May 07 - Some have produced new anklebiters, but the rest have more sense.

[twelveyeargap]

Yes Jammy, come tomorrow..Glad you had a good time on hols..

re gintonic..was looking forward to seeing her.I wish she would come back and talk to us..

Tell you what SOH, next weekend DH is at college, think is weekend after next but will check-I will bob up and see you for the day if you arent busy?And whatever it was that got lost-of course you arent a bad Mother.Nonsense woman!

I never made it to Cambridge in the end.DH kicked up a fuss about how he's not seen me for a week blah blah, so we all went to Harlow in the rain instead and ended up buying the girls some clothes and bits-L had no tops that fit her and all her old clothes that would fit M now are the wrong season.Was going to get M her first shoes but the queue in Clarkes was massive so we couldnt be bothered.I will take her on Friday when it is quieter.Harlow does not look nice when its sunny.In the rain it is quite sole destroying.(no offence if its anyones home town or anything but my word, plant some flowers or something-its just concrete and litter as far as the eye can see.Shops ok though )

Should be with you for 11.30 tomorra AM and PJ..Hope that suits...Have KK's all ready!Hope they make it round the M25..I dont like their chances-ive been detoxing for a week and I am weak for sugar

Fabulous Scoot! You must be a mind reader as i was going to ask you to pick some up as i had forgotten run out of time

Would love to come but am in the midst of 2wks of washing and a dog which has come home from the kennels ferral. He has obviously been gang raped by the bigger dogs and spent most of last night trying to hump DP. Off to the vets for a little snippit me thinks.

Have a fab time.

LG&T, AM texted me a girly how exciting.

Back to the washing ho hum

Good morning ladies. I am here to confess my sins. My daughter kept this whole house up until 1.40am. They also had to deal with me and dh shouting and hissing at each other. What fun.

L is teething and also has a cold, which is the only excuse reason I can think of for her getting so upset at bedtime.

Poor AM, I will be off the friends and family list after this.

PJ
xx

I will arrive to bleary eyes and snotty noses then and add our own because M was up all night too..
Setting off in 45 mins..See you in a bit..

Ok JAM i will let you off this once, but i must tell you that Scoot has KK's

All i can says is that i feel for PJ totally. WHen she says zero support she means it, there were a few times today where i had to stop myself prodding him to help his wife

Well the house is now empty

Poor PJ has had a nightmare of a weekend. L bless her is gorgeous and so funny but was unsettled at night time due to the fact that it was a strange house. PJ is amazing and exactly how she is on here. Poor girl is shattered and totally stressed down to the fact that M doesnt do a thing to help her.

All that aside it we did have a lovely time and was great to meet her and spend time with her.

Scoot your girls are gorgeous and L is so funny. Got some lovely pics of the kiddies. Thought it was so cute that L came back up the path to give J a kiss before she left

Tomorrow i have to get all my stuff ready for college - feeling a little nervous about it now tbh.

Hope you are all having a good weekend - well you must be coz you're not posting on here

Glad you had a lovely weekend. PJ and for you that M doesn't do his fair share - especially in front of others. Usually, annoying as it is, they make more effort in front of friends don't they?
We have had friends here too this weekend and we had planned to go to Thomasland yesterday. The weather was terrible, it rained all day, but the kids were so excited we went anyway. We all got drenched but the upside was we didn't have to queue to go on anything!! The kids loved it despite the weather and we bunged them all in the bath together after a nice warm tea of sausage, mash and beans. We had a nice evening of drinking, a nice meal and lots of wii-ing!
It's back to work for me tomorrow and I still got loads to do tonight. I may not be around much for a few days (what's new) as it will be a hectic week but hope to catch up soon.

hi ladies I am so sorry to come on here and need you all again, feel like a gate crasher but I am so worried dp might do something stupid and I dont know what to do

