The one where the May 07 babies start turning ONE!!!

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Hi Ladies, it said we needed a new thread

LLTL - I think you need to be honest with her and ask her to be honest with you. She needs to know how upset you are. Both your 21st and Lottie's first birthday are major events and she needs to get her priorities sorted out! Why not invite her for a weekend sometime in June and ask her to really try and come for the day for Lottie's birthday. Not to excuse your friend, but when I was 21 I had no conception of what it was like to be a parent (you are very unusual!) and your friend probably doesn't have much idea either.

I had similar LW, a very old friend who i had asked to be God mother to the twins. She phoned me the day before the christening and said she would not be coming I was annoyed and disappointed but just got over it. She really (as Benson has said) had no idea what it meant to me and not a clue how your life priorities change when you have children.

I have a few friends who i see occasionaly since having the children that i went to school with. I just had to learn to accept they didnt understand and wouldnt until they had a family of their own. I use them for great nights out and a crash pad so i can have a lie in It has been VERY long time since i have seen them though.

Yeah, I understand we both lead very different lives now. She can't understand what being a parent is about and what these things mean I suppose, as she has no experience or concept of them. I just thought that she might understand how important it was to me for her to be there, especially as she accepted the role of being Charlottes 'God Mother' when I asked her.

I supopse I'm just very deflated that she can't for once put something else first over a boyfriend.

C's down for a nap, ooooo eck I'm tired today. On a plus note, we've booked to go to Spain at the end of June and I'm pretty sorted for both mine and dd's Birthday

I should look at the positives and not the petty negatives huh!

When is TYG getting back, and does anyone know how Jam's move is going t'country?

oh, and thank you both for the replies

I think that you definately have to confront your friend and ask her what is going on. These are important milestones for both you and Lottie and as her 'godmother'she should really have made the effort. We all went to LG&T's house and for some of us it took over an hour to get there but because we wanted to go we did the journey. Its not like she lives 3-4 hours away and she doesnt have to worry about feed/nap/bum changes. I would be cross as well as deflated. Definately speak to her, if nothing else you will be able to see where you both fit iykwim.

LG&T, you poor thing, infection and slipped disk, is there anything i can do? Wow that is a big decision to put babies on hold for a while, but i think it is the right one given the stress you are under at the moment and also with N going away you dont want to be pg and him not be there for you. You are still a spring chicken so you still have time to pop another 6 out

Creena, thats great news about the bubba. Will drop you an email shortly.

Welcome Soremummy! Wow that must have been a suprise

Actually....... dh and i were talking about adding to the Meadow clan and have decided to wait until these two are a little older (3/4yrs) and then look at things and decide if we want to go through it all again. I totally blame you ladies who are pg currently! He told me i was getting broody and then he made the suggestion... was as he was the one that said no more!

LG&T - I think bubba has had an overnight growth spurt because my EDD has been brought forward today to 3rd November! [bamboozled] Sorry to hear about the slipped disc and infection. You've really been having a rough time of it lately. I wish I lived a bit nearer so I could lend a hand and help you out.

LATL - sorry to hear that you've been upset by your friend. I can totally understand why - you have huge, important milestones coming up and you wanted her to be involved because your friendship is that important. I agree with what's been said already. She probably doesn't realise how this has affected you and is probably used to just having to think about herself first and foremost (one of the first things that change when you have a baby!). I also reckon that having an open and honest chat with her would help; don't be defensive or upset, just tell her that you really wanted her to be there and because you're so busy throughout May already, you're upset that it looks as though she's going to miss both occasions. After all you only turn 1 and 21 once! I really hope that you get it sorted out and that she's able to reorganise her plans.

AM!!! That's great news! It would be lovely to see another little meadow about in a couple of years time.....

Just had text from JIMW andshe says that they havent moved yet as there was a problem with exchange, but that they are moving on Tuesday. Says a BIG hello to all

Great news on the scan Creena..... woo hoo

LW... I don't have too much to add acccept to agree on what others have said, I too would be upset and dissapointed. I like to believe that when people say they will do things then it happens, unfortunately not everyones view is the same and things do not always happen.

Lg&t, you poor thing, I really hope you start to feel better soon. lots of love to you and yeah we you are still a young-un. There's time if you change your minds. Oh and NO jabs needed to come see me you know.

another? C? I am in shock! tehe we could be doing it together again then!!

