May 07 - Some have produced new anklebiters, but the rest have more sense.

[twelveyeargap]

Hmmm - they go on my feet. They're not the most comfortable shoes in the world but frankly I don't care. They are red Jimmy Choos and they look fabulous I've got some flattish ballet pumps to change into later if they cripple me too much but I'm hoping my feet will be numbed by alcohol and freezing cold by then

Pah, who cares if they are comfortable or not? You can get them on and they will look awesome. Don't worry about later you will be too pished emotional to care and will be dancing around barefoot even if it is minus 10!

Another vote for someone who took her shoes off during her wedding reception. My mum was horrified!!

Morning all.

Pink go have your pap smear. It's no big deal. I've had one every year since I was 17 years old. It's over and done in less than five minutes. Nothing to be embarrassed about.

I went to the OB/gyn yesterday and it was wonderful. She was an hour late because of a surgery so I was able to sit in quiet and read a magazine ! She was so apologetic it was so cute. I told her that

1. I don't envy her job at all, because she's constantly on the go
2. Having two small children, that was the most peace and quiet I've ever had.

She then went on to tell me that she often has to lock herself in her bathroom to have an uninterrupted phone call, because she has two boys at home too.

I heard the heartbeat for the first time, and it was cool, but the coolest part is that the scale hasn't moved since the start of this pregnancy.

at scaled having not moved...

at an hours wait on your own too

Can we have a link to said shoes please? I love shoes, i need more.

Walked to school with Jonah, took dd and her friend, carried on and dropped ds#4 at playschool. Walked on to midwife (she was lovely and all is well) walked on to Doctors.

He phoned a consultant paediatrician about Beau and his Hand, foot and mouth virus. Not to worry all should be fine, if i was below the 12 weeks mark then maybe they would have chased it up but at 24 weeks it should all be fine. Phew.

B is grumpy, on off all night again. He cant settle properly and cant eat anything much. Whinging as we speak, the blisters are much worse today too Poor wee lad.

Cam ehome to call froma lady who may like the chickens (yay!) she is coming at 2. So i have just cleaned house (incase she comes in) cleaned up tip garden, cleaned out rabbit (she might look in there too) and sorted chickens.

Taking it easy me, no?

TYG blink and i missed ya. Tis the witching hour that 5-7 slot. Had me rocking in the corner with the hoover on when all 3 were under 2. I feel for you i really do.

Why busy Master? Is dh back from his mountain expedition yet?

The hoover placated 1 and terrified the other 2 you understand, not for any odd reason. I also clutched a VAST gin and tonic for most of it.

any excuse to link the shoes

LG&T - I'm knackered just reading your post. Feet up, lots of cake and g&t for you (one day maybe ?)

Farck me those shoes are divine Tilly!!!!

What size are your feet? I may need to borrow them one day, you know when my ankles are not swollen and i have an occasion to wear a pretty dress

Probably never

You are going to look gorgeous!

That reminds me, must bake a cake. Kids all asked for one this morning...

LG&T I'm about to blow you away now. My car broke down yesterday after I went food shopping. I stopped at work to pick up some things, and when I got back in the car wouldn't start. I called dh and he said he'd come, well he showed up an hour and a half later. Guess what I did. I sat in my car with the windows down, and read a book I had bought a few days ago. Yes an hour of sitting in fresh air reading a book. Most women would have been angry that their husband took so long, but not me. I read a book. Yesterday was wonderful.

You're more than welcome to borrow them - they're a 7 but quite small - A size 6 or 6.5 would be fine. I'm tempted to ditch the dress and just go naked with shoes - just so they get seen you understand...

As long as you wore a tiara i think it would be fine imo Tilly

Good lord my feet are a 4!!!!! Nooooooooo!

MKG

How fabulous! I would have waited half hour to phone him too

Who had the boys?

HE had the boys which was why he took so long. They were taking a nap, and then getting them in the car, was a nightmare.

I'm getting my haircut today. I'm so excited. I donated my hair back in March and the cut was shorter in the back and longer in the back. No my hair is so long in the front that my whole pony tail is basically my bangs. I'm due for a change.

This pregnancy is weird though. I've been very into my appearance which I never have been. I take the time to put on makeup, and take care of myself better. I've never cared before, but now I do. Oh well.

Where's SOH???

Morning Afternoon all where does my day go?
Right I'm afraid I have not been keeping up very well. Sorry.
Thank-you for all your support last week when I was having ishooos.

Well after not being around I am turning into one of those needy friends that you tire of; always wanting and never giving so I do apologise in advance.

Basically DH talked divorce lawyers this morning. There was no emotion on his part and no anger or upset which makes me fear he may mean it. I do love him and want to make a go of it so I am asking for advice. He just seems to have given up on me and I do try it just never seems to work.

