December 07 - I'm still standing, yeah, yeah, no!

[Wizzska]

Hello people, is anyone there?

hello everyone

back from holidays and it rained literally every day in both places (oxfordshire and Edinburgh)so am actually quite pleased to be back

had a quick scan through messages but it's all a bit much to take in so i will start reading properly again from tomorrow

sympathies to all going back to work soon - it is hard but the heartbreak definitely subsides after a while, well it did for me anyway but maybe I'm just a cold-hearted b*tch

DS is doing great - finally has a tooth coming through, can stand up by himself for a few seconds at a time, rolling all over the place and crawling backwards but not enough to make me not want to leave him by himself so perfect! He is an absolute delight atm - all smiles and babbles, just scrummy

Clairey - that's great, that's roughly what I've been aiming for, only 2 night wakings and so far I seem to be getting it!

Skid - welcome back - and no you are no a coldhearted b!!
Good to hear that babies do adjust.

Daniel's 2nd session went much better, he had lots of fun, impressed the NNs by eating a whole banana, he was offered beans on toast for tea, didn't like the beans but had the toast! It was his first time with baked beans.

Amani Sorry to hear you've been having a bad time, can't think of anything different to add that could help but i hope it does get easier.
Also, i hope your lump is ok, thinking of you.

Skid Welcome back, i agree about the feelings about going back to work in a way. I'm looking forward to a bit of adult company tbh, i'm on my own most days with the ds's for 12 hours, sometimes longer

BT Glad Daniel's 2nd session went better, he must have just been tired at his 1st session.

Clairey I hope the night wakings keep improving

I have got bf's dd staying tomorrow night and got her all day sunday and i'm not looking forward to it. She is 15 months and her bedtime routine starts at 8pm by her sitting in her buggy with a bottle and a dvd on, and apparently 'she should be asleep by 10', i'm normally asleep by then!!

I'm so not used to that, my 2 are in bed by 7 at the latest and asleep normally straight away. So now i need to go and find my spare dvd player in the loft so she can watch it in my room as dp will not be impressed with watching cartoons all night.

bouncing - great to hear his second session went better. It is so awful leaving them for the first time, isn't it? I remember dropping my DD off at nursery for the first time (age 1 so mid-separation anxiety) and going straight to my DH's (shared) office and bawling my eyes out for about half an hour . His office mates were really sweet and made me cups of tea but I think I nearly set some of them (and DH) off as well! it honestly does get easier really quickly - i don't think twice about leave either of mine now

fifi at your friend's DD's bedtime routine - you are a saint looking after her. Hope it was better than expected and she fell asleep earlier than 10pm!

Question, especially to those still BF - how many times do your babies feed now? DS still feeds about 12 times a day!! Is this a ridiculous amount? Have posted about it here if anyone has any advice

Hi Skid I've replied on your thread, hope that it is of help!

Skid have also replied,wasnt much help though! Fifi your friends bedtime routine sounds a bit ,whatever works for her i suppose but its a bit unfair to expect you to do the same.does she just plonk her in the buggy in front of the tv and wait til she falls asleep then?sorry got my judgy pants on there,will shut up now! Hope she followed your ds' example and went to sleep early for you. Ds is a complete menace at the moment,into everything,wriggles away and crawls off whenever i try to change him etc.is so cute with it though,is like different baby to the one i had to begin with! Dd is camping with dh and the african group this weekend.am finding it really hard.not only because i miss her but also because i am very possessive of her and hate her doing stuff without me. Im so jealous that her first camping experience is without me. Suppose it is good for me and she is having a whale of a time which is the important thing.

Just a quick post..bf's dd stayed, i done what she told me to, bottle in a buggy with a dvd at 7.30...she went to sleep at 11.20 last night
Tried to lift her in to her travel cot 3 times, each time she screamed and so woke my ds's, i gave in at 12.15 am and said to dp she'd have to sleep in her buggy. Then she's been up since 6.30am
I rang bf and told her and she said ' i often let her sleep in her buggy when i can't be bothered to fight with her '
I'm a bit and at the same time

Fifi - I'm not surprised - surely it can't be good for her sleeping all night in her buggy on a regular basis! Not fair on you or your los!

oh my goodness fifi - that can't be good for her and certainly not fair on you - i would also be and . Have you or will you discuss it with her or do you think it's better not to say anything? Do you think she will ask you to babysit again? Because if so it might be worth saying something.

clairey - it must be very strange for you not to have your DD around especially when you are used to being with her all day everyday. Glad she's having a good time though and great that your DH wanted to take her (following previous threads about how he didn't pull his weight) - have your DH and DD really bonded since you had your DS? I know mine have - they are great mates now playing tickling and wrestling games all the time which is great for me as I get tired of all that stuff quite quickly. Anyway hope the time passes quickly till she comes back!

I am working fulltime hours for the next two weeks as DH is off and I need to get my thesis done - am a bit that I will hardly see the DCs and a bit that DH will. Will be great to get some work done though... maybe getting off MN might be a good starting point!

hi everyone

sorry for long absence I do read the thread but run out of time before I get to post.

Clairey - is your DD home now? Bet she had a lovely time and it must've been lovely for you to get some quality time with DS too.

