing and without seeing him it is hard to tell... Good luck!

Be back later hopefully...x

Hey alice . Yeah, thats kind of what the dietician advised last time we saw her. She told me how what to give him that is high calorie and how to make what he already eats higher in calories too.

The only problem is getting him to eat it!

Ooh there's a program on about 'other peoples breast milk' off to watch it. May be back later x

ooooh you're all so chatty! I'm only popping on quickly, i started college today, so been trying to sort out childcare, funding yada yada up till now and then spent all night getting kids sorted out and typing my notes up.

Muppet-I don't really know what to say, although if you feel, at this present moment, you don't want to contact her, there is always time to change your mind in the next few months/years. I hope its not doing your head in too much. on a different note-how exciting about the new (possible) job! i hope dh gets it

I hope you all are ok, i'm going to attempt to go to bed now, love to all xxx

GOOD LUCK for today J20, hope it goes well

I have finally added some more recent photos of Ben, taken a couple of weeks ago on holiday

oops, read it wrong. Hope you had a good time yesterday

ahhh LLL Ben looks adorable!!
I love the pic with the croissant... he even has his pinky finger pointing up.. very good manners!!

morning ladies - LLL aww he looks gorgeous

Off to feed Dylan. we slept in , back later x

Hello all.

Dalry what was the programme like? I meant to watch it but forgot it was on.

I have been looking for a Trike for Dareh's birthday but they are hellishly expensive!!

Dareh is in a foul mood - trying to get him to eat lunch. Not a huge amount of fun. I am wondering if he might finally be getting a tooth. Can't believe he doesn't have a single one yet!

I thought it was really interesting. The presenters dh was a bit of a dick about it all though.

There was a woman who went somewhere (can't remember where) where there were little babies who's mother had died because of genecide (sp?), anyway, these 2 babies were starving as they wouldn't take milk from a bottle so she breastfed them (was still producing milk as had recently had a baby), she fed them to good health then bought 2 cows for their dad so they'd never be without milk. I was really touched by the story.

There were also women in america who's family members told them that if they breastfed their daughters they would make them gay?! and also that if they bf their sons they would make them obsessed with boobs (aren't mnost men anyway?)

There was a nanny who had an abundace of breastmilk so she bf the little boy she was looking after as well as her own little girl.

It said that cross feeding has been going on for year and that in india children who had been bf by the same woman were not alowed to marry as they were seen as siblings?!

There was a male gay couple who had triplets and paid for a woman to provide them with ebm for them and it cost them 2 dolars a bag.

Anyway, I found it fascinating

Make them gay?! That is so daft. Sounds really interesting.

Yes, gay . Very silly oppinion indeed! Yeah was a really good program, MIL watched it and we had a good chat about it tonight.

Well, Dylan has gone in his room for the first time tonight and so far we've not heard a peep out of him . His room is all clean and tidy and looks so sweet. I actually felt quite emotional putting him to bed, like it was the end of one stage and moving on to the next.

Be nice to have our room back though and not have to creep in to bed

I had my gym induction tonight, actually had to go on the machines?! The gym inductions i've had in the past i've just been shown the buttons so I was a bit unprepared and [shocked]. Was good though and I can't wait to get going.

Wonder where everyone else is?

Hi anyway, hope you're all doing ok and have had a nice day, chat soon x

well done Dal for moving Dylan.... it'll be great for him and you and DH... it was certainly the best thing we did. I know what you mean about being a bit emotional about the move.... its definitely the end of one era and on to the next

We're off to a christening on sunday, its one of DH's friends, but we don;t see them very often and i personally don;t know them very well..... with this in mind what sort of present do you think i can buy that won;t break the bank?????

I don;t want to buy the traditional sliver spoon, frame, rattle etc as i think its a waste of money (and a bit pricey too).... but i'm not sure what else is appropriate.....

Hi mine,

Last night went great, he slept like a log , he let out a cry when he woke but I think he was just a bit confused as to where he was. Sure he'll get used to it after a few days.

Last time I went to a christening I was too young to buy a present so not sure what people normally get apart from what you mentioned. Maybe something like a special book or a photo album to put some christening photos in? Hmm I'll have a think and get back to you.

How is everyone else today?

Morning

Great news about last night Dalry!

I have to leave Dareh tonight with the brother in law which is making me really nervous. He's never been put to bed by anyone but me or DH before and I just don't know how it is going to go. He knows the brother in law and he was around last night at bed time but still. Very nervous about it!!!

I know the feeling, mil had to give Dylan his bottle last night as she was watching him whilst we had our gym induction. We were both worrying he wouldn't take it frim her but he drank it a dream . I'm sure it'll go ok.