Dp and I havent been getting on well, he has been depressd again and not working, it has been really hard to live with, I have been gradually withdrawing myself from the relationship because I have been fed up with constantly asking for help and it only happening for a day or 2 then he going straight back to his room and playing that blasted computer, yesterday I was supposed to go into plymouth to get dd's bday pressie it was supposed to just be mum and I and I was really looking forward to just the 2 of us not having to trapse a buggy on and off the train or stopping for milk or dd having achy legs - I am sure you all know where I am coming from, anyway he said he wouldnt take me to mums to get the train - then went back to sleep,so I ended up taking the kids, got back at 6pm had to work at 6.30, so I rushed around -

I still had the arse this morning but as it was such a lovely day at 10ish I went into the bedroom and he was sleeping I tried to wake him to see if he fancied going to the coast and I just got a grunt followed by I thought you were taking here camping for her bday why do we need to go to the beach, so I took the dog and kids to the lake, got back and he was sulking on the sofa.

We made comments back and forth about the lack of happiness each of us felt in the relationship and he said ok why not call it a day - i said ok and then he started with the abuse and started clearing out the car seats and packing a suitcase, I said why not stay until he was more sorted, he has no money - nothing, he asked for money so I gave him £60 leaving myself and kids £10 for the week but I figured I could borrow from my boss if need be - eventually he left saying he would be in touch and would phone dd on her bday (she was heartbroken by this point).

Ten minutes later he comes back in tears gives me the money back he has only taken £5, and has walked, as he is doing so he is crying and saying he cant go on he cant deal with anything, I tried to stop him by getting in the passenger side but he had locked them and drove off, I watched him go and I could see he was watching me from his rear mirror, I have been in tears nearly all day, I really dont know if he will do something silly, he has been very low again lately, I called his best mate who hadnt heard from him and said he has probably just needed time to cool off - I pray this is the case I am so worried.

I know we havent been getting on and tbh I am at my wits end with his moods and lack of joining in with us, but what do I do, do I wait until morning and see if he turns up, he doesnt know anyone around here and doesnt have any money or petrol to get anywhere - I put £10 in yesterday I am right in thinking thats not enough to get to reading right??

Sorry just need to get it down and see if anyone is about, I am so worried about him what if he does something stupid

Lups...I'm sorry it's got this bad for you. It will of course be the depression making it all seem worse for him. If he was able to come back with the money for you then he is thinking rationally. Your friend is right, he needs some time to calm down. He won't do anything stupid, he's probably sat in the car, somewhere quiet, thinking it all over in his head. Unfortunately time is the only thing here thats going to help. I do hope he makes some contact soon with you, for your peace of mind. I don't think he'll get to Reading in a tenner!

Is there anywhere else he may go or anyone he'll contact that you could try?

Oh Lupin, I am so sorry. I don't know what to say. I'm hopeless in these sort of situations but I couldn't read your post and then leave it unanswered. I'm sure someone will be along with some good advice soon. I guess all you can do is wait. If he won't answer his phone to you and you've tried his mates there really isn't a lot else you can do. Is there anyone you could call who could come round and sit with you for a bit? Just for a chat and a cup of tea? I wish we were all close to each other so we could help each other out in times like these. Let's just hope your dh is doing what his mate says and cooling down.
Thinking of you, I'll check back in later.

Hi he came back and had taken overdose, I have called ambulance and have to call a&e at 7.30-pm, I really hope they keep him in, I feel a mixture of sadness and anger that he could be so f**king selfish and do this to his kids, I know its an illness, but its so hard to live with, will update in due course

Oh Lups
He wont be able to get that far on a tenner.There is really nothing you can do if he is uncontactable.It must be hellish sitting there worrying..Can your Mum come?I hate to think of you there on your own..

Maybe you should call the Samaritans?They might advise on what you could do practically and also might have some words of comfort for you too..(I know it might sound dramatic but I think you need some professional help with this and they dont just advise the person who is depressed, they are also a service for their friends and family)

Keep coming on here to talk to us, dont be alone with this

A big thanks to AM for today.She looked gorgeous, her mansion is beautiful and Jack and Ella were lovely.Think my L has quite the crush on J!