Lupins hope you've got some rest today.

Yay, straightners home tonight. Mum has had to go as Alix has a throat infection, antibiotics and laid up in bed....... ahhhhhh

Thanks everybody!

LG&T so sorry to hear about the slipped disc and infection, poor thing. Eat lots of your cake, I've heard it has healing powers!

Creena so happy to hear everyhting is ok with bubba

AM Noooooooooo! You cannot join in with all the baby adding! Don't go over to their side lol!

Hey to Benson!

Dd just woken, must go and feed the beast! I swear she eats more than me.......

Creena glad the scan went well

LGT maybe you just need some rest, altho you really do have your hands full giving yourself a year off might give you time to recharge your batteries, you er amaing to cope as well as you do, sorry to here your not feeling so good have you got anyone around to help?

LW sorry about your friend, no real advice but hope it gets worked ou

I managed to get some sleep before the post man knocked on the door, i knew that would happen, neighbor ran me into tavistock at 1pm and i got a taxi back, was nice to pop out, got dd a knitting kit and ds some baby banz and a funky hat and a few other bits from kiddies kitchen

I have put A down for a sleep for a bit as he was still knackered, think I may have to try and get him to sleep in his cot a bit more during the day - in a very casual way, i'm not toooo into controlled crying and i do like sleeping with him but i think he would benefit from a better sleep routine and i definatly would altho thats secondary

Runs in couging and spluttering APRIL what on earth are you doing? Have you and MrsJB been smoking a spliff together or something? You two promised me no more babies and now here you are changing your minds. I can't change my mind now, its too late. Actually I am feeling quite old and tired at the thought of toddlerdom for 2 years. My time is up.

Oooo how was the birthday?

LW, tis always awkward the friend thing, but it may just be a big old misunderstanding and I would definitely go for a friendly and non agressive chat explaining that you are so disappointed at her not being able to make your two most important milestones. Stress how much you will miss her and her company/support/help lay it on thick and her guilt should do the rest Btw its really a lovely picture of L, so cute.

LG&T, , I think you need to rest up a bit my lovely and get some help in for a bit in the form of your lovely mum or MIL. You have taken a bit of a toll recently and its bound to affect your body, so you must try to take it easy. Dirty doctors, giving you an infection like that. Fwiw I think it is a wise wise and very mature, move to postpone your baby girl making plans til next year. Sometimes you need to think about yourself.

Benson its good to see you

Soremummy, I love a good old dramtic birth story, you will fit in well here!

MrsJB - your poor old mum to have to go all the way up there! Pah, men, they just can't hack it can they?

I did say it wouldnt be for another 3/4 years if at all..... dont panic not crossing to the otherside just yet

Introducing strict mummy! Bedtime routine in place and all ready to reclaim my bed , A just had a nice warm bath and a bottle and has been tucked up i his own bed, dp going to sleep in spare bed so I can deal with crying without waking anyone out up, I have decided that if he cries I will sit him up and stroke him or lay him down depending - I'm afraid I cant go as far as leaving him to cry and we will see how it goes this weekend

Other news is dp has asked me to marry him (again) but I have said yes this time provided he can keep his job and buys me a big rock, that maybe a bit mercinary however If he wants me that bad then he will do as I say lol! I have also said wont do it till next august and in quite hippy/ casual style, maybe bearfoot on a beach, or if a church wedding then am not going overboard with the £20,000 wedding, firstly we dont have it and we dont need it for one day and a piece of paper, have told dd and my mum, been looking on ebay at flower girl dresses and she chose a rainbow one - oh how cool she is lol, and I am definatly past the merangue style dress lol, would have to go for something pretty simple, so I have a year to get into shape best i go and get a Wii fit tomorrow and do some hula hooping lol

Phew! Time to work on you then.

MrsJB, my facebook went into meltdown Will download MSN tomorrow as my speed is rubbish tonight. Hope Dh is a bit better in the morning and that mum makes it home ok.

Lups good on you making dp work for it, so he should! Oh and the baby getting in to your bed too

Cam i have had it with baby puking and poo nappies. I have never felt like this before. I am now terrified that that the little bonk we managed last week may turn in to a something... fook.

My back is killing me, i cant even put my shoes on and getting out of bed is a joke in the morning.

MrSjb is A feeling better? Poor mil having to car fetch, i would have volunteered and left her at home with the kids!