He really is affected by the state of the house. It impacts on his whole personality. I on the other hand am a slovenly bitch less house proud. How do I get it together to get everything done. DH regularly bottoms the house but it is a constant battle to keep on top of things. He does a full blitz regularly but deosn't do much in between times whereas I do little bits regularly but never quite enough so it slips back to the state where he feels he has to bottom it again. I was hoping the move to a new house would help me stay on top of things but I am hardly treading water never mind staying afloat. Now I just have two places in a mess.

I have a house full of junk mementoes which I do not know what to do with. I have to get them out of the house and put it on the market as we can not afford to keep it. I hate throwing things away, I attach sentiment to the daftest things and I know I should get rid. DH has joked a number of times I will be a bag lady with a crochet hat pushing a trolley full of junk with a cat in it when I am old.

Help, I know it is me that has to change but I don't know how to. Any suggestions please. P'raps we could have the PJ party in Worksop and you could all help me declutter.

LG&T glad you and bean are okay sorry B is poorly.
MKG your hair looks lovely.
Tilly the shoes are gorgeous.
PJ get that smear booked. G has not had his MMR yet will get it booked soon.
12YG hope you are feeling okay.
JIMW still no luck with the shoes?
TMAM is your DH back yet, glad your smear was okay in the end, read your other thread he he.
MJB is the house on the market yet? Can we view pics [nosey emoticon].
April are you packed and ready to go yet, do you have room for a 12 stone heffalump little one in your suitcase. I will pay the excess baggage charge, honest.
Hello SOH, Scoot, BBB, Elkie and eveyone else, hope you are all well.

CM - surely not divorce lawyers because of an untidy house?? FWIW - whenever dh tidies up, it always results in a huge argument about how lazy I am. In fact, when I come in and see the house has been tidied (never cleaned, you understand, just tidied) I feel sick in manner of Julia Roberts in Sleeping with the Enemy.

Good lord just ask Mrgin about the tidyness standards in this house. I am a tidy but not so much clean freak (except when pregnant)

I have no idea what to suggest other than divorce for a messy house is a bit extreme to say the least! Does he really mean it? Surely not.

I am on the other hand queen of declutter, i throw everything out, usually when peoples backs are turned I would gladly come and direct

How long would it take to get to you? Am in Gosport. You can hire people to do it too you know. Maybe worth considering as it would mean you could sell the other house.

Must dash cake baking and we have a friend for tea. I have also managed to sell the chickens > they are being collected later on this evening so now ave to sort all their stuff out too.

Much love CM, will all be ok. Phone if you need a cry chat over the phone

I don't know I am just a crap wife.
I think I am a good Mom but crap at being a wife. Yes seriously it really does depress him/affect his mood. DH does clean though but he tends to shove everything together and clean round it whereas I try to put things in the right places and it takes forever so don't get any cleaning done.
Ho hum, may be off line tonight as I will be cleaning and decluttering or trying to anyhow.

Why are the chickens going LG&T? Know what you mean PJ were our DHs we separated at birth. Obviously 5 10 years apart though.

Charley at divorce that's a bit far fetched surely? Dh is a tidy freak too, its after years of being institutionalised. (ok that sounds like he is slightly deranged, not quite what I meant, I mean boarding school, uni catered halls, army type of thing )

He becomes obsessed with throwing out magazines and empty the fridge of things which are no longer healthy. But it used to make me mad, that is my job, he has a job and this one is mine. Leave me to it, even if it means the standards are slightly different to his own.... so in the end we morphed into my jobs and his jobs. For example he has no idea how to use the washing machine. I don't empty bins. Ever. Listen to me, Mrs Smug with my army of housestaff.....

How about a breakdown of jobs between you? Or a rota of jobs weekly?

LG&T glad the dr was chilled but about the chooks. I will send you some of our eggs.

Manic days go like this in our household:

Tonight - out to a girlfriend's house to watch Atonement (swoon) and eat curry

Tomorrow - drop Jasper at his playgroup, I rush to nearby Pilates centre for Body Bar, rush to tennis lesson, quick shower, quick sandwich at the club, pick up J

• drive 20 mins home, put J to bed, go out to supermarket to buy food for dinner party, go to one school to pick up B and a friend of dd's, go to dd's school pick her
• drive all home, entertain an old friend from Cameroon for the remainder of afternoon, whilst feeding and bathing all 3 kids, then go out with her.

Friday - quick 20 min run up the road

• 2 friends with boys same age as J round for play
• back to school at midday (ffs) for ds1
• feed boys start making dinner party food
• back to school for dd
• finish dinner party food
• dinner party

Saturday I need to buy shed loads of christmas presents on line to get my friend to bring out in 2 weeks (difficult to think about Christmas when its 27 degrees outside) Then out for to a friend's for dinner that night.

Sunday a day out en famille climbing a mountain (it had better be bloody little).

Yes dh is back, but mega busy.

Anyway must away and order a cuzza. April have a brilliant time and don't spend too much money.

