Dec 2007: Gummy grins give way to teething tyrants

[claraquitetirednow]

How about this?

good morning all
well, we were having some sleep issues again- millie wanted mummy to come and put her dummy back in for her when she tossed it out of her cot at night. So last night, i put the cot bumper down the side of her cot, then put her down after bath and boob without putting the dummy in. 10 mins of grumpiness later, silence. Same thing at 10pm, then fed, silence until 7am when i got her up. Hurrah! I have no expectation that this will continue, she will soon ahve something else to wake her up i am sure.

Fifi- millie has no interest in finger foods either- she just throws then on the floor after a brief suck at best. So i am sticking to purees for the mo which she loves and gobbles down without a whimper. So far she has had: cauliflower, carrot, green bean, sweet potato, courgette, potato, banana, nectarine, apple, pear, ground rice and porridge. I am going to introduce protein when i get a chance to prepare it! fish and chicken first i think

Fifi - if youi get an interview don't forget to big up the experience you have had by having had a baby recently on their - no better experience.

I know i had to fill in something about either personal or professional experience which could help my application, and i put about having my 2 ds's close together, plus everyone else's babies that i end up with

Fifi - good luck with the job, I can think of no-one better to do it than someone who has recently had a baby as you can still remember what is important to mums when they are on the ward (although no doubt you'll be torn in about thirty different directions!). For me just a bit of kindness went a long way, especially on the first night when I couldn't move due to c-section and the baby was crying.....

yes, fifi, your recent experience cannot be underestimated. I went to see a friend of my best mate in hospital yesterday with millie in tow to talk to her about breastfeeding. She had the baby on friday, but had not been shown how to BF by yesterday and had been given constantly conflicting advice- even ending up with a shouting match with one MW who wanted to give the baby formula.
For the first time last night, she got the baby to latch on for 10 mins (the baby was 5 weeks early). SHe hadn't realised that the baby was dropping off the breast after 2 minutes because she wasn't getting any milk! I told her she had to see the baby swallow to know she was getting something.

Just an example- but I remember how hellish it was and although you probably wouldn't be allowed to give official advice, i am sure that a few kind words and common sense would make a great deal of difference to some women's hospital experience. Good luck!

ooh good luck fifi - souns like a really interesing job and I absolutely agree that having had two babies means you have very valuable experience

wow suey, sounds like Millie has a very healthy diet - feel a bit of some the of the rubbish poor DS eats such as DD's discarded half-eaten sandwiches... 2nd baby syndrome once again i suppose

Lizzer - v. impressed with your DS/s eating as well - he obviously loves his food

OK now please tell me what you think of this: yesterday my DH was telling me about how cute my DD had been in the supermarket yesterday, choosing the fruit by herself blah blah. After a while I said, and where was Milo? In the buggy or the trolley? And he said - 'oh he was in the car' I looked appalled and he said (with a bit of a long-suffering withering look), he was fast asleep and I left the window open a bit - as if that makes it OK. He then confessed that he has done this several times (and we've only had the car for a fortnight so that's once every few days)!!!! I'm not being overprotective am I? You cannot leave a baby alone in a car for any period of time? Surely? He has promised never to do it again but I knwo he thought I was being ridiculous - just wanted to check with you that I'm not (before I really lay into him!!)

Thanks everyone

Skid - Completley agree with you..no way would i leave them in the car at all

OMG skid thats terrible in this heat a baby could overheat and die in 10mins - I would be very very with H !! Not to mention if he woke up crying/was sick/was snatched/car blew up - silly man !!

thanks fifi and macdoo - I told him it was against the law but I've no idea if it is or not. Makes me shiver thinking what could have happened, my little beautiful baby

Skid - yes I agree with Fifi and Macdoodle your DH is very wrong, I hope he promises never to do that again!

Fifi - yep DS did big poo this afternoon, 5 mins before I had to set off for my appointment with the podiatrist. Who incidentally can't find anything wrong with my foot. I'm getting more inserts for my shoe but am going to see my GP next week as I have back, hip, knee and wrist problems. Plus I'm having problems with bladder control . Have a bit of stress incontinence which gets worse when I exercise! Good luck with the interview, you'll be great!

Suey - were you able to help your friend?

Today ds hasn't had food, just boob! Wasn't a window of opportunity to give him his cereal this morning and didn't have time at lunch to prepare him anything (what I was eating was far from suitable - pizza and a chocolate sundae!)
Going to try him on a fruit puree later.
He is driving me mad atm, laying on his playmat, keeps rolling on to his tummy and then crying because his arm is tuck and doesn't stop until I turn him back over!!!

Skid - agree with you. Would NEVER leave DD2 in the car alone, not even for 5 mins. When I pick DD1 up from nursery even if it is a quick nip in and out I ALWAYS take DD2 with me, regardless or if she is awake or asleep.

BT - DD2 had a weekend of going 'off' her food and only having milk. Got her back onto purees today by giving her, her favourite - pureed carrots...

Hi to everyone, not been on for a while but DD2 improving at night, wakign up twice only for about 1/2 hr each time......

OMG Skid I would be fuming! DH once drove off, realised he had forgotten something so abandoned the car in the middle of the road around the corner and came back leaving dd in the car. It is a quiet cul-de-sac but still I went mad at him. Mind you this is the same man that offered to drop me in town for my opticians appointment and was planning on leaving ds asleep in his cot at home!

DS being bloody nightmare, screaming loads and didn't sleep at all last night just dozed fed cried all night. Today he woke up properly at 6, didn't nap until 12 and then only for 10 mins again for 15 mins at 1ish and for 10 mins again at 3, has just dozed off in my arms again and I don't dare move him! Is obviously overtired but I just can't get him to sleep.

