October '04 babies - anyone fancy a kip?!!

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I certainly do. Bean is becoming more and more unsettled in the night as the weeks go by and it is taking its toll. Florence, you have my utmost admiration for still being alive, let alone managing a trip to NZ!! Hope its going well.

Bean is 3 months tomorrow, and people are already asking me if I am going to start weaning him soon? I would like to keep bf until he is 6 months, but how do I know if he needs to start sooner? Or will I know that is a stupid question when I have a permanently hungry baby on my hands?!!
What is everyone else planning to do?

Btw, am reading a marvellous, marvellous book called "What Mothers Do (especially when it looks like nothing)" by Naomi Stadlen. It talks about what a shock it all is, what we provide for a our babies and crucially, what I find missing from so many other books, how we actually feel - exhausted, sometimes angry towards db, unsure of ourselves etc etc. It does not tell me what I "should" be doing - hurrah!!! Cannot recommend it highly enough. Is doing me the world of good and we like that.

How are you coping on your 1st day back KathH? I am ahting every single, long, agonisingly drawn-out minute of mine

Ok, baby asleep and DS watching Boo so it must be Mumsnet time! Cazzybabs, I wouldn't get too hung up on the exact date for weaning - wasn't she a bit late anyway, so already highly advanced for her age? Good luck to Kath, I will be following you soon! My problem is finding clothes to fit me widthways rather than lengthways - have bought 2 new pairs of trousers as although I am back to pre-pregnancy weight, my waistline/tummy isn't (so must have shrunk somewhere else - muscle tone I think).

Progress report - DD rejected 4oz of EBM yesterday from her dad (grr - the waste!) but took 2oz today. The plan is EBM 1x a day this week and then formula next week unless boobs threaten to explode. Last night was first night of sleeptraining and we were all awake last night from 3 to 4.30, then she went back to sleep until 6.30am (so went from 10.30pm without a feed - a first). Have to admit I gave on the Pantley method as I kept falling asleep with DD on the boob and forgetting to flip her off. Instead I managed to cut some of her more frequent wake-ups with a 10min rule (only respond after 10min) and now launched on full blown CC so we will see how that goes. i am avoiding weaning until I have sorted out all the bits of plastic cluttering up my kitchen counter and dug out the ice cube trays although have put sweet potato and butternut squash on the shoppping list. No sign of teeth yet just the usual gumming and dribbling.

On meetups, I am a bit up in the air as have to arrange some training days for DD with the CM, DS starts nursery on the 19th which makes daytimes hard as his hours are 12.45 to 3.15pm. Plus start work at the end of April which rules me out for Wed-Friday. Evenings should be OK once I have got DD on a bottle. Maybe aim for a Monday and if I can get CM to pick up DS I could make it?? Or try for some time in the next 2wks befor DS starts nursery (although he is not the best of house guests at the moment - a bit naughty, esp when his "brain is telling him" to do something).

"wasn't she a bit late anyway, so already highly advanced for her age?"

• well of course she is....I have her place at Cambridge already booked Those extra 11 days have made her extra smart and she is destinged to save the world on several occasions!

I'm off out for carrots this afternoon, can't do the 3 - 4 times a night stuff much longer, like the baby was late idea that means i'm only a couple of days earlier than intended. DS is still teething would like to see some results soon .
DS1 as been to hosp this morning (whats new) needs a new set of grommits
Meet up is great Mon or Wed means the whole gang here (not sure if others can face that)and only after I pick up DS at 11.45 (but he is still on hols for 2 weeks if we move quick). Go with what is best for everyone else and i'll fit in.

I'm liking the late baby logic. This makes ds a true genius of course, as he was 16 days late! Might just go straight to giving him a knife and fork when I wean him...?

Am up for a sooner-than-later meet up. Thank you for your kind offer Toots. Any day is ok for me.

Kath and Bibi - hope your days aren't too bad. Have been thinking of you.

Hi all - sweet potato is GOD in this house - it just disappears and happy contented dd who then sleeps for at least an hour (unheard of for the past 3 months!) - only thing is getting the orange out of everything .
Meet up would be great can do most times - although I have some hospital appointments coming up for me to have my toenails off ..........so will depend on these...
Hope the first day went ok KathH.

Could it be in school holidays - or may bank holiday? The meet up - so I can come.

Toots - good luck tomorrow. Thanks everyone for their messages.

It wasnt tood bad altho there was a bit of a novelty factor in talking to grown ups all day! Am sure it will have gone by next week tho. Babymole was fine at the childminders too, at least that's what she told me. (He can now roll around the whole living room and i keep finding him pulling at the phone!

Anyway am now going to tuck into my fish & chips that dh bought to "treat" me as its my first day back - blimey, he knows how to spoil a girl!

Kathy H - glad the day went well - enjoy those fish and chips.

Bibiboo - sorry you had a bad day. Did it get any better as it went on?

Still another couple of weeks to go before I start weaning. I have managed to cook and freeze some butternut squash, but I suppose I better get my arse in gear and get a move on with other things.

Hope everyones´boilers/washing machines etc. are now working fine. Just waiting for mine to pack up as it does seem to be a recurring theme on this thread.

How many would Bank Holiday Monday - May 2nd -suit?

