May 2008 - we just couldn't wait!

[thefortbuilder]

for everyone who's popped already and congratulations to us all!

Would love to add to info on here, all very good from all especially for MM re DH. I agree with everything from asicsgirl.

I've hit the five week wall as my HV puts it, all getting a bit much, and burst into tears at baby clinic yesterday. She was very supportive, but it was the 1st time I'd been and I don't like to do my crying in public, in front of a load of strangers. Most of it was down to sleep deprivation. Very of all the ones with babies sleeping well at night. We were, but went backwards when he got his cold 1.5 wks ago. I think I feel worse than if he had been a bad night sleeper from the start IYSWIM.

Anway, didn't come on here to ramble about me. Anyone got any suncream advice. The 'rule' is no suncream til 6mnths, but my Mum had skin cancer so I'm not taking any risks. I find it really hard to keep him in the shade etc. when we're out. With DS1 he was old enough by the time the sun came out to have suncream. Has anyone tried any? Was wondering if boots sells a baby one.

wolverina I totally sympathise with the lack of bravissimo. I would love to go into the shop and get properly fitted but the closest one is Oxford and although only about an 1.5 hrs away couldn't be done with a 5WO, by me on my own anyway. Also feel I need to be fitted.

Must go and hang out some washing before the weather changes and DS2 wakes up for yet more milk....

niknak I didn't know there was a no suncream rule til 6 mths?? I put suncream, a special baby one, on DD2's legs yesterday as we went out walking and silly mummy forgot to pack long trousers for her, so in the sling her bare legs were hanging down. I figured that suncream was less harmful to her than the sun's rays. I ended up putting a zip up hoody on and zipping it up over the sling as it was so windy in the end. (She is 8 weeks old.)

Sympathise with all of you with DH problems. YCBS It must be hard for both your DH and DS to bond with each other as they don't see each other all week, but it will come. There have been good suggestions on here. How about some skin to skin contact cuddles in bed in the morning at the weekend? My DH had 'naked cuddles' with DD1 everyday when she was tiny. Unfortunately time doesn't really allow it now we have two of them.
BTW, YCBS, is it you who lives near Hemel??

Having a lovely relaxing time at SuperBro's. DD1 loving the beach and likes to go and see 'the big water' (the sea).DD2 seems to be settling a bit more easily, she is finding her thumb a lot more now. She slept 10pm til 7am the first day we were here !! But woke at 4am again last night, not that I'm comlaining at that, as I genuinely do know how very lucky I am that the most she wakes at night is once.

I just got a snotty email from an ebay buyer asking me 'can you leave me positive feedback please as I have done so for you'. It's only from last week, so I replied..
'Certainly. I have a newborn baby and a toddler at home so leaving positive feedback on ebay is not high on my list of priorities.' (That'll learn her!!!)
Funnily enough, the thing I sold her was a maternity support belt....hee hee, she'll soon know what it's like .

Right, better go and.......oh, I have nothing to do!! Oh please, can I just stay here forever and be looked after....

Not heard from Baiyu, do you think she has locked her DP in the bedroom again now he is back .

LM xxx

Niknak - Nivea do a baby suncream that's factor 50 +. I've been using it on DD as I figure a little is better than none.

Niknak - Nivea do a baby suncream that's factor 50 +. I've been using it on DD as I figure a little is better than none.

YCBS You are not a PFB.....I was exactly like that with DD1, and I am like it with DD2 aswell, if she didn't have suncream on I wouldn't take her out in the sun at all. I do my best to keep her out of the sun, just cos they are so little. Even last summer when DD1 was over a year old, I didn't like her being in the sun, even with cream on.
I was just thinking that one day we could meet up at St Albans?? Probably half way between us? I am planning to potty train DD1 in July and have been advised by friends not to plan any trips out initially, but when things get better (potty training wise), we could go to the big park by the fighting cocks pub (near the cathedral). I can't remember what it's called. Give me your email address if you are interested!!

Hi,

Yep, my 2 don't go near the sunshine til they are lathered up with cream and have hats on etc I would prefer them not to be in it obviously but DS loves the garden!

LM - hope you are still being spoilt rotten at super bro's - can I book up for a week there by the "big water"?

Have a good weekend all...