April at the baby news, had dh had a drink or was the house cleaned to new standards How could oyu not add to the lovely twosome that is Jackanory and Ella?

He is still rough, poor man, he is not the whiney type though, thank god, just packs himself off to bed quietly. I did say I'd go and leave Mum with the kids. She decided a 4hr train journey, 2hr wait and a 6.5 hour drive on her own was an easier opton. Jee they are not that bad surely?

Lg&t if last weeks nooky does turn into something then it was meant to be. Don't panic yet just wait and see. Try to get some rest. Worried about you

Lups... CONGRATULATIONS!! another wedding!! wooo hooo lol at the rock and absolutely he should do as he's told, Alix has a red mark on his forehead from my thumb you know.
Good Luck on the sleep training.........rather you than me, sorry!!

Lupins if your stuck for a dress give me a shout I have made 2 first communion dresses and a christening gown so im sure if you find something you like i could do it for you dd at cost obviously don't want paying for it.

I will at some stage be on here when your all posting!

Im off for my pizza and a glass or 2 of wine don't tell anyone im still b/f but its friday and i dont care

Word of advise all you who have 3 already DONT wait till your 40 to get pregnant again its HARD work!!! ATM I have ds going to a party sleeping out for the night im a bit dubious but what can you do he is 17.5 yrs! DD at a sleep over 15th birthday party thats ok i can cope its all girls and I know the mum.. DD2 is here holding babs while I type and Dad gets pizza / drops son off so I feel ok with that I have had it with teenagers this lo might be high maintenance but its easier than teenagers!!!

Lupins, Congratulations my dear! I love a good wedding, just holler if you need a hand

MrsJB sorry to hear that A is dealing with man flu. Gald to hear that your hair straighteners are on their way home- what a relief!

I'm not getting over excited at the thought of another baby and its not someting i am going to be planning but it is just nice to know that number 3 isnt completely ruled out. No dh hadnt been drinking and nor was the house particularly clean - i think he was the broody one

Dh is watching 'I am Legend' but its too jumpy for me so i am on here I am just a great big woos

Im sure I couldnt cope with 3 even if I did want anymore, I had slight broody moment the other day promptly followed by dd having a strop and ds staying awake at night - no sir e bob the quicker they can whip it all out the better

So far so good on the sleep he has woken up and is grumbling and moaning I have left him to it for a few minutes each time, not even like it proper crying, have been stroking his head so hopefully he will just fall into exhaustion and sleep - his eyes are shut for gods sake - now just go to sleep child!

JL have you tried anything your sleep guru suggested - am awaiting news

LOTL- I'm sorry about your friend, but these things are the natural cycle of friendships. I noticed when I got married I lost about half of my friends, and when I had kids I lost the other half. The good thing is that we reconnected when we were all at the same stage. It's hard, but don't worry it will get better.

LG&T--just rest. when dh slipped a disk 3 years ago he stayed in bed for about a month, because it really all you can do.

As far as adding one more I'm ready. It's really all I think about (it may not be good for me to work in a store where half the customers are pregnant and the other half have babies). It's just a decision of whether to do it now, or this time next year.

SUCCESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Apart from the little hiccup about 11.30 last night he slept in his own bed all through the night, didnt wake up and woke later than normal, didnt wake till 7am............ my bed aprt from snoring, stinking of beer man was mine all mine grin], probably a fluke but am quite pleased and it was without me feeling guilty because he only moaned a bit no real tears, yippeeeeee

LGT hope the back is a bit better today

Am off to plymouth today with mum, supposed to be a nice warm day, have ironed dd some crops and a tshirt - will probably freeze lol as it always seems windier there

Congrats on the nigths sleep Lups. We haven't started working on the "going to bed awake" lark yet - was knackered last night trying to rock him to sleep at 9.30 with a 25 week bump is no fun! Will try and pluck up courage to start soon.

Soremummy - where were you with your advice when I got pregnant with no. 4 just before I turned 40! They all have such different needs!! DD1 away this weekend on PGL, DD2 (all being well when she gets up) is out for the day at a friends party so we will only have DS for most of the day.

Hopefully going to get him some shoes as everyone keeps asking where his shoes are!

YAY well done A on sleeping through - now you know you can do it make sure you do it again tonight

We have had 2 nights of J sleeping through which has been good for dh!

Of to get ready for 25 kids at an indoor soft play for J's party. See you all later xx