March08 mums- tummy and teething troubles!

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new thread for Merry...

I am such a slummy mummy-DS (3 yrs) has put himself to bed for his afternoon nap for the last 2 days by himself. I can hear him now reading himself a story while I jiggle DD around. I feel really guilty even tho' he seems fine with it.
DD is all over the place with sleep and food- seems to have gone back to 2 night feeds which is a real pain.I haven't had her weighed since her 6 week check but she's in her 3-6 clothes now and still having 6-7 bottles a day. HV 2moro for jabs, I'll see if I can get her weighed then.Gotta go, the chubster in the corner is agitating for more food.

Back to the doula thing...I hated every second of my birth experience (Obviously not afterwards...but, you know..)as DH didn't do any of the things he said he would from watching tv while I paced back and forth crying after the first 24 hours of labour, craning his head round to see picture to not stopping them breaking my waters and only letting me push for an hour, etc. If I can help ONE PERSON to get even some of what they want from a birth I will be a happy bunny.
When exactly do the hormones stop, btw? I am still going from hating DH to loving him every 3 seconds. Maybe that's just fatigue.. {hmm]

merryberry I'm sure you're too busy to be on here right now but thinking of you. Enjoy your last day and night as an unmarried woman. (If I remember the date right)

too busy, you got it right, but it includes copious amounts of MN'ing!

soon-to-be-mrs-merryberry you'll have to tell us all about it!
Parents gone back home now and feel strangely glad being all by myself with dd today. Blues cloud has lifted for now (help around the house and mum to witter at constantly v good therapy for me).
Baby sleeping so off to catch a few winks myself!
x

turtle - id love to be a doula, ive been practicing on my cousin today. shes in early labour and has been since 9pm last night, contractions are 10 mins apart but not very painful. baby back to back! so weve been 'having fun' with the space hopper and trying to pursuade her to crawl about on the floor. not much happening though so just left her in he bath (dh working so have to come home ) her mam and dad are with her though. hopefully things will speed up a bit soon

merryberry - hope you have a fab day

isolation is the biggest bummer first time round i went out EVERY day he was well from 3 weeks with ds1, just to see people in shops if nowt else! have nothing weddingy i can do at this moment in time...sigh...shame feel like fiddling with stuff.

Oh merryberry I didn't realise. Wow, getting married tomorrow? What fun! Have a brilliant day, I hope you enjoy every minute of it.

OMG wearehipsandmakers your DS reading himself a story aloud. That's so sweet. :D

I'm in good form because I just had DD weighed and she'd put on 12oz in 2 weeks. Hurray!

She didn't have her shots because it was only 27 days since her last ones because the last time they cancelled baby clinic at the last minute and we had to come back the next day. Oh well. I was dreading it anyway, so it's like a stay of execution. She's in a really good mood today, so I didn't really want them to stick pins in her.

hey, merry berry, have a good day tomorrow-remember, any excuse to drink champagne.If it takes getting hitched so be it! (it's the only reason I got married. mind you I got a curry as well. Hey, I played hard to get.)

GOOD LUCK Merry - so excited for you in your fabulously chilled way - get the norks out and enjoy it - if you can't do it on your wedding day when can you!
bless you both and your babies on your special day.

Lol! I just had a vision of Merry doing a first dance type thing with norks out
HAve a fun day!

Hi everyone,

Sorry I have not been posting for a while, we have been travelling a bit and kept busy with the breastfeeding/entertaining/washing etc....
Trip to London and Berlin went very well indeed, Lo has really been amazing not minding taking two flights within the same day. changing hotels etc....We have also been to New York for the weekend (quite close to Bermuda) which was a bit of a nightmare since our first flight was cancelled on the way in and they did not even tell us, typical American Airlines, we showed up and they simply told us it was cxl, no apologies or anything, we were apparently bought on the next one, but when we showed up 4 hours later, DP and LO were but not me etc.... and on the way back they cxl our flight 10min before departure due to weather, we had to queue to have some kind of info....they finally put us on the next day flight at 6am, which meant going back to Manhattan, finding a hotel, clothes (since they did not want to give us our bags back).
Despite all of that, LO was fine, completely incredible.
In terms of breastfeeding, I can't beleive that the law is currently being changed to make it completely legal as you can apparently be prosecuted for indecency(probably prt of the reason the UK have one of the lowest rate in Europe). When we were in London, I surely did not care, even breastfeeding at the Wolseley, Selfridges, Underground etc.. I cary LO in a sling (for as long as I can) which means I breasfeed and walk at the same time with no one noticing, makes our life so much easier so far, not having to fly with a pushchair etc...I can't beleive we have bought a Bugaboo but it still has not been once outside, however very good as a bassinet but a bit expensive as one Breastfeeding with the sling has also given a few good moments, like going through costums and the officer insisting on seeing LO, he was so embarassed/surprised that he let us straight through (very rare in Bermuda).

Otherwise, I am also looking at changing career/job etc... would like to study nutrition but not sure how feasible it is long distance since there are no courses where we are at present. Has anyone done something similar?

cousin is 10 cms and there going to get her pushing ] at 9 (epidural in so 2 hrs for decent) soooooooo excited

prisci i did my masters with LSHTM as I had to work full time while studying. Was really good quality (but not cheap, luckily employers paid).