Twice my computer's crashed seconds before I pressed the "post message" button and I've had to start again. Hope it isn't going to be one of those days!

I paid my way through uni by working in a sun tanning shop & was a deep shade of brown/orange for 4 years . Last year I had a scare over one of my moles and whilst everything was fine the tests they did shocked me. Using a kind of UV light type thing (medicine/science isn't my strong point) they showed the patches of sun damage on my skin - some of it from decades ago when I had got sun burnt.

Since then I have become a tad obsessive about the sun. I bought a shade for dd's pram from Mothercare - a full blacked out sun shade which you can tie onto the pram & be sure every bit of them is covered up. It fits all prams and was about 15 quid I think. It also doubles up quite nicely as a black out curtain to keep her asleep. On that note - I do still want a parasol but there doesn't seem to be one for my pram. Anyone know a good parasol for the Quinny Speedi? (Any Speedi drivers have a coffee cup holder which fits the pram? I have bought 2 which don't let me close the pram....)

Mamas and Papas do a pod thing for babies in the sun. They are about £40 I think but dd loves hers and once you get the hang of folding it and poppign it out it is quite quick to put up in the park and has a mozzy net too which keeps all the insects out, plus a padded mattress. Will try and put link here

There was a question about baby cream a few days ago. I am an obsessive body-creamer and spent a lot of time looking for a good cream for dd. I tried two oils and a cream from Neals' Yard but the smell was quite strong and dd wasn't keen on any of them. Then we tried a lavender lotion from Green Baby but again, the smell was strong and she didn't seem to like it. She is now using Avent's Magic Cream and it works a treat. I had wanted to use only organic stuff but hey - if it works that's okay I figure.

On a more personal note, things with dp seem to be improving having got really bad on Thursday when he called at 6 to say he was going for a quick drink and proceeded to switch his phone off and rock up half cut and stinking of beer at 1130pm only to snore loudly all night. He came home with my favourite flowers last nigth which doesn't make things oksy but is a step in the right direction and shows he knows he needs to do something. We had a long talk last night and while one conversation won't change everything we took dd out for dinner afterwards and had a nice evening - and talked about non-baby & non-work stuff too.

Turned into a really long post but don't get much chance to post at the moment (having slept through twice last week dd is now waking up every 2 hours again) so got a week's worth in one post!

Happy weekend everyone
MM

MM at your DP turning his phone off!! Hope he gets his act together soon, although I'm sure the flowers were lovely, I'm sure you'd rather he was around to help you .

YCBS I'll be in touch. I reckon I could leave DD1 with DH one day while we are potty training and just come with DD2, much easier, and I'm sure I'll need a break from potty training!!! That way we can try and do it before school holidays as it will be very busy then.

Back from Superbro's . Had a lovely time, back for a week in August!!

Right, better go and do the washing!!

LM xxx

Evening all!

DP is home and we move back to Edinburgh in a week so things are definitely looking up!

Finn is still feeding every 2 hours including during the night, he's growing loads but me and my saggy empty boobs don't really enjoy it! Just managed to express for the first time this eve, only 2oz but I'll give it a go at the next feed and see what he thinks...

very jealous of you all back in your pre-preg clothes, I tried my old jeans on, just about got them on but i have discovered the true meaning of "muffin top", it was horrible! So much droopy belly covered in stretch marks and ever so bumpy. Not feeling too attractive! I did put on 3 and a half stone in pregnancy (about a third of my body weight!) so I've still got a lot to lose, need to start doing some exercise I guess but don't know when I'll find the time! Still, DP appears to still fancy me so I'm happy.... (speaking of which. has anyone else found sex a bit sore? It's getting less so but wasn't expecting it to hurt at all)

monkeysmama sorry you're feeling a bit lonely. I'm going to try and be brave back in Edinburgh and go and meet mums as i don't know a single person with children. Speaking of which gingerwench and walkingwomb, fancy a meet-up in Edinburgh week after next?

pina glad you like the photos, I'll tell DP to add you so you can have a good browse when you're bored.

LM74 Really glad you have such good sleepers, any tips?

So sorry to have left it so long, I have been online but when I know I only have 5 minutes I feel a bit overwhelmed with reading and replying to posts, bit pathetic, will try to keep up!

I've also become a bit obsessed with bidding for and buying reusable nappies on mumsnet and ebay, I think it's a lost cause...

