casserole how scary, so glad your mum was there. i admire your restraint stopping at the one glass of vino! thinking of you and leo tomorrow x
ycbs also sorry to hear weekend stressful. dp and i saw each other only at weekends for a while (pre kids) and he also worked abroad for two stints so we saw each other even less frequently. i really recognise the 'mismatch' feeling, and i always found it really hard to adjust to being with him again, however much i missed him in between times - i almost resented him for messing up my routine . it must be so much harder with kids involved too so i feel for you (((hugs))) i'm sure harry will come round! kids can bond with people they see much less often, e.g. ds1 adores my parents and he only sees them about 4x a year. confidence is so key in getting babies to like you i think - ds1 wasn't very happy being 'passed around' but one of my colleagues grabbed him saying 'oh, babies love me', and sure enough he snuggled into her! so as your dh gets more confident - or learns to project confidence - i think it will get easier.
lm74 it's good to hear that things are generally good for you but i also think you do very well at keeping everything in perspective and 'counting your blessings' (i sound like my granny now)
mitchell81 fingers crossed for you re pg. how is the house sale going? and can't remember if you said you had found somewhere yet? also tongue tie is this - where the baby can't extend its tongue beyond the bottom lip - interferes with bf and can lead to problems with weaning and speech development.
gingerwench i found olive oil worked well for ds2 who came out with v dry skin, but you need to persist as it doesn't work immediately. and don't bath them too often i guess you could try bepanthen nappy cream, i think it is milder than sudocrem. you can use it as a preventative each nappy change.
wolverina hope you get dp back under control soon! i agree the snoring is a turn off esp when you are awake feeding the lo no doubt hormones and lack of sleep don't help the libido either... did you read this news story? maybe if you csn persuade him to do more around the house you'll fancy him more...
magicfairy so glad the feeding going better, and the saline's helping with the cold. rah for sleeping in basket too!
monkeysmama poor you. hope you feel better soon. good luck with getting to know some new people. i guess dps have problems adjusting to parenthood too... you say on your profile you are/were a 'career woman' so it's a big culture shock being away from work and everything that means, however much you love being a mum. i was completely unprepared for this with ds1 and felt isolated and rudderless. i envied dp going off to work and keeping up his 'old' life. i had few friends too and relied on him hugely for emotional and practical support. is this similar to your situation? dp felt very torn between work commitments and wanting to support me. we were very bad at asking for help then and we are trying to do better this time, taking up offers of help and shamelessly asking for it too! if your friends all use you as a counsellor, maybe you could try getting them to counsel you for a change? do hope things improve (((hugs)))
indigo well done for surviving the week!! ime there is nothing that will keep a baby awake if s/he really wants to sleep... pita but there you go. i have resorted to putting ds2 in his carrycot as that is the one thing that's guaranteed to wake him up!
right sorry for long post, and sorry for people i've forgotten. my mum up tomorrow [phew emoticon] have a good week everyone x x