I start a techie course in September with the Open University whose courses online are also very very good quality, and a bit cheaper. Glad you enjoyed your travels, was wondering!

Turtle, et al - I had a doula and I would definitely have her again/recommend the experience.

I only decided on the day I went into labour that I wanted her at the birth (had hired her for after baby arrived). It was the best decision I made. DH was skeptical about having her at the birth, but now would be the first person to recommend a doula.

Although my actual labour/delivery was far from ideal and did not resemble what I wanted in the slightest, it was still a calm and controlled experience. I'm certain it was a thousand times better than it could have been b/c of her. In fact, given what happened (emergency c-section b/c of placental abruption) thank God we had her there. Never once did I worry about DH b/c I knew he would have someone to support him and tell him what was happening.

She was an amazing presence. Just having her there gave me the confidence to press for answers to my questions and to make sure I had as much control as possible. She was also a good buffer between the student midwife (fantastic) and the senior midwife (scary/hard ass) so I didn't have to stress about that situation.

OH, and don't get me started on how amazing she was once we got home! Cakes, freshly baked bread, every scrap of laundry was done. I loved every second she was here.

Long winded, but I really wanted to give you all an idea of how valuable a doula can be.

Oh, and to answer your question Turtle, she is also a hypnotherapist and trained in aromatherapy, too, so maybe think about the latter.

need to go back and read what i've missed but we are back from canada in one piece! lo is also super traveller, very adaptable to visiting demands, interrupted feeds and late nights. made me realize how resiliant they are and how thet can adapt to a new schedule. i also took pity on her and broke some of my rules - lots of dummy use, sleeping with me and fed more on demand (normally on schedule).

must be the cdn air but she slept like a dream there -- and still is now that we're back. although might be sheer exhaustion! was a busy and tiring trip but well worth it.

learned my lesson on the oubound trip re: dehydration. gave her 50ml water on arrival and drank a vat myself. milk seems to be ok.
had 4 month injections the day we got back and no troubles thankfully.

we're off to italy monday for our first family vacation which will be great. poor dh, he has been missing her during our trip and she has developed a lot in that time - more alert and lots of movement. she's even rolling over! next i know she'll be driving and sneaking out at night. :.)

We're having a quiet day on this thread.

Welcome back FNMM.

DS has been having some odd days. He's waking earlier, hungrier than usual, sucking his fists a lot and generally looking like he wants to tuck into a full English. He's only 16 weeks though so a bit too early to start weaning. I guess I'm thinking about it more because DD was 16 weeks when I weaned her but that was in the dark ages, before the 2002 guidelines. It's hard though, I really want to pop a bit of banana in front of him. He's 17lb and looks it (and feels it). He has now dropped off in his chair after uncharacteristic unconsolable screaming, conveniently 45 mins before bathtime. I've tried later bedtimes than 6 but he is just too sleepy. Hope it's not another early start tomorrow though.

Of course I mean MNFM, sorry. (Can I blame that mistake on your jetlag?)

welcome back mnfm (smiling at mama blaming your lag for her typo)

try extra milk mama? my baby thing at thte moment is that gg is still sleeping like a baby - i mean having a series of short naps in the day, never any longer ones like ds1 did as an older baby. hope he's not missing out growth wise doing it, i don't mind otherwise, at least he's predictable-ish

lawks i'm tired, too much excitement and head cold this week

i wish i had somewhere else to winge. I'm really not happy and i don't think i'm very sane. (yes, could be the no sleep. )

you ok turtle?

Oh dear Turtle - would it help to let it all out here?

I don't think its healthy to even contemplate how sane you are when you have children, let alone when one of them is very small like ours are. (I'm trying to forget the moment when I found the cheese grater in the fridge and the milk in the cupboard. It's pretty funny really but reduced me to tears at the time . Somehow don't think I'd get on very well if I went back to uni and tried to redo my maths degree ). My brain has disintegrated.

Merry - I hope the ceremony and celebrations were what you both wanted.

Right, off to enjoy Gardeners World and find out what I could be doing in the garden this weekend if only I had the time. Once over I'll be back to listen to you turtle if you need it.

I hate that I only ever complain on here. I have ductal thrush and it feels like glass breaking in my breasts every time he feeds. My dr says there's no such thing really, and carry on with canesten cream. My LO is stinky windy and gnawing his fists despite the nystatin drops. Advice from BFN is to do fluconazole tablets, dr wont write scrip and it's going to cost about £100 to treat now. My DH had him for the afternoon to give me a break since LO didn't sleep after jabs last night. DH took him to MIL's where he got a lecture about how shit I am as a mum, he didn't remember to let DS have a sleep and it took me 1.5 hours to settle him tonight. He also fed him the bottle I gave him (EBM) at3 instead of 5, he wouldn't take it (he got fed at 130 before DH left ffs) so it got ditched and LO was starving when I came home. I am so tired. So fed up. I know DH is trying to help, but it's just making it worse atm. There's more, but that's the main problems today.

Oh yes...and despite me sitting with tears running down my face,shushing and stroking DS to try and get distraught baby to calm for ages, DH came in and said..."I'm off dancing, see you at 11."