Big hugs to you all xxxx

PS I've been using a 'simple' suncream on DS, it's for sensitive skin and he there haven't been any bad reactions. I'm really pale skinned so have to be really careful so am doing the same with him.

I used Simple suncream for dd and intend to for Ds...when we actually get some sun!!

Our seaside is a stones throw away

LM glad you enjoyed your stay at superbro's and the seaside!!

Well...i'm in a quandry(sp) ds is still feeding every 3 hours (he's 5wks old) and to be able to get 4 hourly like dd was from birth, would be fantastic.Its nothing to do with the nights...its in the day...by time i've fed and got his stubborn wind up...its time for the next feed nearly LOL im not getting time to take dd out.

I was thinking along the lines of hungry baby? he drinks between 4-6oz every 3hours but doesnt handle volume very well....so what do you think? worth a shot?
*answers on a postcard please

he put on 1oz two weeks ago...soon made up for it by putting on 14oz in a week so he's now 5weeks old and 12lb 12oz!!!!! my chunk!

Cant believe my baby girl will be 3 in 2weeks

Did a bit of retail therapy yesterday with my mum....absolutely HATE shopping for outfits when you've not long had a baby!! got my nephews christening in 2weeks....found a lovely Rocha John Rocha top...just not in the size I would have loved it to be
....and I bought little man a Jasper Conran outfit...omg its gorgeous!!!!

hope all mums and babies are well xx

Hi Baiyu yes I'd be up for a meet week after next. How about we aim for a late morning or mid-afternoon coffee somewhere central? I only suggest those times because DS is typically asleep and quiet then!

morning all!

ds2 and ds1 asleep at once so i have a few mins.

jently glad the colief is bringing results

mumofkandj sorry to hear about dh, tho' it is good that he has acknowledged the problem. good luck with that. is he going to see the gp?

ycbs hope your weekend is going ok

niknak so sorry about the sleep deprivation and 5 week wall. we all know it so well! the great saying on MN is 'this too will pass' - everything changes. i always find i'm better with some company, even if i don't feel like facing people, and try to force myself to get out and see someone, have a friend round, or even just walk round town - i'm lucky where i live as i can guarantee i'll meet someone i know when i walk round the shops! hope you feel better soon, i'm sure things will improve x

lm74 at your ebayer! as you say, she will soon get with the programme glad you had a good time being looked after at the seaside.

mm glad things are improving with dp. hope dd's sleep improves again soon too.

baiyu yay for dp being home and moving house!

well i've had a busy week... as you know ds2 had his tongue tie snipped on tue and so far (touch wood) has been feeding and sleeping LOADS better - slept 7 hours at a stretch the other night! !! last night he threw up his entire feed at 9:45pm (when we had just put him down for the night) so it was 12:45 before i got him settled again... yawn... but on the whole he's been doing so brilliantly i am amazed.

my mum has just gone home after skivvying for us all week, what a star. she came with me to hospital on thurs to let surgeon have a look at abscess - he says there is no need to operate, tho' it may come back... i am kind of relieved, but also feel i wasn't really listened to - the gp said to me to stress how often it has come up and needed attention, and doesn't seem to go away completely, but he wasn't really having any of it... ho hum.

dp has been a bit of a pain with my mum tho she is so good at fitting into what we do and tries very hard to do things as we want them - but of course she inevitably sometimes does something differently or 'wrong' and dp is so critical of her. lawd knows his mum is about as much use as a chocolate teapot and he knows how much i value my mum's support when i don't see her that often - she literally dropped everything to come up last week when i phoned her in floods, and he was very positive about the idea of her coming up. you'd think he could find it in himself to be civil to her

anyhoo. the boys and i have been passing conjunctivitis round this week - i went into the gp's again on weds and said 'i've just come to get my loyalty card stamped'...

i'm jealous of the little meet-up in st albans (not far from where my mum lives in Barnet!) - anyone up for a yorkshire version? mumofkandj?

enjoy the rest of the weekend everyone... x

This has been the 1st time I've had chance to check for suncream advice, due to computer not wanting to connect to the internet and having to wait for DH to sort it. I seemed to have opened a can of worms re advice and do agree staying out of sun is best measure. The 'rule' about only after 6mnths I think is only from me reading the bottles. Bit too cautious about allergies, even though DS1 has had no problems so hopefully DS2 will be the same.