It was lovely to talk to you too CAQL..It was my first time on a web cam, (could you tell and I couldnt hear much as had kids in my ear so sorry if I didnt make much sense!

PJ is absolutely beautiful too..she really is, and so lovely..I knew I would love her when it transpired she liked Gossip girl and I do!And Lexie is so pretty..I do feel for you PJ though becuase even though you covered it up admirably I think you are really stressed and up against it husband wise..I wonder will you get the chance to talk it through on the way home?..I will give you a call in the week..

I had a great journey home..both girls asleep and I was home for 4.30, so I think it only took about an hour and 10 mins

Good luck for School tomorrow Abby..

Lups, that's awful. I'm thinking of you all. Perhaps now this has happened he will be able to get the help he needs. I hope you have called your mum and asked her to come and stay with you.

thanks, mum is down the road if I need her, my nosey caring neighbor has popped round to say she is about if I need her

tbh I am cross with him, he drove the car, he could have killed someone else, I just need everything to appear as normal for the dc, its dd's bday on weds we were supposed to go camping and I expect he's buggered that up for him, because if they let him out I wont be able to trust him to be left alone, please please pray they keep him in

Can you ask them to keep him in? Can he be sectioned? I'm afraid I'm a bit hopeless on this kind of stuff, but we are here for you. I think Scoot is right, is there anyone qualified in this area that can help you, and you can talk to, to deal with him and the situation?

I have to speak to the hospital about 8.30pm now I will try and speak to someone then - hopefully a bit more qualified than the receptionist lol!

I really hope for his own sake that they section him, I'm sure if they just let him out he will do it again - and I have a headache coming

They can sectionm him if he poses danger to himself or others.Would need NOK consent and I think asessment from pshychiatrist..Im not sure how quickly they can do it or if one incident of overdose would be enough for them to consider it ( I know, but its a pretty hefty thing to do legally and the NHS can be loathe to act if they think they will be sued later by the person)(different policies for different areas too)Im assuming this is the first time?Although I know his behaviour has been cause for concern for some time...Talk to them about it Lups..or at least persuing some sort of medical intervention for this..

I am so so for you.You are being very brave.You are right that the kids need everything to be as normal as poss but that must be so so hard for you.
Sending you the biggest hug ive got in my locker..

Thanks I need that hug right now, but not too tight or I might fall apart myself

Just spoke to hospital, they are awaiting blood test results which may take another 2hrs, they have given me a phone number which I will be able to speak to him on later - not sure what the hell I will say tho

Will keep you updated as I have news - I really cant believe this is happening, I must have had a really bloody easy life in a previous life and not appreciated it at all!

Lups . I popped back on in the hope he was back and you'd managed to sort something and i found this. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. It must be so hard to love and be angry and even loathe for a while, all at the same time. Make sure you share your load if you can. I know you want to keep things normal for the kids and that is so brave and admirable but make sure you get time to talk to someone if needs be. I hope you are on the phone to the hospital now and are getting some help and reassurance. Sending big hugs your way.

Lups, I'm sor to read your post. I hope that you were able to have a good chat with the hospital and that there is a positive ending for you.

My BIL chose voluntary sectioning after he tried slitting his wrists. Perhaps this is something that you could suggest to D. Not only would it do him good it would be peace of mind for you to know that he was getting the care and professional support that he needs.

Sending bigs hugs from us all in Meadow Towers xxx

True.I forgot voluntary sectioning.That would make it easier (if thats possible)if he would ask for it himself.

I wont be able to get on tomorrow I dont think as have meetings all day-can someone text and let me know if there is any news?Will be thinking of you Lups x

yes of course

Thanks ducky..

Night all.

Thanks Scoot, I dont know if he will, maybe this will shock him into realising he really needs help, he was so bloody horrid to me when he got taken away that I will have no problem giving my permission, altho I am not sure I count as a relative? anyone know what rights I have as a long term partner, if any at all?

Another hour and hopefully I will have some answers

I know I dont and cant drink but I could really do with one right now