April 2007 - round pizzas and egg shaped bumps

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(no idea what it refers to by the way, I have been very bad at keeping up with chat )

Dippy, sorry to hear you're not sleeping well and re DH. But I'd love to see a pic of the birthday cake. Well, I would have loved to see the cake but I hope it's really enjoyed by K and anyone else who gets to share it.

oh no IDOC - there's something virtual going round!
Let's hope March is the month where everyone is well (babies and mums)
elkie, can I ask who she is?? Or would you rather not say? What time is listen again on?
T asleep early too today - the psychic connection thing is well and truly working, and I think T is the hub

Do you think Dippy's building up the suspense?

Quick post - Eddas - when you're car was written off how long did you get to keep the courtesy car? I thought I remembered that you didnt have to give it back straight away? Is that right? DP's mum sadi we would but surely we dhould get to keep it till they pay out?

Have to take dp drs now, back later.

Hello to Ellie's sofa-man!

Pants to all with poorly babies - it really does seem to be the time for it doesn't it.

Great to see you IDOC - hope you had a good night out with DH at the weekend?

SPB - please don't take this the wrong way, but I am worried about you. T's sleeping or lack of it is clearly getting to you - I felt for you when you posted last night that he was awake just after going down, and that that made you dread the night ahead. I know it's difficult when he's poorly / teething and everything goes out of the window, but maybe when he's better, can you make a plan to try to improve his sleep? I think that once you have a plan for what you're doing (whether that's pick up - put down, or shushing & patting etc - I know that CC is not your thing) then it becomes a phase that you are getting through and trying to improve, rather than just your 'lot' if you see what I mean? Do ignore me if you are happy to carry on as you are - I certainly am not the one to tell people that they shouldn't be up in the night with their babies if they're happy with that, but it seems to me that you're NOT happy, and that it's getting worse. On the other hand, possibly (and most likely) I am a patronising cow who doesn't know what she's talking about and who has a baby that sleeps (most of the time).

Ooogs - is there no way you can talk about this with your brother? Explain that you didn't have a "no children policy" at yours, you just didn't have people that wanted to bring theirs, if they had any......

NL if having your first at 21 makes you age more quickly, then what hope have I got?

Pesha - the lemon hooch bday present goes some way to explaining why he is your X p ! lol

Runny - glad that the potty training is going well!

Sol - thanks for worrying about me - sorry to hear K is feeling so poorly x You got any baby pasta??

Dippy sorry to hear about you and dh not getting on so well and belated wishes to DD1 x

Hi to Ellie, Ange, SPB, Bramshott,Maveta and anyone else I have forgotten.... (sorry)

Big news here dh has turned down the job! Came as a bit of a shock......we only went to look at another house yesterday, but when he came home last night, he told me that he had already rung and turned it down. He said he felt like he wasn't putting us first (at last ) and was truly sorry for the way he has behaved............

so things a lot better here!

oh and tesco did deliver, and will refund my delivery charge!

Bramshott, lol - I appreciate the advice and that you're worried about me. I think the problem is that I have this idea in my head that if everything else is OK he's not that bad a sleeper. I can cope with getting up once or twice for a quick feed and then go straight back to sleep. I'd rather do that than not feed him and try to get him back to sleep on his own iyswim. But I'm now in the position where I can't do anything about bad sleeping because I'm paranoid he's actually unwell (last time I left him to cry, DH and I got sore throats in the next few days and he seemed happier, so we assumed he must have had that ). He never seems unwell, or bothered by teeth, during the day, only at night.
I suppose I need a way of deciding he's not (that) ill and then do something like shush pat if he won't settle after a feed (or wakes up 5 minutes after bed time). Last night he was so tired that when he woke up he didn't stand up, so I did shush and pat him, and that seemed to work, usually he'd just stand straight up - do I just keep putting him down until he gives up in that case?
It's my 3rd wedding anniversary today, DH remembered before I did

That's really good caz, glad your DH has decided that

Caz, I'm happy for you that your dh has had a think about things, and also on the Tesco delivery.

SPB, Listen Again is available from the BBC website for 7 days, I don't know when they put up the new programme, as at the moment you can still listen to last Tuesday's Woman's Hour.

Rachel Cusk is a literary novelist - I read her first 2 or 3 books but haven't kept up with the others although I own several of them. She wrote a non-fiction book on how difficult she found motherhood and the effect on her sense of self etc, which I've read bits of and found it, perhaps not my experience but it's interesting. But I've seen threads slagging her off for that book and her more recent novels, which I can't comment on as I've not read them.

Although I've only recently started listening to WH again and doubt I'll manage to keep up even with Listen Again once I'm back at work, I love the programme and the Jenni Murray, the main presenter who now does 3 days a week Tue/Wed/Thur. Radio 4 is the background noise of choice at my mum's house and at her sisters' homes, and dp now seems to turn it on in preference to the television.