DS is waking at least twice a night so I've got in the habit of bringing him into my bed about 2am where he seems to sleep a lot better. He's got two bottom teeth now and the top two are just breaking through so I am putting it down to that. Poor DD is having bad night terrors so will start a thread on that. We're all really tired as a result and seem to be stressed and grumpy more than I should be so I'm trying to sort out a new schedule for us now that the schools are back up here our normal toddler groups have resumed. Any SAHMs want to share how they spend their days? I'm just getting a little bit bored of toddler groups and feel like I don't have a life at all, that sounds really selfish I know - think it's just a bad stage.

Loucee - poor dd hope you get some good advice!

morning all- back at work after my holiday. I have my scan this afternoon so please send some good vibes! (hopeful emoticon)

Hi Suey2 - Good vibes coming your way!

LOucee I hope you can get some help for your dd

Suey Good luck!!

Skid I did say to her that i don't think its right for her to be sleeping in her buggy..her reply was she'll do anything for a easy life
She asked me to babysit her the day we get back from our hols, we land at 4.30 am and after a 8 hour flight the last thing i want to do is babysit, i've said no and she wasn't to pleased!!

Fifi - she doesn't sound like that good a friend, am and on your behalf, and for her poor little dd - she'll grow up spoilt and unhappy if that's her attitude, hopefully though you can be a good influence on her and your friend!

DS had his 3rd session, 4 hours.
The session went well however it was like something from a comedy what happened to me!
Took Ds to nursery, and realised I hadn't brought his milk with me, so had to go back for it. Only when I arrived back, I realised I left my house keys in the changing bag which was at the nursery
So had to go back to the nursery to get my keys, then go home to get the milk, then go back to nursery to drop the milk off!
Then I picked him up, he had a good day, including 2 sleeps and tuna pasta! I got home, and realised I didn't have my handbag
Went back to nursery, I had left the damn thing in the car park
Lucky someone had found it and handed it in!
I've since been to Asda and bought a bottle of Bailey's Irish Cream and a curry for me and DH

Fifi your friend sounds like she's taking advantage of you.

BT what a day for you!! That sounds so frustrating and irritating, if you held your cool you must be superwoman as I would've screamed out in the car (with no kids in that is!).

DS is a bum shuffler, he goes on all fours and rocks and can push himself backwards but as we have laminate downstairs he just likes to move around on his bum!

thanks for your good vibes! All is well. Normal.
Fifi your friend is really taking the piss.
Bt I am glad ds is settling in- what a nightmare with the nappy brain, though!
Loucee I hope things improve soon

Oh I am pleased the scan went well, Suey!

Loucee - the lady who runs the bumps and Babes group has a daughter who is now 15mo, she has never crawled - she could get around so efficiently on her bum, I guess she couldn't see the point! She's walking now, I believe - I haven't seen her in over a month.

Gosh it is quiet here lately. Is it because i havent been on much lately?!
Seriously though i really miss everyone that has left us and would love to know how they and their babies are. Suey glad the scan went well,what a relief!

wow it is quiet on here these days...

thank goodness suey - that is great news

loucee - of course it doesn't sound selfish - looking after children is really hard and toddler group after toddler group is not much fun. I'm back at work now so can't share my routine but I have always found coffee with friends with children is the best way to spend time, plus going to the gym (or wherever you like going) that has a creche so that i get an hour to myself - now that probably DOES sound selfish!
your poor DD with night terrors - have you had any advice from MNetters?

BT - glad DS did well at nursery again - when do you start back at work? Are you dreading it or do you think you'll be OK now you know that DS is OK?

I am at work all day everyday atm which I am HATING . I've never spent such a longtime away from the DCs on a regular basis and I am v. of DH being with them all day - but of course when I was with them all day I was of him having time to himself so I thinkI have to conclude that i am just a miserable ole cow who is never happy

On the plus side I am about halfway through my thesis or even maybe a bit more which feels great.

well done for saying no to your friend fifi - I feel really sorry for the little girl

where is everybody anyway? How is DD2 amani? Have you tried any of the suggestions on your thread?

How is the new house clairey? Are you happily reunited with your DD?

Any news from clara? How are you settling in now?

Come on ladies, I need some light relief from the blinkin thesis!

hey skid!
glad to hear it is going well, it must have been really difficult to say goodbye

I have been meaning to do something useful this afternoon as work will go bonkers for a month when one of my guys goes away at the end of the week. But lots of funny MN threads this afternoon - hi BT! - so i have been v naughty. Still feeling a bit knackered from the time change, too.

Must try and sky+ that BF programme

oo - if anyone has any suggestions re the painful sex thread i started i would be most grateful

I've had a look, Suey but no advice I'm afraid - I must confess that DH and I have DTD only twice since DS was born! He has been dropping hints, but I can't seem to get in the mood!

Yes it has gone quiet, I might go a bit quiet for the next few weeks with going back to work! Not sure when I'll find the time MN!

Skid - yes I am dreading it, nearly 10 hours a day is a long time for my little man

I'm looking for another job but also considering staying where I am but seeing if I can negotiate doing a 4 day week without a corresponding pay cut.

I am staying at my parents this week.Evie has just stood up from sitting and learnt to clap - there is no stopping her. Dh is really pissed off with me - as yu may remember I hate hate drivingand we just had a fight over the fact he is off out when we had arrnaged for dd1 to go to a party and he is saying I havbe to drive her but I am so scared. I may do - I am still working out - I have jus googled it to dee what eh aprking is like...

I am back to work on Monday ahhhhh.

Suey - I am also finidng sex a little painful from from angles .