Huppa advance planning now that is impressive, after our trip to town for carrots and long sleeved bibs (essential for weaning in my humble opinion), I rushed back and cooked a mess of carrot, potato and peas. DS seemed to like the novelty of having something in his mouth and kept opening for more, just didn't seem to know what to do when it got there. Tried giving him a bit of broccili when we were eating later on but he couldn't hold on to it - think i'm going to have to evict DD from the high chair so he can sit up with us at meal times.
Anyone else fancy May bank holiday for meet up so Cazzybabs can come? I may be able to loose the older 2 in that case.

Posts crossed! Should be OK but better check with DH!

Bank holiday Monday sounds like a great idea although I suspect DH will not be impressed. BTW toots good luck for tomorrow - enjoy the lunch! Maybe when I'm back at work some of us could "do" lunch as well???

ive decided not to post on this anymore as i havent been on since friday (as been busy and gone off on this post abit) as i feel like the odd one out here coz you all live in the same area where im from north and i feel you all not interested what ive got to say as i noticed that you all compliment or interested in each other but not me.... anyway hope you all have fun with your little ones and good luck

Biglips - please don´t go. It´s always interesting to hear what you have to say. Sorry if I don´t always reply. I think as some of the posters have had the chance to meet up it´s inevitable that they might have more to say to some posters than others, but it doesn´t mean their not interested in what everyone has to say.
Anyway I´m in Germany and I know some of the other posters don´t live in the south east either.
Hope the chaos at home is sorting itself out - how are things going with your mum?

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Biglips please don't leave - I always feel a bit left out too on Mumsnet, but I love this thread because I love reading all about each other babies. I was hoping you would tell us what colours you had painted your baby's bedroom. Is your babu still massive? - see I do read your posts!!!!

I live too far away to go to meet ups but have never felt like I'm being left out. Although I barely post anymore and don't get the chance to check the site as much as I'd like to, I used to post a lot when pg with my ds (while I was at work ). Obviously it's your decision whether to continue with this site biglips but I've always found everyone on this thread to be a great source of help, support and wisdom.

ookkkkkaaayyyyyy! - ill give another go as i didnt realise you all wants me to stay ... i dont want all your full attention but i felt like typing in abig bold letter HELLO I'M HERE to get abit of attention.

im having a stressful time with mum as she doesnt seems to listen to me at all as yesterday was the final blow as whilst we were out, she asked me what im cooking and i said nothing, do you wanna to cook? and she said yes.. it was her idea to get the mince meat to make s. bolognaise, so i dropped her off at home and i went straight out with DP came back anb hour later and mum was just sitting in the family room not made the tea and i was starving and she said it was my idea to have s. bolognaise and she thought i was making it... i went mad saying get a bloody hearing test as she not hearing me at all ggrrrr

anyway, im painting baba's room up this week using soft pink and lilac colours and yes she weighed a ton !!

rickman - sorry to hear about the bad news of your best friends son ((((hugs))))..... i feel sometimes things gets on top of me when im tired and i cant think properly

baba in the last 3 weeks is doing loads new things at once - is trying to stand on her feet to start crawling (or walking - please do it soon so i dont have to carry her!! ), trying to speak, loves her foods (there is no doubt in that!!!!) and rolling over very quickly..... BUT she had been waking up 4/7 nights where before she used to sleep 7/7 nights so ive started to give her 3 meals a day and 8oz bottles (about 7 bottles per day - is that normal??)

Biglips we can be tired and grouchy together because Grace has decided she doesn't want to sleep through the night - yesterday she went to bed at 11, woke up at 1 (cried for 5 minutes fell back to sleep), then dd1 woke up having had a nightmare she went back to sleep at 1.30, then grace woke up at 2.30, cried for 10minutes fell back to sleep, then grace woke up at 4 and I get her and took her into our bed (much to displeasure of dp) and she slept till 7.30.

What has happened with your mum - I can't remember - is their a history to your falling out?

The men are fixing our baywindow today so I am trying to write an eassy listening to their conversation - and reading Mumsnet!!!

Hi All,

I'm another one feeling the strain, I think the last 7 days or so have been the toughest so far. ds had a terrible vomiting bug last week (first time for me with projectile vomit and I found it really shocking and upsetting!) which went on for a few days, he seems better now but is wanting to feed constantly (is this normal? i guess so after being so ill?). I'm having to get up to feed him every 2 hours or so in the night, I can't face not giving him food in case he does need it but on the other hand I can't be sure he hasn't just realised it is nice to have mummy up so often in the night! If anyone has any words of wisdom on the above I'd be delighted to hear them, I am floundering!

Rickman, really sorry to hear about BF's son, that is horrible news.

where you from biglips?

my dd is doing great got her weighed this morning and she is 13lb15.5oz...... nearly 14lb the porker...

still wish she would sleep a bit more through the night though, think i may try cc in about a month....gonna order gina ford book...(maybe)

is anyone else weaning?
hows it going??
any tips/ideas???

quick tip for weaning - let them hold their own spoon, they stop trying to grab yours then

Biglips- glad you've decided to stay! Ruddy mothers eh? DD1s and DD2s bedroom is pink and lilac altho mostly a tip! I cant go to meetup as i live in Leicester. Rickman - really sorry to hear about your mates son. Bibiboo were you at work today?
I dont know what it is about these October babies - babymole woke up every 5 mins last nite - not what i needed when going to work today! Am hoping it's just a blip (yet another one) dont know if he's got a tooth coming thru but definately cant cope with no sleep and going to work. My other 3 were really good sleepers and this one's a bit of a shock to the system!
Toots - how did your day go? Hope everyone else is ok and their los are bouncing (only in the day tho!)