December 2006- where they've grown so much we spend more time talking about our lives than our children

[Indith]

Well that and our pregnancies and other non-dec '06 children

Tis a good thing I feel.

lol - Lennied, I wish I was the boss in my house too!

There are 3 bosses in our house and none of them is me!

Ever have one of those days where you just want someone to look after you? I'm all hormonal - I seem to be having a period despite the Mirena and BF - and I 'm feeling incredibly sorry for myself. Yuck.

Why isn't DD2 getting any more teeth? Still no sign of canines. Not that it's a bad thing, I just have visions of them all coming through at once!

Would it be wrong to have chocolate for breakfast?

Chocolate for breakfast is fine in an emergency, BP and this is defintely an emergency .

I'm in a bad mood this morning, it was supposed to be my lie in so I stayed up far too late finishing my book. DH woke and started moaning that he felt ill so I've been up since 5:45 AND been up to ds2 twice in the night. Grrrr.

BP, is dd2 really nagging for bfs at the moment? Ds2 demands to feed constantly and it's starting to drive me a bit bonkers. I've been of the 'don't offer, don't refuse' mind until now but I'm having to say 'no' at least 4 times a day (cue screaming abdaps that he will not be distracted from) and he's probably having at least 6 bfs a day and often a couple at night. I don't want to stop completely but I also want some space. Any ideas?

Oli, DD2 seems to go through phases with BF. If I'm around she will ask to be fed quite regularly, so on a Sat/Sun she might get half a dozen during the day. They're not full feeds, though - just a snack! Saying that, though, since we discovered dummies (which are truly the design of angels), she has been demanding fewer feeds during the night, and will often settle down quietly with her dummy. Maybe just one or 2 during the night. Of course when I'm not here she neither requests nor requires them.

I remember DD1 doing this as well (will I never learn?) to the extent that the minute I collected her from her childminder she would shout 'feed, feed, feed' until she got one.

Lie ins? What are those

Sounds pretty similar to ds2 then - it must be an age thing. Tell me it wears off soonish (lie if you have to ). He has a dummy already which usually placates him in the night until about 4am then nothing will do except a bf.

4am seems to be the witching hour in our house too! I'm sure it will slow down soon. Honest.

DD2 has learnt "Why?" It's drving me nuts.

Oh god, 'why' here too. Started last week and the novelty/cute factor is well and truly over!

Actually it's more like "Whyeeeeeeeeee?"

DS2's is a definite 'WHY?' Short and to the point but he says it in response to everything.

'Ds2 don't climb up the radiator'
'Why?'
'Ds2 eat your breakfast'
'Why?'
'Ds2 let's change your nappy'
'Why?'
'Ds2 don't scream at the cat'
'Why?'
Ad infinitum.

The funny thing is though, when you tell him why he says 'Oh!' in a really surprised tone. That's still cute!

I had a 'why' on every single step going upstairs tonight.

Halfway up....

me: shall we take your nappy off in a minute.
DD2: Why?
me : because we need to get clean before bed
DD2: Why?
me : so we can get your pyjamas on.
DD2: Why?
me : because its bedtime
DD2: Why?
me : It's getting late and Mummy's tired
DD2: Why?
me : Because I've been having circular conversations with you all day
DD2: Why?

LOL. I love it when you give them an answer that they could not possibly understand. Ds2 still says 'Oh!' regardless of the answer.

Sympathy on the nightfeeds oli and bp.How do you keep on?!
DS2 well behind your lot with language so we haven't got to why but I sooooo look forward to it! (I got him checked by HV this week, but agreed to wait a few months for an assessment as new words have now been cropping up daily). He's just learnt dirty, whilst patting his bottom at the same time but I am NOT potty training until next summer!!!!

EV, btw, I did ask ds1 about school worries - he said 'tests'. AFAIK no tests in reception and both I, dp and gp's have said this, he is still worried so I said we'd ask teacher...

When I tell dd2 off I say "you mustn't hit dd1, you'll hurt her. Do you understand?" and she says yes and nods - even when she doesn't understand (bless her). So I give really difficult explanations (for my own amusement) and say "Do you understand?" and she obliges with a nod. (I'll try anything to get through the day )

AQ, thanks so much for sharing the counseling experiences. Atm I can see it going either way but am getting rather anxious to get in and just see what happens iykwim. Also pleased to hear you are hanging in there at 35 weeks

oli and bp, we are going through the same thing with bfing. I find myself wondering how i'm ever going to wean him?! He did wean himself from my right side though so now I am decidedly lopsided

AQ, thanks so much for sharing the counseling experiences. Atm I can see it going either way but am getting rather anxious to get in and just see what happens iykwim. Also pleased to hear you are hanging in there at 35 weeks

oli and bp, we are going through the same thing with bfing. I find myself wondering how i'm ever going to wean him?! He did wean himself from my right side though so now I am decidedly lopsided

AQ - aw bless DS!

DD1 barely said anything until 2 1/4 so this is somewhat of a novelty. It makes me realise just how frustrating it must have been for DD1 though.

Jabber - hope the counselling works out.

DD2 is a diva in the making. Yesterday she did a dramatic yawn, arms flung in the air and said "I'm soooooooooooooooo tired". All whilst dressed as a fairy princess of course. And with a tam-o-shanter on her head,.

DS goes back to school tomorrow. DD1 starts next Monday. She had a minor strop today that it wasn't tomorrow! How is everyone with their PFB's starting school? Wobbly? Ah, I remember those days ... Croak. It is great fwiw. I have gone from being 'no school until aged 7' to '4 isn't early enough'

AQ, don't worry, no tests in Reception. The 1st 'proper' tests are SATS end of Year 2.

OMG I'm having a BOY Feel like I've been hit with a car. Am pleased, but all my visions of my two little girls have been completely destroyed in one foul swoop. DH like a cheshire cat though, so am pleased really. Everything ok. No whys here yet - but increasingly amusing demands - this morning DDs toy dog wanted breakfast with the real dogs, apparently.

LenniEd! Congratulations! And FWIW, you have expressed pretty much what I would have said if dd2 had been a ds1 - as it was, I was really happy to have another little girl, but equally gutted not to be having a boy (ever). Somehow I think I'd have had mixed feelings whichever way! Ooooh, now you can start having serious fantasies about your baby though....names, clothes, toys

'Whys' already? Eek! I have a diva of similar proportion to Castles' dd2 (oooh noooooo! heard with tragic tones a hundred times per day) but not at the 'why' stage yet. Too busy clowning

dd1 starts next Monday...am not looking forward to getting her through the inevitable crisis of nerves (she knows no one, bar one girl she's met twice) but omg is she ready. Some days I can see amazing energy, confidence, and growth - others I see wildness, cheekiness and aggression, depending on my own mood

Jabber, lol at your lopsidedness....photo op, maybe?!

Good luck with the counselling, I really do hope it helps. Its certainly helped some friends of mine hugely, but am sure outcome depens on so many different factors. Am thinking of you.

Eli - you could have just described my DD. She starts Monday too.

LennieD - congrats! I would have had the same reaction if DD2 had been a boy. Very exciting times though!

Thats reassuring, EV, here's hoping Monday brings the challenges and structure needed to make our lives more peaceful