Since I'm v new to MN what's a PFB?? perfect something I'm guessing...

Will try simple, thanks whoever advised that.

asicsgirl I do get out a lot, sometimes too much and wear myself out. Need to assess my time management, but always been crap at that.

KangaAndRoo You just have a big boy, DS2 is now over 14lbs, feeds loads like his brother did. You get fed up of the reaction when people keep asking you how old he is and all you get is, isn't he a big boy!! And competition between mothers, it's the main reason I stopped getting DS1 weighed so I could say to NCT people who kept asking a weekly meet ups that I didn't know...And DS1 was smaller than DS2.

Nuff rambling must go and eat. DS2 asleep, DH and DS1 gone to B&Q.

gingerwench that sounds great. Somewhere central suits me, we'll be living in Tollcross for the summer.

kangandroo glad you found something lovely in the shops, that's my challenge when I'm back in the city, none of my old clothes fit at all! big posh party in september, aiming to look more normal by then and treat myself to a frock...

asicsgirl grr at lack of mum appreciation. My mum has been amazing these past few months, can't wait to get into our new house but I will miss her, never thought I'd say that!

big hugs to all xxx

Just a quickie as i have been lurking and there is too much going on for me to write a proper message.

gingerwench and baiyu i would love to meet up. Central suits me. Will have a think about where, unless you want to suggest somewhere

Hi all,never did get back to my post when I got interrupted,oh about 4 days ago!
For DH to admit he's depressed is a HUGE step for him, and it'll be a while before he agrees to do anything about it-I'm just so glad he's realised there is something going on. He's much improved with some sleep, no alcohol, multivitamins and being sent for a walk every day I remember!(even taking multivitamins is a big issue for him, lOL). I've been taking the girls to my parents so he can sleep in peace- I would send DD1 on her own but my parents have such a hectic social life they're out for part of every evening!
Asics, well done on surviving an eventful week! Your mum sounds priceless (in the fabulous way!!), your DP less so. How wonderful your mum will try to do things your way-mine'll do things her way or not at all, so we are suitably grateful and just wash up again after she's left (lives nearby so doesn't stay over!).
I (gulp, big step for me here) feel ready for a meet up if you're up to it? I'll look in the archive of whiterosebabywearers for your email addy- if I'm right your email addy involves your name on here? Otherwise someone else will get a random email from me!!
I've forgotten her name, but the lady who'd baby has had heart surgery for aortic stenosis (or something that sounded like it) is in Bradford, but might still be busy with hospitals. My pal's baby had that and had some complications, so didn't get out until he was 7 weeks old (but he wasn't diagnosed at birth, he got ill at a week old).Hmm, going to look to see if I've missed an update and find out her name again!!
Hugs all, they might be getting bigger but not neccesarily easier ( oooh, my good news, J went 6 hours between feeds, and spent the 2 hours before bedtime puking so I expected a really horrible night!)

Otter1980 and Hazel! Last I can see if H had put on weight they were heading home from local hospital.And it was pulmonary atresia and VSD, not what I said, sorry getting muddled.
Fingers crossed Otter's just busy at home, anyway.

Asics I've emailed someone on WRBW, so I hope its you!

hallo mumofkandj, yes it is me! have emailed you back x

Hi all,

Well, had a bit of a stressy weekend. We ended up in A & E with L yesterday morning. We gave up with the Colief on Weds as she was bringing it all straight back up. She was ok ish until Sat morning when I picked her up from her crib (she has been lying there happily while I dressed) and she started screaming - and I mean the most heart rending high pitched painful cry I have ever heard. She didn't even register that she had been picked up and could not be settled at all. She also wouldn't let us near his tummy. We rang the out of hours Dr and they said to take her straight to A & E. Turns out the poor wee thing is severely constipated. We have been given glcyerine (sp) chips to "insert" every morning (that one isn't in the parenting manual!) and a small dose of Lactulose every day. Thankfully she has now had a clearout

Apparently it is really unusual for fully breast fed babies to get this bad and I have to give her boiled water a few times a day now too. I am also having to watch what I eat - not too many bananas etc but she is much happier already. Scary though

Hope everyone has had a better weekend!