April 2007 - Bring back, bring back, bring back Ange's laptop to her, to her!!!!!!

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she came up with it herself!

pesha - fab news and a teaching assistant wow - fantastic

hi liath - well dh is at work, all dcs at nursery all day and I am going to do very little & sleep!!!!!!!!!!!

I am narked with the weather too it is so miserable

Faye
Faith
Katy
Amy

I'm rubbish at names, took me forever to get dc's.

I think Lily goes with your surname. We were going to call ds Lily if he was a she. Dh's step sister is due a girl any day now and I think she'll be Lily. Her sister is Katie.

it's actually sunny here today but I have to stay in as the washing machine's being delivered between 11.53 ad 14.23 very odd times

sun eddas

Lily - dh thinks it doesn't go - but he hasn't said no

I think Luke would go really well, as would Lucy, shame you don't think you can use Lucy.
Sorry, can't tell, would you consider Grace or not? Would that not be a bit odd?

Oooggs, I think Lily goes with your surname and it is a gorgeous name too. My friend's little girl is called Evie which I really like, but it's another E.
I like Lucy too, and Anya is really pretty, but would you use it since your friends dd has the name?
Hope you have a good day and manage to get some sleep. Glad that the doc's have signed you off. I know you probably feel guilty (I remember that I did), but just try and relax when you can and enjoy the child free time!

Pesha, fab news about the house. And good luck with your course too

SOL, hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Weather here is pants yet again, the rain is just not stopping. I am so sick of it. Is a little sunshine too much to ask for in the summer?! Eddas I am very that you have a sunny day!

Lots of exciting news there Pesha.

Whinge alert

We had an awful night last night. I don't think D is really really il, but he has a lot of minor but painful or uncomfortable things wrong with him - nappy rash, teething, cat flea bites. Poor little boy. And while dp does a lot, he's not good at keeping calm, and I can't bear it when he shouts "What's wrong with you?" at our distressed and tired little boy. I'm sure D doesn't know either. And he gets nasty to me too. I don't know if I can do this any more. At least if it was just me, no one else could criticise me for getting it all horribly wrong. I don't know what to do now, I hate leaving things so unresolved but I don't believe the apologies any more, they're so often closely followed by more of the same crap .

MJ/oooggs, tis not sunny anymore it's very very grey and looks like rain is coming any second. does that make you feel better as I type it's just starting pouring hard and i wanted to go and put things in the car(all the tat much need items such as baby wipes and car mats) it is literally hammering down now and it's quite windy.

oh elkie i'm not sure what to say

i've just been putting away the washing mil kindly did for me, but she didn't iron it, cheek

Oh Elkie - have a . Look - nobody can think clearly after a broken and distressing night. Does you dp still make you happy? And have you told him how crap he's making you feel? Having a baby is a massive shift in a relationship - and that ground doesn't always stabilise after the first few weeks. It can keep shifting for months and years and you just have to be light on your feet. If there's something in your relationship that lights up your heart and binds you together then it's worth keeping on.

Rambling now and at work so better go

byeeeeeee

Elkie, this may be no consolation, but dh and I came very close to breaking point after we had ds. I had very seriously thought that we going to split. When I look back on it all, it was the sheer upheaval and stress of having our first child that caused us to be that way.
I think that a baby causes huge changes in the dynamic of any relationship, and with your first you have no idea that this will happen, and maybe little idea of how to deal with it. I really hope that you can sort things out (assuming that is what you want).

Can you talk to dp about it and the way you are feeling. Dh and I sat down one day and I just poured everything out, I cried so much because I was really stressed. Anyway, it got things out into the open, and made us far more tolerant of each other because we realised that we were not alone in struggling iykwim.
Hope you are ok xxx

That was a bit garbly, but I hope you get my meaning. Dh is not a big talker tbh, but that day saved us I think as we finally realised that we were both having a really tough time of things. Up until that point we were both really resentful of each other, which was causing a terrible amount of bad feeling between us. That, in combination with my PND, was tough to handle.

elkie, really sorry to read your post, sorry no advice but it sounds like your DP is low on patience Do you accept (((hugs)))?

SPB, I think dp is very tired which doesn't improve his patience. As am I of course. I had about 30 mins sleep last night, dp had ooh, maybe an hour? Plus he was woken a lot the night before by crying, I probably hada much better night then.

I'm very impatient myself but I think I'm better at responding to D calmly. dp's reaction is "he'll never go to sleep, that won't work", mine is "you never know, it's got to be worth a try, and even if it doesn't get him to sleep, getting him to stop screaming would be a start". dp doesn't understand the effect his tone of voice can have on me or D. Nor does he appreciate the idea of getting through a bad night or other time a few minutes at a time...

Does D wake for milk? Could you co sleep?
Sorry, don't know the details of the problem, but there must be some short term way to make life easier for you all

Yes, normally D stirs and cries in his sleep but settles back easily with milk in quite a short space of time, that wasn't happening last night probably because he's sore and itchy with a mix of nappy rash and fleabites.

His cot is still in our room because what should be his room next door is still in use as a junk heap , we have to pack it up and throw/give it away or rent storage for it.

yes will still consider Grace
no won't consider Anya
maybe to Lucy

elkie - I'm sorry things are so hard, ds1 was 14 mths when things went pear shaped here and life was hard for ages, but we got through it. You are brave, when ds1 was this age I wouldn't even talk about another baby - hence the gap (thankfully as it was twins)

I hope you manage to get some rest - maybe sort out the room and move him? Better to do this sooner rather than later when baby has invaded his spot in mummy & daddys room.

I've just been to the pub for lunch!!!!! with two friends and their babies (same age as dts) and I had no children - didn't have to share anything and my meal was eaten hot

Where's Ellie - we want a report on last night!

oooggs, pub lunch, and childless and hot Hope you had a lovely time, you deserve it

Elkie, it must be so so hard for you, i've no experience with non-sleeping children or sharing a room with them, but if I were you i'd try and move him to his own room. DS went into his room at about 2 months, but we used a montior. one night dh pointed out that the monitor was waking us but ds didn't need us, so we turned it off and we slept so much better because the noises waking us were just snuffly sleeping noises. he didn't want us but it woke us IYSWIM. His room is not far so we hear him if he does need us.

I'm just heading into town with dc [nervous] we need to get out for a bit(and i get to drive the car)

I've just had a couple of men round, oo-er They're my first self-employed work, yipeeee. thought they'd changed their minds but they haven't will be doing their bookeepping/payroll/VAT etc, am stupidly grinnig about it but i've wanted to do this on my own for quite a while, it was just never the right time

In that case I love Grace!

Hello! am back very briefly....

Moving on Friday! Aaarrgghhh......

So update me with all your news, and will see if I can catch up at all before then

If not will be back as soon as I can!!!!!

Missed you all!

hi caz!

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