Congrats on the anniversary SPB. I've found it easy to forget the date sometimes recently, only aware of it this week because going back to work looms so close.

hi everyone won't be around long today as am in a seriously bad mood no particular reason, althoughdd waking up early and then waking me, dh and ds may have something to do with it

Pesha, I could keep the hire car for 5 days after I received the cheque. Check with the insurance company though as it does vary. Also I was told if I decline the first offer i'd have to give it back that day I have now amended my ins policy to include hire car as it was such a PITA.

CD, are you still coming on friday? Ellie has given you my number so just let me know. Be nice to see you. If you've changed your mind or anything don't worry I won'tbe offended Well not much anyway

work looming

My house smells of sick. Nice. When will ds stop being sick am waiting til that day before I get a new front room carpet. Maybe when he's walking Tis gross!

So much for not doing a big post

Good news about the job Caz - fingers crossed that something else comes up before too long that suits all of you.

Glad to hear that you are positive SPB. I think I would, as you say, just keep laying him back down if he is standing up. With O, when she wakes at night / in the evening, I reposition her on her back if she's standing, give her her manky white teddy (which is her comforter thing) and put her "sleepy music" on. If he is awake 5 mins after putting him down, that's probably just an indication that he wasn't properly asleep before. Is he always asleep before you put him in his cot?

Zoooooming passed again - sorry to keep you all in suspense about the cake, but I have been sat here for the best of an hour trying to get pics on my profile and it keeps going all wonky Grrrr! Anyway, I have to buzz now to feed P and get her to nurseyr, but I'll be back later and I'll try and upload them then.

Hope you are not all too disappointed!!

Yes, POTC, DD2's Cow Cake was pretty spectacular, if I don't say so myself!!

Eddas - SORRY I've not been in touch I am soooo crap atm - I can't do this Friday because DD1's got a hospital appt (grrrr) but definitely up for next Friday though!!!!!!? I'd have to get there v.early though - do you think that would be ok!!!!?

really can't be bothered today

Caz, I am so glad your dh finally thought about everyone else too!! Really hope something more suitable comes up really soon

SPB, whats up?

Hugs SPB if that's allowed. MN, motherhood or life?

Off to Baby and Me now, hope everyone has an ok afternoon.

I'm backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

TOP TIP Get every single quilt, pillow, cushion, cot mattress and gym ball that you own and create a "soft play" in your living room..... we have just had a rioous hour, and even better C is now fast asleep on my knee.

Havent even tried to catch up as I havent had pc since Thursday

Hi folks.

Oh SPB, don't give up. I know how incredibly hard it all is, esp being a first time mum, and I don't mean that in a patronising way. Not sure if you do hugs, but please have one.

IDOC, poor S and poor you. Hope she is better soon. Gastroenteritis is going round nursery here, as when I phoned to say K wouldn't be in (because of that) they said the baby room had been hit badly. I have to say I am getting fed up to the back teeth of it - esp the leaky nappies. Have taken to putting K on a carrier bag in her car seat and pushchair!!

Caz, you sound much happier. Hope things all turn out well for you. I do have some baby pasta. Sorry to sound dim, but can I give her that with sauce or just plain?

MJ, hope F is ok. I am older than you!

Completely forgotten everything else

Hope everyone is ok.

Went to the docs and been prescribed the progesterone only pill. Doc was quite keen on me going for the coil. Who has one of those here? Feedback? Didn't talk about feeling down. Really don't think things are that bad - just went through a bleak patch last week.

Back later. xx

SOL - I have the copper coil, have to say its great, no probs at all - period usually 4-5 days, every third a bit heavier than normal, best thing I have ever had.

Oh dear, I think we're all in dire need of that commune in the sun again. So sorry so many of us are feeling crap.

SOL I've just stopped the progesterone only pill, I'm really at a loss what to do. Don't want to be popping hormone pills on the off chance DH might occasionally want a bit of action , don't fancy going through coil fitting.......I'm seriously wondering about a diaphragm!!

Caz, good to see you being the voice of reason on the pus-in-milk thread. Honestly I despair of what people can be scare-mongered into believing!

Pus in milk? Blergh!

Thanks everyone, sorry that wasn't meant to be a self pitying can't be bothered, meant it literally - I have stuff to do and can't get up the energy! House is a mess but would only take 20 mins or so to tidy if I could be bothered! Might stick him in front of TV later and try it. Off out in a sec anyway as soon as I can get myself prepared - mothers day this weekend, need to buy cards!
SOL, I haven't had either, sorry but glad things seem a bit brighter this week.

Oh yes, Mothers Day, that's what I should be doing! Thanks SPB!

SOL just read your post that you put K in a plastic bag! I thought that was a bit OTT! Yes, might try putting S on a bag as well. I too am sick of dribbly nappies. S is always picking up assorted bugs from nursery. Bit of a shock to me as Em never got ill at all when she was at nursery.

S currently destroying the conservatory whilst I attempt to eat something. This crawling thing is a nightmare, don't dare take my eyes off her....

ARGH ITS ONLY 14.11.......I feel like a caged animal.... have been stuck in the house all day as its pissing down with howling winds