Surely he married you knowing this is how it was? It unreasonable to expect you to change imo.

I am sure you are a fantastic wife and he needs that pointing out. A good wife is not one who keep the fecking house tidy! I seriously hope not anyhoo!

I had friends years ago that were together for 8 years and then got married, they had lived together and everything. A year after they got married they divorced. I couldnt believe it! She was a clever, career minded, switched on cookie and when i asked her what happened she said " I thought he would change when we got married!" I was astounded.

People are bonkers sometimes.

CM the chooks are off as i will not be able to look after them when dh goes off to sea again with all the children too. It was the chooks or the kids I am sad to see them go...

Will have to buy eggs again fgs!

Evening all,

Charley as you know I am a tidy clean freak but so is DP (when he fancies)But seriously divorce over a little mess madness. Talk to him.

LG&T poor chooks not a fan of them myself but surely anything to give oyu a bit more rest should be viewed as a good thing, maybe you could do a deal with the new owners over eggs.

AM enjoy the sunshine agree with TMAM keep your purse in your bag, but make sure you visit the burge hotel amazing OTT foyer had dinner there one night quite an experience tis meant to be 4star but I have defo eaten better elsewhere.

TMAM blimey you are busy. By the way how was the posh wedding is that the photos of it on FB?

MKG how lovely to hear the HB and to have an hour to yourself.

Am absoloutely knackered tonight I had to trek to Colchester to get A's shoes this morning DP reserved them for me what he failed to mention was there are aboout 5 feckin clarks stores in COlchester and I had to visit them all to find the bloody shoe, had never been there before tis a rabbit warren of shops. It was pissing with rain I took the P&T as I have no rain cover for my stroller then the sodding wheel locked into non swivel and I couldnt push it v easily. Then dashed to Tesco to do the weekly shop (DP meant to do it now as I am so mahoosive and A hates the supermarket but he was too tired last night FFS) So consequently Archie screamed the whole way round, gave him a Macdonlads for lunch home shopping away then pick up the hound round to a friends and then 2hours tramping the fields with our dogs in tow, Louis poor thing spent the entire time trying not to be humped by friends dog its a labradoodle aboout 6foot tall against Louis' 1/2 foot tall. Then home for tea and A down to bed have just sat down but have masses of ironing to do. Heeellpppp in the style of penelope pitstop.

AM that should say amazingly naff OTT foyer.

Charley, maybe you and your dh should sort out different jobs for each other. In my house I'm in charge of dishes, laundry, dusting, and vaccuming. Dh is in charge of the tile floors, bathrooms, and refrigerator. We take turns doing the shopping, and cooking. We used to argue about the house not being clean enough for him, and finally I told him, if it bothered him, he should do it. I too am a collector or crap, but after helping my mom clean out her house last year, and seeing her 30 years worth of crap it was enough, and I have skimmed down on my crap.

I think there is an underlying issue and the house is just an excuse.

Hi all

Hope B is feeling better LG&T. I had hand, foot and mouth when DD1 got it. Very painful. The GP said it was unusual in an adult as most will have had it as a child.

CM - hope your decluttering is going well - divorce is a bit OTT I think!

I can just about manage to tidy (some days) but anything else seems beyond me - the bath is the worst at the moment and is in desperate need of a clean.

JW - online shopping is the way to go - I have been doing it for the last few weeks and it is going well.

I am taking C and L into a friends new Reception Class tomorrow morning as they are talking about babies and growing up. 26 los who have only been at school for 3 weeks! C will love it, bless him.

Aw i did that Sky with B and H in dd first year! The kids loved it and i got some fantastic questions when i whipped a nork out to BF B. They were so sweet.

Master your days do sound hectic but fun, i cant wait for a hol with you so i can make take advantage full use of the 'staff'

What are you making for the dinner party?

No dividing here, i do everything and when he is home he just mucks in. Usually he follows the shouting and takes over whatever job is making me shout. I have however come to accept that he just doesnt see half the things i do and needs them pointing out to him. If i ask (i hate doing it) he does it no problem, but i do have to ask. Things like taking the rubbish out and carrying the wash basket upstairs. We are a 3 floor house with 2 stair gates that need the mahoosive thing lifting over, tis a terrible job.

AM have fun my sweet and be careful!

Jam i think you should be slowing down a bit now, no? You will damage yourself with all the whizzing round! Online shopping is deffo the way to go, i love it.

Chooks gone. B ha a crap night but looks much better this morning. I still have him and H to dress so must go.

lg&t, I think N & A are very similar. Happy to do it, but don't see it. Could be most men actually. We are lucky to have husbands who want to help, and be "hands on". Who understand that bringing up a family should be a joint effort.

Charley, try to talk to him. I'm sure it's not just about the house. I will join lg&t on a declutter for you. I love it! chuck it, just chuck it is my moto! can't be doing with tat!!

Off to the hairdressers. Not quite the same as Dubai but hey ho!!