June 07 - Schools Out for Summer; well for some of us anyway

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i actually left thomas in the middle of the field we were walking thru today cos he refused to walk. i went and sat on a bench and read a magazine to ellen, while he screamed, then decided he would walk after all... bad mother!

i put him ova my knee in the shopping center the other day cos he stole something out a shop and nearly got me in big trouble!

JBM there's a message for you on the Winner's page here

That's exactly what I would have done Natty. I will walk away from my children as far as I dare if they are having a hissy fit. I am guilty of going out of their line of vision, although I wouldn't lose sight of them.

IMO its the only way to handle tantrums when they've gone beyond distracting them out of it. Attention feeds the monster.

It is so incredibly hard having them close together Natty. I look back and think 'How the Hell did I do that?!'. But whilst I was in it, it was head down and get through it.

Just don't look back with any regret. I felt terribly guilty for DS1 because I felt I'd taken his babyhood away somehow. Despite only being 14 months old when DS2 was born, he suddenly, overnight, became a toddler. Of course he wasn't, he was still a baby but seemed so huge by comparison. So I wasted lots of emotion feeling guilty for DS1 and not feeling enough love for DS2. But I got it back.

In a nutshell, don't beat yourself up! you are doing a great job, just remember to have fun not get bogged down with them.

And I hope DHs appointment brings some good news xx

lalalala I'm not listening.

small age gaps rock; small age gaps rock; small age gaps rock; small age gaps....; small age gaps...waaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhh what have I done

sorry!

no advice on the tantrums sorry natty. DS is being a nightmare at the minute, but I had a horrible panic attack in the car on Saturday ; even DH was feared for his life and I think this is DSs way of dealing with it. We are trying to be gentle with him, but it is sooooooo hard. He is back to the going to kill us/DD/him way of talking as well

DH is going back to work tonight as well; I'm not looking forward to coping on my own without him.

Natty, sorry no great words of wisdom other than I think what you did sounds fine adn you ARE doing a grand job, woman!

Daisy, sorry things aren't going so hot for you either. Hope things are OK this evening.

Rubbish day at work, SO glad I'm home! Nothing particularly bad happened, just was dull and I didn't want to be there.

Hi Jammy . I'm fine; I was just having a bad day. We were running late, the kids were grumping all the way from Leeds to Berwick (a long way) and the traffic was stop/start for about 40 miles (which took over 1.5 hours instead of the usual 45 mins) and there were some right ole knobheads on the roads. When we eventually got to Berwick to stop for lunch, everywhere was heavingly busy and we couldn't get a table and I just didn't cope very well and drove like a nutter for a bit, getting even more panicky about everything.

Natty, DSs tantrums have always been tough to deal with so I can sympathise with you there. Having two to deal with must be a nightmare, and I have a little insight into it, although it's easier as DS knows when he is behaving unreasonably. Just try to stay calm and consistent with them is all I can suggest. And I agree that you are doing a fabby job in incredibly difficult circumstances. Fingers crossed for good news from DHs appointment, or at least some answers that you can get to grips with.

sorry for my very me-centric posts earlier

Thanks Fairy -
Catch up later

Where oh where is everyone?

I'm lurking, Jammy. I'm playing WordTwist on facebook.

My DD1 is staying and is monopolising the computer!!
Just jumping on whilst she's busy - but have nothing much to say!!
Oh apart from DD2 keeps taking a few little steps!!

Hi JBM, nice to 'see' you. Well done to DD2 .

What has everyone done today??
Ive walked the dog/been to Tesco and had a friend plus baby round for a cuppa.

Any one been up to anything more interesting - Im starting to get bored.....

Nothing exciting here, I'm afraid. Have done 'chores' and taken Ds to his Little Gym class and that's it. Am off to my parents' for a couple of days tomorrow.

Ohh have a nice time - hope the weather improves - it feels cold here tonight.
BTW Fairy - what is that on your profile picture??!!!!

Well Done to DD2 jbm. she'll be off in no time. DD doesn;t crawl at all now; if she falls over she just picks herslef up and walks off, where just over a week ago if she fell she would resort to crawling instead.

I'm here.....looking for the cheapest prices possible for all our redecorating that needs doing. I have very little money to do the bathroom/separate toilet, living room and hallway and that includes new flooring throughout, replacing the fireplace in the living room, a woodburning stove and a new bathroom suite and the tiling.

Jamlet got her first pair of proper shoes at the weekend and seems very pleased with them. Certainly doesn't pull them off every 5 seconds, and was even seen trying to put them on! She did loads of standing at my parents at the weekend and some walking, holding my hands, and "cruised" for the first time along the edge of my parents' bed

Have a nice time with your folks FF.
And yes, I bet DD will be running circles round you in no time JBM

DD loves to try anything on, shoes especially, no matter whose they are and even DSs day old underpants that she found under the edge of his bed this morning . She also loves trying to put handbags over her shoulders or carrying them around with the straps in the crook of her arm.

I don't remember DS doing anything like this at that age (he was three before he bonded with one of my handbags ), so there is definately a case for nature over nurture ime!

JBM - that's a 'raggie' that my Grandma knitted me, and DD has since adopted - I'd really like to make another one and was trying to find out what the stitch was and whether I'd be able to do it - I haven't knitted since my early teens. I was asking about it on the crafts threads. well you did ask.....

I looked at your profile FF to see the "raggie" pic, and saw the thread about odd bjects that have hurt you. Had to put on about DH sliding down a mirror as a child!

Isn't it strange how funny we find people's accidents? Mine include the comedy 'standing on a rake' and falling face first onto the patio as I tried to lean on sliding doors which were open.

I know, we have a warped sense of humour. I'm afraid I did laugh to myself when I read about your rake incident.