Lizzer the Laithwaites is going down rather quickly! We got the summer showcase and summer reds in the last order, haven't had a bad one yet. We are also red drinkers normally but even the whites in the showcase have been good. Black stump is my current fave. Posada del Rey is a good everyday [hic] wine....TBH though my parents have been members for years and I haven't tried a single wine from them that I haven't liked!

Good luck with the job application Fifi!

at your DH clairy - am seeing a trend here - is it a 'man' thing?

Amani - good news that dd is improving, that's really good to hear.

Skid - am in shock! How far away from the shop was the car? In sight? Can you imagine if someone had seen the baby in the car on its own with no-one around, if I had seen that I probably would have called the police! The only time I ever leave either in the car is when I get petrol and only then if it is an emergency, I try and fill up when I have neither with me. Wow men really aren't as protective as we are, but I think that's nature for you! My legs go a little wobbly thinking about leaving the baby in a car on its own while I did the shopping!!!

BT - your LO sounds like mine, she is always getting into strange positions and initally is very pleased with herself - until she suddenly realises she can't go anywhere. We've been at the "very nearly crawling properly" stage for about 2 weeks now, v. frustrating. She's still good at pushing herself around on her tummy but can't quite co-ordinate the legs and arms together to actually crawl...

I meantime spend my time hyper-ventilating with stress over trying to move in less than 4 weeks time....We have still to let the house and now probably have to get rid of all the furniture, and sort everything out for the packers and about one million other things to do. So here I am wasting time while dd2 is asleep on Mumsnet!

Right off to pick up dd1. Now, shall I leave dd2 asleep in her bed while I go

Hi Claraq!

Hope the move goes well....

Actually my DH is VERY protective over both our daughters, which sometimes annoys me (i.e I think it's ok to leave DD2 on the bed - with lots of pillows around her while I quickly nip to the loo - where as he would make sure she is securely in her cot etc...)

hee hee clairey I thought you might have a similar story about your DH!! Just after the stories about him not changing your DD's nappy until there was poo running down her leg, leaving her alone in the bath etc - sounds just like my DH!

poor you bouncing - have you been religiously doing your pelvic floor exercises? Think it is very common and almost always rights itself as long as you keep doing your pelvic floors

DS also has days when he only wants milk - don't think there is any harm in it at all, especially if the alternative is pizza and ice-cream!

BTW DS can stand by himself for a few seconds - he thinks it's the most hilarious thing in the world - so wierd because he can't even roll over, nowhere near crawling but can stand up like a grown-up boy! Might be because I never get round to putting him on his tummy...[bad mother emotion]

clairey - your wine collection sounds luverly

hi clara - was going to ask you how many weeks it was until you go - must be very stressful. What have you told your DD1 about it? I am already worrying about how our move will affect my DD and we're only going to Oxford - hey there's an idea - maybe we could rent your house from you and then commute to Oxford!!

completely agree that my DH is an imbecile - don't know why I'm more worked up about it - probably because DS is fine and i believe Dh that he won;t do it again.

At least you have faith he won't do it again Skid, I never know what dh will do when I'm not looking and he just dismisses my worries as me being a "control freak".

DD took herself upstairs while ds was asleep on me-went to see what she was doing and she was fast asleep in bed! Bit worried as she is in knickers though....

skid - I don't even leave the girls in when I fill up with petrol (or I send dh with no children)

But I woiuod never leave a child in the car while i went to the supermarket.

Just feeding DS, he pulled off, grabbed my nipple, squeezed it then laughed as milk squirted everywhere! Cheeky boy. Hope he doesn't try that one in public!

Skid forgot to say well done to your ds on standing!

Hi Skid, thanks for asking. We talk about Pakistan all the time and so I think dd1 realises we are making a big move, even though she doesn't know what or where "Pakistan" is. But I think she realises she'll be leaving her childminder, friends etc. Dh has now made a trip there and brought back pics and little videos of the compound where we will be living, her nursery school etc (it all looks lovely btw, we will be well protected living behind a blast wall etc) and this has helped.In a way, preparing her for the move has been similar to preparing her for the new baby. We just talk about it a lot in a very positive manner and hope for the best! I think she'll love it though, there's a lovely playground and three swimming pools on the compound and I think she'll have a lot more freedom than she does here.

I would love to rent you our house but it's a little far for Oxford! It would probably take you about an hour to commute. My cousin lives in Witney, that's quite nice. Although I assume you would want to live in Oxford itself so you could cycle to work? Have you looked into house prices yet?

Claireybee - your ds sounds like a little imp! You're going to have fun with him

skid - omg! all been said, there was would major trouble in our house, bet your dh knows he's wrong now tho!prob feels awful, i think men just dont realise sometimes

major progress with quiting bf. started 4 days ago and for the first 3 he only had 2 feeds and today he's had none and he's drank loads of milk from a cup!yeah. still having feeds at night, but dont mind that and means im sorted for going back to work. boobs are fine too, expressing a little woo hoo

Skid, YANBU at all! I have left ds asleep in the car on my parent's drive with windows down and checking every 2 mins but never near a road or a public place. What if he had woken up scared?

Clairey-you sound like us on the wine front I have liked all our last order, except the posada actually-just a tad dry for me, but I'm branching out into white too so think we'll get one mixed and a red case too LOL at the milk squirting!

Claraq, we moved to Saudi when me and my bro were little-had a great time, and yes you're right the compounds provide more freedom in a way-plus free swimming every day, yipee! Making it seem like an adventure is a great way of looking at it

Fifi, I wouldn't be worried about finger foods yet, plenty time for it in the future...thanks for the coil advice I think its a perfect answer, a bit of me wants to take a chance but I know I shouldn't as we've got the wedding next year